Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen tackle essential parenting decisions with practical wisdom. They address medication timing concerns, explore the benefits of gene site testing for personalized treatment approaches, and distinguish between parenting instinct versus developed parenting skills. The hosts celebrate autistic joy through recent research findings, sharing personal stories about their children's special interests from lawnmowers to cake decorating. They provide a systematic decision-making framework for parents navigating complex choices while emphasizing the importance of celebrating what brings genuine happiness to autistic individuals.

Key Takeaways

• There's no universal "too young" age for medication - consult healthcare providers with specific goals in mind
• Gene site testing provides valuable DNA-based insights for medication effectiveness and metabolism
• Parenting instinct is important but must be combined with acquired skills and evidence-based decisions
• 94% of autistic people actively enjoy aspects of being autistic according to recent research
• Special interests can develop into professional pursuits and should be celebrated, not discouraged
• Autistic joy flourishes in sensory-friendly, supportive environments without masking demands
• Systematic decision-making involves identifying issues, evaluating current approaches, and considering family fit
• Barriers to autistic joy often come from non-autistic people demanding conformity
• Special interests provide powerful sources of happiness and energy for autistic individuals

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Hosts Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen tackle the challenging topic of medicating autistic children in "A Tough Pill to Swallow: Medicating Autism." They share personal experiences starting medication for their sons around ages 5–6, addressing anxiety, learning difficulties, and behavioral challenges. The episode covers the reality that while only two drugs are FDA-approved for autism (Abilify and Risperidone), over 50 medications across six drug classes are commonly prescribed off-label. They emphasize finding specialized psychiatrists, tracking data systematically, managing side effects, and viewing medication as a tool for learning and development rather than a cure.

Key Takeaways:

• Medication should be a tool supporting other therapies, not a standalone solution.
• Finding a specialized child psychiatrist or developmental pediatrician is crucial.
• Systematic data collection helps determine medication effectiveness.
• Summer is ideal for starting medication trials due to fewer variables.
• Patient advocacy and second opinions are important when progress stalls.
• Medication enables access to learning and social opportunities.
• Future treatments like folate supplementation and oxytocin show promise.

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Hosts Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen dive into real social media questions from parents navigating autism challenges. They address sibling aggression, family PTSD, finding affordable help, alternative medicine claims, medical procedures affecting regression, ABA therapy expectations, and holiday modifications. The discussion emphasizes practical solutions over simplistic advice, highlighting the importance of safety, professional support, and realistic expectations while avoiding costly programs that promise easy fixes.

Key Takeaways

• Physical aggression toward siblings requires safety measures like safe restraint, designated calm spaces, and sometimes medication
• Complex PTSD in siblings is real and treatable - have ongoing conversations and seek professional help
• Don't go bankrupt seeking help; use available resources including insurance-covered ABA, religious organizations, and community programs
• Research alternative treatments thoroughly - if you can't find evidence, it probably won't work
• Medical procedures can cause temporary regression; expect healing time and adjust expectations
• ABA therapists should provide clear programming and regular communication about goals and activities
• Modify or skip holiday gatherings that exceed your child's sensory tolerance - acceptance is key
• Ignore social media influencers selling basic parenting advice behind paywalls
• Take breaks from intensive therapies when needed, especially during summer or after stressful periods
• Use trial and error approach with consistency to find what works for your individual child

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Hosts Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen explore the controversial term "virtual autism," coined by Romanian psychologist Marius Zomfier in 2018 to describe behavioral abnormalities in children aged 0-3 exposed to excessive screen time. The discussion clarifies that virtual autism is not real autism and examines the developmental impacts of early screen exposure. Through social media posts from concerned parents, they address common fears and misconceptions while emphasizing that screen-related developmental delays are potentially reversible, unlike autism spectrum disorder.

Key Takeaways

• Virtual autism is not real autism - it's better described as a neurodevelopmental disorder due to early screen exposure
• The term refers to children 0-3 years old exposed to 4+ hours daily of tablets/phones, not TV
• Zero to three years is critical for language development and communication skills
• Virtual autism symptoms include delayed speech, limited vocabulary, avoiding eye contact, and withdrawal
• Unlike autism, virtual autism is considered "curable" by removing screen exposure
• The 0-3 age range is when children develop crucial communication foundations like pointing and seeking attention
• Parents should be honest with healthcare providers about screen time during assessments
• Educational programming like Sesame Street is preferable to entertainment-only content
• Save screens as high-value rewards for specific situations like potty training
• Focus on face-to-face interaction and real-world experiences for optimal development\

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Hosts Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen address listener feedback on the title of their episode on siblings, clarifying their intention wasn't to pit neurotypical against neurodivergent siblings, but rather show all siblings united against the challenges neurodivergence can bring to family dynamics. They discuss their recent op-ed about RFK Jr.'s autism statements, emphasizing support for productive autism advocacy while rejecting debunked vaccine theories. The conversation covers the need for standardized diagnostics, better services for severely autistic individuals, and the importance of keeping all autism levels visible in media representation. Julianna reviews the PBS show "Patience" featuring an autistic actress, and Kelley introduces the concept of "virtual autism"—screen-induced autism-like symptoms in neurotypical children under three.

Key Takeaways:

• Siblings want platforms to share their experiences living with autism.
• Vaccines don't cause autism—this is settled science.
• Standardized diagnostics need improvement.
• Severely autistic individuals are fighting for services they shouldn't have to fight for.
• Media representation often focuses on high-functioning autism, overlooking severe cases.
• "Virtual autism" describes screen-induced autism-like symptoms in young children.
• Quality autism diagnosis needs more clinical involvement and funding.
• Autism advocacy requires focusing on productive solutions over debunked theories.

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Hosts Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen welcome their own children, Ethan and Rosalie, to discuss the profound impact of growing up as siblings to neurodivergent family members. The conversation explores "glass child syndrome" - when siblings feel invisible due to the intense focus on a high-needs child. Through candid personal stories, they examine childhood anxiety, PTSD, depression, and the long journey toward healing. The siblings share what worked and what didn't in their upbringing, offering invaluable insights for other families navigating similar challenges while emphasizing the importance of communication, independence, and validation.

Key Takeaways

• 71% of siblings of neurodivergent children experience depression, anxiety, or childhood trauma
• Glass child syndrome occurs when siblings feel overlooked as parents focus on high-needs children
• Creating separate spaces, schools, and activities helps siblings develop independent identities
• Therapy readiness varies - it's okay to stop and restart different therapeutic approaches
• Micromanaging sibling relationships often backfires and creates more distance
• One-on-one time through special meals, vacations, and activities is crucial for sibling well-being
• Open communication about the neurodivergent child's diagnosis helps siblings understand and cope
• Siblings often develop heightened empathy and emotional intelligence from their experiences
• Parents must avoid getting defensive when siblings express frustration about their childhood
• Long-term healing requires validating the sibling's journey and acknowledging parental mistakes

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The Refrigerator Moms podcast relaunches with this first episode. Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen dive deep into the pervasive issue of mom guilt that plagues autism parents. Drawing from their 20+ year friendship and experience raising autistic children, they debunk the harmful "Refrigerator Mother Theory" while offering practical strategies for managing guilt and prioritizing self-care. The duo shares personal stories, actionable advice, and evidence-based approaches to help parents move from self-blame to self-compassion. They emphasize the importance of taking care of yourself, setting boundaries, and making decisions based on your family's unique needs rather than outside pressure.

Key Takeaways

• Mom guilt is universal but particularly intense for autism parents - you're not alone
• The "Refrigerator Mother Theory" was debunked decades ago - autism is not caused by parenting
• Self-care isn't selfish - it's necessary for sustainable caregiving
• Don't make yourself indispensable - teach independence gradually
• Focus on your family's needs, not social media comparisons
• Early intervention and diagnosis provide long-term benefits for both child and family
• Seek reliable childcare and support systems - keep trying even when it's difficult
• Treat yourself with the same kindness you'd show a friend
• Avoid negative self-talk and punishment-based approaches

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In this episode, Julianna and Kelley delve into the world of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), a cornerstone of early intervention for autism. They discuss the history of ABA, its core principles (the ABCs: Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence), and how it differs from bribing. They address common myths and criticisms, including the use of aversives and concerns about intensity. They also offer practical advice for parents, including navigating insurance issues, finding quality therapists, and integrating ABA principles into daily life.

Key Talking Points:

• Understanding ABA:
  • [01:21] - The ABCs of ABA: Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence.
  • [02:41] - ABA vs. Bribing: understanding the difference and the goals of ABA.
• Addressing Myths and Criticisms:
  • [05:13] - Addressing common myths and criticisms: aversives, intensity, and dehumanization.
  • [07:55] - Addressing the movement against ABA therapy.
• Practical Advice for Parents:
  • [10:13] - Navigating insurance challenges.
  • [11:00] - Addressing criticism and making informed decisions.
  • [12:49] - Implementing ABA strategies in daily life.
  • [15:12] - Choosing quality ABA clinics and therapists.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Refrigerator Moms website: refrigeratormoms.com
• Refrigerator Moms paper on ABA (available on the website)

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Season 1 Episode 3: Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA): Autism by Any Other Name

In this episode, we explore Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), a term describing behavior, primarily occurring in children with autism, who exhibit extreme resistance to everyday demands. We provide a comprehensive overview of PDA, its presentation, diagnosis, and debated etiology. Despite PDA not being an official diagnosis in the U.S. and only a proposed profile in the U.K., its legitimacy is growing within autism communities. Through discussing both successful and ineffective parenting styles for PDA, we offer practical advice and techniques such as the antecedent behavior consequence (ABC) model. We emphasize the importance of safety during meltdowns, dealing with long-term challenges, and setting sustainable routines. We also stress the value of various types of support and the necessity of continual adaptation and realistic goal-setting tailored to each unique family dynamic. 

00:00 Introduction to Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) 

01:15 Understanding PDA: Definition and Background 

02:48 Debates and Questions Surrounding PDA 

03:40 The Role of Diagnosis in PDA 

05:57 Effective PDA Parenting Strategies 

08:04 Practical Tips for Managing PDA Behaviors 

16:19 Long-Term Strategies and Considerations 

17:35 Final Thoughts and Resources

A child yelling, shaking, and crying in public is nothing new, yet parents may find themselves struggling to understand whether their child is having a normal tantrum on the grocery store floor, or if their child is having a autistic meltdown or panic attack instead. While all three may present similarly, and all function as communication tools that have turned into outsized reactions, they differ wildly in their purpose. A parent’s job is to understand what the purpose is and how to resolve it—or better yet, how to help their child resolve it themselves. 

This episode suggests that tantrums, meltdowns, and panic attacks are communication methods for varying unmet needs; while the neurology and underlying trigger for each may vary, they all require close management for children to overcome either through accommodations or skill development in order to promote effective child development.

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In this episode of the Refrigerator Moms podcast, Julianna and Kelley discuss the differences between tantrums, meltdowns, and panic attacks, emphasizing their significance for parents of autistic children. They share personal anecdotes and insights, explaining that tantrums are about unmet desires, meltdowns result from sensory overload, and panic attacks stem from fear. The hosts offer strategies for managing these situations, stressing the importance of understanding triggers and maintaining a calm response. They also highlight the value of empathy and clear communication in supporting autistic individuals through challenging moments. (Understanding Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Panic Attacks in Autistic Individuals)

00:00 Introduction to Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Panic Attacks 

01:03 Personal Stories and Experiences 

02:53 Understanding Tantrums 

07:54 Dealing with Meltdowns 

10:23 Panic Attacks and Their Management 

16:18 Strategies for Handling Meltdowns in Public 

17:43 Managing Meltdowns at School 

19:47 Conclusion and Resources