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  (Dr. Viktor Frankl) An Antidote for meaningless. Dr. Viktor Frankl's book, Man’s search for meaning answers: Why do we need a meaning for our life…? Viktor Frankl survived the holocaust in concentration camps as a Jew. And describes how and why he could survive WWII. 10 years before he went into the concentration camps, Frankl developed Logotherapy to give our life a meaning under all circumstances. Nietzsche: As long as a person has a why to live, he can bear almost anything. Frankl found it wasn’t necessarily the strongest people who survived in the camps, it was those who had meaning, and even when they suffered tremendous pain…  Because they had access to the inner world of spiritual freedom. Or self-transcendence of human existence.  Most prisoners lost their lives because of a lack of meaning and not from a lack of food or medicine… Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment if finds a meaning. There exist 4 ways to find meaning in our lives. 1. To find meaning is by doing work that feeds the soul and brings fulfillment. For Frankl was it to rewrite his script that he wanted to be published and to give lectures on what he learned from surviving the concentration camps. What skills can you do that is unique and only you can do so meaningfully? What is the task that is waiting for you? 2. To find meaning in the people we love. Frankl wanted to see his wife again, so he survived, but not his wife.  Love is the highest goal that we can aspire to… Only through love, we can be saved… Love is something that goes beyond the physical presence of those who’ve touched our lives. How can you express meaning and purpose through the people you love in your life? Spirituality and faith in the Lord are essential to find meaning in our lives.And everybody needs to work hard to develop spirituality or faith in the Lord through contemplation like meditation and prayers.  Frankl surrendered his life to the Lord and gained total faith in the Lord. But Frankl could not mention as a scientist that he was praying and had faith in the Lord. So, he overtook the interpretation of Synchronicity from the Psychologist Jung and integrated that into his Logotherapy.  3. SynchronicityWhen Frankl arrived at the Concentration camp, he found in the pocket of his prison cloth, a piece of paper with Jewish prayers… He interpreted that as a message from the Lord to pray seriously for hours every day until his death. This incident is described as Synchronicity.Synchronicity is a meaningful coincidence that happens when an event in the outside world matches up with an inner state of the mind in a way that has meaning.   4. Facing our suffering… Even if we are in a situation that is hopeless, we lost the ones we love most or even everything…  our freedom our families… When almost all hopes are lost, our life can end… We have to get our hopes back… If we open up our hearts, for the beauty that is around us, be it a sunset, flowers, or trees, we will be inspired and get our hope and faith back.  For Frankl had been just these moments of total beauty that gave him the power to survive. And these moments can only happen when we contemplate!  My Video: Why do we need a meaning for our life? https://youtu.be/hRr-ckJUcLYMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/Why-do-we-need-a-meaning-for-our-life.mp3

  We are overloaded with the information on the Internet and the media and we can’t process the information.  Why we take all the information in when we can’t process or memorize them?   Our brain tries to sort out the information what is significant and what not. And our brain can’t handle so much data that we get every day. Our brain connects easily only with information that is important to our survival. If our brain can associate the info with experience it is much easier to memorize.  For instance, you learn about technique and everywhere you look to apply that information…  If you find an object and can understand what you have learned, you will easily memorize it. After some time you will become an expert. So I have done it with technique, psychology, philosophy, and religion.  And then I had/have my challenges with the Adobe Photoshop. I learned some techniques of the  Adobe Photoshop, applied the knowledge and after 3 months of not applying my knowledge I forgot how to use Photoshop. Then I learned again the technique and forgot it again and again.  Why? Photoshop is against every logic in my mind and so I can’t connect the techniques of Photoshop with my other knowledge. And this is the reason why we can’t memorize if we can’t connect the new knowledge with our learned knowledge. Because our mind demands that we need to construct in our brain a new neuropathy when we learn something entirely new.  Imagine if you go through the Forest without using any trek. If you repeat again to go the same path, after some time there will be a trek. And if you stop using this path the trek will disappear and so our knowledge.  Every knowledge we learn, we need to apply and to repeat.When we read a book and can’t remember what we have read, we should make notes and try to apply it… If we can connect this information for something useful in our life we easily can memorize it. Information that we don’t need skip.Why? Overloading our brain leads to dysfunction.  Learn to relax and find time to use more the right side of your brain. The right side of our brain is for feelings, intuition, sex, art, fun… And then learning is much easier. Because both sides of our mind/brain should be used equally.  My Video: How to memorize? https://youtu.be/i0oIsDbB0IUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-memorize..mp3

  Even the girls know that these bad guys are not good for them, still, they are attracted to them. 1.) Nice guys are too boring. 2.) Bad guys are arrogant. Females hate arrogant guys, still, the girls love them.  3.) Women love to be treated specially. 4.) Nice guys think that women are so fragile. And women don’t like that. Women like to dance in the rain without worrying about the consequents. Or to drink without thinking of a blackout… To make crazy things without worrying. Because it is more fun.    5.) Bad guys don’t care for safety or to be nice. And that is more appealing to women.Bad boys use a combination of fear and fun and that is so attractive for females. See the movie: Last Tango in Paris (starring Marlon Brando and Maria Schneider)  6.) Bad boys have to be the coolest without being handsome. Even their ugliness is attractive.  7.) Life is short and precious. Bad boys are very selfish and know what they want. 8.) Dating or hooking up. Bad boys are hard to predict and so special …  9.) Girls can experience their wild side with the bad boys. And that is so exciting…  10) Bad boys are open-minded and they are extraordinary in their sex life outside of the social norms.  11) Bad boy challenges the girls and that is so attractive. And so the girls can rethink their life choices. 12.) Bad boys will be brutally honest with you and that will not be always the best and girls love that.  13.) Bad guys share their feelings also honesty instead to make this fancy shows. Their confidence is authentic.  15.) Nice guys are too good for life. They are not authentic, they fake their good feelings and confidence. 16.) Nice guys play save. They want to always impress their women with their shows.  17.) Women have fantasies that they are too shy to share. They want that we explore them. Nice guys don’t do so. 18.) Bad guys are trying out new things that come in their head without knowing if it is right or not. These guys have sex with their girl in an extraordinary matter. They explore the body of their chosen one, instead to be boring. And so the women will crave for them. 19.)Bad boys show their affection in public places and they don’t care for others. 20.) Bad boys lead the girls and that is so attractive… and they don’t play the victim.  21.) Bad boys seemed to have everything under their control. They can turn around any abusing comment to a joke.  22.) Bad boys don’t fear rejection.  My Video: Why are girls love bad boys? https://youtu.be/gMy_irXGdIAMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-are-girls-love-bad-boys.mp3

  If the brain is programmed to have pain, no medicine will help.  1. First, we ask ourselves: What want to tell us about the pain?Do we overwork, or do we do shift work?Do we have too much stress?Are we in a relationship struggle?  If we know the psychological cause of the pain, then we can adjust or learn to accept the circumstances that are causing our pain. So that remedy works very often!!!! 2. Often, we do have pain in the body, that is not related to any physical/medical/anatomic cause. This phenomenon is called phantom pain.  For instance, 80% of back pain is just phantom pain, without any physical/medical/anatomic cause. I had so severe back pain that I hardly could do anything…Before, I had read the book: Healing Back Pain: The Mind-Body Connection by John E. Sarno I went to a discotheque, could hardly go out of the car, and started to dance like crazy…The back pain was gone after 20 minutes…  3. If we are chronicle ill, we support our disease with our negative attitude… Even positive thinkers are doing that. Instead to be in control of the pain. Our Guru Bhagwan taught us, just to focus on the pain until the pain is gone and it works for most cases… So the more you have tension, stress, and anxiety so stronger will be the pain!So the more you relax, so lesser will be the pain! And that works even with strong, tooth pain caused by inflammation!  Or we can focus on the Lord and repeat again and again Thank you God for the pain… If we can’t accept our situation, we can’t solve your situation/problem. I have done a lot of martial arts, and I learned instead to resist a punch, just move the body with the punch so that the punch is not so hard…  This Aikido strategy is to follow the enemy instead to fight the enemy. Translate that your disease, don’t fight diseases, accept and watch them. All of these strategies work perfectly for me! The problem is that people are different, and not all strategies are working for everybody.  4. If we can’t sleep, because of stress and pain, apply Lavender Oil on your hand pulses, and the temple of your head. Get earthing sheets for your bed and connect them with the grounding line of your house… So, you can sleep easier and much deeper… and your body heals by itself. You should sleep at least 8 hours! 5. Learn to forgive and let go of your problems so you can heal your body much faster…Love and be grateful for your life and what you have.  6. 92% of our worries don’t come true.Don’t take your life always seriously…Learn to laugh and to giggle out of the heart, because life is a joke… 7. Stress destroys everybody! Get rid of your negativity. Simply, feel the pain, the negative emotions, and let them go!  8. Do things that relax your body and mind… Do the sport, meditation, yoga, Qigong, Hypnosis, Breathing exercises, and Sex…. 9. Don’t eat sugar, oily food, and junk food or take drugs. Instead, eat non-processed food like fresh vegetables such as salad and fruits… That will change your emotions and life positively.  My Video: Learn to reprogram your brain to reduce your pain. https://youtu.be/Xnsq-Gepeis My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/Learn-to-reprogram-your-brain-to-reduce-your-pain.mp3

  The answer is in the next question! What are the benefits of staying blocked? When we are inactive we assume that we stay saved. And that our world will not change…    Imagine, you are standing in the middle of a highway and assume nothing can harm you when you will not move…?  The opposite is true, you should immediately leave the highway and watch that no car is running in you.  Our anxiety to chose wrong keep us in the indecision. And that might be dangerous.  For instance, what keeps us in an unhealthy lifestyle?  It might be that we don’t want to see why we can’t enjoy our life or our job so that we don’t need to change. It might be to be afraid to change our overeating and to get an amazing life, with a handsome or wealthy spouse.  In any case to change a habit or our life can be quite challenging and if we don’t try we can’t fail. The fear of failing is always connected with our indecision.  When we don’t like to change, ask yourself:   1.)Why don’t I like to change? 2.)What are the benefits of this block or problem?  3.)How can I see the problem or situation differently? 4.)Why do I want to change? 5.)What can I get out of the situation if I would change?  If we are aware of our inside then we can change it. If we don’t be aware of what drives us we truly can’t change anything… Then we remain in a state of fear or we are a slave to our habits. And that we see everywhere.  So more and longer we have invested our time and energy in our wrongdoing so more reasons we will find not to change. The world is changing fast and so we have to change too.  My Video: Why we can’t decide? https://youtu.be/k1SXqXQD5y0 My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-we-can’t-decide..mp3

  We were growing up with: “to be happy is the best”… and “to feel bad is bad” … And so we were forced to suppress our negative feelings and to suffer by getting diseases or depression through our hidden feelings. We learned that we can fix our bad feelings, through seeing TV, eating sweets, taking drugs, go shopping …. For what? When I was a Sannyasin of Bhagwan we had to wear red. When we, my darling and me separated from our awesome Love Story … we got so many spiritual rewards for our deep love from the creator… I felt very sad. So I wore black. Because I felt so and I was proud that I could honestly show my feelings as they were and didn’t make any “be happy”, or “be okay” show.  Our community was challenged by my behavior and accepted it.  From this very time on, I refuse to make any “be happy” show, regardless what my darlings, chiefs think… when I was crying or angry in front of them.  You never can reward yourself more than to be authentic and to show your feelings as they are. Because only you can give you the permission to be authentic and not to be a puppet. The great Sri Aurobindo said: The vessel of joy is out of sorrow.  So deeper we can feel our negative feelings so more happiness and love we can feel.  The Zen is saying: feel your feelings and don’t be your feelings! We let flow our feelings and don’t stick to any feelings nor to prefer any emotion!  If we do so we can go beyond our feelings, thoughts, and body. Yes, that is possible! With judging, we never can reach such high spiritual plateau.  Emotions are just emotions, nothing more! Normally during the day our emotions going up and down. And if we feel bad, we try: Breath deep in your feelings.Make sport.Think: Thank you, that I can feel that emotion. Regardless of what, let flow your emotion.  After some time, we can accept our emotions and the feelings of other beings much better, without to go into panic mode. Alone that is priceless. Later we become more and more detached from our emotions and can watch our feelings! And this is true spirituality!  My Video: Enjoy feeling bad  https://youtu.be/gCgGIMnJvgwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Enjoy-feeling-bad.mp3

  1.)Wrong or too less communication about what you want, how you feel leads to divorce. Communicate what you want and accept what your spouse expect from you!When both are hurting each other continuously, the love will end soon. Communicate what hurts you, without blemishing the other person!!! Because everybody is responsible for his/her life!  2.)Sex is not working out. I don’t care if you agree or not… Males and females have a sexual drive and if the sex is not working out then the cheating will happen. The sexual drive is the second strongest drive of the human species. In the older age, the sex drive diminishes. Talk about openly what you want, without hurting each other. It might be scaring! 3.)Money problem… There exist only 10% of the people who love to save money and 90% are overspender. What happens if a saver is together with an overspender? Clashes….  Money problems lead to 50% to divorces. Talk openly about your debts, income and how much you save every month! T. Harv Eker has created for that a great system…  4.) Connect with the spouse family and check out what they expect from you. Otherwise, the spouse family can harm your relationship tremendous. For instance, in Asia is the family more important than the spouse, can you live with that? 5.) Distributing the dirty work. When both are working, both should make the cleaning. Create a good system for both! 6.) Understand the need and the kind of love your partner need. For instance, some girls love to kiss always and I don’t like that. I like more to embrace without kissing. Talk about that. 7.) Religion. Do you have different Religions and so different obligations?  Like to be a vegan or … Talk about that, and also in which Religion the kids should be baptized.  My Video: The 7 biggest obstacles in marriages  https://youtu.be/ZhB2llz3hiUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-7-biggest-obstacles-in-marriages.mp3

  In this turbulent time, we lack love. Do we need a new lover or to refresh our love for our dear ones?Or do we start to love first ourselves?How can we love when we are under pressure or under stress? Many questions and only one simple exercise that gives you the love back. Be yourself and love yourself. This is a great exercise to love yourself. Do this exercise after you get out of bed in the morning, it needs only 5 minutes. Stand in front of the mirror and look at your reflection for one minute. Imagine seeing your girlfriend/boyfriend in the mirror. Close your eyes and imagine that you are your girlfriend/boyfriend, and then say everything you would like to hear from your girlfriend/boyfriend for two minutes. Open your eyes and look again in the mirror.  Isn’t it amazing how you have changed in these two minutes when you love yourself? Please do this exercise at least one month every morning after you wake up.  My Video: Self Love  https://youtu.be/zOhl1SVYkAoMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Self-Love.mp3

  Somehow we all feel that there is something missing when we are not occupied. Be it to work, to do Facebook, see videos on YouTube…If we finish something then we are in a void,- like when we switch a gear in a car we have to pass neutral. And with this neutral we are unsatisfied. Even we pass the neutral when we switch gears, our car is still moving… and so our thoughts.  In the situation of emptiness, we can face: Fear of a void or emptiness.Fear to be alone.Fear of purpose, mission.Fear to be unimportant Fear to miss-out. Fear to be meaningless.Fear not to have the right drive.Fear to wast our time for meaningless things.Fear of death. All kind of these fears indicates that we don’t feel whole. If we want to avoid that void should we be always in the Hamster Treadmill?  Imagine you are in a talk with your new boy- or girlfriend and then it happens that nobody is speaking. We feel directly uncomfortable.- Because we want to keep talking, instead to feel the presence and love of our darling. In this case, the silence of our talk is the best what can happen to us. Because it force us to feel instead to be in our head occupied with talking.If lovers would talk less they would love more!!! Our mind or ego does not like to stop or to finish and then to be meaningless.We can’t stop our thoughts, we even think more when we have finished something.And then our suppressed fears are creating a stream of thoughts, that most of the time is negative.  It is ridiculous that we must be always occupied for not to be in this void or break!Instead, we should enjoy our void and relax! We run with all of our activities away from ourselves. The wholeness is inside of ourselves and we try our best through our activities to avoid our wholeness. The wholeness is in this emptiness or void, but we can’t feel that.  Imagine you are sitting in the waiting room of a doctor with many people in front of you. You expect to wait 2 hours for the doctor. The doctor has no TV, magazines, Internet and it is forbidden to use your smartphone because it interferes with the medical devices. And talking is disturbing the doctor. What for a torture!!! The doctor can’t understand the problem of waiting. Because he loves to meditate and to repeat the name of God in his free time. His focus is on God and for him is God the greatest thing besides his selfless service to humanity!  If we learn to do like the doctor we are eager to use our void/free time or break to focus on God and meditation. We don’t need for that a meditation room, meditation music…, we can do it everywhere.  We can be whole when we meditate, relax and/or focus on God! We never can feel wholeness when we are occupied with worldly things! Worldly matters can only give us for a moment peace and then we are again in the Hamster Treadmill!  My Video: The Longing for Wholeness  https://youtu.be/aL0EaLpz9IwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-Longing-for-Wholeness.mp3

  I was amused, when Gerry Roberts, one of the most successful speakers on the stage told that he is sleeping naked. There is a very funny story about him and Bob Proctor cached naked in Singapore. Never the less, Gerry mad a joke out of that painful incident without any shame  …  Why is it shameful to be naked?  My father, Prof. Dr. Carl Zimmerer was very conservative, and he wore always a suit. Quite often, in our home, he was naked even when guests were coming. And he was chosen as one of the most successful entrepreneurs of Germany, one of the greatest economy specialist and speaker in Europe… Why had my father no shame to present himself naked, even it was for our family shameful…?!  Shame is: 1.) Fear, 2.) fear what other people think about you, 3.) fear of exposure,4.) fear of sexuality. Can you present yourself naked? Can you speak in front of 1000 people and expose yourself like Gerry with his most embarrassing moments?  Get rid of your stupid shame!!! Our teacher or Guru Bhagwan (Osho) recommend sleeping naked. -We should drop our armor and feel like a baby when we go to bed.  The benefits of sleep naked are:  1.) It is easier, You don’t need a pajama and you change more often the bed sheets.  2.) You feel freer. Try it out. 3.) Sleeping naked is healthier. It keeps your sexual organs happier. For women is to wear a bra necessary. And the bra is reducing the blood flow to the upper body and that is negative. In the night every woman should sleep without a bra. For men, is a problem that the scrotum can get too warm and so the sperms get killed or unable to move upwards in the vagina…. An extra pan as underwear warms up the scrotum and the scrotum should be cooler than the rest of the body. Wearing tied pans is unhealthy.   4.) Skin to skin contact is the best. If we are sleeping together and have direct skin contact we feel much more… It is sexier. 5.) Pajamas with rubber bands … are often too tied and so a hindrance to a healthy blood flow. During sleeping, Pajamas getting tangled and often partly pulled off, so that some areas of the body are too cool or too warm…   6.) It can help your skin. The skin can breath easier in our private parts, like armpits, and between the legs, when we sleep naked.   My Video: How to start a good life?  https://youtu.be/oau8Bq1W9McMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Sleeping-naked.mp3