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Positive thinking can’t understand that we need the polarity and that the world is a representative of the polarity… For instance, you drive a car, and you recognize that your vehicle is drifting… 1.) You immediately apply positive thinking, you ignore the drifting, and you are off the road… Those are the results of positive thinking! 2.) You stop the car, you check if everything is okay, and you think the worst… 2.1) Are the tires okay? 2.2) Are the brakes okay? 2.3) Is the street slippery?… 2.4) After you checked everything, you let go of the negativity that doesn’t apply! 2.5) And then you fix the problem! 2.6) Drive slowly, that works most of the time! If I would be a positive thinker, I never could design new stuff as an engineer… As an engineer, I am always focused on the worst-case or the worst scenery to develop the best… For instance, the accidents of the Boeing 373 max… To become more fuel-efficient they mounted a new, bigger engine inside of the wings instead to install it under the wings like the previous version of the Boeing 373. The whole aerodynamic worsen through this new design, and they made only a software fix, that never worked out. As positive thinker, they thought everything will work even without additional training for the pilots… If you trust positive thinker for the stock market, you will get bankrupt… If you create positive thoughts, the polarity inside of yourself is creating negative thoughts to counteract… If you want calmness in your mind, meditate, focus on God, and to let go of EVERY Thought! And with FOCUS ON GOD, you gain bliss, faith, and peace in your mind! Solution: We focus on the positive outcome and LET GO the negativity. We don’t suppress the negativity because we also need information about the negativity… If we are angry about something… Find the solution… We do ask ourselves: 1.) What has the situation to do with ourselves? 2.) Would be an integer person angry in this situation? 3.) What has this situation to do with our past? 4.) Is it necessary to improve ourselves and let go of our suppressed emotions or traumas to become calm? 5.) Do we project our inside suppressed anger on this situation? 6.) Is it better to accept the situation or to change the situation? 7.) Would it be better to find a solution that would improve the situation? Act accordingly! My Video: You can’t improve before you suffer! https://youtu.be/i_QNExTDDVs My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/You+can%E2%80%99t+improve+before+you+suffer.mp3

If everything went wrong in the bed on the first date… What to do? Panic Do you want to be an integer guy? What would do an integer guy? Address the elephant in the room, instead of making facebook… Face it… The girl is annoyed and even thinks it might be her mistake, and if you ignore her, you mess up… I have many experiences in failing in bed… Even my first date went wrong… Every man can fail. Even many times, the girl is too tense that you can’t enter… (Read: How to seduce, part 5?) Or the girl doesn’t like to have sex because you didn’t warm her up enough, or you want it too fast, or she had periods… Speak openly about your failures, don’t blemish it on the girl!!! For instance: Apologize, You had too much stress; that she looks too good to be true, and so you were anxious … That is the most crucial thing… And then, ask her, just too sleep close to you without having sex… And later it will work! Because when you are too over-excited instead to be relaxed, the same is true for females, sex will not work! When you sleep close together, you will relax. Both bodies are longing for sex, the only problem is to use the condom… Remember, the most critical thing for nature is to multiply - to create kids… The bodies know what to do, only your thinking is the hindrance! My Video: How to seduce, part 6? https://youtu.be/h_1_YFu14Lo My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/How+to+seduce%2C+part+6.mp3

If we are doing a job that needs full focus, and again and again, we get disturbed by our colleagues/family… So that we can’t continue with our job… Good news that the problem is quite common… After research, an interruption in our work-flow can cost us 25 minutes…when we need uninterrupted time to think…  and even 25% of these tasks can’t be resolved on the same day! Solution: Don’t overthink? (jokes must be) The programmers who are designing computer software, even have to cope with an interruption in their work-flow up to every 3 minutes… The problem is: Not so much the interruption…but that we lose our control over our focus… There was a research about 2 groups working under full focus. The first group gets disturbed on random through a loud noise. The second group gets also disturbed on random through loud noise, but they can switch off this noise…  Results: The second group could get 5 times more things done than the first group… EVEN the first group didn’t use the switch to turn off the noise! If we have a choice, our ego will comply much easier! I was grown up in a big family (my mother got 5 kids in 3 years) and when somebody interrupted me with the things that I was doing, I got upset… After some time, I learned to focus so much on the things that I was doing, that nobody could stop me, and even I could not recognize that my siblings were demanding something from me… I just switched them from inside off… Because I want to do the stuff… I have written a lot of my books in noisy hotel lobbies… Can you see the point? If we give our jobs the highest priority and everything else is just a distraction… And distraction we can switch off. It is not a miracle that IT-professionals have the highest focus and can deal even with an interruption every 3 minutes… If your focus is to socialize with people, you don’t need and don’t have that focus. Solution 2 (no joke) You give your colleagues a manual about how to deal with you under construction! Politeness wins: Can I interrupt you? (You don’t put on your desk a gun. Because this is threatening…) You replay: Yes Not right now! Wait a minute! When it is urgent to interrupt you. Sorry, please I need urgently something… (And then you look in your drawer for the gun… ) Okay, if it must be, then I can help you….  When you are working in a corporation. Ask to do a big task at home. Or stick a paper on your room or in front of your desk (if this is possible in your firm), that you want to work for 1.5 hours (no interruption) from XX:00 to YY:00 and then you are available for XX minutes… And put off your phone… My Video: How to deal with Interruption? https://youtu.be/ZsM-roC4M9I My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/How+to+deal+with+Interruption.mp3

I see it everywhere that people say we will accomplish something like the Brexit and even don’t know how to do it! It is common and as stupid as possible to announce your forecasted results… Because you do have all the odds (including God, Allah doesn’t like bragging or proud people) against yourself… And you depend on so many things, people,… that you don’t have under your control. If I say, I will finish my work until a particular day. Then that is okay! If I work together with a team, I have to estimate more time. Because I can’t estimate so easy the manpower… But if I say: “I finish the job, and then I will have huge success.” I am dam wrong! Because I can’t forecast it precisely what will happen after my job is done …. Still, I can image my desired success, and I don’t need to tell it! My goals are my secret. Because I want providence or that God supports me. Does it make sense? For instance, when I hear in a movie: “I will love you forever…” That is so disgusting, dishonest,…because nobody can know how a relationship will work out in the future.  If you can’t keep your promise, it looks really shabby…   Then you become a guy who can’t keep a promise… Your friends can’t respect you anymore…. When I recognized as a kid that my parents can’t keep their promise, I got frustrated to have such lousy parents, and I lost all of my respect!!! And so are children, they always check their parents… and it is disgusting to break your promise that you have given your kids. Because the kids admire you and they lose all of their confidence in you when you break your commitment! What is if you say: “I will try my best… And if I forget my best intention, please mention it.” Humbleness attracts good outcome… Bragging attracts bad outcome!!! And bragging is provoking to sabotage your outcome. I had failed even when everything looked great, and I accomplished it, even everything and every person were against it… Remember always, we don’t have anything under our control. I have read on a signboard of a farmer's house: “Everything depends on God's blessing.” Because the farmer knows that he has to do the work and can’t determine the weather, the pest that can ruin his crops, the selling price... My Video: Don’t announce your success until you own it. https://youtu.be/xOpNwZkf48o My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/Don%E2%80%99t+announce+your+success+until+you+own+it..mp3

Do you eat to feel better or to relieve stress? Many people eat 1. to comfort themselves, 2. to calm down, 3. to relief their stress, 4. to reward themselves, 5. as an antidote to being alone. 6. as an antidote to feeling boring. Be honest, what of the list above sticks to you? Occasionally using food as a reward or to celebrate isn’t bad… But, when overeating is our primary emotional coping mechanism then we run in big problems. Unfortunately, emotional eating doesn’t fix emotional problems… Emotional eating fills our stomach with junk or unhealthy food and makes us fat and unhealthy. Even more, you feel worse after consuming your junk food and you feel guilty for overeating. Emotional hunger can’t be filled with food. The difference between emotional hunger and physical hunger… Both are triggering our appetite… Emotional hunger comes on suddenly. Physical hunger comes more gradually. Emotional hunger craves specific comfort foods, like sugary snacks, fatty food, junk food. Physical hunger can be satisfied with anything including healthy stuff. Emotional hunger leads often to mindless eating, or overeating. Physical hunger is more aware of how much we eat and what we eat. Emotional hunger can’t be satisfied… You want more and more… Physical hunger is satisfied when your stomach is full. Emotional hunger is craving for specific unhealthy food and can’t be appeased. Emotional hunger leads to regret, guilt or shame. After you try to appease your emotional hunger you beat yourself up, you feel guilty. Never the less emotional eating helps a lot to suppress negative feelings, like anxiety, anger, sadness, loneliness, resentment, shame, to cope with boredom and feeling empty… Or even to cope with an abortion… Very often the parents have forced the kid to eat too much…  When the parents are fat, then they want their child to suffer from the same… The next reason can be that you remember the time when you felt good by eating unhealthy or too much food. And then your bad consciousness keeps you in your emotional hunger…this is a vicious circuit. Remember, everything that you oppose, neglect, fight; you will attract… The cure of overeating: The first step is always to be aware of what we are making, in this case, why do we want to eat? Second, accept what you are doing instead of to punish yourself for wrongdoing… A bad consciousness will keep you in your craving! Celebrate (without food) every day when you advance to become what you like to be. Keep an emotional eating diary to expose and accept your overeating…. Find the pattern when you are drawn to food… Every time you overeat or feel compelled to eat… Take a moment to figure out what has triggered the urge. If you find out the reason, then look for the underlying emotion that you like to suppress… And then breath deep in this emotion… and really feel it until it is gone… If you are angry: Make exhausting and powerful body exercises, even the best would be that you make this every day… Every day exercise your body at least 30 minutes or make interval training. For instance, 3 times 20 seconds do your very best to exhaust your body, make a pause after 20 seconds, and for 2 minutes stretch your body.  The best is you choose exercises that you like, instead of to look for the best exercises. Because what you like is easier to do every day… Get every day 8 hours of sleep… Give yourself time to relax, at least 30 minutes every day. Try to avoid stressful situations or stress makers! Because you like to be relaxed. If you are scared or stressed, then dance like crazy to the music that you like… And make a list for the worst cases, look for the solution for every scenery… If you are exhausted drink a cup of tea, take a bath… If you are bored, get outside for a stroll, read an exciting book, make music, learn something new… When you can’t resist your craving… try to count until 50… and later wait for 5 minutes …10 minutes. And then think do you really need that or is it not spor

What can you say on your first date? First, make sure that she comes on time! Before the date, say: “ I don’t wait more than 10 minutes!” (My whole life experiences tell me, there was not one person who has disrespect my time, disrespect me, and was a lousy person!) Smile, introduce yourself again, and hug her… Say how beautiful she looks in her dress… Say, honestly, how you feel, when you see her. Be thankful that she has shown up on time! (Otherwise, let her go! Don’t wait) Ask her how she feels… Make fun, how many dates you do have every day because you are so attractive and you are a good person because you were on time? The goals of dating are: 1.) to break the ice, 2.) build up intimacy with words, 3.) to entertain with humor, 4.) to build up esteem, 5.) to find similarities between you and her… 6.) and eventually to connect with the body without speaking… We don’t speak about politics and religion… we talk honestly about our experience with fun…. For instance, ask her: 1.) What are your passions and your passions during your childhood? 2.) What kind of interests do you have? 3.) What are the craziest things you have done? 4.) What have been the happiest moments in your life? 5.) How was your first love affair? How it has happened? (Then, you learn what she is scared of…) 6.) Are you a spiritual person? 7.) What is about your relationship with your family? 8.) What would you do differently if you could turn back the time? 9.) What did you want to become when you were 5 years old? 10.) Who did influence you at most? 11.) What would you do if you would have only a particular time to live? After every answer, you pick up 1 to 3 words (mirroring) and use the words to tell your experience. So that you find common ground and similarities.  And with these deep questions, you open her heart and connect… You go to this irresistible event with her, lean close to her, hug her and kiss her when it is okay for her… Keep the emotional contact with her and stop talking, have fun… Find a reason that she is coming to your well prepared (clean) home,… with condoms… Show her your pictures… give her a drink, sit on the same side with her… relax, have fun. You have to learn intuitive what the girl wants, without asking… We need to connect with the heart without words!!!! And don’t bring her and you in the head through speaking!!!!! And then approach her body with her consents, (if she gets tense, it was too early, try it again, 5 to 10 minutes later) feel her emotions … kiss her, embrace her, and after some time undress her and … with condom! You have to lead and don’t ask for permission! She always can reject you … Okay? Many girls are terrified to sleep with a stranger, and even they (the female nature wants a baby) desperately want to have sex…  Then they are tense, and you can’t enter.  Spread her legs and bend them down to her boobs (her butt directed to the sky and her legs are in the air), lock her legs with your arms… And then it is easy when she is wet… My Video: How to seduce, part 5? https://youtu.be/_1Ps31LqUiw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/How+to+seduce%2C+part+5.mp3

I am on the inner path for over 40 years… I should know what works… I have seen so many people (10,000) on the inner path, and I have known directly that they are on the wrong path… In previous time, you went to a spiritual master and surrendered … You had to do everything that the spiritual master wanted, or the master could kill you!!! Yes, that was true for every spiritual master because he didn’t want to waste his precious time on an idiot who is playing just games instead to surrender. For instance, the waiting list for a great Sufi master was 5 to 20 years… He didn’t accept any exception, everybody had to wait… And then you were given permission that he can do everything with you…. A mentor from me, told me when he was applying for the 5th Dan in Karate, he had to give the permission that his Japanese Master could chop his head at any single moment… No joke… Imagine, do you would be to 100% at the moment and do your best when you are in the Dojo with your master, and the saber is hanging on the wall? And today we don’t need to give this permission our spiritual master…. Instead, we should make therapy so that: 1.) We learn to be in our heart instead to live in our head. 2.) We get rid of our obstacles (traumas) inside of us that hinder us to accomplish our spiritual and worldly goals… 3.) We purify our emotions with the therapy… 4.) We don’t play these terrible ego games anymore. 5.) We learn to live more in the here and now. 6.) We learn to give up our ego and to become humble… 6.) And so we don’t need the threat of the saber anymore… And when I see these so terrible spiritual people, total in their head, fewer emotions, no faith, no love, no compassion, and speaking wise words that they never understood or have lived… In previous time their master would chop their head… Today the spiritual masters are making a good living through their devotees… and don’t care! I had the fortune that I was a disciple from Bhagwan, and he demanded that we make body and feelings orientated therapy… and he was dam right… I don’t write that Bhagwan (Osho) was enlightened or a divine incarnation (that both never existed) or something else… For the Sufis, Christian, Taoists, Buddhism doesn’t exist enlightenment (except for the Zen Buddhism) or a divine incarnation. And all these spiritual titles are just an Ego-trip, and this I have learned over many years!!!

What is the reason why so many friendships or corporations get shipwrecked? The reason is that life standards or ethics don’t match up. For instance, you do have a friend who is very funny and entertaining, and he always looks to make extra money, and he doesn’t care if he is cheating. Guess, what will he do with you, when you trust him? If you do have the same attitude, then it is okay to be together with a cheater/liar… So higher your standards or ethics, so worse it becomes when you are together with people of a lower ethic. People with a bad attitude are always looking for people with a high standard to exploit them. To be loyal to a cheater is stupid…! Instead, punish the cheater or go out of the situation. If you own a firm and your colleagues don’t match up with your standards, it becomes messy for the things that you want. For instance, you do want a high standard product, and your sales manager doesn’t care for quality, he wants just to sale as fast and as many as possible… If you give your sales manager also the responsibility for creating new products, then this will never fit you. When Apple founder Steve Jobs died he gave a guy of the customer care department the highest position. Because Steve wanted to care for his customer… For a different position in a firm, we do need different attitudes and standards…. And we should decide wisely which working attitude will fit. And this should also be applied to our life. We do live in an illusionary world. And, so we do idealize the people around us. But the reality is that we are often together with cheaters and liars. Very often, a person is pretending to have a healthy attitude, and in reality, he looks to cheat… Or a person changes his attitude to the worse and is cheating us… We choose always to check the attitude of the people we are together. Otherwise, we get shipwrecked!!!! My Video: Your ethics should match…https://youtu.be/z9uIkFcLlqY My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/Your+ethics+should+match%E2%80%A6.mp3

 Because it is exciting and cheap. 1. You meet many amazing people. 2. You are not so isolated in your hotel. 3. You connect easier with the local people. 4. You save so much money. 5. You have so many adventures. 6. You can develop faith in God in all of your struggles of traveling cheap… And that is so true!!! 7. You get the best information from experienced travelers. 8. You can easily connect with other amazing travelers. Usually, people choose via the internet a hotel with specific features and they forget that they want also to meet new people. The people like more to stay in their comfort zone and so they choose the same dishes they eat at home and stay with the same people in the hotel. You can stay for free with couchsurfing.com. When you use workaway.com, you will stay with the locals for free and you work 4-5 hours and get food and earn some money… What is about women… Every man is raping them? For instance, the beautiful French girl F (21) is hitchhiking and Couchsurfing (she stayed already at over 100 hosts) for free, needs only $50 per month, flies for $120 from Stockholm to Krabi with Norwegian Airways .. And she got never raped or sold her. She stayed with me for free, even I gave her the food for free… I took beautiful pictures when she was making yoga at the beach… You can do volunteer work when you travel and you will meet great people … When I was a student, I worked for a minimum wage in the USA and in Amsterdam;   organized by IAESTE… Then I worked also as a volunteer in a spiritual place for free in France… Did I like that? Was it worth to do so? Did I improve my English? Was it better than TV and Facebook? Then I saw people working for small firms for 4 to 5 hours a day including food and a small salary… in Panama (workaway)… You can do so!  European students like to work in Australia for some months to earn the money to travel in Asia… My Video: Why is cheap traveling more fun? https://youtu.be/vs8-WIFUQR8 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/Why+is+cheap+traveling+more+fun.mp3 How to travel cheap? Couchsurfing: www.couchsurfing.com Workaway:  https://www.workaway.com How to find cheap flights? Book the flights on Tuesday till Thursday, because then the flights are cheaper. Book 1 week to 4 weeks in advance, otherwise you don’t get the cheapest offers. Flights to everywhere: https://www.skyscanner.com https://www.kiwi.com/en/ https://www.flyscoot.com https://www.fly4free.com Norwegian airlines    https://www.norwegian.com Krabi /Bkk Stockholm 120Dollar

We are feeling beings that can think… even most of the time we do think wrong… And when you want to seduce a girl, you have to trust your intuition… Train your intuition and don’t trust your thoughts! Even, when I was a true beginner, when I had a girl in my arms, I knew if she liked me or not! Because when the girl is getting soft and my heart opened and then her heart opened… And then you can go further… A kiss is for me meaningless…I want her in my arms… I always focused on embracing the girl, and just a touch is meaningless… I can’t go with every girl in the bed, but I can embrace most of all girls that I like… And that feels so good… and I don’t like kissing. As a man, you have to go further without asking the girl! So you must train your intuition. You have to understand what the girl wants without asking… And that every man can sense! From most girls, I didn’t know the name before I was in bed with her… And I never have asked a girl can I sleep with you… Because this will kill the energy/emotions/love… You approach her, and if she doesn’t like that, she will signal it to you. Talking for what?  Talking will bring you in your head, and you have to go in your heart to seduce… So after talking, you go outside and get in touch with her… no thinking… I have done it again and again, just approach an unknown girl, and when it was sure I embraced her and then we went together,… Often it was on a long bus journey, in a plane or somewhere else, it works. What is when a girl is angry with you or doesn’t like you? This is the best chance! For instance, honest, I can’t speak Korean… I was in India, I had bought a bus ticket from Rishikesh to Dehli… I was entering the bus, and the organizer didn’t like to give me a seat…  Because he had oversold all seats… “Don’t do such things with me…” I shouted so angrily that I want my seat that was occupied by a Korean girl!!! “And I don’t care if I get a seat next to the driver or so.” It was dam clear to me that I had to catch this bus… So what, I was pushing like crazy that the organizer had no chance then to give me the seat… There was sitting a beautiful Korean girl in the next seat… And she was upset that her friend could not join this bus and had to go to the other bus, because of me… She hated me, and I could understand this… She put a bag beside her and me… I didn’t care… After some time she removed the bag because I ignored her totally and looked that I was at the maximum distance with her. I knew if a girl is upset with me, and I ignore her… after some time the chance is high that she will approach me!  Try it out, it works! After 3 hours, we were sleeping close together, embracing each other… And our journey ended at the same hotel, and she could not speak English…  So what, for what is speaking well? Needless to say, that I am an introvert and I had problems to speak in front of an attractive girl… My Video: How to seduce, part 4? https://youtu.be/cSraJN2WFaM My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/How+to+seduce%2C+part+4.mp3