Hi beautiful sisters. How many of us have lived lives this far believing things society or our family has thought us to be true? As we grew up, mom or dad may have said some things that stuck with us and became the way of life. As a result we have been kept captive by that idea and we have been captives for years.
I know I have. I am still trying to destroy those mental lies that have been passed on by my generation and the society I now live in. It takes effort to break them down because the mind has believed them for years. Destroying them is like swimming upstream in an ocean of rough tides because it is all the mind and soul knows to be true. Therefore, you have to constantly remind yourself that it is not true and than take actions to contradict those lies.
One of the many lies some women believe is that the man (husband) is fully responsible for her well-being and her life. This is a lie that lot of women believe that once I become the wife/girlfriend, I sit back fold my arms and turn my life 100% over to him.
The sad thing is, we may not consciously believe this but sometimes subconsciously we believe this. If you ask most women now if they believe this, they will tell you they do not but try asking very strategic questions and you will see you may not believe the whole lie but you believe part of this lie.
Some questions: How many times do you start a relationship and wants the man to make all the tough decisions in the relationship and sometimes about your own issues? How many times do you find yourself saying to the man you do not have the kind of money that I expect you to have? Or we have not made progress because you do not want to start bringing home more money?
The main question is, What is wrong with you working together with him to accomplish whatever life or dreams you want. Why do you think he should lay everything in on your table? What is your role as a wife or girlfriend to build this relationship up financially and mentally?
Stop believing that another person is 100% responsible for your life. You cannot live life this way, you will fail doing so.
Good morning ladies.