Reclaiming HER Resilience

In this episode, Robrenna offers a short guided somatic practice for the in-between moments. In-between where we've been, where we are, and what's next. You can do this grounding episode anywhere: On a break at work, standing in line, or at home.

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[email protected]

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Website: www.reclaimingherresilience.com

Credits: Written, produced & edited by: Robrenna Parker

Music by: INPLUSMUSIC

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, where we create story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.

Before you move into the next room, relationship, or season of your life, do you clean first? In this episode, Robrenna uses the metaphor of cleaning a new place before unpacking to explore the residue we carry from past relationships, communities, and systems, as well as the residue others bring to our door. She shares what self-fidelity looks like as the practice of cleaning and releasing what isn’t ours, draws on Dr. Jennifer Freyd’s work on betrayal blindness to explore why that residue is so hard to see, and points to Dr. Steven Hassan’s Influence Continuum for what healthy influence looks like. She invites listeners to tend to their own space with compassion and to decide who crosses their threshold.

Dr. Jennifer Freyd Blind to Betrayal: Why We Fool Ourselves We Aren't Being Fooled

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Center for Institutional Courage (betrayal blindness research)

Dr. Steven Hassan: Influence Continuum

Episode 39 "Oops! I Did It Again" (self-betrayal in high-control environments)

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Connect with Robrenna:

[email protected]

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Substack: The Resonance Circle

Website: www.reclaimingherresilience.com

Credits: Written, produced & edited by me: Robrenna Parker

Music by: INPLUSMUSIC

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, where we create story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.

This episode explores the gap between what we protest publicly and what we persist in or tolerate privately, whether at the dinner table, group chat, church, or within our closest circles. I trace how old wounds stored in our bodies can surface faster than our awareness and invite listeners to practice congruence by aligning what we stand for in public with what we practice in private. I also discuss why we repeat patterns that once kept us safe and how noticing body sensations gives us a chance to choose differently.

Prompts will be available this week on my Substack: The Resonance Circle. Subscribe to receive companion pieces and somatic practices.

Connect with Robrenna:

[email protected]

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Substack: The Resonance Circle

Website: www.reclaimingherresilience.com

Credits: Written, produced & edited by me: Robrenna Parker

Music by: INPLUSMUSIC

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, where we create story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.

After a church, ministry, and marriage that worked in similar ways, I found myself in another high-control environment, one that looked like a sisterhood but wasn’t. In this episode, I named the architecture and mechanics of coercive control within these systems so you can recognize them too

Dr. Steven Hassan, the BITE model of authoritarian control, Freedom of Mind Resource Center: freedomofmind.com

Also check out Dr. Hassan’s Influence Continuum I also follow his Substack

Dr. Patrick Carnes, The Betrayal Bond

Dr. Wade Mullen, Something’s Not Right, and his Substack

Amanda Montell, Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism

My Story: Season 1 Ep 1-3

Connect with Robrenna:

[email protected]

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Website: www.reclaimingherresilience.com

Credits: Written, edited, and produced by me Robrenna Parker

Music by: INPLUSMUSIC

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, creating story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.

After a church, ministry, and marriage that worked in similar ways, I found myself in another high-control environment that looked like a sisterhood but wasn't. I name the architecture and mechanics of coercive control in these types of systems and spaces so you can recognize them too.

Dr. Steven Hassan, the BITE model of authoritarian control, Freedom of Mind Resource Center: freedomofmind.com

Dr. Patrick Carnes, The Betrayal Bond

Dr. Wade Mullen, Something’s Not Right, and his Substack

Amanda Montell, Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism

My Story Season 1 Ep 1-3

For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I'm bringing back an episode that I believe belongs to an ongoing conversation rather than a single moment. In light of what we've seen in the headlines, including Mica Miller's story, and in the experiences of many women in our own communities, this letter to the church feels as necessary now as it did when I first wrote it.

New Episodes for Season 3 Oct 12!

Reclaiming Discernment: Faith, Agency, and a Woman's Voice

A six-week faith circle for women shaped by teachings that made compliance central to faithful womanhood. Together, sit with what we were taught, sift through it, and reclaim our voice and discernment.

Join the waitlist: Reclaiming Discernment Circle

https://www.reclaimingherresilience.com/agency-blog

Resources:

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, and if you're in the U. S., contact the National Domestic Violence Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

StrongHearts Native Helpline 1-844-762-8483

International listeners, contact Ending Violence Against Women International

No More.org Global Directory International

Teen Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474, 1-866-331-8453 (TTY)

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men By Lundy Bancroft

Supporting someone who keeps returning National Domestic Violence Hotline Article

Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse by Shannon Thomas, LCSW

Leslie Vernick - Training Church Leaders to Recognize and Respond to Abusive Behavior

Called to Peace Church Training Ministry

Exposing Financial Abuse: When Money Is a Weapon by Shannon Thomas, LCSW

When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing with Narcissism and Emotional Abuse by Dr. David Hawkins

Connect with Robrenna:

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Website: reclaimingherresilience.com

Email: [email protected]

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored, and stories unfold.

Episode Summary:

In this powerful season finale, host Robrenna shares a deeply personal journey of transformation using the metaphor of a controlled burn. Just as prairie land managers intentionally burn dead thatch to make way for new growth, Robrenna describes her own decision to step away from a professional environment that no longer nourished her, clearing space for something more authentic and life-giving.

Key Topics Covered:

• The metaphor of controlled burns in the Great Plains (Nebraska sand hills and Kansas Flint Hills)

• Recognizing when "dead fuel" has piled up in your professional or personal life

• The difference between a controlled burn (on your terms) versus a wildfire (crisis)

• Introducing RHR Media Co. - the publishing arm of Reclaiming Her Resilience

• The symbolism of the fiddlehead fern logo and what it represents

• The spiritual foundation of "Reclaiming Her Resilience" (Joel 2:25-26)

• Understanding resilience as getting back up, even if slowly

About the Host:

Robrenna Parker is a narrative focus, trauma care certified story coach, somatic attachment coach, and founder of Reclaiming Her Resilience, LLC and RHR Media Co.

Special Offering:

Free guided meditation: "The Unfurl" - created for women who have been holding themselves tightly for so long they've almost forgotten what it feels like to open. Complete form to Download the Unfurl Meditation

What's Next:

Season 3 is coming! Robrenna is taking a sabbatical and building something exciting to share when the podcast returns. Send topic or guest suggestions to: [email protected]

Credits:

Executive Producer and Editor: Robrenna Parker

Published by: Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored, and stories unfold.

Logo Design: Mari Crisler Design

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Email: [email protected]

Biblical Reference:

I will repay you for the years the locust has eaten... You will have plenty to eat until you are full and you will praise the name of the Lord your God, who has worked wonders for you and never again will my people be shamed. Joel 2:25-26 (paraphrased)

The Unfurl Download the Unfurl Meditation

Communities embrace controlled burns to protect themselves

Glacier Creek Preserve (University of Nebraska Omaha)

Audubon Great Plains: Restoring Grasslands

The Botanical Society of America

What does it mean to reclaim your voice when you no longer want to borrow safety from proximity to power? In this solo episode, host Robrenna Parker explores the concept of adjacency, how we align ourselves with power structures for protection and what happens when our bodies signal it's time to stand on our own terms.

In This Episode:

• A dream that revealed how the body protects through survival and self-preservation
• Adjacency as adaptation — not weakness
• The difference between hypervigilance and lived intelligence
• How fawning functions as a trauma response alongside fight, flight, and freeze
• The hidden cost of borrowing safety through alignment with power
• Moving from borrowed calm to self-generated sovereignty
• Reclaiming voice as an act of internal authority.

1. Where does my body lower itself? In what types of rooms do I shrink, soften, or disappear?
2. What specifically feels dangerous there—misunderstanding, erasure, or premature visibility?
3. Where have I borrowed safety through adjacency?
4. When have I aligned myself with power to feel protected? What did it cost me and what did it give me?
5. What would visibility on my own terms look like?

Resources:

My Grandmother's Hands Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies By Resmaa Menakem

The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master's House by Audre Lorde

The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe By Stephen W Porges

Betrayal Trauma: Traumatic Amnesia as an Adaptive Response to Childhood Abuse by Dr. Jennifer Freyd

Blind to Betrayal Why We Fool Ourselves We Aren't Being Fooled by Dr. Jennifer Freyd

Fawning By Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Connect with Robrenna:

[email protected]

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Credits: Executive Producer & Editor: Robrenna Parker

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored, and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, creating story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.

In this episode, our guest, Laura Jackson, a counselor, mindful self-compassion leader, teacher, and advocate, joins us for an in-depth conversation about cultivating kindness toward ourselves in the midst of life's challenges. Laura shares her expertise on the three core elements of mindful self-compassion—mindfulness, kindness, and common humanity—and explores how this practice can help us untangle harsh inner critics, survival-based patterns, and unrealistic expectations. Laura explains how reconnecting with ancestral care practices benefits us and others.

Laura invites listeners to create their own loving-kindness phrases. Examples include:

• May I be held in compassion
• May I be safe
• May I find peace
• May I be at ease

Resource:

Center for Mindfulness Self-compassion

Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey

Connect with Laura:

Website: www.paradigmjoy.com

Instagram: @paragdimjoy

LinkedIn: Laura I Jackson

Email: [email protected]

Connect with Robrenna:

[email protected]

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Reclaiming HER Resilience is executive produced and edited by Robrenna Parker.

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored, and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, creating story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.

Guest: Leontyne 'Tyne' Evans, The Relationship Saver

In this episode, story coach Robrenna is joined by Leontyne 'Tyne' Evans, a licensed marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, and counselor. They discuss the challenges and importance of reclaiming sensuality and intimacy after toxic or abusive relationships. The conversation covers how emotional, psychological, sexual, spiritual, and relational harm can impact body autonomy, desire, and safety. We discuss how purity culture influences body image and sexual experiences, the difference between sensuality and sexuality, and the importance of slow, steady self-compassion in the healing process. They also address trauma bonding, differentiating between sensual desire and trauma reenactment, and rebuilding trust in one’s body. This candid discussion aims to provide listeners with insights on creating a safe, self-compassionate space to reconnect with their bodies.

Connect with Leontyne:

TikTok: @therelationshipshaver

Facebook: Tyne Evans

Website: Relationshipgoalsinc.com

Connect with Robrenna:

[email protected]

Facebook: Reclaiming HER Resilience

Instagram: Reclaiming_HER_Resilience

Reclaiming HER Resilience is executive produced and edited by Robrenna Parker.

Reclaiming HER Resilience is published by RHR Media Co. Where Voice is honored, and stories unfold.

RHR Media Co. is the publishing and media arm of Reclaiming HER Resilience, LLC, creating story-centered media that honors voice, restores agency, and invites women back into authorship of their own lives.