Hosts Merv Jersak and Tim Jerome explore the importance of emotional intelligence in project management, focusing on motivation, empathy, and social skills. They share practical tips, techniques, and personal stories to help managers improve their team interactions and project outcomes. Key strategies include leading by example, developing a sense of responsibility, using rewards, practicing self-reflection, active listening, and fostering team commonalities. Recommendations also include studying Dan Goleman's book, 'Working with Emotional Intelligence', and considering emotional intelligence certifications.
Main Take-Aways
Tips, tools, and techniques that project leaders can utilize to help them become more adept at motivation, empathy, and social skills:
1) understand human behavior and develop trust with team members
2) lead by example
3) develop a sense of responsibility
4) give yourself mini rewards as you complete tasks
5) learn to ask questions
6) use the acronym T.H.I.N.K. whenever formulating a response
7) find commonalities among the team members
8) put yourself in the other person’s situation
9) provide a meaningful distraction to help a team member who is frustrated
10) learn to “navel gaze” or self-reflect
11) be an active listener
12) practice social skills
13) study the book by Daniel Goleman, ‘Working With Emotional Intelligence’
Show Notes
Today’s Project Managers Coffee Chat: Tips, Tools, and Techniques to Strengthen Motivation, Empathy, Social Awareness
00:28 Introducing tips, tools, and techniques for the externally focused emotional intelligence traits of motivation, empathy, and social skills.
01:02 Tim begins with a story from his youth that taught him how understanding human behavior, and developing trust with your team members, helps influence and motivate the team to perform well together.
03:17 Merv adds onto Tim’s thoughts the power of leading by example in displaying empathy, in using your social skills, in establishing an environment for motivation.
04:03 Merv continues by encouraging you to develop a sense of responsibility within yourself to help motivate you to fully contribute to the group effort so as not to let the others down.
05:44 Merv provides another tip, that of giving yourself mini rewards as you work on longer tasks to continue to motivate yourself.
07:28 Tim offers that developing the ability to ask good questions helps to develop social skills and helps show empathy.
09:36 Merv provides the acronym T.H.I.N.K. as a technique for reminding yourself how to respond to another person in any social or work situation.
11:23 Tim talks about finding commonalities within the team to help bring them together as a collaboratively working group.
12:41 Merv adds that putting yourself into the other person’s situation is critical to empathy and understanding as you deal with that person.
13:36 Tim has a variation of Merv’s tip in that he observes when an individual is frustrated or overwhelmed and offers to take them for a walk or some other distraction to get them away from the situation for a brief time to help them recalibrate.
14:28 Merv recalls a tip he shared on an earlier podcast – that of navel gazing or self-reflection, and how he uses it to understand his own reactions or how he came across in situations. He uses both self-reflection and bouncing the situation off his mentor.
17:03 Tim likes to use active listening to validate the other person’s feelings and provide a deeper level of empathy.
18:10 Merv speaks about practicing social interactions to prepare yourself for situations where social skills really count.
19:30 Merv adds one of his favorite emotional intelligence tools by recommending a book by Daniel Goleman, ‘Working With Emotional Intelligence’>.