Relax with Meditation

When I was a child I never have seen a great love relationship only awful relationship problems… And I saw my parents mostly arguing and fighting; my father had always a girlfriend… When I left them, they said we had a fantastic marriage, … Blah, Blah…. That was for me too much, I never saw them again. Our problem is that we are anxious to get hurt and like to live an easy relationship, no problems anymore… And we gain the opposite. It is so if we stand in the middle on a road and imagine that no car will run in us…. And if a car is bumping in us we blemish the car. When we close our heart to protect us, we can’t feel the pain or the love. And our relationship becomes more and more superficial with very hurtful moments. Why do we get in any way hurt? If we would be perfect, nobody can hurt us. In us, we have stored all these terrible moments that are quite often happening in any relationship and we didn’t feel the pain. One single drop can bring the barrel to overflow… We can’t avoid feeling the pain! What to do? The pain of our relationship has closed our heart and we are afraid to feel that pain or to get hurt again. If we try to open our heart we commit to being open-minded and open-heart. If we are not aware of our true feelings and thoughts, we never can live a true love. Ask yourself: 1.) Why can’t you feel your love? 2.) Why are you anxious not to feel what is inside of you? 3.) Where is your pain? 4.) Why can’t you open your heart? 5.) What are you afraid of? Our two biggest fears in the relationship are: 1.) Not to be good enough. 2.) And that our spouse doesn’t love us. Are all of our self-made rules are working for a good relationship? For an instant, we expect that our spouse is emptying the trash or cleaning the toilet…. If we attached to our relationship, we can’t live our love. Because our spouse and ourselves are changing. When we are attached to an older version of our spouse the love will end soon. I could not open my heart by myself, I was consulted by a Biodynamic therapist in my relationship problems. All of my problems in the relationship were related to my childhood. After the session with my therapist, I meditated and looked that I don’t make the same mistake… Even I tried so hard, I got hurt again and again in my relationship and then I went to my therapist… And so my love got deeper and deeper… instead to live with a closed heart. Without the help of my therapist, I would have gained only a fraction of my love, happiness, and spirituality. And later God was coming to me, even I was an atheist. Love is great. And a life without love is useless. My Video: Why does the love end? https://youtu.be/tLL5TJp3Jqw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+does+the+love+end.mp3

1 Minute interval training = 45 Minutes jogging The resent study of the McMaster University shows that a 1 Minute interval training can be as much for our health and fitness than a 45 Minutes jogging. How was it done? One group exercised a moderate intensive training on a stationary bike for 45 Minutes. The other group: started with a 2 Minutes warm-up exercise and then 20 Seconds a sprinted full out, 2 Minutes very slowly… and that 3 times … And that every day. After 12 weeks the results were: 1.) 20% improvement of the cardiovascular endurance, 2.) good improvements in insulin resistance, 3.) and significant increases in the cells responsible for energy production and oxygen in the muscles. I think this interval training is better than just endurance training. Since my 12th birthday, I make endurance training. Four Years ago, in the morning, I was shocked through an event and got a hearth rhythmic attack. Because my heart rhythms were between 50 and 55. Everybody who had done endurance training experience after that training a low heart rhythmic. And if you do the endurance training over many years, your heart frequency lowers down. Under 60 heartbeats/second is dangerous. For 1 year, I make interval training and my 30 minutes of fast swimming, my pulse rate is always over 60 beats and my cardiovascular endurance is much better. First, consider if you have some heart problems… Go to your doctor and ask if you can do that interval training, or ask if you should build up slowly this interval training. How should we do our interval training? Make some stretching as warm up. 1.) For 20 Seconds make something very exhausting until your limits,- power your body out. 2.) The next 2 Minutes do body exercise, stretching, yoga without to exhaust your body… Your heart should slow down to your normal pulse rate …. Make these ( 1.) 20 Seconds exhausting and 2.) 2 Minutes body exercise to slow down ) 3 times. …. You can do as an interval training: 1.) Run on the spot with arms up and the knees up… 2.) Kneel bend. 3.) Push-ups. 4.) Pull-ups. 5.) Run outdoors … 6.) Or a mixture of some of them, that I make in addition … I have a cheap elliptical trainer (G SPORTS GS-B8001B) for the interval training…   Think over how much time you save if you do the interval training instead of jogging!   My Video: Make it in 1 Minute! https://youtu.be/N256Q5JJDrw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Make+it+in+1+Minute.mp3

I say absolutely Yes! Still, I recommend it. If we want to write a motorcycle we should learn first to ride a bicycle. Irresponsible Meditation teachers even give the beginner a big motorcycle (a 10-day Meditation retreat with 9 hours Meditation/day) and expect that you can ride the big heavy motorcycle without practicing anything before. Stop that nonsense. Such Meditation retreats can cause neuroses, psychoses and can end in psychotic behavior with suicide. Most of the Meditation teachers don’t understand Meditation because they teach suppression of feelings and thoughts instead to learn to watch and accept them. The people are coming to them, because of their great reputation that these Meditation masters have never deserved. A Meditation master who gives meditation retreats for everybody should be jailed!!! Don’t spoil Meditation. Meditation is the greatest thing and has to be taught naturally and very slowly. The teachers of Osho, the Dao and the Sufis teach meditation in a slow approach because they know Meditation can be dangerous. Because of our tricky ego, the Meditation needs to be tricky too. In the beginning, we have to trick out our Ego to connect with the divine. And that can be dangerous if we make too much Meditation in the beginning. Our today disease is that we want too much too fast… We meditate for some minutes and over some months we increase the time of meditation. That is the principle of KaiZen. We start at home or on a Meditation course with body exercise that relaxes our body and mind and afterward with a short meditation. Meditation has always a focus and never a goal. All these so holly goals, like Nirvana, Moksha, Enlightenment, Hell, and Heaven had never existed. Even today, the pope said there is no Heaven or Hell. (Read my book: Why the Religions have failed and not God.) Only through Meditation, we can enjoy our life or the “here and now”. Because through Meditation we get so much bliss and inside happiness that we don’t depend on worldly pleasures so much. Who wonders that I was over 12 years in Meditation retreats? I started with baby steps and at the end, I could do the retreats even for 9 months! I got adored for my Meditation from the President of the Hindus…. Meditation is not for suppressing our problems, feelings … Through Meditation we learn to solve our problems fast and efficient without being attached. We get detached when we learn to watch our feelings, thoughts and our nonsense in our brain.  Meditation should make us empty… And is the best remedy against our longing for a distraction to suppress our feelings and thoughts. Our thoughts are created to 80% through our anxiety. If you become fearful in your Meditation then learn to watch your fears. After some time the fears are gone through watching of them. Feel your fears and don’t be your fears. (Zen)   We can make out of every task a meditation. Even when we have sex we can make out of it a meditation. For that has created Shiva the sexually Techniques inside of the Tantra and the Chinese have created the Tao-Love. Real Meditation is to connect to the divine /God and through that, we get bliss and stillness in our mind. My Video: Can Meditation harm You? https://youtu.be/bmtZdoVjkag My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Can+Meditation+harm+You.mp3

What is freedom? Is the freedom to be free of obligations and responsibilities? Is the freedom to take drugs and do not feel the suffering anymore? Does the society love that we become free? Does our society love to enslave us and to determine our life? Who loves that we become free? Can we have freedom when we have to care about rules? Can we have freedom in a limited space of our life? Who limits our space of freedom? Can we be free even when we are in a prison or a lager? Is freedom only to have a choice or even more? If we are honest then we have to admit that most of our obligations what we should do are not relevant to our life. We have even chosen these obligations and we don’t have to do them. If we stick to rules and feel responsible then this is also our choice. If I shoot a photo… I can’t demand that I have 24 hours of daylight with the beautiful golden light before sunset or after sunrise. I am obligated to the cycle of the day, the weather to get the right light for my sunset picture. Still, I have the freedom to shoot the image. And so is it with all issues in our life. We all have the freedom to choose at least in one particular area. Even if we are in a lager we can choose our thoughts and feel free. We can choose: How we can make our jobs. Our attitude, and that is the most important thing in our life. That we confirm the society or that we live what we like to live. With which people we are together in our leisure time. To get rid of our TV. To free us from the time-wasting media that can’t help us, can’t make us happy, or can’t make us laugh. To smile to our child and spouse. To be friendly and loving even in difficult times. To live a healthy lifestyle with enough body exercise and healthy food. To meditate, and to praise the lord. My Video: How to become free?  https://youtu.be/4GgcO2FTy9w My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+become+free.mp3

If we have to decide to do it in our way and risk or to do it in the popular way, what to do? I have read a lot of biographies and always the greatest artists never have done any compromises … And remained unpopular. After their death they became famous. Too late?  Why not try first to become successful and afterward become yourself and creative? If we sell out our meaning of life for our success we become uncreative and unmotivated.  Goethe said: we sell our soul to the devil… Is it really so important to become successful? What is to be successful for you? Is it not better to be just yourself and don’t care what other people think? What is if we end up poor and we regret that? Imagine you are a young girl and you do have a loving relationship and then you have the chance to marry a rich one? In all cases, we do not know our outcome. A loving relationship can end soon, our great talents can turn in a nightmare… And that had happened all to me… Still, I am happy that I tried so hard, even it didn’t have worked out. As a kid, I was outstanding in technique and loved to become an engineer… But… I was too stupid in the school, no chance at all…. Never less I did it… And, then it was a nightmare to solve all these technical problems, even I was very good in that. And then I wanted to have a passionate love relationship and I got many of them… And always, I wanted to marry every darling, it never worked out. Should I be frustrated or should I be grateful for the amazing moments in my life because I tried it? The only son of Peter Thomson (British famous business strategist) wanted to become a famous musician… Peter Thomson supported the son ambitions, even when all the other relatives and friends had been against that. Because Peter Thomson wanted that his son becomes happy. After 10 years working as a musician with a good earning, his son quit his courier and started to work with his father together. We have only this moment and this life. The greatest sin is to wast our time for meaningless things. Just try it, if it is not working out try the next thing. The worst thing is always after we have been knocked down by the circumstances not to go up immediately. And to try the next thing. Life can be amazing or depressing or just a prostitution for … That is your choice! My Video: Become yourself or a people pleaser? https://youtu.be/I8sOSAyeDIQ My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Become+yourself+or+a+people+pleaser.mp3

The great Yogi Ramakrishna strongly avoided saying “I” or “my”. A wife went to a doctor and asked him what she should do because her husband doesn’t like to have sex with her anymore. The doctor answered bring me your husband and I will solve the problem. The doctor said to her husband before you go to bed, go to the bathroom and in front of the mirror say 10 times: I don’t know her, and she is not my wife. Problem solved! Because what we don’t know and don’t own is exciting. If we say it is “my” friend then our ego assumes that we own our friend and that he is under our control. That is the reason why we are so angry if our friend does what we don’t like. And when we are married we think that we both own our spouse. After the separation our illusion is over, we have never owned our spouse and our spouse was never under our control. Because of our illusion, we own our spouse we suffered so hard. Be thankful that you are together in a loving relationship. How would you appreciate your time together, if you would think that your loving relationship can end every moment? Our Ego likes to personalize everything so that even after some time an innocent PC, smartphone, car,… becomes a person. And if these things getting broken or don’t work we get angry. As a kid, I have learned what I really owned. My mother said: close your eyes and what you see is yours. We don’t own anything. When the Greek emperor Alexander the Great died, he said: “Make two holes in the coffin and let my hands hang outside. Because everybody should see that I died with empty hands.” All our accusation in this world are temporary and not under our control. Even it is so with our body or life. Without the grace of God, we are nothing. Our Ego/I assumes that we are God that we have everything under our control…. Everybody experience devastating moments where we had been overwhelmed. Still, after some time, we think we have everything under our control. That is the incurable disease of our ego.  When we brag what we have done we can’t really see the reality. Because we depend on so many circumstances. And God punishes our bragging with worse moments. Watch yourself when you brag, what will happen afterward? Ramakrishna said: God laughs When a doctor said I have healed him. When two brothers divide the land of their died father and say this land is yours and that land is mine. Everything owns God! Praise the Lord My Video: With our “I” and “My” start the problems https://youtu.be/lJThjlIS23k My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/With+our+%E2%80%9CI%E2%80%9D+and+%E2%80%9CMy%E2%80%9D+start+the+problems.mp3

In most cases, men are potent and have psychological problems to sleep with women. If you think that you are impotent, do a clinical erection test by yourself - is at the end… If you have a physical problem: Go to the doctor to scan your prostate. If the prostate is okay, fast for at least 7 days that the blood vessel in that lower abdomen can be purified and the physical problem is solved. Or look up for Mantak Cia /Tao-Garden in Chiang Mai in Thailand, they can solve your problem. Low testosterone level and aging. I recommend these herbs. 1.) Fo-Ti (He Shou Wu, Chinese Cornbind) 2.) Ginseng 3.) Ashwagandha 4.) Gingko Biloba 5.) Goji Berries (Wolf Berries) 6.) Astragalar 7.) Lingzhi Mushrooms 8.) Gotu Kola 9.) Jiao Gu Lan The first 5 herbs are increasing your testosterone and other sexual hormones… At least they make your body strong. The last 4 herbs are for busting your immune system and heart… I take all of them every day by capsules or as tea. Many men become homosexual because of their problems with women. About 70% of all married couples experience a sexual dysfunction in their lifetime! The wives think that the men are impotent and can’t see that maybe they are the problem! I will cover now the psychological problems. Why can’t men get an erection? It is a performance anxiety caused through: 1.) Sexually abused in your childhood. 2.) Dominant mother or sister that pushed you always down. 3.) Bad consciousness. 4.) Too much stress or tension. 5.) Sham. 6.) Fear of failure 7.) Relationship problems. 8.) Unattractive sexual partner 9.) Rejection of women. Because the anxiety causes the erection problem. To get an erection: We need to be aroused and relaxed. Tip 1 Exercises (see also Youtube: Mantak Chia at the end) Masturbate every second day until you have a full erection and then stop. Let your erection die and re-arouse yourself again… Make that 3 times and then it is allowed to release your semen. You can use pornography or imagination of sexual situation. Psychology effect: You train your brain, that you can arouse yourself and don’t need to release your semen.  Tip 2: Solve your relationship problems. Or better go to a therapist or group… When I have problems in the relationship or if I want to sleep just so with a girl, I can’t do so. Because my body and mind reject that women… I need intimacy and without intimacy, I can’t sleep with any women. And I was sexually abused in my childhood…. that makes sex with women much more difficult. Never the less I have slept with over 100 women… and many times I could not.  When I could solve often that problem with a so bad childhood then you can do too! Still, it is a challenge and that is good so! Tip 3: Speak about your sexual problems and find other ways to improve your sex life. Couples, who just give up on the sexual dysfunction of the man will never get the sexual problems solved. Touch your partner, be lovely and don’t set yourself under pressure. Sleep naked, be close to your partner and try to arouse each other without any tension. Make your partner orgasms without an intercourse. My Video: Why can’t men sleep with women? https://youtu.be/FRlr5QmSEWU My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+can%E2%80%99t+men+sleep+with+women.mp3     Erection test:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQplgWAbTtg Sexual exercises for men by Mantak Chia https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnOg_ZS4eSE

Even we try to get everything under our control, we can’t control our relationships. And most relationships end with closed hearts because of anxiety to get hurt… Without the uncertainty: 1.) is no love possible, 2.) is no personal growth, 3.) no spirituality, 4.) no excitement…. Still, most people hate uncertainty and so the relationship ends.  We die without dying. We can only do our best to nurture our relationship, instead to wait that our partner gives us his/her appreciation.  We can search where we are wrong, instead to look where our spouse is wrong. Instead of playing cool we share openly our feelings and speak about our fears. Because we are human beings and we are full of negative habits, mistakes and never perfect. Or do you want to marry an Apple or a smartphone? Instead of demanding love we give love regardless of what. Because we want to love and not end up frustrated when we can’t get the love… We don’t depend on our partner. We can only love when we are independent… slavery will never work out. Look what your partner needs instead to look that your partner fulfills your desires. And so you candle your love. Almost the love in the relationship is not synchrony. The most beautiful moments in your relationship might be the worst moments for your partner. An awesome love relationship over 20 years ended when both read their diaries for every day.  Choose trust Even your partner doesn’t deserve trust. I trust in God that I get always the best… I don’t trust people because every person can fail. What God gives me is enough… And my spouse is an eternity of God. We try our best and if it is not working out, we can’t blemish ourselves. With every relationship, I have learned so much, for what I should regret it? And then get engaged again. My Video: The beauty of uncertainty https://youtu.be/_5SkrZUawYM My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/The+beauty+of+uncertainty.mp3

Because of Physical issues and Psychology issues. 1.) Low libido. When having a menopausal problem,- the females have a lack of sex hormones or a dry vagina. In these cases, they have pain when they have sex… Or if the body is too fat. 2.) Difficulty being aroused. When women are: stressed out, tired, depressed, too many problems, bad lover,  or have anxiety. - the majority of women don’t like under these circumstances to have sex with men. 3.) Aversion to sex and/or of men. If a girl is growing up in a family that abuse sex then the girl will have a bad consciousness if it will enjoy sex. On average every 10th girl is sexually abused through their family… In both cases, the sexually abused woman needs a therapy to get rid of all these aversions of sex and traumas. Otherwise, intimacy or a deep connection to her boyfriend or spouse will be a problem. 4.) Asexuality. Women who have no or less sex drive… That is possible. 5.) Inability to reach orgasm. Up to 10-20% of women never achieve an orgasm.  In all cases exist some remedies… First, check a female doctor. A.) For a low testosterone level, menopause and aging take daily: 1.) Maca powder from a high altitude mountain (Andean) (otherwise it will not work!!!).  Maca powder can be very powerful to overcome menopause. Or try Ashwagandha (can’t be used during pregnancy). 2.) Ginseng 3.) Fo-Ti (He Shou Wu, Chinese Cornbind) 4.) Gingko Biloba 5.) Goji Berries (Wolf Berries) 6.) Astragalar 7.) Lingzhi Mushrooms 8.) Gotu Kola 9.) Jiao Gu Lan The first 5 herbs are increasing your testosterone and other sexual hormones… At least they make your body strong. The last 4 herbs are for busting your immune system and heart… B.) Zesta (a botanical oil to apply to the genitals) to enhance the climax of women. C.) INTONE ™ and Intensity™  are approved electrical stimulating devices that can help to get an orgasm and help to treat the urinary leakage in women. D.) Vaginal estrogen – Available as a cream, a tablet or a vaginal ring, and considered the best treatment for genital arousal problems and pain from vulvovaginal atrophy that occurs in many postmenopausal women. E.) Off-Label use of Vaginal DHEA 1 percent suppository – An adrenal precursor that women with vaginal atrophy/thinning/decreased sensation can use as an alternative to vaginal estrogen. F.) Osphena – The first, non-estrogen oral therapy for moderate to severe painful sexual activity due to vulvovaginal atrophy. G.) Flibanserin (Addyi®) – This drug was recently approved by the FDA to restore female sexual desire in women before menopause. It must be taken orally every day, and it may have side effects, such as severe low blood pressure and fainting. My Video: Why can’t women sleep with men? https://youtu.be/zeT3eA_f_T0 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+can%E2%80%99t+women+sleep+with+men.mp3    

All Religions condemn selfishness and that is wrong. We should discriminate between positive and negative selfishness. What is positive and constructive selfishness? 1.) To have children and to have not children. It depends on the person if he/she likes to have children. 2.) To enjoy sex. With sex we can show our love to our darling; we can release our tension; it is good for the body, and it bonds our relationship…. 3.) To become rich and successful without harming anybody or our environment. 4.) To benefit from the people when we have done it right. What is negative or destructive selfishness? 1.) To live an unhealthy lifestyle with junk-food and no body-exercise. 2.) To overspend our money and live on credit. 3.) To gain profit without keeping the contracts or our word. For instance, the people donated $500 Mill for the Haiti earthquake to the Catholic church and the Catholic church has not done anything for Haiti… just put the money in their pocket. 4.) To condemn sex and to rape kids like the Catholic church. 25% of the American Catholics left the church because of the raping scandals of the Catholics priests with the kids. 5.)To exploit people in the name of God. That has done and does every Religion. If we see people, religions, politicians who are demanding selflessness, look what is their real intention. Normally when we over-think our acting we find out that short time acting to get the most out of the situation will harm us. It is rather more that we first invest and help, to gain the maximum. Because if the people see our selfish behavior than they run away.  And we gain at the end not much. If we maintain a good relationship we have to give in advance. And then we gain always. If we want to love we give first love… If we cheat people. In the end, we will get so much trouble and can’t enjoy our life anymore. A real selfish guy is honest and loves to help everybody. Because it makes him happy and content. My Video: Positive and negative selfishness https://youtu.be/ZV4jwrilet8 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Positive+and+negative+selfishness.mp3