It is one thing to grieve something you are anticipating losing, but there was absolutely no way to anticipate how quickly life would radically transform as a result of this pandemic. And then we had to try to adapt to life without all the things that made us feel safe, normal, or familiar. You may still be very overwhelmed as you try to make adjustments, and it’s entirely normal for that overwhelm to manifest itself as anxiety or depression. If you are feeling stuck right now, I want to offer you some ways to slow down your thoughts and connect with your mind and heart in this moment, even if that feels scary. 

Today I am going to share with you some simple yet powerful ways to move through your intense emotions rather than stuff them down. Finding ways to work through these emotions allows us to release them more readily. When we fail to do this, these emotions can take a serious toll on our physical bodies. Right now, more than ever, it is an important time to care for yourself as you gather strength to endure what still lies ahead. You’re not alone! 

In this episode we’ll explore: 

• Why it’s worth it to take time to grieve 
• How grief can manifest itself in different ways
• How you cannot release pain unless you’ve taken time to address it

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Could you use some support to better navigate the challenges and harness the joy of being a single person? Contact me to schedule a free consult to see how you learn to write a love story that is true to you, whether that includes a relationship or not! 

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When chaos and uncertainty encompass every part of our lives, it is important to take note of our emotions as we navigate an isolating season. Overnight, we have lost access to relationships and routines that we enjoy and depend on in order to thrive. We are grieving the sudden loss of these things which makes the need for support and connection to a greater power even more critical. Take a moment and join me as I lead you in a meditation that has served me time and time again. May it bring your hope and peace as you go about your week.

Special thanks to my brother, Jason Emerson who composed the music for this episode. 

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If you’ve been burned even once in any of your relationships, be it romantic, friendship, or family, our human inclination is to make sure we never get hurt like that again. We build walls. It absolutely makes sense, but this reaction also has consequences. It prevents us from being able to enjoy intimacy in relationships in the future. How do I know? Because I’m walking it out in my life, right alongside you. Grief has taken me to some dark places of shame and humiliation, but if I didn’t have a network of support to love on me and remind me of truth, I would have still been stuck. In this episode, I want to share with you how you can begin to let your walls down so you can experience the good in your relationships again too! 

As you begin this journey,  just one foot in front of the other, I strongly recommend working with a life coach, a therapist, or both. I share with you how each of these professionals can help in different ways. Working with a coach like me, you will be able to explore what experiences make up those walls, how they got there, and how you can work to move them aside so you can move forward. This process also requires that you begin to trust yourself again to be able to endure those hard moments of hurt or disappointment. And lastly, (and this is a hard one), you have to practice not taking things so personally. The reality is that not everything people say or do is a value statement about you! Friends, this process isn't easy, but I promise you it’s worth it. I’m here to walk every step with you! 

In this episode we’ll explore: 

• Why we naturally build up emotional walls
• How walls can prevent us from experiencing pain and joy all at once
• Why vulnerability is necessary in order to heal from past hurt

If you enjoyed this episode I invite you to take a screenshot and tag me on your Instagram stories @realtalkaboutthesinglelife and tell me what you think!

Could you use some support to better navigate the challenges and harness the joy of being a single person? Contact me to schedule a free consult to see how you learn to write a love story that is true to you, whether that includes a relationship or not! 

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I might sound like a broken record already, but I am here to remind you again that your worthiness is not conditional. Your value will never be rooted in how much you weigh, how much you make, how much education you have, or even how many friends you have. You are worthy simply because you are you! It would be great if we were confident of these truths all the time, but let’s be real! It’s a daily struggle! 

Have you ever started a statement in your head with; “They must think I…(you fill in the blank)”. When we’re feeling low, it’s easy to obsess about all the things other people must think about us. But can I tell you a secret? They’re not thinking about you nearly as much as they are thinking about themselves. I struggle to combat these thoughts too, but I’ve got some strategies to share with you today. These are simple things you can do to take away the power of these statements so you can continue to thrive in your journey in singleness or take with you as you explore the dating world. 

In this episode, I am getting a little vulnerable with you because it is my goal to create a safe community for single women by paving the way and sharing my own story. Together we will heal, grow, and go! 

Tips for Battling Negative Self-Talk

1. Ground yourself by standing (barefoot when possible) and imagine you are pulling your breath in through your feet. Take in 5-10 breaths. 
2. Respond by saying: “I hear you but I don’t believe you.”
3. Open your eyes and make mental notes of where you are physically and geographically. 

In this episode we’ll explore: 

• Why your worthiness is not conditional
• How to fight back against  toxic self-talk
• Why it’s critical to be vulnerable about the hard parts of this journey

If you enjoyed this episode I invite you to take a screenshot and tag me on your Instagram stories @realtalkaboutthesinglelife and tell me what you think!

Could you use some support to better navigate the challenges and harness the joy of being a single person? Contact me to schedule a free consult to see how you learn to write a love story that is true to you, whether that includes a relationship or not! 

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As a single person, there are just some social situations that are both inevitable but also difficult to endure yet again. It’s that moment that a very “well-intended” friend or family member asks , ”But why are you still single?”. It becomes this mystery that they must figure out for themselves while you squirm in unwanted vulnerability. While they don’t mean to hurt you, the only thing that you often take away from the conversation is that there must be something wrong with you. 

And this is where you and I start a different conversation. 

It’s the one where I remind you that your relationship status and your worth have nothing to do with each other. Finding a spouse is not the ultimate goal in your life. I want you to be convinced that you do not have to qualify the statement “I am single”. You just are. And on top of that, it’s okay to push back on those who ask you that dreaded question and remind those well-intentioned friends that your relationship status is only a small fraction of the dynamic individual that you are. 

In this episode we’ll explore: 

• How your worth and your relationship status are not correlated. 
• Why it is absolutely possible to both long for a relationship in the future and be content with being single right now. 
• Why being fake or inauthentic in order to drum up a relationship will only end in long term disappointment. 

If you enjoyed this episode I invite you to take a screenshot and tag me on your Instagram stories @realtalkaboutthesinglelife and tell me what you think!

Could you use some support to better navigate the challenges and harness the joy of being a single person? Contact me to schedule a free consult to see how you learn to write a love story that is true to you, whether that includes a relationship or not! 

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For many singles, Valentine’s Day is one of the top two dreaded days on the calendar. New Year’s Eve would be it’s twin. Both holidays are pressured with expectations of how your life and relationship status should be.  Over the years, it has become a day of comparison and usually a disappointment. In this episode, I want to talk about some different ways to approach the day. I acknowledge that it can be hard but it doesn’t have to be impossible to get through.

In this episode we cover:

• How to spread love yourself instead of just waiting to receive
• Remembering being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t the worst thing that has ever happened to you.
• The fact that the grass on the other side isn’t always greener. It’s just different.
• You can still do Valentine’s “things” as a single person.
• For some, staying in and out of sight, is the smoothest way to power through the day. You don’t have to hibernate alone. Invite friends and make memories together.
• As they say, “Treat Yo self.” Girl, why do flowers and perfume have to come from a man? If these are things that would bring you joy, go get them. Self-love is just as important as the love from a man.

For more information and the opportunity to connect with other single women, join the Facebook group, Real Talk About the Single Life. Or download Jenny’s free eBook by the same name on website, https://www.singlescoachjenny.com/.

Jenny also offers individual coaching. Her introductory package, Girl, Get Ready can be found on her website as well. https://www.singlescoachjenny.com/

Introduction to Jenny and the Real Talk About the Single Life podcast. Jenny shares 6 key insights she has gained through her work with other women as well as in her journey through singlehood.

6 Key Insights Gained

• A ceremony and piece of paper don’t guarantee happiness. - No man or relationship status can give me that. It is something I have to make happen for myself. 
• Life has to be lived right now. I can’t wait for XYZ to happen. I have to take the bull by the horns and go for it right now. 
• While Forrest Gump was right about life being a box of chocolates, with every piece I have choice to enjoy it or spit it out. 
• I have dodged many a bullet for which now, I am extremely grateful. And trust me ladies, those men would say the same about me. It is totally okay that we weren’t the right match for each other. Every man that has been in my life has taught me something and I chose to use those lessons learned. 
• There is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I am not a project to be fixed. Nor do I need to achieve a certain level of anything to be worthy of love and adoration. (Yeah, I did a lot of work to learn that one. It didn’t come easy.) 
• I am not for everyone but those who get me, laugh with me. - that’s my hope for you too. 

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