ReDiscover You: Dating and Life When Starting Again

If the conversation stopped without expectation, and you are left wondering what happened, you got ghosted. 

Ghosting leaves you with a feeling of loss with no means of closure. You are forever left wondering what went wrong. 

Because the conversation was halted on one end, there are questions that never get answered. In the absence of closure, questioning yourself is a natural response. These questions often sabotage your own self-worth. 

In today's episode, I'll cover tips for picking yourself back up after being ghosted, and ways to make sure you don't become a ghost to someone else. 

Ever wonder, is my date giving me an honest answer, or just telling me what I want to hear?
We’re all looking for ways to find if that other person might be the one you’re looking for. There’s a beautiful quote by Maya Angelou that says, “When people show you who they are, believe them.”

The problem is, we are all on our best behavior on a date.  Being observant allows you to learn about your dates as they show you who they are.  While you want to have a positive, enjoyable experience, getting to know someone at a deeper level should be at the heart of your dating. 

The longer you experience life with anyone, the more you will see their true  personality and character. We’re all human, and we all have flaws. Some you can live with, and some you shouldn’t. You want to see those flaws as early as possible. Today's episode will offer real life examples that will help you get to know your dates at a deeper level.

Why Meet for Coffee?

 Many would argue with me that meeting for coffee is no first date at all. That's okay, I'm not here to argue. 

In today's episode, I'll offer some surprising advantages to a coffee date, and why I believe it's the best way to meet for the first time.

Your perspective is your reality.  That doesn't make it reality, though.  Seeking a more positive outlook will enhance your life and the lives of those you date and fall in love with.

How does perspective affect your dating life?
1) How you approach anything has great bearing on how successful you are at it.

2) The perspective you have as you face anything plays into how quickly you give up when the going gets tough. And a spoiler alert here. Dating is tough.  

3)People are naturally drawn to others with a positive outlook!

Those who struggle the most with getting back out there often describe themselves as shy. 

Today I want to shed light on the difference between being shy and being an introvert. Breaking these differences down may help you see yourself in a different light. 

Understanding myself better helped me to recognize why I avoided certain aspects of socializing,  like meeting and mingling.  Recognizing why I reacted the way I did in specific situations helped me make sense of it all, and I expect it will do the same for you!

At first glance shyness and introversion seem to be similar, but the scientific community says they are unrelated.  Together, let's discover the difference.

Are you struggling with shyness, your confidence, or finding love? My struggle to start over changed my life in incredible ways. I wrote ReDiscover Dating: What’s Keeping You From Getting Back Out There? so that no one else would ever have to go through it on their own. Check it out at ReDiscoverDating.com, on Amazon or your Kindle app today.

What do your dog, your camera, a book, a scarf, your guitar and two dollar bills have in common? People are looking to connect with others.  Today I'll show you how to use accessories to let others start the conversation!

Use these to help to break the ice anywhere, including your dating profile, standing in line at the checkout counter, or in virtual meetings and Zoom conversations.  This tool gives others a reason to break the ice with you. 

Do you ever wish other people would start the conversation? I'll teach you how to make that happen today!

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”  -Tony Robbins

The images you choose to display on your online dating profile can make or break your dating possibilities. Don't miss out on 12 ways to be sure you make the right choices!

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”


What Was I Afraid Of?

Dancing was a fear of mine. My real fear was embarrassing myself on the dance floor. One night at a local Meetup, I had a lightbulb moment. Those who danced were meeting far more people than I was. Before this day, I had no intention of ever getting out on the dance floor. 

I knew this was another chance for me to step out of my comfort zone. I had no idea what a difference this one decision would make.

But I Just Can’t…

Often I take away my own ability to do something just by saying so. We all have something we say we “can’t do.” When I say that I can’t do something, I take away the possibility of it altogether. 

What’s holding you back?

The movie “Back to the Future" highlights how tiny decisions are affecting his whole life, as Marty sees how his life would have been different by making alternative choices.  He is warned that the slightest incidents while he is time traveling could change the entire course of human history. 

This movie gives a great visual illustration of how a slight event shift now can alter your very real life later. In a real sense, that’s what you have the opportunity to do. While you can’t go back in time, you can redirect the course you are on, and change your future forever. 

Any decision you make, including doing nothing at all, affects your future. You are writing the script to your life, and the decisions you make, one by one, affect the script.

What's wrong with attraction? Nothing, but it's not the whole picture. Yet the main hinge of dating sites is visual attraction. 

Today we take a look at attraction on dating sites versus personal connection, and how to weigh in on attraction and character.  

When I talk to people about attraction, the topic is usually dominated by surface level characteristics. This is a concern when using online dating, because many of the current apps are built around physical attraction as the centerpiece, where you swipe right or left simply from a static image. It’s easy to get drawn in by that pretty face or the strong jawline, leaving everything else out. Swipe right or left at light speed. 

I want to help you find a relationship that will grow and get stronger in time. When you are looking for a great relationship, consider what features and character traits will grow more important with time.

Are you struggling with shyness, your confidence, or how to find love when starting over? My struggle to start again changed my life in incredible ways. I wrote ReDiscover Dating: What’s Keeping You From Getting Back Out There? So that no one else would ever have to go through it on their own. Check it out at ReDiscoverDating.com, on Amazon or your Kindle app.

"Beauty is an attraction, personality is attachment" - Anonymous

If you have found yourself wrestling with isolation, or too much time on your hands, this episode will offer a new solution-based focus as we roll into the holiday season. Holidays could be a tough time even before Covid-19.

How you deal with the individual struggles you are facing will have a big impact on your perspective, and therefore your happiness. Your happiness and perspective play important roles in the possibilities for your love life. 

When you aren’t challenging our mind, your mind will start challenging you, leading to sleepless nights, stress, anxiety or depression.  A new project is a real solution-focused way to see yourself through the challenge of a holiday season, isolation.

Listen in for some new ways to kill the holiday blues!