Relax with Meditation

So older we grow so more difficult it gets to make friends. For our well being, most of the people need good friends. Today through our social media we have fewer friends and more virtually friends. The people are more connected to the Internet than to their friends and family. Our new Facebook friends are not real friends. If we try to meet them, to >90% it will not work out.  On vacations, it is easier to get friends and when we come home, the new friends stay far away… This will not work for most friendships… Even so on vacation, the people are much different than in their daily life. We need friends where we live and not far away. It is easier to get a romantic love affair because we can connect with our senses and our mind is not in the way…. Action Plan: 1.) Do it blind… Ask your family/friends if they know somebody in your location which could fit you…. And date that person… 2.) Share your hobbies, - my favorite Go to local events or clubs and meet new people…. 3.) We all know a bunch of people and didn’t get personal… Ask personal questions and connect with the people. Look what you have in common and connect. 4.) Goal setting: Go to an event/party and connect with not more than 3 people… So more people we try to connect so less our chances to make at least one friend. 5.) Try to connect with a smile and then speak to the unknown person… It works! 6.) Be open to all kinds of people… Don’t limit yourself,-  even it is a freak you don’t like. Maybe he, she has something common or something that you like to be or not to be. My Video: How to make new friends? https://youtu.be/fmQn3omqA18 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+make+new+friends.mp3

Why? Our time is limited. To waste time is the worst sin. (Mata Amritanandamayi) Because nobody can postpone his death! I have helped quite a lot of people who are wasting their time: 1.) For seeing TV. 2.) On a smartphone. 3.) Social media. 4.) Gambling The people who I could not help ended in deep depression, frustration and even took suicide. When we are looking for distraction, we have the desire not to feel or think about that matters for us. With the distraction, we suppress our disturbing feelings and thoughts. Because of distraction, we: 1.) procrastinate on our work and leisure time; 2.) get too less sleep; 3.) can’t get all the things done; 4.) have too less time for our family and friends; 5.) lose focus; 6.) ignore what we should do to improve; 7.) do not feel at all and become a Zombie or a person that will remain in his frustration for the rest of his life; 8.) become drug addicted. After some time we have suppressed a lot of necessary information to change something for the good. After a long time, we are just like a garbage bag, full of negativity that will result in frustration or depression. If we would enjoy our life, we would not look for a distraction. Because we don’t have the time for that. And you think just a little distraction will not harm you? It will harm you because everything starts with the first step. The first step in the wrong direction will trigger the next step… And then to stop and to change the direction becomes more and more difficult. When we want to change our direction to become more mindful our negativity will surface. - It becomes a vicious circuit. I have spoken with the best drug addiction therapists (Veeresh, Humaniversity) in the world… The problem with the drug addiction is the suppressed negative feelings gathered over a long time… If the drug addicted person wants to change, the suppressed negative feelings showing up and hinder so. A small change in their personality requires a huge fight… For what? How to get rid of distraction? When you feel overloaded, stressfully…: Make sport, dancing, or better release your negative feelings… Afterward, meditate or sleep. Look what you enjoy this very moment. Feel your pain and let it go. Life is painful and life is many times for everybody hard. Remember, through our hardships, we learn the best. My Video: Distraction leads to depression https://youtu.be/1ELAVJ4-OC0 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Distraction+leads+to+depression.mp3

But I don’t want!!! That is the best way to get humiliated, it not to want. It is better when you don’t care to lose your face or not… The anxiety to lose our face is unnecessary … It is one of the greatest obstacles in our life the fear to lose our face! Some examples… One of the greatest life coaches saw his dream partner… He went straight toward her and admitted: My heart is beating like crazy. I am so nervous to see you and to speak to you… One week later, they were married. As a pupil, I was shy, and I (16 years old) attended a dancing class. Somehow, I failed to do something and I had to choose a girl to dance the tango in front of 160 people … When I looked at a girl, she instantly turned away… I was stuttering… it got worse. And then I went to the female dance instructor and asked her to dance with me… All were laughing, I turned red… Still, it had helped me a lot. As a student, I had to speak in front of 300 students. I started to stutter… Messed up, got angry and then I could speak fluently… What you see on these examples, first you get humiliated and then the things what you want. We take ourselves too seriously and that is our problem. One famous Therapist (Veeresh, Humaniversity): Demanded that we should go on the marketplace in our town (Bremen) and do the weirdest thing to get attention….. I have done some very crazy Qigong exercises: to be a bird and to fly… It was so crazy… And afterward, I felt so free… like that flying bird… We have built our jail by ourselves and only we can break that jail. Most of the inventors got humiliated for their ideas… For instance, Christoph Columbus intended to prove that the world is not a disk. We have in us a 3 years old child and our superego (6-year-old child). Our 3 years old kid wants to have fun, sex, and Rock n’Roll. Our superego wants to fit perfectly in the society and wants that everybody is taking him seriously. And that superego is our hindrance: 1.) to have fun, 2.) to become successful, 3.) to get the things that we want… Get rid of your fears to get humiliated and do the things that will humiliate you… Afterward, you will be so thankful and happy that you have done so. If you do it in the right way you feel that a heavy burden of personality is released. You will celebrate that day. Maybe it will be the best day of your life! My Video: How to get humiliated? https://youtu.be/MoDIOf9RgbY My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+get+humiliated.mp3    

The Buddhists reject all kind of Spirituality, they want only Nirvana… And all Spirituality is a distraction from their purpose to go to Nirvana… the extinction of the ego. Nirvana should be perfect peace and calmness. Even to feel bliss and love is a distraction… It never has existed the destruction or extinction of the ego during our life or afterward… Like all the other Religions the Buddhists like to sell dreams and to suck out the people. Still, the teaching and techniques from the Buddhists are good.  So why we should not enjoy or gain our Spirituality? And what is True Spirituality? We have read or even seen Magic or people who have gained Magic and exhibit their Magic. Imagine, you have kidney stones and you go to a Philippine Healer and he removes the kidney stones without surgery. And then you see that the Philippine healers are pursuit from the authority for their wrongdoing… This means magic healing is forbidden and black magic?!! When the doctors are vaccinating with 14 vaccines a baby and 65% of the babies getting chronicle ill then this is SCIENCE? What is White Magic? If we discover this very endless moment where we can embrace the irresistible whole being… we are mad or insane for the doctor… maybe they deliver us to a madhouse… Regardless of what kind of Spirituality we experience it is denied, forbidden or rejected. The Africans are beating the drums, singing and dancing like crazy to experience a spiritual helper in the animal realm. During the dancing, the Africans going into a trance, healing occurs… For the Missionaries is this evil. If the Christian Africans dancing and singing like crazy and experience the Lord, then this is awesome… During the African worship of Jesus healing and many miracles happen. And this Spirituality is accepted by the church… The demonstration of Spirituality to gain power or money is rather more Black Magic. And we should not waste our time on that! If we see the awesome Kung Fu fighters who have magical power without that they surrender their life to the Lord or to heal the people, then this is Black Magic too. We can easily gain great spiritual and healing power through Qigong. Even Qigong is connected to Kung Fu. It is more important what we do with our spiritual power than what kind of spiritual power we do have. Through meditation, we gain awesome Spirituality without harming anybody. And everybody is gaining his natural Spirituality without forcing anything. When we suddenly embrace blissful the irresistible whole being and are in trance, then that has happened through our spiritual practice (meditation, yoga, Qigong) naturally. And we should be grateful without telling anybody about that… I don’t want that you get in trouble, - enjoy and be grateful. Still, I think that the best is to be connected to God and have faith in God.  Read my book: Why the Religions have failed and not God? (Why don’t exist Hell, Paradise, Moksha, Nirvana, and Enlightenment?) My Video: What is Spirituality? https://youtu.be/X9GvZaECq3A My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/What+is+Spirituality.mp3

The Life Expectancy of a Japanese is 84.75 years. Only Monaco has a higher  Life Expectancy of 89.75 years. Never the less Japan has over 50000 people over 100 years old… They are thinner, working harder and best until they die… Without a purpose, nobody can live long… The Japanese are well known for their focus and goal setting. And the purpose should not chase for excitement. The purpose should be based on honesty and good outcome regardless if this is boring… And the Japanese are very honest. Attitude is everything. Dishonest people can’t see where they are wrong and can’t so live on an optimum… If we are honest and if we want to be happy we don’t look for short time happiness or a  short time gratification. We look for a healthy lifestyle. The Japanese products are famous for their quality and last a long time. People who are working and don’t care for the outcome live shorter because their focus is on short time satisfaction/happiness. Why?  If we focus on a good outcome we focus also to live long… Because we want to gain from our work in the long term, that means a longer life. The Diet of the Japanese is a good mixture of rice, veggies, and fish. The Japanese avoid high-calorie food and eat easy to digest food. … For sure the Japanese don’t eat that awful pizza (pizza needs over one-day digestion… ) or tarts…  Still, 90% of the population use a Microwave oven. And the Japanese are thinner than the average person from Europe, America, and Thailand… The Japanese (90% of the adults, 98% of the kids) love to walk or to ride on a bicycle to their work/school…and love to exercise … The Japanese care for the elderly, parents and grandparents. They learn easy to socialize and go often out with their colleges … The separation between work and leisure time is not so much. My Video: Why do the Japanese live longer? https://youtu.be/4pMNuwz5WW0 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+do+the+Japanese+live+longer.mp3

The Gear Acquisition Syndrome (GAS) is the all-consuming desire to expand our collection of gear. People became bankrupt, divorced and took suicide through their GAS. The idea is that we need the best equipment to make the best… The reason might be if our equipment is not good enough we are not good enough. Or we are unsatisfied and think that we can buy happiness, peace of mind… How does GAS start? We imagine: We have bought that top camera and after some time we see better cameras. There exist never any good camera for every application… Still, we think the grass is greener at the neighbors garden… Instead of shooting pictures we search the Internet for better equipment. Finally, we find the camera or lens and we imagine that we could be much better with that camera or lens. We get obsessed with our desire instead to shoot more pictures with our not perfect equipment. And then we read all the reviews of that particular lens… some are good, some are bad… We get paralyzed… What to do? Ignore the bad reviews and to buy it in any way or even on credit? We ring all shops to find our desired lens. Finally, we find the right shop. We drive our car like a madman. We arrive sweating this shop and ask to try that lens on our camera… But the shop owner denies… that is too risky…. He gives us his camera and we can shoot only inside. We are so nervous that our hands are shaking and the pictures are blurred… Still, we know that this lens will change our life for the best…. We start to bargain, and we can’t concentrate on that, because we are too identified… Finally, we get that lens with a 5% discount. We feel guilty that we have bought this overpriced lens. And we can’t shoot that awesome pictures like the Pros… We start to hate ourselves and our lens. After some time we accept our lens… We start to save money on everything because we are nearly bankrupt. What to do? When I am identified with any material good that I desire, I don’t purchase anything. Because identification is always wrong for any material thing, not so with love or God. If you have a spouse or friend ask him to control your money. Give yourself the permission never to spend on one single thing over a specific amount.. like $300. Instead of spending money for expensive equipment travel around. And imagine to travel with heavy equipment is no fun at all…  Instead to buy better equipment to learn on your specific subject. For instance lesson in music will bring more benefit than an expensive guitar or learn Adobe Photoshop instead to get better camera gear! Practice more. Ask yourself why you are not happy? My Video: What is the Gear Acquisition Syndrome? https://youtu.be/lIAlph06E0c My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/What+is+the+Gear+Acquisition+Syndrome.mp3

1.) Mindfulness If we start to become mindful (without judging) what we eat then our body lose weight. The worst case is always to judge yourself or to give yourself a bad consciousness for the things that you are doing or aren’t doing. Because a bad consciousness can keep us in any bad habit forever.   First, make a diary about everything that you eat on a daily basis. If possible get a small scale and measure the quantity. Second, accept your bad habits for gaining weight. For instance: 6:00 - 6:30 AM Workout with stretching and Qigong 6:30 - 7:00 AM Meditation 7 o’clock,  breakfast with a green smoothy, (200g bananas, 50g salad, 300g pears, 100g orange, 150g Kefir milk, 1tbsp honey), 7:30 AM 7 Km Bicycle ride, medium speed against the wind to your working place.  10 AM one medium apple and 2 big size bananas. 2.) Look, that you eat a lot of fiber. Choose full grain flour over normal flour for all food with grains. For instance: brown rice or basmati rice. Never eat white sugar again. Instead choose honey, brown sugar,… Food with fiber will satisfy our appetite without adding too many calories. 3.) Don’t eat industrially processed food like the tomato ketchup, instead, put the fresh tomatoes into a fruit mixer… Cooked tomatoes are very acid and so bad. With industrially processed food, it is impossible to trust our appetite. Because the industrially processed food has ingredients that block our barriers to stop eating so that we overeat. Remember, we need fresh vitamins and enzymes and not that garbage food. 4.) Probiotic. We need for a good digestion a healthy gut flora and that we get through Probiotic. All of our food has ingredients that kill our healthy gut flora. Every day, even I (as a raw cost eater) eat fermented vegetables or Kimchi as a Probiotic. Kefir milk is a Probiotic, too. Understand, 90% of Chinese/South Asian have a milk allergy.  When You can’t eat that, take Probiotic. With Probiotic your health and immune system will become much better. 5.) Sleep better and longer to lower your stress level. A lack of sleep will increase our stress level… A higher stress level will cause that you eat more. 6.) Suppressed sex will lead to fatness. When the males and females don’t enjoy sex they eat more…  So more corpulent a female is so less sexual arousal will the female feel. More sex will lead also to a lower stress level… Sex is good for you. 7.) Exercise more that will lower your food consumption and your stress level. Instead of exercising your jaw (for eating) exercise more of the rest of your body. 8.) Instead of focusing on only your weight loss, focus on your healthy lifestyle. It is always so if we focus only on our goal we sabotage ourselves. The path is our goal. And so we relax! How do we do it? I hope with fun@! My Video: 8 strategies to lose easier weight… https://youtu.be/YMHCcIp_pXc My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/8+strategies+to+lose+easier+weight.mp3    

They have thrown a baby rat in a bucket of water and stopped the time how long it will swim easily. And then they gave the baby rat Probiotic… The results were outstanding. With Probiotic we feel less anxious and our endurance will be much higher. Even better, if we want to lose some weight with Probiotic it is much easier and faster. Because we need a good digestion and don’t want to clog our intestine by reducing our food. We don’t want to poison our guts through a too slowly digestion. Our digestion should be fast and efficient.  A slow digestion reduces our power because we need 70% of our energy for the digestion. So worse our digestion through bad bacteria so more we store fat in our body. And we attract with a slow digestion inflammation. We poison our body! Imagine you give a spoiled mango in a basket with ripe mangoes. What will happen? The same will happen in your guts when your digestion is slow. Fresh food will spoil in your gut and will poison your body. The worst scenery is to eat fruits or a sweet dessert after eating a salami pizza. Our digestion will need for the pizza 24 to 36 hours and normally, the fruits need only up to 30 minutes for the digestion. First, the pizza and the fruits will be rotten and fermented to alcohol and poison in our stomach and then delivered to our guts. Our stomach needs up to 18 hours to digest that combination of food. The guts extract the nutrition and need again 12 hours until they excrete the excrement.  Remember, the wine producer put sulfate inside the wine otherwise the wine will be poison…. The cancer cells need fermented sugar and love the acid environment that creates the pizza with the sweet dessert.  The gut-brain connection. A worse digestion will affect our body and mind. Our feelings and thoughts can affect our digestion. Our emotion will be processed through our guts. The Oxford University has proved that with their rat and Probiotic experiment. 1.) A slow digestion or constipation indicates that we are blocked in our thinking or that we over think - thinking paralyzes. 2.) The Diarrhea shows us that we have deep fears. If we improve our digestion, then we reduce the risk of constipation or diarrhea. We should have at least 1 bowels movements/day … Our today food is poison for our guts because it is with antibiotics, arsenic, white sugar, industrially processed food, too fewer enzymes, too less fiber, too much meat, and fish …  And that kills our healthy bacteria in our guts. The Probiotic will replace our unhealthy bacteria with healthy bacteria. The best Probiotic is from fermented vegetables, Korean Kimchi (You can make both by yourself) or Kefir-milk. Eat the fruits before your main meal and wait 30 minutes until the fruits are digested. Almost any industrial processed food has white sugar inside (good for cancer) and no enzymes. All combination with meat and grains need over 14 hours of digestion. Eat meat/fish/poultry only with vegetables. Better is not to eat any meat/fish/poultry. Make a list what you eat every day and in which combination. Don’t judge and don’t blemish you. A bad consciousness makes everything worse. Accept what you do and change in baby steps. Awareness is always the first step before we can change anything. Start to take Probiotic. My Video: How to get the power back? https://youtu.be/vZ7kimUdJX8 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+get+the+power+back.mp3

If I hear Edit Piaf, the blind Andrea Bocelli, or the concerts of the deaf Ludwig van Beethoven I wonder why these guys became so great? Why don’t we embrace our handicaps? Our obstacles and handicaps make us great… Only through them, we can get to a higher level! How can I develop faith in God if I don’t go with my faith through the worst times of my life? How can I love truly if there are no obstacles … Or the greatest Sufi Attar said: The love likes it difficult. Who don’t know separation don’t know the love.  Our mind looks for perfection and doesn’t like to get anything in the way … How can I master anything without learning the most difficult skills in this area? And then I hear: Don’t be a drama magnet? Dramas make us humble and to be thankful for what we have. Do you think that the painter Van Gogh could become so excellent without dramas? Our worst times can give us the best insights and can motivate us to change our life for the best. When I was studying electro-technique, I got so many problems through the unfair Professors… In the end, I was fighting against them and nearly died through that stress … I left my body through a wrong treatment of an emergency doctor … When I came back in my body I knew that I was wrong… I knew that my life was the hell.  And that I got a second chance. My goal is that my life should be the sum of my happiness. And then I have faced many times the death, one time again I was clinical dead. Four Years ago, my body was complete paralyzed, no chance anymore…. Only through the faith in God, I could recover. At least, I have learned to have compassion and faith in God. Greatness or excellence are acquired through our tough times. Yes, embrace your hard fate and be thankful for that. If the smith is hitting the red-hot steal he doesn’t care for the pain the steal encounters … The smith intention is to get the steal in a certain form…. And the steal doesn’t know the intention of the smith.  And so God does it with us.  My Video: Our dramas drive us to greatness https://youtu.be/VAZdQxXFSL8 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Our+dramas+drive+us+to+greatness.mp3

When I was a child I never have seen a great love relationship only awful relationship problems… And I saw my parents mostly arguing and fighting; my father had always a girlfriend… When I left them, they said we had a fantastic marriage, … Blah, Blah…. That was for me too much, I never saw them again. Our problem is that we are anxious to get hurt and like to live an easy relationship, no problems anymore… And we gain the opposite. It is so if we stand in the middle on a road and imagine that no car will run in us…. And if a car is bumping in us we blemish the car. When we close our heart to protect us, we can’t feel the pain or the love. And our relationship becomes more and more superficial with very hurtful moments. Why do we get in any way hurt? If we would be perfect, nobody can hurt us. In us, we have stored all these terrible moments that are quite often happening in any relationship and we didn’t feel the pain. One single drop can bring the barrel to overflow… We can’t avoid feeling the pain! What to do? The pain of our relationship has closed our heart and we are afraid to feel that pain or to get hurt again. If we try to open our heart we commit to being open-minded and open-heart. If we are not aware of our true feelings and thoughts, we never can live a true love. Ask yourself: 1.) Why can’t you feel your love? 2.) Why are you anxious not to feel what is inside of you? 3.) Where is your pain? 4.) Why can’t you open your heart? 5.) What are you afraid of? Our two biggest fears in the relationship are: 1.) Not to be good enough. 2.) And that our spouse doesn’t love us. Are all of our self-made rules are working for a good relationship? For an instant, we expect that our spouse is emptying the trash or cleaning the toilet…. If we attached to our relationship, we can’t live our love. Because our spouse and ourselves are changing. When we are attached to an older version of our spouse the love will end soon. I could not open my heart by myself, I was consulted by a Biodynamic therapist in my relationship problems. All of my problems in the relationship were related to my childhood. After the session with my therapist, I meditated and looked that I don’t make the same mistake… Even I tried so hard, I got hurt again and again in my relationship and then I went to my therapist… And so my love got deeper and deeper… instead to live with a closed heart. Without the help of my therapist, I would have gained only a fraction of my love, happiness, and spirituality. And later God was coming to me, even I was an atheist. Love is great. And a life without love is useless. My Video: Why does the love end? https://youtu.be/tLL5TJp3Jqw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+does+the+love+end.mp3