R3ciprocity.com - Prof David Maslach: Innovation; Research Life; Striving Towards Happiness

A key to remember with almost every negotiation that you have in your life is to come from your perspective of understanding.

What does what do you is remove some of the emotional reaction that you actually have when things don’t go your way. Also help you to understand where the other side is coming from.

In general, this allows you to bring empathy into all of your negotiations. Often, it will result in improved outcomes because you can come up with better ways to deal with the situation.

The way I view index funds as a insurance against me not being able to work at some point. If you view investing as insurance against your own income stream, you will make far different choices and how and where do you invest it.

It’s not a get rich, quick scheme. Investing is very much about setting yourself up in the future so that you don’t have to work if you choose to.

A direct result of a focus on productivity in #Academia leads to social isolation. The only way that we can improve productivity per person is by #isolating ourselves from others.

However, this isolation can lead to feelings of #loneliness and can negatively impact mental health and well-being.

Often we talk about collaboration, but ultimately collaboration still results in isolated work for individuals. You do work by yourself for a few weeks and then you meet for a brief moment.

The problem with the structure is that this often results in social isolation for #researchers.

I’m at a point in my life where I’m starting to think social isolation is a industrial #hazard of the career.

The loneliness that you feel when you’re pursuing projects, and in particular, when the projects are not going as right, is at the heart of many of the problems that we face in academia.

At this point, I’m struggling on how to actually deal with this.

So, I thought I’d ask you How do we #work on making research #careers feel less social isolating?

I know the best way is to simply remove aspects of productivity, but that is not going to happen in academic culture. We’re going to be ranked in compared to everybody else.

How do we handle you social isolation? Is there something that I can do with the R3ciprocity Project to make it feel less socially isolating for myself and you?

Living with #ADHD is a #professor is challenging. You’re always forgetting things, you can’t seem to be organized, and all aspects of your life are dictated by what you actually forget.

Good luck remembering names.

Good luck showing up for meetings on time.

Good luck writing.

Good luck reading.

What do you get evaluated on? What you write, remembering student names, and being in meetings.

Everyone sets standards for you that are impossible to meet.

The scariest moment for me in grade school was reading out loud in class. I could not read. I just couldn’t.

I #hyperfocus on math and programming, but the problem that you don’t know when to stop to ask for help.

Most people think that you are functioning at a high level, but what they don’t realize is you’re constantly forgetting what other people can easily remember.

Car keys? You forget.

Paper work? You forget.

Making that important call? You forget.

Everything takes much longer than what other people have to deal with.

Everyone assumes you are disorganized, you are slighting them for forgetting their spouse’s names, you just never have your act together.

So I found out I had this when I was almost 40, and my doctor and I decided not to do medication because of its side-effects.

I am past the time of my life where I need medication. Or is it? In academia, you are always in school.

I try to manage it through diet, excerise, and sleep.

Except, people don’t realize you have a tendency to overeat and excerise is hard when you are naturally daydreamy, and a symptom of ADHD is lack of sleep.

I also struggle with saying that this is a #disability. It is not.

It is neurodiversity.

The only thing that I can do is to forgive myself.

Give myself grace.

Know that I am different than others.

Whatever you have. Know that you are perfectly amazing who you are.

You don’t need to prove to anyone.

You are ultimately remarkable.

many people don’t realize that working doesn’t always have to be fun. When they experience adversity, they lash out in different ways because of the adversity that they’re feeling. We have come to realize is that you got a walk forward despite what people are going to say about you.

they’re dealing with their problems and taking it out on you. What you need to remember is to not take out your problems and other people.

creating a environment that is supportive and has psychological safety is extremely difficult. However, we know that it’s often the way for people to grow as individuals.

I think about the challenges that we face when we try to create some thing like this and there’s often situations that are inherently difficult to create such an environment.

Naturally endowed assets, like beauty, the ability to communicate easily, and intelligence, are disadvantages.

We tend to think of them as distinct advantages, but it removes the challenges and lessons that you learn from adversity.

I am convinced that learning from adversity is the key predictor to long-run success.

When things come easily to you, you don’t appreciate that particular opportunity, and you often squander it.

When things come slowly to you, you appreciate each moment that you experience. Then you’re more likely to leverage those opportunities into something even better.

Never overlook the fact that things don’t come easy to you.

That is the opportunity.

That is your strength.

Screw the outside world for telling you otherwise.

I question the idea about whether you should always be fulfilled in life. When I was younger, I used to think that my job or my career will be my sustaining force to be fulfilled, and then I thought about how my family would fill in the gaps. Now, I realize that there are moments in your life that don’t necessarily need to be fulfilled, and perhaps that’s what we all go through is ebbs and flows of how we feel in terms of fulfillment of the things that are in the world around us.

The goal is not necessarily to feel fulfilled all the time, but it is to try to struggle with the idea of being fulfilled

As you check off boxes of things that you want to accomplish in your life, you realize that life is long and there’s many moments that you will feel like you’ve accomplished things and there’s also equal number of moments where things are not as exciting to you.

Your best #estimate of how well you should perform in the future should be just a simple average.

Most often your estimate will be based on you doing extraordinarily well, or for some of us extraordinarily poorly. you will likely not be a professional athlete, you’ll likely fail at your diet, or you will likely get rejected from the job.

Instead, you’re more likely to be #average.

Start thinking about how to set yourself up knowing what the averages are in your environment.

Instead of thinking that you will succeed at your diet this year, or get that job, think that you’re going to fail, which is more likely the average.

If you think that you’re going to fail, you’ll have a much different decision set in terms of how to prevent yourself from failing at that action.

I find it interesting, when I talk about the realities of life that are not positive, how many people think that I am spewing #negativity. I’m simply stating what the facts are.

If you understand where you’re going to be and you have a good estimate of your environment, you can plan accordingly based on this knowledge.

As the saying goes plan for the worst, and hope for the best.

The simplest way to #innovate is to waste resources.

Find a arbitrary amount of resources that you can give away and give away freely at things that you just simply find interesting.

You don’t necessarily need to have a rhyme or reason, but you need to get in the practice of #wasting resources fairly arbitrarily.

You will never know what thing will become successful, and, even if you knew what would become successful, it still hurts to invest for a very long time.