In this episode of Pulling Threads, the host is joined by Bev to discuss the often-overlooked topic of grief during and after breakups and divorce. The conversation delves into the emotional complexities of ending marriages and relationships, the unique type of grief associated with it, and practical tips to help both the individuals going through it and their support systems. They cover a range of topics, including the unexpected waves of grief, the process of healing, the importance of having a support system, and strategies for moving on. They also discuss what not to say to someone going through a divorce and how to be there for friends in these difficult times.

00:00 Introduction to Grieving Breakups and Divorce

02:15 Understanding the Emotional Impact of Divorce

06:16 Navigating the Complexities of Divorce Grief

07:51 The Decision-Making Process Before Divorce

13:36 Financial and Social Challenges Post-Divorce

16:40 Stages of Grief in Divorce

22:13 Rebuilding After Divorce

30:34 Advice for Those Considering Divorce

38:29 Setting Personal Goals and Evaluating Relationships

39:29 Assessing Compatibility and Support in Relationships

42:21 Making Decisions and Taking Action

43:37 Navigating Divorce and Emotional Challenges

44:47 Effective Communication During Divorce

47:31 Self-Advocacy and Understanding Others

57:26 Coping Strategies and Professional Support

01:03:29 Final Thoughts and Moving Forward

Have you ever felt off around a certain time of year—sad, anxious, or even physically drained—without knowing why? Then suddenly, you realize: This is the anniversary of that thing that happened. Maybe it was a loss, a breakup, a trauma, or a life-changing event.

This is called an anniversary reaction, and it happens because our bodies remember even when our minds don’t. Trauma isn’t just a memory—it’s stored in our nervous system, emotions, and even our physical sensations. When that anniversary arrives, your body keeps score, resurfacing old pain, triggers, and feelings you thought you had moved past.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

🧠 Why our bodies hold onto trauma and how anniversary reactions work

💭 How trauma anniversaries might show up emotionally and physically

📅 How to prepare for these difficult dates so they don’t catch you off guard

💖 Practical strategies to move through the pain and use it for healing

🌱 How grief can be an opportunity for growth and deeper self-compassion

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling the weight of your past around certain dates, this video is for you. You are not alone, and you don’t have to just suffer through it. Let’s talk about how we can honor our grief, process our emotions, and reclaim our healing—one step at a time.

💬 Have you experienced an anniversary reaction before? How did it show up for you? Let’s start a conversation in the comments.

✨ If this video helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share it with someone who might need it. You deserve healing, and we’re in this together.

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📚 Resources & Further Support:

📖 The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

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Welcome! I’m Leslie, a holistic therapist, and coach. In this video, I’m sharing my personal journey out of the fog of disconnection, uncertainty, and self-doubt—toward a life of authenticity, peace, and purpose.

I know how hard life can feel when you’re overwhelmed by struggles with money, relationships, careers, and family. I’ve been there too. But through my own experience with therapy, coaching, and spiritual guidance, I learned how to peel back the layers of trauma and misalignment to find a healthier, more grounded version of myself.

Now, I’m combining my life experience, professional training, and studies to help others process their trauma, reconnect with their bodies, and live the life they’re meant to live. Through The LooM, my practice and online space, I provide support in the form of therapy, coaching, courses, and accessible resources for those who might not otherwise have access to mental health support.

In this video, I explain my mission and how I’m here to guide you on your own healing journey. Whether you’re ready to dive into deep inner work or just need small, practical tools to help you feel better today, I’m here for you.

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You deserve healing. Let’s begin this journey together.

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In this video, I explore the complex emotional experience of feeling both excitement and dread when preparing for something important, like visiting family or facing a meaningful event. These dual feelings are more common than we realize, especially when past experiences, family dynamics, or anxiety are involved. Together, we’ll dive into why this emotional mix happens, how to sit with it, and practical ways to navigate it with self-compassion. If you’ve ever felt torn between anticipation and hesitation, this discussion is for you.

Let’s explore how to honor both emotions and move forward mindfully. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more content on healing, growth, and authentic living.

#EmotionalHealing #FamilyDynamics #MindfulLiving #TheLooM

Do you find yourself stuck in a loop of overthinking, replaying conversations, or obsessing over things you can’t control? You’re not alone. In this video, I share powerful, therapist-approved strategies to help you break free from rumination and regain mental clarity.

What You’ll Learn:

✔️ How to recognize when you’re ruminating

✔️ Mindfulness techniques to bring you back to the present

✔️ How to challenge negative thought patterns

✔️ Practical ways to redirect your focus

✔️ Self-compassion exercises to ease anxiety

✔️ The deeper emotional roots of rumination—and how to heal them

When we get caught in rumination, our mind is trying to solve a problem, but often, it only creates more stress and self-doubt. By shifting our approach, we can stop the mental spiral and find real peace.

✨ Let’s break free together. ✨

📌 Timestamps:

0:00 Intro – Why We Ruminate

2:15 Step 1: Awareness & Naming the Thought

4:30 Step 2: Mindfulness Practices

7:10 Step 3: Reframing & Challenging Thoughts

10:05 Step 4: Taking Action & Problem-Solving

12:50 Step 5: Self-Compassion & Letting Go

15:30 Final Thoughts & Next Steps

💬 Comment below: What’s one strategy you’re excited to try? Let’s support each other in this journey.

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Do you find yourself stuck in a loop of overthinking, replaying conversations, or obsessing over things you can’t control? You’re not alone. In this video, I share powerful, therapist-approved strategies to help you break free from rumination and regain mental clarity.

What You’ll Learn:

✔️ How to recognize when you’re ruminating

✔️ Mindfulness techniques to bring you back to the present

✔️ How to challenge negative thought patterns

✔️ Practical ways to redirect your focus

✔️ Self-compassion exercises to ease anxiety

✔️ The deeper emotional roots of rumination—and how to heal them

When we get caught in rumination, our mind is trying to solve a problem, but often, it only creates more stress and self-doubt. By shifting our approach, we can stop the mental spiral and find real peace.

✨ Let’s break free together. ✨

📌 Timestamps:

0:00 Intro – Why We Ruminate

2:15 Step 1: Awareness & Naming the Thought

4:30 Step 2: Mindfulness Practices

7:10 Step 3: Reframing & Challenging Thoughts

10:05 Step 4: Taking Action & Problem-Solving

12:50 Step 5: Self-Compassion & Letting Go

15:30 Final Thoughts & Next Steps

💬 Comment below: What’s one strategy you’re excited to try? Let’s support each other in this journey.

🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more insights on mindfulness, mental wellness, and authentic living!

#Overthinking #Rumination #Mindfulness #SelfGrowth #MentalHealth #HealingJourney