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When you stop yourself from doing stuff because of the rules inside your head, do you ever wonder where those ideas came from?

The rules inside your head come from the desire to belong, wanting to be perfect, past experience, and who you think you are.

Ultimately, they all come from ideas you've adopted in the past.

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References:

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When there are rules inside your head, do you follow them?

What impact does that have on you?

Following the rules inside your head keeps the mind busy. But more than that, it can make you hate yourself.

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Do you ever talk yourself out of what you want because you're trying to be good?

As if the thing you really want is somehow bad?

Trying to be good is what makes you want to be bad.

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Is the voice inside your head in charge of your life?

Or are you?

When you're simply obeying the rules inside your head, you are not in charge of your life.

The rules are.

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References: Definition of power

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When your mind tells you what you should or shouldn't do, do you listen?

When you follow the rules inside your head, you get into the habit of talking yourself out of how you feel and what you want.

And when that becomes a pattern, you lose touch with who you are.

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Ever feel trapped because your mind is telling you what you should or shouldn't do?

The rules inside your head aren't here to torture you.

They're here to reveal your beliefs about who you think you should be.

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When you get excited about something, do you allow yourself to do what feels right?

Or do you hold yourself back?

When you give yourself permission to do the things that you feel called to do, you become more fully yourself.

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Fear of what people will think isn't really about what other people might think.

It's about what you think.

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When self-doubt comes up, do you see it as a problem, or as a reason to stop? How do you react to those negative thoughts?

And more importantly, how would you like to respond?

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When you think, "I can't do that," does that stop you?

What would be possible for you if you didn't let that get in your way?

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References:

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