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Today I am flying solo for my first Pynk Spots advice episode! I answer a question from Anonymous (she/her):My depression and anxiety have been exacerbated by quarantine. I’ve heard disassociating and disassociation in mental health communities but...

Nic and Christopher Sebastian get petty about being canceled, discussing their views on how we should treat each other in activist spaces

NOTE: The audio is pretty shit on this one, I did the best I could with it but it's still pretty crap. If it's too much, it may be easier to watch the YouTube version because it might sound a little better and also the visuals help.I'm joined today by...

Whew, what a year! Well, it's over now! Today, we'll take the time to breathe, relax, laugh, celebrate, and look back on this wild, exhausting year. Gratitude to my patrons, a 2020 favorites list, dad jokes, and answers to your burning holiday questions...

Nic and Claire talk about the need for community and the fallacy of "lone wolf" mentality

Nic and Kye explore feelings of shame and anger, and shame of feeling anger, in today's episode.

Nic talks about the end of Bitchy Shitshow, signs that a relationship isn't healthy, and what's in store for Pynk Spots!

Many of you may be aware from social media but many may not that Callie and I have gone our separate ways and that Bitchy Shitshow is being retired and replaced with Pynk Spots, a solo project by me (Nichole).

The BSS feed will be switched over this week so no need to do anything, except look for the first episode under the Pynk Spots name this Sunday, Nov 15.

Thank you all for this amazing community we’ve shared over the years and I look forward to new adventures ahead with those of you who choose to continue to follow my work.

We dig into Attachment Theory this week, specifically how Attachment Theory can tell us of the measurable impact of capitalism and capitalistic values on children, who end up being messy adults on Tinder. The way we instill rugged individualism in literal babies has lasting effects on our population deep into adulthood.

Poppin Off

Callie pops off about the Chris Evan nude and how he is being treated differently than most female celebrities with leaked nudes (although we’re happy he is generally being treated well). She also talks about how it’s important to give people their privacy during these times.

Joke

If you wear cowboy clothes…

Main Topic: Attachment Theory 101 + How it Ties to Capitalism

We had planned to talk about how capitalistic values have invaded the way we raise children when we listened to the Psychology in Seattle’s Deep Dive series on Attachment Theory (available to patrons only, link here) where Dr. Kirk Honda connects avoidant insecure attachment style to certain parenting behaviors only seen in the West. This information was the perfect pairing for what we wanted to talk about, and we had a lot of fun going through all of it on this week’s episode.

Attachment Theory:

Described as, “behaviors that make up an ‘attachment behavioral system’ that guides us in our patterns and habits of forming and maintaining relationships

Attachment Styles:

* Secure: learned to trust others, have a good sense of self, are comfortable seeking support and comfort* Anxious: learned that they had to demand or seek attention and love from others, often through emotional manipulation* Avoidant: learned that no one would take care of them and that they are on their own* Disorganized: got confusing and conflicting messages as a child, grew up in chaos

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Transcript

Nichole [00:00:27] Hey, everybody.

Callie [00:00:29] Hey.

Nichole [00:00:32] I’m avoidant.

Callie [00:00:34] And I’m anxious.

Nichole [00:00:37] And today we’re bitching about…

Callie [00:00:40] Attachment styles and when this overly individualistic style is forced on young children, we create attachment injury.

Nichole [00:00:51] Yes. Yeah. So we’re doing our favorite thing, which is taking a thing and then using it to bitch about capitalism.

Callie [00:01:02] Yeah.

Nichole [00:01:04] Before we get into that, I think we’re going to talk about Chris Evans briefly and his nudey nudes.

Callie [00:01:11] Yeah. Yeah, so this is just gonna be a very short little pop top today. But I just thought it would be interesting to comment on the different dyn...

We are thrilled to be joined by YouTuber Professor Flowers (Claire Borealis) this week to discuss the history of Whiteness over the last 100 years, and how we can dismantle the construct of Whiteness to move forward.

CONTENT WARNING: We took up way too much space on this episode and we apologize for this misstep. We’ve noticed this as a trend with our collaborations recently and are putting mechanisms into place to prevent it in the future.

Pop Top

Nichole goes off about Bella Thorne and OnlyFans this week, talking about not just the careless actions of the actress, but focusing on the real baddy in the room, OnlyFans itself.

* Has Bella Thorne Really ‘Ruined’ OnlyFans? (RollingStone)

Joke

Can you perform under pressure?

Main Topic: Smashing Whiteness with Professor Flowers

We are honored to be joined by Professor Flowers this week to discuss the concept and construct of Whiteness. She guides us through the recent history of Whiteness in the United States (the last 100 years or so) to talk about this endlessly shifting, neoliberal construct we are faced with today. Then the three of us have a long, meandering talk about Whiteness itself, and how we can all, regardless of our own racial and other identities, do our part in dismantling this power structure around us and exorcising it from our behavior, beliefs, and our beds.

About our Guest Host

Claire Borealis has a YouTube channel called Professor Flowers. This channel creates video essays that analyzes media, such as movies, anime, and other videos. Currently her work is focusing on the discussion of race.

Follow and support her: YouTube | Patreon | Twitter | Instagram

Resources

* White Privilege: Essential Readings on the Other Side of Racism | Paula S. Rothernberg (Book)* How Slavery Sowed the Seeds of American Collapse: America Sold its Soul to Slavery. It’s Still Paying the Price. | umair haque (Medium)* Queering Anarchism (Book – free PDF)

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Transcript

Nichole [00:00:27] Hi, everyone.

Claire [00:00:29] Hello.