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We are all human beings and we have sometimes envy and resentments against people who make it better than us…. The envy is coming from our animal mind and is hard-wired in our mind-body complex. Who wonders that animals, for instance, the dogs are envy…[email protected] The roots of envy are that we compare other people with ourselves. When we compare us we want to become better and are encouraged by our fear, envy, resentments that somebody is better. What is if our envy is blocking us? Then we give up too soon because we can’t see our progress … We want it too fast… Even when the envious person succeed he can’t celebrate because he is too focused on the other person who seemed to be better. There is always somebody better in some area … Why should we compare us? Why do we like to suffer that somebody is better or has more? Why are we not satisfied with what we are or have? Why are we not thankful for what we got? When I am envious, I look at what I have gained instead of what I miss. And as a spiritual being, I am happy what God has given to me and that I am still alive. God has saved my life many times…  And I remember that … Remember your worst times and be thankful for what you have now, instead to complain.  Don’t compare yourself with another person. Because every person is unique. Celebrate the success of other people. Then the envy is gone. My Video: The Remedy of Envy  https://youtu.be/2TD8lHwUE6c My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/The+Remedy+of+Envy.mp3  

What should men do? Cut their balls and transform them into a feminist boy… In interviews from a British reporter done in Germany with feminists and normal women, you could see that all feminists (without any exception) didn’t know anything from the killed and raped females in Germany. The feminism ignores the raped and killed women through the Muslims refugees in Europe. The feminism like the Islam because the women are veiled… no Sexism … Because sex or to be sexy is bad? To connect with a male is evil!!! Because the feminists like to become strong and independent from males… That is somehow good. Because you can’t love somebody if you are not independent. The next problem is what to do when your car is broken or you need to maintain or to repair something… The dirty and hard work doing in the West (not so in India) the men … Including the dangerous jobs… like the cape rescue in Thailand.  And the husbands support the families and their ladies with money… The men are the slaves of the women who dare to have an own opinion that is different from their ladies. What to do? Cut their tongues, problem solved… The feminism wants to bring a social adjustment to the society… In the USA they have overdone it. More and more males fall out of the society, don’t want to marry, to study or even work hard…. For what? The laws are against men…  At the end of the blog are the links as proof. In Asia, we need more social adjustment for the women. How the feminists recruit their members? The feminists are proclaiming you are oppressed by males… The feminists don’t like to see their enemy inside…., If for instance, a woman can’t get that job/position it is because of injustice… Today the African women in the USA have better jobs than the African men. The African ladies complain that they can’t get an equivalent husband… To marry as an African in the racistic USA a white man is impossible, - social norm. The feminism divides the society between good ladies and the bad or disgusting males… For instance: when I was studying in Bremen/Germany the males should change the pedestrian when a female is going on the same pedestrian…. Feminism should not be men haters… even they are… The Feminists have a problem with their father, childhood, and blame for everything the men. A therapy against their men hate would do good … Adolf Hitler had never won the election in Germany when not over 80% of the females voted for him. Hitler’s idea was, be a dictator, stay in public alone and the females will vote for you, it worked. The females love dictators, patriots and the best is a single patriot dictator. Feminism defines women are strong, independent and they don’t need approval, love, appreciation by disgusting males…  When the feminists are so strong why they need a female movement, female clubs…? The feminists see themselves as a victim rather more than an independent and strong person. My Video: A world without men?  https://youtu.be/AHF9O_1Xe9E My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/A+world+without+men.mp3 Facts about males and females … that proves that males have more disadvantages than females http://feels-by-the-foot.tumblr.com/post/148869049589/cutebltch-jw-why-anti-feminists-can-never-make The proof that women are doing it better than males in the Western society… the males are oppressed today. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oqyrflOQFc

I recently could understand why many of my relationships didn’t work out…. The reason is simple my girlfriends didn’t accept my personal boundaries…. Our personal boundaries are our physical, emotional and mental limits. We protect our boundaries because we want to keep our rules and ethics and don’t want to get manipulated or emotionally hurt. Our personal boundaries: define to us what we are and what we stand for.  It doesn’t mean that we are not ready to go beyond our limits. If we chose to extend our limits then it is different from to be blackmailed to change our limits.  A healthy relationship doesn’t exist without personal boundaries. Both have to commit to respect the other limits and communicate their personal limits. If I am together with a Muslim then I have to accept that alcohol and pig meat is a “No”. That sounds easy, and what is within our personal boundaries? For our personal boundaries, we have to fight… And that is a shame!!! Many people don’t accept our boundaries so that we have to protect ourselves. People who have weak boundaries don’t care for other personal boundaries. They think to be flexible is the best even they don’t care for moralities like Chancellor Angela Merkel or Donald Trump. They change their mind rapidly to get the most out of the situation… What is if we don’t set our own boundaries and love to serve selflessly… The reason might be, that we are afraid of confrontation or looking for approval. We can’t do any action without to act out of our self-interest. Some of our self-interests look selfish or selfless… still, every action is selfish. Because every person has an ego. I love to serve God, still, it is my self-interest, even it might look selfless… it is selfish…. Ramakrishna said: “We can’t destroy our ego. Make out of your ego a servant for God.” We have to learn to say “No” and we don’t want to become a people pleaser. We want to be an integer person and set our red lines. When other people cross our red line or to be disrespectful we say confidently that we don’t want that.  We make our own decision for our life and we don’t want to become a slave or depend too much on another person. For instance, to raise a raccoon… In the first 3 months, a raccoon is like a baby and obey. After 1 year, a raccoon is independent and rather doesn’t care if we call him. Why can’t a human being not act as an adult when he grows up even an animal can do so? For an animal, it is a must to be independent and not so for a human being. What if we have a spouse who doesn’t accept our boundaries? Everybody likes to have a choice. And my choice is always when I am blackmailed to end the relationship. Because I think that a good person never blackmails any person, even it is urgently.  My Video: Why we need our personal boundaries? https://youtu.be/Yo8xI3Eb6Vs My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+does+the+love+end.mp3

1.)Do what is meaningful for you. Regardless of how much money you earn or have if your life has no meaning, you get lost. When Viktor Frankl was in a KZ of the Nazis, he was challenged…. And then he discovered the “search of meaning” for every human being…. If we don’t support our search for meaning and support other people with their search for meaning we make us and the other people worse. Because we all have the drift downward and we need the inspiration to counteract our negative side in us. And Money, Facebook, YouTube will not help us, even make us worse. “When a person can’t find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.” -Viktor Frankl Viktor Frankl helped suicide patients to find a meaning or their life. He prevented so more than 20000 suicides. We can find in any suffering some positive aspects to find a deeper meaning in our life. Just look for it, or suffer! 2.)Narrow down what you really want instead to get lost by too many options. Choose by the 80/20% rule (20% of the things bring 80% of the results) what you do. Start small and end up big! 3.) Become yourself, live what you like without harming anybody, regardless of what. Every moment we waste our time instead to go forward, to ask for the things we want. I see, everywhere anxiety to ask. I am an introvert, I have a problem to ask, but I ask in any case. Because I have trained that. And you can train that too!!! 4.) Get out of your comfort zone to rewire your brain. Life can be exciting and when it starts to be boring, challenge yourself. 5.)Overcome your materialism. Remember when you visited a new country when you were trekking with your backpack with less money in your pocket. Life was much happier than to gain wealth, success, power, fame…  When you have saved some money; think over, the new better Laptop or the car will be after some time meaningless. A great journey or to learn something new or to have a new love affair would be better. Don’t get stocked with social values….  6.) Learn to travel inside with meditation. All the happiness is inside and it is for free. 7.) Become grateful for every circumstance and for everything. Because it can teach you something. So more grateful you are so happier you are…. When Nick (No arms, no legs, and no worries) was near to suicide for his crippled life… His parents said, it is your choice to complain or to be grateful! Today, Nick is rich, has a family and loves to help other people! 8.) Give yourself the time to be sad, depressed instead to fight against your negative feelings. Learn to accept every emotion and spend some time with every emotion. So more we fight against our emotions so worse they get. Just feel them and let them go. 9.) Have compassion for yourself. Forgive yourself on regular basis. I treat myself like a baby. I give compassion to me when I am sad, consult me when I am angry… Life can be wonderful. My Video: How to come out of a crisis? https://youtu.be/XA5bDjXYC64 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+come+out+of+a+crises.mp3 https://www.ted.com/talks/viktor_frankl_youth_in_search_of_meaning

Or, why we can’t reach our goals? The Japanese answer is: we want too fast too much. The Japanese tradition is Kai (change) Zen (wisdom) invented by Masaaki Imai. We should not change our life spontaneously but slowly and wisely. The new habits should occur as a result of our reflections and life experience. The concept includes of the One-Minute Principle for self-improvement. Every day, just for one minute, practice at the same time and do not do more. It should be no trouble for absolutely anyone, right? Because it is difficult to carry out for 30 minutes or an hour a day… one minute is easy… And we believe we should practice much more and end up in exhausting of us and leave with no tangible results. How can we learn in only 1 minute something new? The One-Minute Principle lets you see the progress you’re making. We need to experience a sense of victory and success to move forward. We start for 1 minute and gradually we increase the time more and more to that 1/2 hour or 1 hour. All you have to do is understand what it is you want to achieve and start doing it for just a minute every single day in the beginning… My Video: What is Kai Zen?  https://youtu.be/aReBxTbPaMM My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/What+is+Kai+Zen.mp3

All Religions are telling us that we should omit a passionate, sexual love. Because when we are passionate we lose our calmness and can’t find peace in our mind. When we live our passions, and the greatest passion is love, we lose our fears and at the end, we will find peace in our mind. If we don’t live our passions, we suppress our fears and many years later the suppressed fears will cripple our life. And that result we can see in the old people. Most of the old people want to dictate our life that we should not live a passionate sexual love. Because they didn’t have lived it either; cannot live it anymore; and they are jealous of the young people. In the famous novel “Siddharta” written by Herman Hesse, is a guy who had the longing to find the truth and renounced his worldly life. Siddharta could understand that renunciation will not lead to anything. Afterward, he was engaged in a passionate worldly life and when he was fed up with the worldly life he renunciate again. Again, he was drawn in a worldly life and finally he found the truth… I lived a similar life, was a devotee of Bhagwan; I found God in a tantric love and then I was 12 years in meditation retreats with celibacy… And now, I live both… The famous Sufi book: “Conference of the birds” written by Attar wants both: to renunciate the world and to live a passionate sexual life. Why? Attar was one of the greatest Sufis … he could understand that the greatest renunciation is to love a woman. For that, we should be well trained in the renunciation of the world. Otherwise, our love will be shallow and not so deep that we can discover God/Allah in our love. If you are 90 years old, do you think that you will regret that you could not live a passionate love? With 90 years you can’t live that love anymore. Why not take your chance now, live your passionate sexual love and don’t be afraid of the suffering…. In the end, you have done well. My Video: Why is passionate love stupid? https://youtu.be/jrh_NDJwu58 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+is+passionate+love+stupid.mp3

Who is afraid of his death, his life is already gone… Fear only Allah I came across a YouTube (never say die) of the longest living people of the world, they live in Bama Yao County (China/Vietnam border). In Bama are living quite a lot of elderly over 100 years old, the oldest is 126Years old. The grandson of the 126 years old lady said she has lived so long because of her hardships in life. The custody is that the oldest of the family has his/her coffin in her home and if a younger member dies, he/she gets that coffin. And the oldest has to buy again a coffin,… If we have our coffin ready at our home, then the fear of death is gone. Even more, we live more in the here and now,… One should not fear death rather more that one has never begun to live. (Marcus Aurelius) I have faced quite a lot the death, even I tried so hard to live a normal life, and I failed again and again… I remember 4 years ago when I came out of the hospital, my entire body was paralyzed, no chance anymore… And God healed me. My friend Oskar, who had awful challenges in his life (faced many time the death) called me when I was waiting for the bus home. I told him briefly what happened and he said “again”? I had teased Oskar with his tragedies and forgot that I am not better, faced 4 times the death in the last 14 years, 1-time clinical death… After such challenges, I felt born again and to appreciate my time as a gift from God…  Imagine every day is the same, no challenges… Do you think that such life can give you the will to over-live tragedies or to live long? It is rather more that we have forgotten to live and we are afraid of the death…. Because of our anxiety, we didn’t take that challenge… The fear of death is one of our primer fears that we encounter in difficult situations. Our animal mind wants to protect us and interpret every threat as a life-threatening. How to reduce the fear of death? All spiritual schools have created techniques to overcome our fear of death or our body identification. Because our real being/soul is beyond our body, feelings, and thoughts. When we imagine our death in advanced and feel that, we reduce drastically our fear… Death Meditation. 1.)  For 10 min. Relax, feel your body and breath deep in and out for 5 minutes. 2.)  For 20min. Imagine for instance:  A.) your funeral that you are lying in a coffin;  B.) that they burn your body;  C.) lying on your deathbed and surrounded by your family;  D.) killed in a car accident;  E.) killed in a war.       Imagine every detail and feel that, so that you cry…  3.)  For 10 min. Sit in meditation and relax, breath deep for 5 min. 4.)  For 10 min. Dance and celebrate your new birth. My Video: Fear of Death  https://youtu.be/UpmV0d93d0A My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Fear+of+Death.mp3

“I am also that…” When somebody abuse you; think, “I am also that…” For instance: Somebody is screaming: “You B*tch”,  “Cut your b*lls”, “As-wh*le”, “F*ck you…” Sometimes, everybody is an As-wh*le…. Because, sometimes, everybody is messing up, do the wrong thing,… We are not perfect. Our imperfection makes us perfect! It is okay for me when I am sometimes a son of a B*tch. When somebody abuses us, even we don’t deserve it, it means that to this moment he thinks that we are bad. So we won't be entirely bad. And if we think we are also bad, everything is perfect! “So what?” If we get angry at somebody because he didn’t meet our expectation. Maybe he is not all the time to 100% perfect. Only we are perfect when we are messing up?! So what? With these 2 magical words, we can relax without the need to resolve the problems immediately. So what? We let go of our problems. We release our tension. And we win time to think over… For instance: Our spouse has cheated us. Can we change that? No, because it is already done. So what? Will we die, when our spouse has cheated us? Should we kill our spouse? So what? Relax and let go! “But” One of the worst words in our self-talk is: “BUT” Have you read all of my blocks? I rarely use any “But”. When we have done it well, our mind is looking for mistakes to mess up our good mood. And then this “But” appears. With this “But” we neglect what we have thought or said before. For instance, “my car is fantastic, “but” it uses too much petrol. I have done it well, but I forgot … “Shut up” We are never perfect. We can find always in everything mistakes because they exist. Only God is perfect even we think he messes up very often. I think that too, I am not better than you. Still, I believe in God. Enjoy your imperfect life and let go of your terrible “BUT”. My Video: How can we change our self-talk? https://youtu.be/swaK5cX7dRw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+can+we+change+our+self-talk.mp3

We are overloaded with the information on the Internet and the media and we can’t process the information. Why we take all the information in when we can’t process or memorize them? Our brain tries to sort out the information what is significant and what not. And our brain can’t handle so much data that we get every day. Our brain connects easily only with information that is important to our survival. If our brain can associate the info with experience it is much easier to memorize. For instance, you learn about technique and everywhere you look to apply that information… If you find an object and can understand what you have learned, you will easily memorize it. After some time you will become an expert. So I have done it with technique, psychology, philosophy, and religion. And then I had/have my challenges with the Adobe Photoshop. I learned some techniques of the  Adobe Photoshop, applied the knowledge and after 3 months of not applying my knowledge I forgot how to use Photoshop. Then I learned again the technique and forgot it again and again. Why? Photoshop is against every logic in my mind and so I can’t connect the techniques of Photoshop with my other knowledge. And this is the reason why we can’t memorize if we can’t connect the new knowledge with our learned knowledge. Because our mind demands that we need to construct in our brain a new neuropathy when we learn something entirely new. Imagine if you go through the Forest without using any trek. If you repeat again to go the same path, after some time there will be a trek. And if you stop using this path the trek will disappear and so our knowledge. Every knowledge we learn, we need to apply and to repeat. When we read a book and can’t remember what we have read, we should make notes and try to apply it… If we can connect this information for something useful in our life we easily can memorize it. Information that we don’t need skip. Why? Overloading our brain leads to dysfunction. Learn to relax and find time to use more the right side of your brain. The right side of our brain is for feelings, intuition, sex, art, fun… And then learning is much easier. Because both sides of our mind/brain should be used equally. My Video: How to memorize? https://youtu.be/i0oIsDbB0IU My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+memorize..mp3

Even the girls know that these bad guys are not good for them, still, they are attracted to them. 1.) Nice guys are too boring. 2.) Bad guys are arrogant. Females hate arrogant guys, still, the girls love them. 3.) Women love to be treated specially. 4.) Nice guys think that women are so fragile. And women don’t like that. Women like to dance in the rain without worrying about the consequents. Or to drink without thinking of a blackout… To make crazy things without worrying. Because it is more fun.  5.) Bad guys don’t care for safety or to be nice. And that is more appealing to women. Bad boys use a combination of fear and fun and that is so attractive for females. See the movie: Last Tango in Paris (starring Marlon Brando and Maria Schneider) 6.) Bad boys have to be the coolest without being handsome. Even their ugliness is attractive. 7.) Life is short and precious. Bad boys are very selfish and know what they want. 8.) Dating or hooking up. Bad boys are hard to predict and so special … 9.) Girls can experience their wild side with the bad boys. And that is so exciting… 10) Bad boys are open-minded and they are extraordinary in their sex life outside of the social norms. 11) Bad boy challenges the girls and that is so attractive. And so the girls can rethink their life choices. 12.) Bad boys will be brutally honest with you and that will not be always the best and girls love that. 13.) Bad guys share their feelings also honesty instead to make this fancy shows. Their confidence is authentic. 15.) Nice guys are too good for life. They are not authentic, they fake their good feelings and confidence. 16.) Nice guys play save. They want to always impress their women with their shows. 17.) Women have fantasies that they are too shy to share. They want that we explore them. Nice guys don’t do so. 18.) Bad guys are trying out new things that come in their head without knowing if it is right or not. These guys have sex with their girl in an extraordinary matter. They explore the body of their chosen one, instead to be boring. And so the women will crave for them. 19.)Bad boys show their affection in public places and they don’t care for others. 20.) Bad boys lead the girls and that is so attractive… and they don’t play the victim. 21.) Bad boys seemed to have everything under their control. They can turn around any abusing comment to a joke. 22.) Bad boys don’t fear rejection. My Video: Why are girls love bad boys? https://youtu.be/gMy_irXGdIA My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+are+girls+love+bad+boys.mp3