ReDiscover You: Dating and Life When Starting Again

How can I make a great first impression?

Today I'll offer my top ten rules for making a great first impression. These will help you whether you are on a virtual first date in person or meeting in person! 

Making a great first date isn't all about where you go, or what grand activity you choose, but how you show up and connect!

Until we return for the start of season 2 in late October, I thought I'd share the top ten most popular episodes so far. A great chance to catch up on shows you missed!

Do you have the conversation skills and relatability to create an engaging conversation any time? The bridge to deeper connection often comes through conversation. 

Having good conversational skills makes you appear more:

• confident
• interesting
• intelligent

Today I'll discuss phases three and four of conversation, and why all the magic happens here. We will also cover when to bring up faith and politics, and how storytelling can be a game changer!

We all seek to date the best possible person. In order to do that you need to bring something to the table. Good quality conversation helps level the playing field. It can make up for other areas that aren’t your strengths. 

Learn how the Discovery Phase of conversation opens the doors to all the possibilities!

• What to listen for in any early communication that will be a game changer!
• In a conversation, do you know what you should be doing at least 50% of the time? 
• Are you a talker or a listener? Learn the best approach for each!
• Learn the powerful technique to show you you are engaged in every word they say! 

Understand these 5 tips to make the most of the Discovery Phase of conversation!

We all want the magic words that give us the best chance of opening the doors to positive interaction. Are you ready for them? 

Learn the only three things you need to remember to break the ice with anyone, anywhere! Even if you are isolated due to COVID-19, you can use these techniques in a Meetup virtual event or to spark an online dating conversation. 

Learn 4 tips that highlight you in a positive light!
Plus, these four tips will open doors all by themselves, by setting you apart from the crowd. Learn how you can even plan ahead for maximum impact!

You can employ these icebreakers the same way no matter the situation, opening a conversation at a wedding, a Skype virtual meeting, coffee shop, or in business. Ice-breakers are powerful tool in building friendships, business relations, or finding a date.

Today’s Podcast is sponsored by ReDiscover Dating: What’s Keeping You From Getting Back Out There? The book, available on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited, is a step-by-step guide to help you rebuild your confidence, recreate your social life, and find love again.

What are the secrets of those who are good at conversation?
An interesting discussion is an amazing way to create deeper connection. Today we explore the 4 phases of conversation. Understanding these phases will keep you from making common mistakes when you are getting to know someone. 

Where does all the magic happen in a conversation?
Even if you have the gift of gab, hearing the stages of natural conversation will bring clarity to knowing what to say and when to say it! Knowing this will give you an edge!

The ability to hold a good conversation, one that is satisfying to both of you, portrays:

• confidence
• interest
• intelligence
• connection

This is part one of four on improving your conversation skills!

If falling in love doesn’t make a marriage work, what does?

What can you take from last week's Top Ten Reason's for Divorce to help you know if you are dating the right one, or the wrong one?

Today I’m going to share 4 important takeaways from the Top Ten episode, as well as the common thread that runs between many of them.

Knowing this one secret can help you find and keep love!
  

As a single person, can understanding the Top Ten reasons for divorce save me future heartache? You bet! There is a lot that can be learned from the most common reasons for a split up. 
Did you know approximately 45% of first marriages end in divorce? Second marriages come in at 60%, and 73% of third marriages end in the big D.  Sounds scary, but it's far from hopeless. 

How can recognizing the most common reasons for a breakup keep you from becoming a future statistic?

Check out today's episode to find the hidden threads that run between many reasons for divorce. Recognizing them can help you find and keep a great relationship! 

Today I'll challenge you to consider how that pocket calculator could be keeping you from meeting someone, or turning them away even after you have.    

You will learn why:

• your device stops you from making the crucial first connection point
• simply having your cell phone present reduces engagement
• another common phone accessory may have you disengaged

You will learn how:

• your phone interferes with dating and relating
• your device keeps you from doing these 3 things

And I will show you:

• 5 Ways to improve your dating connectability 
• The single best technique I've found to stay more engaged at home

On our second week covering rejection, I'll share two additional tips that will change the way you look at rejection, and wrap up our series on "Building Your Dating Resilience."

Find out how your reaction to rejection is what fuels the fire for heartache, and how it begins to break down your dating resilience.  

Rejection is a normal part of dating, and the only way past it is through it. I'll share today how rejection could have made me miss out on love altogether. 

Hindsight really is 20/20, and it’s easy looking back to say that all the rejections I faced were just a part of finding the right person. It's true, but when you are in the midst of it, it still hurts. 

In my time writing, researching and dating, I met many wonderful people. I met people that could have made good partners. At times, I asked myself if I was just being too picky; if I needed to lower the bar a little? Looking back, if I had not taken the extra time to find someone with deep compatibility, I could have ended up with a very different life. 

What could cause you to give up one day early? 

What could have you settle one day too soon? 

Getting back up never gets easy. But it is worth it in the end. It is why I believe resilience is one of your most powerful dating tools.

I hope I have inspired you to keep going when you are not sure all this is worth the heartache. In those moments, I remind you not to give up. Something great awaits you.

Are you struggling with shyness and confidence in dating when starting over? My struggle to start again changed my life in incredible ways.
I wrote ReDiscover Dating: What’s Keeping You From Getting Back Out There? so that no one else would ever have to go through this on their own. Check it out today at ReDiscoverDating.com.

“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”- Ted Rueben