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  We can choose Dopamine to give us pleasure. But we can lose control and then Dopamine is controlling us. How do we use Dopamine for Motivation, Creativity, Goal-setting, and Success and avoid healthy options? What do we need to know about Dopamine?When does it help us and when does it harm us? Dopamine is all about making the future better than today…It gives us energy, motivation, desire and excitement, confidence…But it can make us also dissatisfied, unhappy, miserable, and constantly chasing what we cannot capture.  What does Dopamine do in a healthy way for us?Entrepreneurs, they want to build something that never existed before. You can work 4 times more and Dopamine gives you the power and makes it fun; makes you alive for the things that are not under your control and are in the future.All competitive sports… Dopamine shuts off, What is under our control in the here and now and NOT IN THE FUTURE, and that we can reach. For instance, meditation, Yoga, Qigong, if we do our routine work, playing with our kids, be together with our partner/family, no excitement, nothing new…that is not supported by Dopamine…  For the religious/spiritual path, Dopamine is always shut off. Because we should enjoy ONLY what is in the here and now! What does Dopamine in an unhealthy way, that harms us…For instance, gambling, drugs, social-media addiction, compulsive eating… In these cases, Dopamine is controlling our life. In evolution, mankind has been always on the brink of starvation/survival and so he had to be always alert to survive. He/she needed Dopamine. This means that we are genetically programmed to be driven by Dopamine or to want more and more….   Sometimes things that we don’t have, give us more joy than the things that we do have.It is about the anticipation to get a reward.For instance, if we get that reward, to be invited for dinner, then we can’t often enjoy that meal, because we are not in the here and now when we consume the meal. The guy who owns that beach house is the only one who cannot enjoy that beach house. This guy is driving from the Dopamine to earn enough money to afford that beach house and afterward, his Dopamine shut offs. So he thinks rather more, what comes next to acquire and the here and now is not important for him.  What if we have the drive through Dopamine and also want to enjoy the here and now… It is very difficult.  Mostly the cases the people who are Dopamine driven don’t want to enjoy the here and now. His/her attitude is:“To travel hopefully is better than to arrive.” Dopamine is a drug, that the body is producing. And the Dopamine driven guys are drug-addicted guys who need excitement… That is the reason that every spiritual path is ABSOLUTE AGAINST, that we are driven by Dopamine.  We have to control our craving for Dopamine and force us.The path is the goal! We should learn how to be conscious of our emotions, thoughts, and breath… Or just repeat the name of God… If we are in the flow, we are not Dopamine driven. Then we don’t have any goal, so we are in the here and now and we are relaxed and most efficient.When I write a blog, most of the time I listen to what my mind/super-conscious/subconscious is dictating to me, I just write it down and I don’t know what I will write next… I don’t care for any outcome!And I write in a foreign language as a dyslexic…  My Video: How Dopamine can destroy your life? https://youtu.be/DN5qN_dNFIkMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/How-Dopamine-can-destroy-your-life.mp3

  In most cases, men are potent and have psychological problems to sleep with women.If you think that you are impotent, do a clinical erection test by yourself - is at the end…If you have a physical problem:  Go to the doctor to scan your prostate. If the prostate is okay, fast for at least 7 days so that the blood vessel in that lower abdomen can be purified and the physical problem is solved. Or look up for Mantak Cia /Tao-Garden in Chiang Mai in Thailand, they can solve your problem.  Low testosterone level and aging.  I recommend these herbs.  1.) Fo-Ti (He Shou Wu, Chinese Cornbind)2.) Ginseng3.) Ashwagandha4.) Gingko Biloba5.) Goji Berries (Wolf Berries)6.) Astragalar7.) Lingzhi Mushrooms8.) Gotu Kola9.) Jiao Gu Lan  The first 5 herbs are increasing your testosterone and other sexual hormones… At least they make your body strong. The last 4 herbs are for busting your immune system and heart… I take all of them every day by capsules or as tea.  Many men become homosexual because of their problems with women. About 70% of all married couples experience a sexual dysfunction in their lifetime! The wives think that the men are impotent and can’t see that maybe they are the problem! I will cover now the psychological problems.  Why can’t men get an erection? It is a performance anxiety caused through: 1.) Sexually abused in your childhood.2.) Dominant mother or sister that pushed you always down.3.) Bad consciousness. 4.) Too much stress or tension.5.) Sham.6.) Fear of failure7.) Relationship problems.8.) Unattractive sexual partner9.) Rejection of women. Because the anxiety causes the erection problem.  To get an erection:We need to be aroused and relaxed.  Tip 1Exercises (see also Youtube: Mantak Chia at the end) Masturbate every second day until you have a full erection and then stop. Let your erection die and re-arouse yourself again… Make that 3 times and then it is allowed to release your semen. You can use pornography or imagination of sexual situation.  Psychology effect:You train your brain, that you can arouse yourself and don’t need to release your semen.   Tip 2: Solve your relationship problems. Or better go to a therapist or group… When I have problems in the relationship or if I want to sleep just so with a girl, I can’t do so. Because my body and mind reject that women… I need intimacy and without intimacy, I can’t sleep with any women. And I was sexually abused in my childhood…. that makes sex with women much more difficult. Never the less I have slept with over 100 women… and many times I could not.  When I could solve often that problem with a so bad childhood then you can do too! Still, it is a challenge and that is good so! Tip 3:Speak about your sexual problems and find other ways to improve your sex life.Couples, who just give up on the sexual dysfunction of the man will never get the sexual problems solved. Touch your partner, be lovely and don’t set yourself under pressure. Sleep naked, be close to your partner and try to arouse each other without any tension. Make your partner orgasms without an intercourse.  My Video: Why can’t men sleep with women? https://youtu.be/FRlr5QmSEWUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-can’t-men-sleep-with-women.mp3

  The great Yogi Ramakrishna strongly avoided saying “I” or “my”. A wife went to a doctor and asked him what she should do because her husband doesn’t like to have sex with her anymore. The doctor answered bring me your husband and I will solve the problem. The doctor said to her husband before you go to bed, go to the bathroom and in front of the mirror say 10 times: I don’t know her, and she is not my wife.Problem solved! Because what we don’t know and don’t own is exciting.  If we say it is “my” friend then our ego assumes that we own our friend and that he is under our control. That is the reason why we are so angry if our friend does what we don’t like. And when we are married we think that we both own our spouse. After the separation our illusion is over, we have never owned our spouse and our spouse was never under our control. Because of our illusion, we own our spouse we suffered so hard.  Be thankful that you are together in a loving relationship. How would you appreciate your time together, if you would think that your loving relationship can end every moment?  Our Ego likes to personalize everything so that even after some time an innocent PC, smartphone, car,… becomes a person. And if these things getting broken or don’t work we get angry.  As a kid, I have learned what I really owned. My mother said: close your eyes and what you see is yours.   We don’t own anything. When the Greek emperor Alexander the Great died, he said: “Make two holes in the coffin and let my hands hang outside. Because everybody should see that I died with empty hands.” All our accusation in this world are temporary and not under our control. Even it is so with our body or life. Without the grace of God, we are nothing. Our Ego/I assumes that we are God that we have everything under our control…. Everybody experience devastating moments where we had been overwhelmed. Still, after some time, we think we have everything under our control. That is the incurable disease of our ego.    When we brag what we have done we can’t really see the reality. Because we depend on so many circumstances. And God punishes our bragging with worse moments. Watch yourself when you brag, what will happen afterward?  Ramakrishna said:God laughsWhen a doctor said I have healed him.When two brothers divide the land of their dead father and say this land is yours and that land is mine. Everything owns God!Praise the Lord My Video: With our “I” and “My” start the problems https://youtu.be/lJThjlIS23kMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/With-our-“I”-and-“My”-start-the-problems.mp3

What is the biggest mistake to find your spouse/darling? The concept that you don’t have to do something or to learn something like dating to find your ideal partner is wrong.  The concept it is enough just being yourself is wrong…  If you don’t learn the business or the skill for your job or update your skills, then you are out of business after some time…  It is not enough to have confidence in your business, you have to update your skills otherwise the competition will get your business or in this case your dream partner… One quality can make you attractive, and sexy. But that cannot keep the relationship you need more.For instance, ambitions… It is not enough to have only ambitions…But ambitions to enjoy life,or ambitions with spontaneities and adventures. - That is sexy also in the long-term relationship.  If you focus only on one quality like ambitions, then your life will be crippled. - You have a complete imbalance in your life. Your reliance on a key strength that you have, gives you confidence, but it will cripple your life. How to be strategic in your dating? To find a good end to your dating… And that is crucial!This means after teasing and having fun. You say that was the best night that I had, but I have to go now… I will call you…  The scarcity not to get that guy makes her horny on that guy! Such a guy becomes not an attraction, but an addiction! Why was it so difficult to be separated?  Because many of your habits were fitting to her habits, - we call it pairing.If you lose the other guy, you are missing her habits of her that were matched to your habits. So more unique pairings you have with the other guy, so more difficult to separate and so more afraid you are losing this guy. This means, to get a lasting relationship you need to have those unique pairings with your spouse. Why is the divorce rate over 50%? 1. Divorce is normal and accepted. The bad stigma of divorce disappears.  2. The passion for sex to excite the spouse is going down, and also the personal interest in a long-term relationship. 3. People don’t marry with the correct view of the future. For a long-term relationship, we need many things in common to keep the relationship alive.  4. The thinking, I have chosen the wrong person. In a relationship you should have desire and love, only love is not enough.This means I want to know what you think, and feel. I want to go close to you. I want to know your friends. All those are desires.Desire is the space between two people, the void. Desire creates love.  My Video: DON'T Make These Mistakes When DATING. https://youtu.be/wchGotsPfHMMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/DON'T-Makes-These-Mistakes-When-DATING.mp3

  Even we try to get everything under our control, we can’t control our relationships. And most relationships end with closed hearts because of anxiety to get hurt… Without the uncertainty:  1.) is no love possible,2.) is no personal growth,3.) no spirituality,4.) no excitement…. Still, most people hate uncertainty and so the relationship ends.   We die without dying.  We can only do our best to nurture our relationship, instead to wait that our partner gives us his/her appreciation.   We can search where we are wrong, instead to look where our spouse is wrong. Instead of playing cool we share openly our feelings and speak about our fears. Because we are human beings and we are full of negative habits, mistakes and never perfect. Or do you want to marry an Apple or a smartphone?  Instead of demanding love we give love regardless of what. Because we want to love and not end up frustrated when we can’t get the love…  We don’t depend on our partner.We can only love when we are independent… slavery will never work out. Look what your partner needs instead to look that your partner fulfills your desires. And so you candle your love.  Almost the love in the relationship is not synchrony. The most beautiful moments in your relationship might be the worst moments for your partner. An awesome love relationship over 20 years ended when both read their diaries for every day.   Choose trustEven your partner doesn’t deserve trust. I trust in God that I get always the best… I don’t trust people because every person can fail. What God gives me is enough… And my spouse is an eternity of God. We try our best and if it is not working out, we can’t blemish ourselves.  With every relationship, I have learned so much, for what I should regret it?  And then get engaged again.   My Video: The beauty of uncertainty https://youtu.be/_5SkrZUawYMMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-beauty-of-uncertainty.mp3

  Because of Physical issues and Psychology issues. 1.) Low libido.When having a menopausal problem,- the females have a lack of sex hormones or a dry vagina. In these cases, they have pain when they have sex… Or if the body is too fat.  2.) Difficulty being aroused. When women are:stressed out, tired, depressed, too many problems,bad lover,   or have anxiety. -the majority of women don’t like under these circumstances to have sex with men. 3.) Aversion to sex and/or of men. If a girl is growing up in a family that abuse sex then the girl will have a bad consciousness if it will enjoy sex.On average every 10th girl is sexually abused through their family… In both cases, the sexually abused woman needs a therapy to get rid of all these aversions of sex and traumas. Otherwise, intimacy or a deep connection to her boyfriend or spouse will be a problem. 4.) Asexuality. Women who have no or less sex drive… That is possible. 5.) Inability to reach orgasm.Up to 10-20% of women never achieve an orgasm.   In all cases exist some remedies… First, check a female doctor.  A.) For a low testosterone level, menopause and aging take daily: 1.) Maca powder from a high altitude mountain (Andean) (otherwise it will not work!!!).  Maca powder can be very powerful to overcome menopause. Or try Ashwagandha (can’t be used during pregnancy). 2.) Ginseng3.) Fo-Ti (He Shou Wu, Chinese Cornbind)4.) Gingko Biloba5.) Goji Berries (Wolf Berries)6.) Astragalar7.) Lingzhi Mushrooms8.) Gotu Kola9.) Jiao Gu Lan  The first 5 herbs are increasing your testosterone and other sexual hormones… At least they make your body strong. The last 4 herbs are for busting your immune system and heart… B.) Zesta (a botanical oil to apply to the genitals) to enhance the climax of women. C.) INTONE ™ and Intensity™  are approved electrical stimulating devices that can help to get an orgasm and help to treat the urinary leakage in women.  D.) Vaginal estrogen – Available as a cream, a tablet or a vaginal ring, and considered the best treatment for genital arousal problems and pain from vulvovaginal atrophy that occurs in many postmenopausal women. E.) Off-Label use of Vaginal DHEA 1 percent suppository – An adrenal precursor that women with vaginal atrophy/thinning/decreased sensation can use as an alternative to vaginal estrogen. F.) Osphena – The first, non-estrogen oral therapy for moderate to severe painful sexual activity due to vulvovaginal atrophy. G.) Flibanserin (Addyi®) – This drug was recently approved by the FDA to restore female sexual desire in women before menopause. It must be taken orally every day, and it may have side effects, such as severe low blood pressure and fainting. My Video: Why can’t women sleep with men? https://youtu.be/zeT3eA_f_T0My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-can’t-women-sleep-with-men.mp3

  Yes, we can do more for our sleep…First, I didn’t believe it, and then I tried them for over 2 weeks and I fall asleep much faster… So the better and deeper we sleep, so better it will be for us.  The Magic must be out…We understand that acupressure is working similarly to or better than acupuncture… We pick up 3 different acupuncture points and press or massage them for 30 to 90 seconds. It should not be painful, so we put quite a lot of pressure (like a weight of 1Kg)…In China, they measure the distance between the acupuncture points in Cun and that must be different for different sizes of people… 1 Cun is the width of the thumb, and 3 Cun are the widths of our 4 fingers.  The first point is called Anmien…Behind our ears, (one thumb (Cun) below the middle of the ear), we go with our thumb, feel this big bone (Mastoid bone) and we go horizontal further, 2.5 thumbs (Cun) wide, until the rim of our skull… it have been just this corner/depression under the rim of the skull and behind that big bone… This point is not on a bone, it’s so soft.  You press this point on both sides, for 30 to 90 seconds, close your eyes, and relax. The next point is the H7 or Shen men…We go down the hand edge or Karate hand… to the wrist. Below the hand edge and 1 Cun up to the middle of the palm… You press on both arms at this point…  The last point is the LV3 or anger point…We have two feet with big toes… the point is between the big toe and the next toe is joining the foot, above the foot, 1 Cun further down of the joint. Somehow, the LV3 has 2 different locations and we go to that location that I have described and not 2 Cun behind the joint of the big toe.  My Video: 3 Chinese Self-Acupressure Points to Fall Asleep in Minutes https://youtu.be/r5PfFP_obw0 My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/3-Chinese-Self-Acupressure-Points-to-Fall-Asleep-in-Minutes.mp3

  All Religions condemn selfishness and that is wrong. We should discriminate between positive and negative selfishness. What is positive and constructive selfishness? 1.) To have children and to have not children. It depends on the person if he/she likes to have children.  2.) To enjoy sex. With sex we can show our love to our darling; we can release our tension; it is good for the body, and it bonds our relationship…. 3.) To become rich and successful without harming anybody or our environment. 4.) To benefit from the people when we have done it right. What is negative or destructive selfishness? 1.) To live an unhealthy lifestyle with junk-food and no body-exercise. 2.) To overspend our money and live on credit.  3.) To gain profit without keeping the contracts or our word. For instance, the people donated $500 Mill for the Haiti earthquake to the Catholic church and the Catholic church has not done anything for Haiti… just put the money in their pocket.  4.) To condemn sex and to rape kids like the Catholic church. 25% of the American Catholics left the church because of the raping scandals of the Catholics priests with the kids.  5.)To exploit people in the name of God. That has done and does every Religion.  If we see people, religions, politicians who are demanding selflessness, look what is their real intention. Normally when we over-think our acting we find out that short time acting to get the most out of the situation will harm us. It is rather more that we first invest and help, to gain the maximum. Because if the people see our selfish behavior than they run away.  And we gain at the end not much.  If we maintain a good relationship we have to give in advance. And then we gain always.  If we want to love we give first love… If we cheat people. In the end, we will get so much trouble and can’t enjoy our life anymore. A real selfish guy is honest and loves to help everybody. Because it makes him happy and content.  My Video: Positive and negative selfishness https://youtu.be/ZV4jwrilet8My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Positive-and-negative-selfishness.mp3

  We are all human beings and we have sometimes envy and resentments against people who make it better than us…. The envy is coming from our animal mind and is hard-wired in our mind-body complex. Who wonders that animals, for instance, the dogs are envy…[email protected] The roots of envy are that we compare other people with ourselves.  When we compare us we want to become better and are encouraged by our fear, envy, resentments that somebody is better. What is if our envy is blocking us?Then we give up too soon because we can’t see our progress … We want it too fast…  Even when the envious person succeed he can’t celebrate because he is too focused on the other person who seemed to be better. There is always somebody better in some area …  Why should we compare us? Why do we like to suffer that somebody is better or has more? Why are we not satisfied with what we are or have? Why are we not thankful for what we got? When I am envious, I look at what I have gained instead of what I miss. And as a spiritual being, I am happy what God has given to me and that I am still alive. God has saved my life many times…  And I remember that … Remember your worst times and be thankful for what you have now, instead to complain.   Don’t compare yourself with another person. Because every person is unique.Celebrate the success of other people. Then the envy is gone.  My Video: The Remedy of Envy  https://youtu.be/2TD8lHwUE6cMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-Remedy-of-Envy.mp3

  From Stanford University, Andrew Huber We all have a biological clock in us that regulates our organs, cortisol level, mind, and emotions…If the organs or cortisol levels are not well timed, we are getting sick and our mind/body cannot function properly.We do need a healthy cortisol level to do our work or task… If the cortisol level starts to increase at a wrong or late time, we can’t be efficient and we get insomnia.If we watch animals or even our own natural urge, for getting up out of the bed, we want to do it with the sunrise. What to do?Go up in the morning after sunrise, (3 hours after sunrise is still OK) go to the restroom, drink some water to get hydrated, and go outside. Regardless of how bad is the weather, no excuse (exception, dangerous storms)!There exists no bad weather, only wrong cloth!The balcony is OK when it faces the East. We have 2 options.The best option is, to do it for 30 minutes your body exercises, strong workouts would be perfect, cycle with your bike, jog or just do a morning walk. Even it works perfectly if the sun is on your back many times. The second option. You look towards the sun for 10 minutes, squinting is OK. If the sunlight is too strong, then don’t look directly into the sun.Don’t use sunglasses, normal glasses are OK.The horizon should be unobstructed so that you can see the entire horizon. If it is cloudy, still look toward the sun and increase the time for looking into the sun up to 30 minutes. I have tried that out, it works for me only when there is full sunshine, but it doesn’t feel good for my eyes. I live in South Thailand, the sun is too strong and mostly it is cloudy in the morning.  Why? Because you get so a healthy peak of cortisol that will stimulate you for the entire day. And the best is to get it after you got up within 30 minutes! You get so much power out of it… You need 7 to 8 hours of sleep, time it with the sunrise. This means 3 hours after sunrise is still OK. When You come back you switch on all Lights. In the morning is blueish light the best and in the night is blueish light the worst. The best is the full spectrum light… more expensive. You have to do it every day. Don’t miss more than one day! After one month your biological clock is set up on an optimal level. What to do afterward?Don’t drink any caffeine for the next 90 to 120 minutes… And coffee is the worst! Choose instead green or black tea. Do body exercises every day!Everybody should do Cardio exercises like interval training, endurance, weight lifting, every week 120 to150 minutes… I bought a treadmill and I do interval training. Don’t do social media, or phone calls in the morning.  Learn to control yourself not to distract…This is called a “no-go” task, like meditation, you sit and don’t do anything… How long can you resist not to urge to do some task…?You do a workout for 90 minutes where you focus only on one task, after sunrise…I do my Qigong, body exercises, and meditation, … Or if I have some great ideas, then I will be creative and afterward, I do my Qigong…  My Video: How to time your biological clock perfectly to get awesome results? https://youtu.be/e0vWy3xLWygMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/How-to-time-your-biological-clock-perfectly-to-get-awesome-results.mp3