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How do I prepare if marriage equality gets overturned?

In June 2022, we all watched in shock as the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade and gutted women’s rights to their bodies and reproductive healthcare

Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community were even more shocked when the concurring opinion from Justice Thomas was released, where he alluded to the court’s need to review and reverse protections for same-sex couples, including marriage and the rights and responsibilities that go along with it.

In addition, with more and more Gen Z and younger Millenials vocalizing that they will be sitting out the 2024 election because of their disappointment with Biden on social issues, it is possible we could see even more momentum in the country to revoke the right for same-sex couples to marry.

It feels as if we’re at the precipice of going backward on this issue as we see countries like Nepal and Estonia legalizing marriage equality in 2023. So, what can same-sex couples in the United States do to protect themselves and their assets to be on the safe side?

You’re listening to Queer Money episode #472. And today, we’re sharing the top 5 documents same-sex couples can and should be using to protect themselves.

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Ready to live fabulously (without blowing your entire paycheck on rent)? In this episode of Queer Money®, we’re spilling the tea on the most LGBTQ+-friendly — and affordable — city in the great state of Connecticut. 💁‍♂️

We’re putting Norwalk and Stamford head-to-head in a queer-friendly housing showdown. Norwalk takes the crown with a perfect score on the Human Rights Campaign’s Municipal Equality Index and a price tag that won’t give your savings account a panic attack. ✨

Stamford? Still cute, still inclusive — but honey, you’re paying a premium for that zip code.

And we’re not leaving Hartford out in the cold — it may not be top-tier (yet), but it’s got heart, affordability, and major potential.

We break down housing prices, income stats, and what it actually feels like to live queer in each city. Because finding a place to thrive shouldn’t require a trust fund or tolerating discrimination.

• 🌈 Norwalk is that girl — She’s Connecticut’s top LGBTQ+ affordable city with a perfect Municipal Equality Index score and high average incomes. She said rights and riches!
• 💸 Stamford’s the glam runner-up — A little pricier, but still packing financial opportunity and serious ally energy. She’s giving career goals with a rainbow twist.
• 🏡 Hartford’s the scrappy underdog — Not quite main stage yet, but with affordability and room for LGBTQ+ community growth, it’s one makeover away from major potential.
• 🗺️ Where you live impacts how you thrive — This episode reminds us that financial freedom isn’t just about dollars — it’s about choosing places that affirm, support, and uplift us.
• 💪 Financial empowerment is a queer right — The more we know about inclusive, affordable cities, the more power we have to build our best, boldest lives.
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• 00:08 – Speed Limits & Queer Liberation: A Very Unnecessary History Lesson - Because what’s queerer than questioning why we can only drive 65 when our financial goals are going 100?
• 00:34 – Connecticut Cuties: Where Can You Be Gay and Afford to Live? - We’re talking Norwalk, Stamford, and a touch of Hartford — serving Municipal Equality Realness with a side of budget-conscious glam.
• 02:31 – Queer & Cheap(ish): Our Nationwide Round-Up of Affordable LGBTQ+ Cities - These cities are waving rainbow flags and helping you keep your coins. 🏳️‍🌈💰
• 03:17 – Policies That Slay: Where LGBTQ+ People Are Legally Loves - The receipts are in: these cities walk the equality walk, and we are so here for it.
• 04:33 – Hartford Deserves a Glow-Up: Budget-Friendly with Big Potential - It may not have Norwalk’s sparkle yet, but Hartford’s on the come-up — and your wallet will thank you.
• 06:52 – Upcoming Queer Happenings & Helpful Resources - The events, tools, and must-knows to keep your gay agenda fully booked and financially fabulous.

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On this week’s episode of Queer Money®, we’re kicking off our Gay Retirement 101 series with a hard truth: Too many LGBTQ+ folks are being forced back into the closet as they age — and it’s not because they miss the wardrobe. 🏳️‍🌈

With anti-LGBTQ+ legislation gaining traction across the U.S., many older queer adults are facing discrimination, isolation, and even financial insecurity during a time that’s supposed to be their golden years. From unaffordable retirement housing to long-term care facilities that feel more 1950s than fabulous, the challenges are real — and urgent.

• 💰 The money traps queer folks face in retirement
• 🏘️ How housing discrimination adds insult to injury
• 🌈 A shortlist of LGBTQ+-affirming retirement communities we love (yes, they do exist — and yes, some are affordable!)

If you want to retire out loud, not fade back into silence, this episode is for you. Let’s make sure your next chapter is as bold, proud, and you as ever.ill present a selection of our preferred LGBTQ+ retirement communities nationwide, reflecting a spectrum of affordability and acceptance. Join us as we navigate this critical dialogue, equipping ourselves with the knowledge necessary to foster a secure and fulfilling retirement.

• 00:23 - Introducing Gay Retirement 101 Series
• 03:28 - Retirement Planning for LGBTQ+ Individuals
• 18:21 - Exploring Affordable LGBTQ+ Living Options Across States
• 20:54 - Exploring LGBTQ Senior Housing Options
• 28:32 - The Cost of Care Services and LGBTQ Communities
• 36:04 - Exploring LGBTQ-Friendly Communities

Today, we’re sharing our favorite LGBTQ+ retirement communities 10 of our favorite places for LGBTQ+ individuals to live in retirement

1. Pueblo Manor in Apache Junction, AZ
2. Triangle Square in Hollywood, CA
3. A Place for Us in Cleveland, OH
4. Rainbow Vista in Gresham, OR
5. Town HallApartments in Chicago, IL
6. Fountaingrove Lodge in Santa Rosa, CA
7. Wilton Manors, FL
8. The Residences atSeashore Point in Provincetown, MA
9. Village Hearth Cohousing in Durham, NC
10. Birds of a Feather in Village of Pecos, NM

In this episode of Queer Money®, we’re headed to the First State and shining the spotlight on Wilmington, Delaware—the most affordable LGBTQ-friendly city in the state and the proud owner of an HRC Equality Score of 80 (not too shabby, Wilmington 👏).

We spill the tea on what makes Wilmington worth the move—like Crimson Moon, the video bar/dance club hybrid that keeps the local queer scene glowing well past bedtime. 🌙💃

But wait, there’s more! We also peek into other Delaware cities (hi, Dover 👋) that might be lower on the equality score but still give your budget room to breathe.

Oh, and did you know Delaware has one of the highest LGBTQ+ population percentages in the country at around 7.5%? Small state, big queer energy!

So, if you're dreaming of a move that lets you live your truth and afford the occasional drag brunch, this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen in and let’s keep building fabulous lives—on our financial terms.

• 🏳️‍🌈 Wilmington Wins (Mostly) - Wilmington snatched the title of most LGBTQ-friendly city in Delaware with an HRC Equality Score of 80. Not bad, but we’re still side-eyeing that missing 20 points. Do better, Delaware.
• 📜 History, Heimlich & Homo-Economics - Delaware may be small, but it's got big history energy—first to sign the Constitution and home to Henry Heimlich (yes, that Heimlich). Now it's time to make history again with fierce financial empowerment for LGBTQ+ folks.
• 💸 Queer Money = Financial Power to the People - This episode is another installment in our mission to help the LGBTQ+ community slay their finances—even when the economy is giving “meh.” Because money is freedom, baby.
• 🏠 Wilmington: Budget-Friendly and Queer-Affirming - Turns out, Wilmington has the lowest home values in the state, which means you might actually afford a home and still brunch on weekends. A rare combo!
• 😤 Not-So-Perfect Equality Scores? We Noticed - Delaware cities, we see you—but we also see that none of you hit a perfect 100 on the HRC Equality Index. We expect more. Especially when queer lives and rights are on the line.
• 🏖️ Rehoboth Beach, We Need to Talk - You're the coastal queen of queer getaways… yet you scored only 61 on the HRC Index?! That’s giving us glitter on the outside, but not enough equity on the inside. Let’s fix that, shall we?

• 00:06 - The Tallest Lego Tower
• 01:41 - Exploring Delaware's LGBTQ Community
• 03:31 - Introduction to the Queer Cities Series
• 04:35 - Exploring Wilmington's Equality Score and Economy
• 06:31 - Exploring LGBTQ+ Communities in Delaware
• 07:41 - Upcoming Topics in LGBTQ+ Community Discussions

In this episode, we’re tossing out the crusty old budgeting rules that make you feel like a broke Puritan and serving up five fierce ways to build wealth that actually feel good. 💅

First up: Forget that budget that makes you cry into your cold brew. We’re all about the "no budget budget"—a sexy little system where you pay your musts first (like rent, debt, and saving for Future You), then guiltlessly spend the rest on what actually brings you joy (hello Beyoncé tickets and Trader Joe’s frozen croissants).

Tip two is all about putting your dollars where your happiness is. If your spending doesn’t make your life better, what are we even doing here? Say yes to intentional spending and a big gay no thanks to money guilt.

Then we get into the goods: a Roth IRA that moonlights as your tax-free emergency fund. She’s flexible, she’s smart, she’s basically your financial BFF with benefits.

We also break down why one income stream is soooo last season. It’s time to diversify, darling—side gigs, passive income, OnlyFans? (Kidding… unless?)—whatever helps you build that money stack.

Finally, we talk about finding your financial rhythm. Think of it like choreography for your bank account. Consistent, intentional moves that keep you dancing toward your goals—without the drama.

Bottom line: this episode is your glam guide to making smarter, happier money moves all year long. Your wallet deserves a glow-up—and so do you.

• 💸 Bye, Budgeting Trauma! - We’re ditching dusty budgeting rules and embracing the no-budget budget—a freeing, fab approach that makes space for both smart choices and spontaneous splurges.
• 🌈 Spend on What Sparks Joy (Not Just What Looks Good on Instagram) - Your money should make you happy, not just keep up appearances. Spend on what truly brings you joy—and say "boy, bye" to money guilt.
• 🏳️‍🌈 Roth IRA = Your Financial Safety Net in Heels - Think of it as your emergency fund with extra flair—Roth IRAs give you tax-free access when life gets messy (and we know it will).
• 💼 More Than Just a 9–5, Honey - Relying on a W-2 alone? That’s so 1997. We’re talking multiple streams of income—because you deserve more than just a paycheck and a pat on the back.
• 📆 Find Your Money Groove - Structure = freedom. When your money moves have rhythm, you build wealth without burnout. Think of it like a fierce financial choreography.

• 00:14 - Rock Your Finances This Year
• 04:30 - Focusing on Happiness in Financial Decisions
• 08:00 - Financial Happiness and Living Standards
• 17:04 - Pursuing a Multi-Pronged Approach to Wealth Building
• 25:37 - Creating a Financial Plan: Steps to Achieve Your Goals

What is the most affordable LGBTQ+ friendly city in Florida?

The flattest state in the US in which not a single dinosaur fossil will be found and where the drivers test doesn’t require parallel parking . . . 

Home to the only coral reefs and the most golf courses in the US, and if you ate a tomato today it most likely came from this place.

This is Queer Money episode #467. And today, we’re sharing the most affordable, LGBTQ+ friendly city in Florida

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It’s just been a rollercoaster of a year. 

The stock market’s been up - the S&P’s up about 20%, but real estate is softening but inflation’s up and even though wages are also up wages haven’t kept up with inflation.

Granted those are all systemic issues.

And what the markets are doing and the news is reporting could be totally different from what we’re as individuals may be experiencing.

So, how do you know the difference and how do I plan for next year? 

This is Queer Money episode #466 and today we’re joined again by Adam Davis of Capital One to talk about how to do an annual look back and look ahead at your personal finances to plan for a successful 2024.

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What is the most affordable LGBTQ+ friendly city in Georgia?

Home to the oldest state park in the nation, the first state to charter a state-sponsored university and the first state to lower the voting age from 21 to 18.

It was Hogzilla, the largest hog ever discovered, it’s the current home of the largest swamp in North America and it’s the only state to have had three governors, simultaneously, twice - two times!

This is Queer Money episode #465. And today, we’re sharing the most affordable, LGBTQ+ friendly city in Georgia.

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Do the economy, inflation and even stock market volatility have you feeling anxious?

A listener emailed, “Am I the only one feeling anxious about the state of the world today and my finances?” 

No, you’re not alone. Christina Roman, consumer education advocate at Experian, joins Queer Money episode 464 to share data from recent surveys on how we’re all feeling about our finances today and tips for how we can all reduce our financial anxiety.

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What is the most affordable LGBTQ+ friendly city in Hawaii?

It’s said to have the most isolated population in the world and is the recipient of more than nine million tourists and $16 billion in tourist dollars annually.

It’s technically located in Oceania, has the most southern point in the US and the tallest mountain in the world, and it’s where surfing was born.

This is Queer Money episode #463. And today, we’re sharing the most affordable, LGBTQ+ friendly city in Hawaii.

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