Reflections of Evelyn

I know some of you thrill seekers and goblin chasers out there celebrate year round and this episode is for you. And for you nasties out there, I don’t know who Miguel is, (Coas) or however you would say that artists name; I can only make educated guesses; all I know is that he had a billboard floating around recently advertising his new album somewhere near West LA, and when I saw that poster while driving for work one day, I tripped balls sockets because it was a great depiction of the penthouse scene I speak about in this episode. You know the billboard, with the dude smiling with the mask and horns on? Google it. I see that poster and I am like, “Yep, thanks for that reminder.” Makes you wonder what is in someone's brain socket when they are creating art, huh? So just picture that poster when I tell you what's up and then try to get your rocks off and get all dolled up in your gothy sexy make up and go about your spooky and enchanting day. Aguh.

To the other portions of you out there, similar to my own, may say something along the lines of, “I don’t like to capitalize on other people's trauma” and to you folks, I say, grab a blanket and some yummy hot cider, or skip this episode if it is literally, too triggering.

Listen if you dare maniacal laugh.

Episode 9, next week will be one of the most gut wrenching and vulnerable stories shared out loud yet. If either of these episodes don’t almost knock the wind out of you or make you ponder your life's existence, please consider psychological help. teehee. Until next time!

Keywords: respect, self love, human with a pulse, you gotta stand up for your right to party, boss chica, avoidance, sweeping it under the rug, editor, writer, producer, director, moving on, slowly, ADHD, full circle, make believe, fantasy, dream chasers, love seekers, dream believers, talking to yourself, journey, forging your own path, doing it your way, creative, art, subjective, no right answer, real life, raw, organic, no filter, stress, economy, mindfulness, books, community, mental health, encouragement, inspiration, love, sports, survey, achievements, success, drugs, sober living, relationships, philosophy, family dynamics, traumas, societal pressures, politics, environment, self development, self improvement, success, drugs, sober living, relationships, music, career, fetish, adult pleasure, PTSD, Coping, Support, Talk Therapy

Song links!⁠https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/evelynslatershew/songwriting-days⁠

Self respect comes in many forms, not limited at all, and can be very individualized, person to person, situation to situation. In my case, it’s strange to think about. If I want to find love or be loved fully, the way it is in my heart, apparently, life doesn’t want to show me what love is, but what it isn’t, first. Why exactly? Why does it need to be that way? Not for everyone, I’m sure, we all have different lessons. I don’t think I have blinders on and at ‘x’ amount of time I will magically see love for what it is and it will burst inside of me feeling yummy and wonderful inside, who knows. I don’t like to believe “life”/”the universe” is that vindictive or joker like. That’s just not how I want to view life; in a childish manner where you must learn x,y,z for x,y,z to happen. I think that is narrow minded and society talking, keeping us all the same in our vastly different cultures.

Regardless, I know this voice memo I sent to an old “one off lover” was never going to be “love”, but regardless of a relationship, or whatever, I was not going to be disrespected as a human being with a soul and a pulse. I’m sure he is quite the charmer to girls who want just that, but I realized recently, no matter how much I want it, I cannot be with someone at an intimate level without something being there between us. Mutually.

At the end of the day, you can do whatever you want, right? But the consequence of the action is unreplied messages, or, “Hold on, I’ll get right back to you” but never does, no accountability, and disrespect for the other person. Aguh, makes me sick just thinking about it. But that’s the beautiful part of aging that I don’t hear a lot of people talk about. No it’s not all bad, when you learn things for yourself and it clicks and makes sense, well then you learn and grow and things don’t bother you so much after that. I would have taken it personally in the past, but I heard this therapist on a podcast the other day give this amazing perspective that made self respect click for me even more.

Sometimes people do things out of fear and insecurities, self doubt, self confidence blah blah blah etc no doubt, but that’s not the only reason. Sometimes it’s love. Sometimes you just want to love someone, who doesn’t always deserve it. Does that make you a bad person or insecure? No! What a beautiful quality to share of yourself to another human being. As long as it doesn’t hurt you or someone else, be or think however you wish! That is what my therapist would say. “Even the cuckoo theories my friends have?!” I ask. “They aren’t crazy?!” “No Evelyn, they are not.” She would say.There is some truth to that. Not everything needs to be/say “you are insecure” or because you request a loving partnership must mean that you need to spend more time alone, loving yourself.” To all these modern day haters/opinionators, and “philosophers”. I say to you: you can be both! Not black and white. Not limited thinking. Not limiting ourselves to watered down discussions to blast on media platforms for clicks. How about that :)

Keywords: respect, self love, human with a pulse, you gotta stand up for your right to party, boss chica, avoidance, sweeping it under the rug, editor, writer, producer, director, moving on, slowly, ADHD, talking to yourself, journey, forging your own path, doing it your way, creative, art, subjective, no right answer, real life, raw, organic, no filter, mindfulness, encouragement, inspiration, love,

Song links!⁠https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/evelynslatershew/songwriting-days⁠

Welcome back to Part 2! Here are some notes I have taken from some of my favorite philosophers on indirect communication and ironist theory. Their words transcend time and hold relevant truth even today. Meditate on these if it resonates with you during the episode. Relatable?

Søren Kierkegaard, philosopher, speaks on subjective truth: If a person does not become what he understands, he does not understand it either. Socrates, If you knew what he was actually thinking…all he was doing was teasing out of the inconsistency of what others were saying. The truths that are most important to us cannot be transferred from one mind to another. You may be able to provoke someone by telling you those truths, you may be able to seduce or deceive someone, but you will never know if the truth was what he meant or a stunt he was pulling. Contrarian thought: It is not a reflection of how you feel but it is in fact how they feel.

Hello? McFly? Anyone there? Am I talking to a wall here? Just calling it out the way I see it. One of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite artists, Rufus Wainwright “Do you really think you go to hell for having loved?”. In this episode I will show you a real life conversation, verbatim, of what grief can sound and look like, in all of its layers and forms. Bargaining: Can we make this work? What needs to change to turn back time and make things anew. Can we? Does the world really come back full circle? Can we resolve our unresolved conflicts with someone else? Denial: The shock factor can take as long as it needs. This can’t be happening. In my skin and soul, we are still together and “connected”. Are we both feeling this way, or am I feeling this for the both of us? The concept of idealism: Objects don’t exist that aren’t perceived. Depression: That soul sucking, mind numbing feelings where colors fade, music fades, does anything really matter at all? Anger: Not to play the blame game, but it takes two to tango and only one person to leave a relationship. I can admit faults, can you? Accountability. Acceptance: Is it pretending you don’t care and you move on with distractions? Finding peace in situations that are out of your control? Delusional or otherwise. How about loving someone despite it all unconditionally and finding that delicate balance to move on at the same time without hurting yourself and others around you in the process. Song: White Flag by Dido to meditate, think, and philosophize on: “Well if I didn’t say it, well, I'd still have felt it, where's the sense in that?” Stick around for Part 2…

Keywords: philosophy, family dynamics, traumas, ex, societal pressures, politics, environment, self development, self improvement, real life, raw, organic, no filter, stress, economy, mindfulness, books, community, neurodivergent, mental health, encouragement, inspiration, love, sports, survey, achievements, success, drugs, sober living, relationships, music, career, plants, lovers, fetish, adult pleasure, PTSD, Coping, Support, Talk Therapy, corrupted power, power of authority, government, law enforcement, corporate greed, breakups, relationships, depression, anxiety, bargaining, grief, anger, acceptance, peace, balance, unconditional love, heartache, pain, sorrow, emotions, spectrum of emotions, sing it out, praises, spineless coward, limp noodle, danger, loop patterns, what goes around comes around, full circle, make believe, fantasy, dream chasers, love seekers, dream believers, talking to yourself, journey, forging your own path, doing it your way, creative, art, subjective, no right answer, prevention, psychic readings, unconscious thoughts, mind transference, Clairvoyance,clairaudience, Clairsentience, Claircognizance,Clairalience, senses, 777, 77, 222, 333, 444, 888, 000, avoidance, sweeping it under the rug, editor, writer, producer, director

Song links! https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/evelynslatershew/songwriting-days

In this episode we will talk about the different avenues of pain, ptsd, and coping along the way through hardship. In reality, what does that look like? How can you go about not only feeling better but doing more than just taking it day by day? How to thrive and not just survive. How to sit with your discomfort that doesn’t ever seem to end. Sending you all out there some love. Big hugs!

Keywords: philosophy, family dynamics, traumas, ex, societal pressures, politics, environment, self development, self improvement, real life, raw, organic, no filter, stress, economy, mindfulness, books, community, neurodivergent, mental health, encouragement, inspiration, love, sports, survey, achievements, success, drugs, sober living, relationships, music, career, plants, lovers, fetish, adult pleasure,PTSD, Coping, Support, Talk Therapy, corrupted power, power of authority, government, law enforcement, corporate greed

Songs found here! ⁠https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/evelynslatershew/songwriting-days⁠

Episode 4 is a moment of gratitude for all, a reflection of hard work and efforts, the payoffs and the drawbacks of getting what you asked for. This is real life. Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you feel less alone, think for yourself, and move through life with more clarity and confidence.

What am I going to do? Text a creeper and tell him that he is being a creeper?!

Today we are navigating the full spectrum of communication styles, how to approach sticky situations that you want to avoid at all costs, and understanding the multi-faceted layers of personality types and human psyche.

This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you feel less alone, think for yourself, and move through life with more clarity and confidence.

Today Evelyn goes on a hike to the Angeles Forest in beautiful California. We will talk about different perspectives and viewpoints and to debate who is right and wrong and who is flat out crazy!

This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you feel less alone, think for yourself, and move through life with more clarity and confidence.

This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you feel less alone, think for yourself, and move through life with more clarity and confidence. Enjoy, have fun, let your guard down (if you want to) and I hope you get something good out of this! :)