As parents we want what is best for our children. We take our experiences and understanding and say this is what will be best for our children.
Our brain makes connections from the time we are in the womb. We interpret or create perceptions around our experiences based on those connections.
Our brain gets a neurochemical reward when it fires these connections. Our brain doesn't care if it's right or wrong or if we are happy. Our brain only cares that it gets its neurochemical reward. It creates the perceptions that gave it a neurochemical reward in the past to get more neurochemical rewards.
We use the connections and perceptions of the past, to interpret the present.
We may think this is what my child needs to succeed, to be happy. He needs this class. She needs to go to this particular school. When we feel our children need to do better than us we often send a message that mistakes are not okay. Or because someone did something that affected us we are victims or less than we really are.
We are confining our children by having a limited view of what is possible or what makes success.
Pain is information. Information can help us learn and grow.
Pain is not optional but suffering is.
When we look at life through a growth mindset then the things that happen in our life grows us. We may experience pain and that pain gives me information that can help boost me to where I want to be.
It is not possible to know everything. Be open to other possibilities.
When we accept and learn from pain, we can help it end more quickly.
What we feel benefitted us or would have benefitted us may not be what will benefit our children. We can't know the future.
When we are okay with who we are and the journey we had to get here, then we can see the benefit of allowing our children their journey.
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As parents we want what is best for our children. We take our experiences and understanding and say this is what will be best for our children.
Our brain makes connections from the time we are in the womb. We interpret or create perceptions around our experiences based on those connections.
Our brain gets a neurochemical reward when it fires these connections. Our brain doesn't care if it's right or wrong or if we are happy. Our brain only cares that it gets its neurochemical reward. It creates the perceptions that gave it a neurochemical reward in the past to get more neurochemical rewards.
We use the connections and perceptions of the past, to interpret the present.
We may think this is what my child needs to succeed, to be happy. He needs this class. She needs to go to this particular school. When we feel our children need to do better than us we often send a message that mistakes are not okay. Or because someone did something that affected us we are victims or less than we really are.
We are confining our children by having a limited view of what is possible or what makes success.
Pain is information. Information can help us learn and grow.
Pain is not optional but suffering is.
When we look at life through a growth mindset then the things that happen in our life grows us. We may experience pain and that pain gives me information that can help boost me to where I want to be.
It is not possible to know everything. Be open to other possibilities.
When we accept and learn from pain, we can help it end more quickly.
What we feel benefitted us or would have benefitted us may not be what will benefit our children. We can't know the future.
When we are okay with who we are and the journey we had to get here, then we can see the benefit of allowing our children their journey.
Recommended Episodes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJ6Mhh0lT1w&t=15s
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