Time allows us to see the ugly person we’ve become in a way that reveals all the hidden depravity we feel for ourselves and the hatred we’ve carried for the person(s) for decades and years. However, there is a way to release the pain and emotional, mental, and spiritual trauma. It is essential to forgive and release. This is the only way to survive the shift from good to bad, bad to worse, and worse to good.

The time system allows us to place milestones of progress and healing in our lives, showing when we can think about a situation that damaged us and not be enthralled back into the time and day that the pain happened. We need time to allow us to be vulnerable with ourselves and people who have a heart for us to be healed and release the feelings of hatred and hurt into the universe so that it no longer has a stronghold in our lives.

The Vaccum Effect - 

Swaddling a newborn baby gives the baby a sense of security and peace to the point that it mimics the feeling of being in their mother’s womb. Once the baby is born, parents are encouraged to provide a swaddled atmosphere for the baby to help the child feel safe and non-isolated. Swaddle has significant residuals on a child and the parent as it provides a place where the child can be watched and carried around safely. Another instance of a swaddle in society is known as a “Papoose” in some cultures of the Americas. Therefore, the precedence of swaddling a child is pretty well known. Additionally, when a child is born, they may or may not like to be swaddled, especially for long periods. Therefore, when that child begins to cry or show discomfort, the parents are supposed to be there to make things better for the child.

This is important because showing the child in the early stages of life that you are there and your imprint is available will help them build trust and know you will be there for them. Just as a premature child born into the world with no interaction with a human touch for an extended time runs the risk of feeling abandoned and isolated because of their confinement in the incubator.

Our purpose is the plan and desire that allows us to keep pressing forward and reaching milestones in life. Just as high school teaches us to address what’s next after this? Finding our purpose can derive from positive and negative experiences in our lives. Some would become civil service workers desiring to help their community because of a trauma or pain that happened directly to them; some would decide to become teachers and nurses because of the positivity that they experienced in their past. Each person looks at their vacuum and trauma differently.

As parents, we must always be mindful of this potential circumstance that can easily develop in our children. On the other hand, there may be children who will embrace this time of isolation and seclusion to take advantage of reading time, study time, and also becoming familiar with technology to help keep them interested and stimulated in their mental and emotional development. However, how do parents or children identify with their purpose and find their reason to pursue living further?

The Vaccum Effect - 

The vacuum of Joy can leave a person feeling lost and void of life. It is crucial to identify why the joy is missing or what precipitated the absence and then find a way to replenish that emotion with another facet of joy that replaces the emptiness and deficit of laughter, faith, and joy.

Suppose the loss of a loved one is more emotional than physical, meaning that person contributed to your trauma and abuse. In that case, there is still an option to forgive and release the pain and suffering that person inflicted. It will not be heard, and it may take years to find a path of joy again, but it is imperative not to give up on joy and peace because of the pain and suffering you experienced. You will make mistakes in love, and you will choose people that will exploit your desire to find joy and love, but it is essential to try to look at that man meant for bad; you can turn it around for good. This helps many find reasons to wake up and pursue life with purpose and promise.

When the Vacuum of Love happens, our emotion takes over, and we become irrational and selfish in our wants or desires. Without the acceptance of love, as God intended it to be, we are destined to displease God, which means that our love must have foundational principles that help someone become a better person and a love that presents itself in peace, calmness, and hope in God.  When we experience a life with vacuums of love, we can see the scars and pain that come with it. As men and women, we can see the wounds of insecurity and unhappiness because love was missing from their lives as a child or young adults.

We may not want to acknowledge that our childhood may have lacked something that convinced us that we need more than love and security. When we were younger, how did it affect us today if we did not experience love from a parent or sibling? We often search for alternative people to love who will allow us to fill that gap of lost love in our hearts.

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Our identity is predicated upon our past experiences of being shaped like children. Identity establishes characteristics and memories that allow us to share happiness or pain with others.  How we communicate these emotions is due to the concentric circles that we have been nurtured.  Understanding the importance of what or to whom we expose our lives is essential.  Young girls need to be exposed to the daily experiences of their mothers when they are toddlers and young babies.  The role of a mother is paramount in the early development and identity of the young girl because it provides the child with a template of who she can become. Additionally, when the young girl is exposed to a cheerful mother, a mother sees a future for her daughter, and the girl finds happiness and confidence in her future.  With a heart for her, the mother tries to show the positive things a loving mother wishes to pass on to her daughter.

The vacuum effect has the ability to hide gaps and crevices that ultimately grow into canyons. Therefore, it is imperative to take time to individually build a stronger bond with children, so each of them knows and is affirmed of your love and support of them. Tell them, “I see you, and I like you.” Parents of twins and medical researchers have concluded in an Edinburgh University study on "nature" (genetics) versus "nurture" (environment) and which is more impactful on a child’s development noticed that nature and nurture are equally crucial to raising a child or twins.  Thus, it is essential to remember that each child is an individual with different perceptions of what love and happiness are. So, as parents, we must treat them as humans, with the brain and heart working together to find the right balance in their lives for happiness and peace.

This is a very real and well-studied fact in child development. The middle child will feel left out and often neglected, making them feel like they need to work extra hard to gain the parent's affection. They usually fight for their parent's attention, positive or negative. But there is hope for the middle child as they will gain their independence faster and more than likely become overachievers because they are motivated to become noticed or affirmed.

We know that no two people handle pain and trauma the same; and should not be treated in such a manner. Surviving a bad situation will take divine intervention and the willingness to trust something other than what we have experienced in recent years.

A bad situation can push people to grow weary and numb to their neighbors' thoughts and feelings, only to seek refuge in their concentric circle. Bad conditions have the power to leave us traumatized and helpless. Alternatively, a bad situation can help us find the hope to reach deeper within the past pain and find the humanity and strength to journey back to the path of seeing the good in our neighbor.

A Vacuum in a person’s life isn’t always a bad thing. We often think of a void or Vacuum as something catastrophic and in disrepair; however, what if we are given a second chance within the cosmos or “Karma Universe” to find happiness or become empowered to be better than our circumstances? We must focus our minds on the positive more than the negative.

Many of us would seek out the commonality upon which we could form a bond or friendship; unfortunately, that was the common denominator. Growing up in an environment that was 90 percent female was tough for a young boy. There were times when we would be all alone in the home with no one to play with us or ask questions relating to our body structure or the psychology of what is acceptable and not acceptable for a boy to do. Many of us would form gangs or “clubs” to help with questions or actions. I can honestly say that many of the conversations were not productive or prudent to our understanding because of the Vacuum of not having a father to mentor and instruct us to become respectable and responsible with our choices.