You can spend thousands on a matchmaker or swipe until your thumbs go numb, but if you keep running into the same disappointing patterns, the real question isn’t “where are all the good men?” The real question is how are you showing up when you meet them?

In this episode, Hilary unpacks why so many smart, successful women struggle in love even when everything looks perfect on the outside. Ghosting, mismatches, and one-sided relationships aren’t the problem themselves—they’re signals of something deeper. When self-doubt, fear, or insecurity color your energy, the wrong men move closer and the right ones step away.

So how do you stop chasing quick fixes and instead become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love you want? Hilary shares why identity work—not dating hacks—is the real key, and what changes when you finally treat yourself as the priority first.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Matchmaker Myth

01:05 The Real Problem: Who You’re Being

02:31 The Tree Analogy of Dating Patterns

06:01 Why You Attract the Wrong Men

09:09 Identity Work and Self-Worth

10:54 Why Matchmakers Fail

13:00 Becoming Your Future Self

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’ve ever blamed your single status on men being “intimidated,” it’s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it’s keeping you from the very connection you want.

In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn’t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what’s really going on when you hear that “intimidating” feedback. Spoiler: it’s less about men being scared and more about the energy you’re putting out.

Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don’t have to shrink your brilliance to find love—you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The “Men Are Intimidated by Me” Myth

07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In

If you’re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Wanting love and being ready for it aren’t the same thing. You might be on the apps, going on dates, even hiring a matchmaker—but if you keep finding yourself in the cycle of “hot and heavy” followed by fade and fizzle, the problem may be pacing.

In this episode, Hilary unpacks the anxious dating behaviors that push love away and she lays out five concrete ways to date with emotional security rather than a sense of urgency. From keeping your schedule intact, to knowing when to hold back on texting or intimacy, Hilary shows you how to stop spiraling into fantasy and start building real connection—without losing yourself in the process.

If you’ve ever skipped Pilates to wait for his call, or decided you were all-in by the third date, this conversation is your reset. 

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Are You Really Ready for Love?

06:05 Tip 2: Keep Early Dates Short and Intentional

Healthy, emotionally available men are attracted to confidence, patience, and balance—not eagerness or desperation. Date from security, and you’ll naturally filter out the wrong men while attracting the ones who are truly ready.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

👉 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Or apply for a free breakthrough call with her team at https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Most women I talk to over 40, 50, and 60 say the same thing: “I never thought I’d be here, dating at this stage of life.” And let’s be honest, midlife dating often gets a bad rap. But the truth? It can be the BEST time in your life to find real love… if you know how to approach it.

In this episode, we talk about why dating now can be easier, more authentic, and more fulfilling than ever—and how shifting your perspective can change everything.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Dating Over 50: Why It’s the Best Time for Love  

00:53 Meet Hilary 

01:47 Midlife Dating Truths  

02:07  Reason 1: Maturity & Clarity  

03:44 Reason 2: Desire, Not Need  

05:08 Reason 3: Authentic Self  

07:06 Reason 4: Confidence & Magnetism  

08:52 Reason 5: Self-Trust & Boundaries

10:28 Why It’s Never Too Late for Love  

Dating now isn’t about chasing chemistry or proving your worth—it’s about finding a true, equal partnership that adds to your already beautiful life.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Blind spots can quietly wreck your dating life long before you realize they’re there. And for high-achieving women, they’re sneaky. You can be doing all the “right” things on paper and still keep ending up with the wrong men—or no men at all.

Hilary’s breaking down the four biggest ones she sees over and over again. Are you sending mixed signals without realizing it? Mistaking career confidence for genuine self-worth? Letting yourself be chosen instead of actually choosing? Or telling yourself you’re “working on it” when nothing has actually changed?

Each blind spot comes with a hard truth and a way forward. And once you see them, you can’t unsee them—which is exactly how you stop getting in your own way.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 How Blind Spots Block Love

01:04 Hilary Silver and Ready for Love

01:36 Blind Spot #1: Ambivalence in Dating

04:15 Blind Spot #2: Low Self-Worth in High Achievers

07:04 Blind Spot #3: Waiting to Be Chosen

09:23 Blind Spot #4: Hoping Love Just Happens

12:22 How to Attract the Love You Want

Ready to stop being your own biggest obstacle? 

Apply for a call with Hilary’s team to see if Ready for Love is the right fit for you: hillarysilver.com/apply

He disappears. No explanation, no closure, just gone. And you’re left questioning everything: Did I do something wrong? Was any of it even real?

In this episode, Hilary calls out the emotional whiplash of ghosting and gives you three power moves to shift out of helplessness and back into your worth. And no,  it’s not about getting answers from him, it’s about giving closure to yourself.

If you’ve ever been left on read and spiraled into doubt, this conversation is your emotional reset.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Pain of Being Ghosted

02:53 Why Trying to Understand Him Keeps You Stuck

05:11 Power Move #1: Take Inventory Without Self-Blame

06:17 Power Move #2: Detach Your Worth From His Behavior

09:02 Power Move #3: Redefine the Experience and Reclaim Closure

11:20 How to Heal and What Comes Next

Being ghosted doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It means he couldn’t meet you where you are. And thank God he’s gone before you invested any more of yourself.

💻 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass:  https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/

💖 Apply for a breakthrough call: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

You’ve got your life together: thriving career, financial independence, emotional intelligence, and yet your love life? A hot mess of emotionally unavailable, underemployed, or unstable men. What gives?

In this episode, Hilary calls it like it is: this pattern isn’t about the men. It’s about you. More specifically, your subconscious beliefs, unresolved self-worth issues, and fear of real intimacy.

Hilary breaks down 7 brutally honest reasons smart, successful women keep dating down—and how to stop. From choosing men who need you so they won’t leave, to settling for “projects” instead of partners, she gets to the root of why high-achieving women sabotage their own love lives.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why Smart Women Keep Dating Down

01:25 What “Dating Down” Really Means

03:10 Reason #1: Feeling Not Good Enough

05:06 Reason #2: Tying Your Worth to Being Needed

07:03 Reason #3: Fear of Abandonment

10:15 Reason #5: Fear of Real Intimacy

14:29 Reason #7: Dating from Loneliness

16:03 How to Break the Pattern for Good

Hilary doesn’t just name the problem, she offers the way out. Because when you stop outsourcing your worth, everything shifts.

Want the kind of love that matches the rest of your success? Start by becoming the version of you who actually believes she deserves it.

🔗 Learn more about Hilary’s Ready for Love program: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

Everyone’s suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it’s all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist’s office. But here’s the truth: if you’re trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it’s keeping you stuck.

In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you’re looking for real love.

If you’re a smart, self-aware woman who’s done the work but still isn’t seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn’t automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn’t more information—it’s radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single

02:21 Information Doesn’t Equal Transformation

04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love

06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself)

08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like

09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You

If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you.

🎧 Watch the free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/

You’ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels… so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates?

Here’s the hard truth: It’s not about them. It’s about you.

Not because you’re broken or “too much”, but because there’s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you’re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why You’re Not Meeting Good Men

03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding

04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love

05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability

08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside

10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love

11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing

12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently

There’s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven’t been invited to. They’re all around, you just can’t see them until you become the woman who’s ready to meet them.

Door #3 is waiting. But first, you’ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real.

💥 Apply for a breakthrough call: https://hilarysilver.com/apply

Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy?

In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think.

For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It’s what keeps real connection out of reach.

Episode Highlights:

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag

If you’re done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you.

💥 Ready to stop the cycle for good? Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who want real, lasting love → http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass

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