When you’ve been single for 13 years, “I’m fine” starts sounding a lot like “I’ve given up.”

Kimberly was successful on paper, but she was quietly miserable off it. Between perimenopause, work burnout, and pandemic isolation, she’d convinced herself she was too busy (and too jaded) for love. Then she found Ready for Love, and everything shifted. 

She thought she was signing up to find love. Happily, she found herself in the process.

In this episode, Kimberly gets raw about forgiving herself after an affair, dropping decades of shame, and learning what real emotional maturity looks like. She shares how doing the work helped her move cities, meet her partner (again), and launch her own consulting business with actual self-trust.

Now she’s living proof: self-love isn’t a backup plan, it’s the whole plan.

Episode Highlights:

Why independence can be emotional armor in disguise

The real reason self-forgiveness changes everything

What “doing the work” actually looks like when it sticks

How loving yourself first changes your love life and your career

The secret to attracting love that feels calm, not chaotic

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Finding Love by Loving Yourself First

00:22 13 Years Single and Ready for Change

05:53 Healing Shame and Rebuilding Self-Worth

07:58 How Attachment Styles Impact Relationships

11:40 Meeting Her Partner and Creating Healthy Love

16:02 From Self-Love to Career Confidence

17:50 Why Investing in Yourself Always Pays Off

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’re a woman who can run circles around most humans — yet still finds herself scheduling her partner’s appointments, tracking his moods, or generally keeping his life stitched together — congratulations, you’re unofficially in man-keeping mode. Hilary is calling it out the silent epidemic of high-achieving women accidentally becoming their partner’s project manager instead of their partner. Spoiler: nothing kills attraction faster than turning romance into a daycare.

But rather than blaming men, she hands the steering wheel back to us. How much of this dynamic exists because we keep jumping in? What happens if you stop over-functioning and let him rise,  or reveal that he won’t? This episode is a wake-up call for every woman who’s tired of being needed more than she’s cherished. Because you don’t need another job title. You need a partner who carries his own weight without being micromanaged.

Episode Highlights:

The real reason competent women keep ending up in mothering roles

How “helping” becomes control disguised as care

Why boundaries are sexier than over-giving

The one-liner that stops you from taking on his “we should” ideas

How to instantly shift the power dynamic without drama or nagging

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 What Is Man-Keeping?

01:09 When You Start Feeling Like His Mom

02:33 The Real Fix: Change Your Own Patterns

06:25 Stop Overfunctioning and Set Boundaries

07:27 Flip the “We Should” Script

11:08 Love Is Partnership, Not Parenting

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’ve ever rejected a man because his name annoyed you… this episode is for you.

Hilary sits down with award-winning interior designer and unapologetic former love-skeptic Meryl Stern, who admits she once dismissed perfectly good men for crimes like “bad vibes” and “unfortunate first names.” (Her words.) But beneath all that discernment? A woman hiding behind a beautifully curated emotional wall.

Inside Ready for Love, Meryl didn’t just “work on herself” — she resigned from decades-old childhood roles, stopped earning love by overgiving, and rewired her identity from martyring do-it-all to woman who actually receives. Now, she runs a luxury design firm with her daughter, just completed a 12,000 sq ft project featured in Architectural Digest, and treats dating the same way she treats client selection: You don’t pick me. I pick YOU.

She’s single, self-possessed, and fully uninterested in settling, which, around here, counts as a success story.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Meet award-winning designer & RFL alum Meryl

02:00 The moment she realized her “independence” was actually a wall

05:40 How journaling cracked her open

08:10 The resignation letter that rewired her self-image

12:30 Building a business with her daughter (without killing each other)

16:45 Her three-year AD-featured dream project

18:50 Current relationship status? Selectively single

20:30 The real measure of success: Would the old you tolerate this?

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Ever seen those videos promising to “make him obsessed with you in 5 texts” or “7 tricks to make a man worship you like a queen”? Yeah… Hilary’s not having it.

This week, she’s calling BS on the toxic, clickbait dating advice flooding YouTube. From “dark psychology” tactics to straight-up patriarchal conditioning, this advice is designed to manipulate women, keep them second-guessing themselves, and—let’s be honest—get them to buy something.

Hilary breaks down four reasons why these tactics are not just wrong but harmful—and why they’ll never lead to real love. Instead, she gives you the only dating advice you’ll ever need: trust yourself. When you stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to please men, you stop attracting the wrong ones and start naturally attracting the right one.

If you’re tired of playing games and ready to finally show up as the woman you actually are (and be loved for it), this episode is your wake-up call.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Worst Dating Advice for Women

01:39 Dark Psychology Tactics in Dating Advice

03:05 How Manipulation Backfires in Relationships

04:20 Prescriptive Advice vs. Trusting Yourself

05:14 Why Man-Centered Dating Advice Hurts Women

06:08 The Only Dating Advice You’ll Ever Need

06:39 Ready for Love’s Authentic Approach

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Lori Young, a Ready for Love alum, decided she was done settling for crumbs of affection, heartbreak, and controlling men. Instead of buying the couch she’d been saving for, Lori put that money into herself—and it changed everything.

In this conversation with me, Lori shares how she broke old patterns, stopped confusing drama for chemistry, and learned to ask for what she actually wanted. Today she’s married to a secure, steady partner, thriving in her career, and bold enough to run for city council.

If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the same relationship story and wondering why nothing changes, Lori’s story will challenge you to ask: when are you going to stop playing small and finally invest in yourself?

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Meet Lori Young

02:53 The Journey to Self-discovery

05:55 Investing in Yourself

08:52 Lessons from the Ready For Love Program

12:09 Embracing New Opportunities

14:57 Navigating New Relationships

17:49 Finding Authenticity

21:04 Celebrating Growth and Success

23:57 The Power of Community

26:58 Fearless, Unafraid, Unintimidated

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

You can spend thousands on a matchmaker or swipe until your thumbs go numb, but if you keep running into the same disappointing patterns, the real question isn’t “where are all the good men?” The real question is how are you showing up when you meet them?

In this episode, Hilary unpacks why so many smart, successful women struggle in love even when everything looks perfect on the outside. Ghosting, mismatches, and one-sided relationships aren’t the problem themselves—they’re signals of something deeper. When self-doubt, fear, or insecurity color your energy, the wrong men move closer and the right ones step away.

So how do you stop chasing quick fixes and instead become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love you want? Hilary shares why identity work—not dating hacks—is the real key, and what changes when you finally treat yourself as the priority first.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Matchmaker Myth

01:05 The Real Problem: Who You’re Being

02:31 The Tree Analogy of Dating Patterns

06:01 Why You Attract the Wrong Men

09:09 Identity Work and Self-Worth

10:54 Why Matchmakers Fail

13:00 Becoming Your Future Self

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’ve ever blamed your single status on men being “intimidated,” it’s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it’s keeping you from the very connection you want.

In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn’t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what’s really going on when you hear that “intimidating” feedback. Spoiler: it’s less about men being scared and more about the energy you’re putting out.

Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don’t have to shrink your brilliance to find love—you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The “Men Are Intimidated by Me” Myth

07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In

If you’re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Wanting love and being ready for it aren’t the same thing. You might be on the apps, going on dates, even hiring a matchmaker—but if you keep finding yourself in the cycle of “hot and heavy” followed by fade and fizzle, the problem may be pacing.

In this episode, Hilary unpacks the anxious dating behaviors that push love away and she lays out five concrete ways to date with emotional security rather than a sense of urgency. From keeping your schedule intact, to knowing when to hold back on texting or intimacy, Hilary shows you how to stop spiraling into fantasy and start building real connection—without losing yourself in the process.

If you’ve ever skipped Pilates to wait for his call, or decided you were all-in by the third date, this conversation is your reset. 

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Are You Really Ready for Love?

06:05 Tip 2: Keep Early Dates Short and Intentional

Healthy, emotionally available men are attracted to confidence, patience, and balance—not eagerness or desperation. Date from security, and you’ll naturally filter out the wrong men while attracting the ones who are truly ready.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

👉 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Or apply for a free breakthrough call with her team at https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Most women I talk to over 40, 50, and 60 say the same thing: “I never thought I’d be here, dating at this stage of life.” And let’s be honest, midlife dating often gets a bad rap. But the truth? It can be the BEST time in your life to find real love… if you know how to approach it.

In this episode, we talk about why dating now can be easier, more authentic, and more fulfilling than ever—and how shifting your perspective can change everything.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Dating Over 50: Why It’s the Best Time for Love  

00:53 Meet Hilary 

01:47 Midlife Dating Truths  

02:07  Reason 1: Maturity & Clarity  

03:44 Reason 2: Desire, Not Need  

05:08 Reason 3: Authentic Self  

07:06 Reason 4: Confidence & Magnetism  

08:52 Reason 5: Self-Trust & Boundaries

10:28 Why It’s Never Too Late for Love  

Dating now isn’t about chasing chemistry or proving your worth—it’s about finding a true, equal partnership that adds to your already beautiful life.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Blind spots can quietly wreck your dating life long before you realize they’re there. And for high-achieving women, they’re sneaky. You can be doing all the “right” things on paper and still keep ending up with the wrong men—or no men at all.

Hilary’s breaking down the four biggest ones she sees over and over again. Are you sending mixed signals without realizing it? Mistaking career confidence for genuine self-worth? Letting yourself be chosen instead of actually choosing? Or telling yourself you’re “working on it” when nothing has actually changed?

Each blind spot comes with a hard truth and a way forward. And once you see them, you can’t unsee them—which is exactly how you stop getting in your own way.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 How Blind Spots Block Love

01:04 Hilary Silver and Ready for Love

01:36 Blind Spot #1: Ambivalence in Dating

04:15 Blind Spot #2: Low Self-Worth in High Achievers

07:04 Blind Spot #3: Waiting to Be Chosen

09:23 Blind Spot #4: Hoping Love Just Happens

12:22 How to Attract the Love You Want

Ready to stop being your own biggest obstacle? 

Apply for a call with Hilary’s team to see if Ready for Love is the right fit for you: hillarysilver.com/apply