Have you ever looked around at the life you built and quietly wondered...

"Who am I now?"

Maybe you've spent years being the caregiver, the wife, the mother, the helper, the employee, or the one everyone depends on.

And somewhere along the way...you lost yourself.

In this episode, we'll explore why so many women struggle with identity after major life transitions, how people pleasing disconnects us from our authentic selves, and practical tools to reconnect with who you truly are.

• Why so many women feel disconnected from themselves
• The hidden link between people pleasing and identity
• How major life transitions can become opportunities for growth
• A powerful core values exercise to rebuild your sense of self
• A simple meditation practice to strengthen your intuition
• Why your identity is rooted in your values (not your roles).

Whether you're navigating divorce, burnout, an empty nest, career changes, grief, or simply feeling like you've outgrown your life, this episode will remind you that you're not alone.

Healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you've been all along.

Ready to go deeper?

If this episode resonated with you, here are a few ways we can work together.

✨ 1:1 Coaching

If you're ready to stop living from old roles and start living from your values, my 8-week coaching program helps women reconnect with themselves, regulate their nervous system, and create lasting identity-level transformation.

👉 https://www.lisakern.com/coaching

✨ Reiki Sessions

Sometimes your mind understands what's keeping you stuck, but your body is still holding onto it.

Reiki helps create the safety needed for emotional healing, nervous system regulation, and deep restoration.

👉 https://www.lisakern.com/reiki

✨ Upcoming Event

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A half-day healing and strategy immersion for women entrepreneurs ready to regulate their nervous system, reconnect with themselves, and grow their business from alignment instead of overwhelm.

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What if perfectionism isn't actually who you are?

What if it's simply the way your nervous system learned to keep you safe?

In this episode of Reiki Body Mind Radio, we explore the hidden roots of perfectionism through the lens of nervous system regulation, energy healing, and identity transformation.

You'll discover why perfectionism isn't about having impossibly high standards, it's often a protective response shaped by fear, people-pleasing, and the need to feel worthy.

If you've ever found yourself overthinking, procrastinating, endlessly preparing, struggling to rest, or waiting until everything feels "perfect" before taking action, this episode is for you.

Inside this conversation, you'll learn:

• Why perfectionism develops in the first place
• The surprising connection between perfectionism and a dysregulated nervous system
• How perfectionism shows up in everyday life (even when you don't identify as a perfectionist)
• The difference between healthy striving and fear-based perfectionism
• Simple practices to help your body feel safe enough to let go of perfection
• Why your imperfections may actually be your greatest gift

This episode also includes a gentle guided reflection to help you reconnect with the version of yourself that no longer needs to earn her worth through achievement.

If you're ready to trade exhaustion for peace, control for trust, and self-criticism for self-compassion, press play.

Ways to Work with Lisa

✨ 1:1 Reiki Sessions (In-Person & Distance)

Release emotional stress and reconnect with your body's natural ability to heal.

✨ 8-Week Coaching Program

A transformational coaching experience for women ready to move beyond anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overwhelm while creating lasting identity-level change.

✨ Massachusetts Events

• Full Moon Shamanic Reiki Circle
• The Return: An Evening of Meditation, Reiki & Sound Healing

Visit lisakern.com for coaching, Reiki sessions, upcoming events, and resources.

Follow Lisa on Instagram: @reiki.body.mind

Body image issues aren't about your body. They rarely are.

"I should be thinner" sounds like a goal. But underneath it is a belief system most of us inherited before we were old enough to question it.

In this episode, Lisa breaks down why body image struggles are not a willpower problem, a discipline problem, or a personal failing. They are a nervous system problem, an energetic problem, and a cultural one. And she's talking about it from inside it, not from some perfectly healed place on the other side.

In this episode we cover:

• Why 86% of women are dissatisfied with their bodies and what that number actually means
• The solar plexus chakra and how an imbalance shows up in your relationship with food, your body, and your self-worth
• What cortisol and chronic stress have to do with weight and body image
• The very real conversation about being in your 40s and your body changing
• Instagram Face, the digitally manufactured beauty standard researchers have actually named, and why knowing it's fake doesn't make it stop hurting
• A simple daily body check-in practice to start rebuilding trust with your body
• Why Reiki works when intellectual understanding doesn't

This week's practice

Once a day, place one hand on your belly. Before you get out of bed or before you fall asleep. Ask her: what do you need today? Then listen. That's it. Start there.

Resources mentioned

• BMI: Beautiful. Maven. Index. — Ten women sharing stories about defining beauty on their own terms. Lisa wrote the foreword. [Link]
• Confessions of a People Pleaser by Lisa Kern

Work with Lisa

• Book a Reiki session (in-person or distance): lisakern.com
• Apply for the Choose Yourself 1:1 coaching program:
• Reiki Share — June 16th
• Sound Bath + Reiki + Meditation Evening — July 7th
• Read the companion blog post

Connect with Lisa

• Instagram: @reiki.body.mind
• Website: lisakern.com

In today’s episode of Reiki Body Mind Radio, we’re continuing the Sabotaging Shoulds series from my book Confessions of a People Pleaser with one of the deepest patterns people pleasers carry:

“I should make others feel comfortable. I should fit in.”

But what if fitting in is actually exhausting you?

In this episode, I’m talking about the emotional, physical, and energetic cost of constantly performing a version of yourself that feels acceptable to everyone else. We explore how people pleasing impacts the nervous system, why your body stores the stress of shrinking yourself, and what happens when you finally begin choosing authenticity over approval.

✨ Links mentioned in this episode:

• Confessions of a People Pleaser
• The companion blog post: “You Were Never Meant to Fit In”
• Choose Yourself Coaching Program

📩 ⁠[email protected]⁠🌐 lisakern.com📱 Instagram: @reiki.body.mind

If this episode helped you, please share it with a person in your life who needs to hear it. And if you have a moment to leave a review — it means the world and helps more like minded people find this podcast. 🤍

If you've been living with low-grade anxiety that nothing seems to touch - therapy, meditation, all the inner work - this episode might give you the answer you've been missing.

Today we're talking about the connection between suppressed anger and anxiety. Specifically, why people pleasers are so afraid of their own anger, what that fear is doing to their nervous system, and how years of keeping the peace might be the very thing quietly running your anxiety in the background.

In this episode:

• Why most people pleasers learned that anger wasn't safe — and where that belief came from
• What suppressed anger actually does to your nervous system and your energy body
• The anger-anxiety cascade: anger → guilt → anxiety → fear (and how to recognize it in your own life)
• Why you can't selectively numb — and what that means for your joy, love, and aliveness
• Three accessible entry points for starting to process anger in a way that actually works
• Journal prompts to help you go deeper after the episode

Mentioned in this episode:

• Previous episode: Feel it to Heal It — where I read directly from Chapter 7 of my book and share the full acupuncturist story
• Confessions of a People Pleaser by Lisa Kern — available on Amazon
• When Panic Attacks by Dr. David Burns

Ready to go deeper?

If this episode resonated and you're ready to stop carrying this alone, my one-on-one coaching program Choose Yourself is designed for exactly this. We work with your whole self — nervous system, patterns, and energy body — to get to the root of what's keeping you stuck and come back to yourself.

Send me a DM or email and just say "tell me more." I'd love to connect.

📩 [email protected]🌐 lisakern.com📱 Instagram: @reiki.body.mind

If this episode helped you, please share it with a woman in your life who needs to hear it. And if you have a moment to leave a review — it means the world and helps more like minded people find this podcast. 🤍

If you've been feeling exhausted no matter how much you rest, this episode is for you.

So many of the women I work with are doing everything "right" - sleeping enough, keeping up with life, checking all the boxes, but still feeling completely drained. And for a long time, most of us assume the answer is simple: we're just too busy, too overworked, not sleeping enough.

But what if the exhaustion isn't about how much you're doing? What if it's about what you've been quietly holding?

In this episode I'm breaking down the concept of energy leakage and the five most common energy leaks I see in the people I work with every day.

We talk about:

• Why empaths and highly sensitive people are especially vulnerable to energy drain
• The hidden cost of people-pleasing on your nervous system
• How unprocessed emotion lives in the body and keeps you stuck in exhaustion
• What it means when your life no longer fits who you're becoming
• And what it actually looks like to start getting your energy back

🎧 Listen, then come find me on Instagram @reikibodymind — I'd love to hear what resonated.

Ready to go deeper? Learn more about working with me at lisakern.com.

This episode is coming in hot off my birthday — and reinvention is on my mind in a big way.

We're in the Year of the Fire Horse, which means bold moves, big shedding, and running toward the life you actually want. But what does it look like to truly reinvent yourself without losing who you are in the process?

In this episode, we talk about why reinvention isn't starting over, how to get specific about your highest self, and what embodiment actually looks like when you're still in the middle of the process.

Ways to Work Together:

✨ ⁠Book a 1:1 Reiki Session⁠ Release what's keeping you stuck and reconnect with your inner knowing through hands-on healing.

💫 ⁠Work with Me in Coaching⁠ If you're ready for deeper, sustained support in rebuilding self-trust and breaking free from people-pleasing patterns, let's work together 1:1.

📖 ⁠Read the Book: Confessions of a People Pleaser⁠ Dive deeper into the patterns we discussed in this episode.

📧 ⁠Stay Connected⁠ Get bi-weekly insights, practices, and podcast updates delivered to your inbox.

Why You Don't Trust Yourself (Yet)

You can read a room in 30 seconds. You know exactly what your friend needs before she even asks. But when someone asks what YOU need? Blank.

If you're a people-pleaser or empath who's lost touch with your own inner knowing, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we're exploring:

• The 3 childhood roles that taught you not to trust yourself (The Good Girl, The Peacekeeper, The Sensitive Soul)
• What's actually happening in your nervous system when you second-guess everything
• The solar plexus connection and why your power center matters
• How to tell the difference between fear and intuition
• 3 practical ways to start rebuilding self-trust

If you've spent years abandoning your truth to keep the peace, managing everyone else's emotions, or being told you're "too much"—this one's going to land.

Ways to Work Together:

✨ Book a 1:1 Reiki Session (Energy Healing)
Release what's keeping you stuck and reconnect with your inner knowing through hands-on healing.💫 Work with Me in Coaching (Transformational Support)
If you're ready for deeper, sustained support in rebuilding self-trust and breaking free from people-pleasing patterns, let's work together 1:1.📖 Read the Book: Confessions of a People Pleaser
Dive deeper into the patterns we discussed in this episode.📧 Stay Connected
Get bi-weekly insights, practices, and podcast updates delivered to your inbox.

This episode marks the beginning of Season 2 and a return after a season of deep personal change. I share where I’ve been, what this pause taught me about nervous system safety, self-trust, and becoming, and why silence doesn’t have to mean stagnation. If you’ve ever had to slow down to survive; this episode is for you.

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In this powerful episode, holistic wellness expert Andrea Bailey shares her innovative approach to healing through therapeutic rucking - a unique blend of mindful movement and nature connection. From her journey through endurance racing to founding Evolving Mind & Body, Andrea reveals how combining mental health counseling, human design, and outdoor experiences creates lasting transformation. Whether you're struggling with burnout, seeking deeper self-connection, or curious about alternative approaches to wellness, this conversation offers practical insights into how nature can be our greatest teacher. Join us as we explore grounding practices, the power of human design, and why stepping out of our comfort zones leads to profound personal growth.

Links to find Andrea:

Evolving Mind and Body - Mental Health Counseling Services

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Beautiful Maven Index Book

A Womens Journey: Post Partum Healing