In this episode, host Aaron Della Vedova interviews Nate Olukoya, the winning contestant of The Bachelorette Season 18 and a tattoo enthusiast.

In this episode, reality tv. vs. real life and Nayte's take on his time on The Bachelorette are not the only topics discussed. Aaron and Naytedelve into the concept of stoicism, which emphasizes the importance of understanding what is within our control and what is not. The idea of nonresistance and accepting life as it comes is also discussed, with the understanding that we cannot always know the reasons behind certain events. The ancient stoics are praised for their ability to focus on what they could control in their difficult lives, which allowed them to pursue truth more effectively.

Nayte shares how he believes people often torment themselves with negative thoughts and anxieties about the future. He explains that our imagination can be disruptive and destructive, making us worry about what could happen in six months or beyond. However, they also note that the reality of the situation is often not as bad as our anxious thoughts make it out to be. They encourage listeners to focus on the present moment and not let their imagination and negative thoughts about the future consume them.

They also discuss how relationships can be tested by the chaos of everyday life, such as work stress and other pressures. They argue that being able to maintain a relationship through these challenges is important and creates a stronger bond between partners. Nayte emphasizes the value of going through difficult times together and knowing one's own strength and worth in a relationship. They suggest that reality TV removes this aspect of relationships and does not provide a true thermometer of what a relationship is really made of and they highlight the importance of being able to maintain a relationship in the midst of life's chaos and challenges.

Lastly, we tatt! We find out about Nayte's first tattoo that he paid for with a few Four Locos in college. Then Nayte takes a needle to the kneecap. Don't miss this one!

Here is the breakdown:

[00:00:12] Firewall for relationships.

[00:03:19] Reality TV addiction.

[00:05:43] Immigration and moving to America.

[00:08:34] Winning "The Bachelorette"

[00:12:56] Blissful relationships are unrealistic.

[00:14:21] Fame and its effects.

[00:17:18] Fame and Reality TV.

[00:23:02] Cyberbullying on social media.

[00:25:14] Twist your thinking.

[00:30:23] Making a TV show.

[00:31:23] Reality TV and society's impact.

[00:34:03] Authenticity on social media.

[00:38:33] Stoic philosophy and mental health.

[00:39:45] Terrified of dying.

[00:43:12] Living in the present moment.

[00:45:47] Stoicism and nonresistance.

[00:48:33] Enlightenment through hardship.

[00:51:26] First tattoo and Four Lokos.

[00:54:29] Tattoos as memories.

[00:57:29] Kneecap tattoo and meaning.

[01:04:20] Tattoos are addicting.

[01:06:25] Modeling and Real Estate.

Quotes:

"It's up to you whether something is unfortunate or not."

"I've kind of yet to find anything that wasn't ultimately good because either it taught me something or it brought me something I wanted into my life."

"Your imagination is like disrupting you or destroying you way more than reality."

"You just got to focus on what you genuinely can control."

"But you've got to have something, some core philosophy that guides the ship."

"I've been tattooing for 30 years and I made a career out of these big ass sleeves and back pieces. But man, this show has been fun in every way possible."

Connect with Nayte:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/kingbabatunde/

Connect with Aaron:⁠

Website: http://www.chatsandtatts.com⁠

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chatsandtatts

IG: http://www.instagram.com/chatsandtatts

Chats & Tatts YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/chatsandtatts

Aaron IG:⁠ http://www.instagram.com/aarondellavedova⁠

Guru Tattoo: http://www.Gurutattoo.com