Pure Light

How do you picture yourself?

What you think of yourself determines what is possible for your life.

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References: Confirmation bias Seth Godin altMBA Eckhart Tolle A New Earth

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Every time you judge someone else, you're strengthening your ego.

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Related episodes: The voice inside your head Automatic patterns

"There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right. Being right is identification with a mental position - a perspective, an opinion, a judgement, a story. For you to be right, of course, you need someone else to be wrong, as so the ego loves to make wrong in order to be right." —Eckhart Tolle

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Is your mind constantly evaluating things, trying to figure out what's good and what's bad, or what's right and what's wrong?

Judgment is a mental habit.

It reveals your resistance to life.

Resources & References

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How do you stop judging yourself?

When your mind is constantly telling you what you should and shouldn't do, how do you break that cycle?

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...beyond just feeling bad about yourself?

When you judge yourself, you constantly reinforce the idea that you should be different than you are.

Resources & References

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Do you ever get angry and frustrated with yourself because you feel like you should be different than you are?

The problem is never who you really are.

It's the ideas in your head about who you're supposed to be.

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Does meaning get assigned automatically?

Or do you consciously choose what to make things mean?

You always have a choice as to what you tell yourself, or what you make something mean.

Resources & References

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Here are a few lessons that are top of mind at this point in my life.

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Do you ever wonder, "Is this what I'm supposed to be doing with my life?"

Only you can tell if you're on the right path.

You can only tell based on how it feels.

Resources & References

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Ever compare yourself to others?

Wish you could stop?

Learn two strategies to help you break that pattern.

Resources & References

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References: Seth Godin altMBA

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