Relax with Meditation

The answer is in the next question! What are the benefits of staying blocked? When we are inactive we assume that we stay saved. And that our world will not change…   Imagine, you are standing in the middle of a highway and assume nothing can harm you when you will not move…?  The opposite is true, you should immediately leave the highway and watch that no car is running in you. Our anxiety to chose wrong keep us in the indecision. And that might be dangerous. For instance, what keeps us in an unhealthy lifestyle? It might be that we don’t want to see why we can’t enjoy our life or our job so that we don’t need to change. It might be to be afraid to change our overeating and to get an amazing life, with a handsome or wealthy spouse. In any case to change a habit or our life can be quite challenging and if we don’t try we can’t fail. The fear of failing is always connected with our indecision. When we don’t like to change, ask yourself:  1.)Why don’t I like to change? 2.)What are the benefits of this block or problem? 3.)How can I see the problem or situation differently? 4.)Why do I want to change? 5.)What can I get out of the situation if I would change? If we are aware of our inside then we can change it. If we don’t be aware of what drives us we truly can’t change anything… Then we remain in a state of fear or we are a slave to our habits. And that we see everywhere. So more and longer we have invested our time and energy in our wrongdoing so more reasons we will find not to change. The world is changing fast and so we have to change too. My Video: Why we can’t decide? https://youtu.be/k1SXqXQD5y0 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+we+can%E2%80%99t+decide..mp3

We were growing up with: “to be happy is the best”… and “to feel bad is bad” … And so we were forced to suppress our negative feelings and to suffer by getting diseases or depression through our hidden feelings. We learned that we can fix our bad feelings, through seeing TV, eating sweets, taking drugs, go shopping …. For what? When I was a Sannyasin of Bhagwan we had to wear red. When we, my darling and me separated from our awesome Love Story … we got so many spiritual rewards for our deep love from the creator… I felt very sad. So I wore black. Because I felt so and I was proud that I could honestly show my feelings as they were and didn’t make any “be happy”, or “be okay” show.  Our community was challenged by my behavior and accepted it. From this very time on, I refuse to make any “be happy” show, regardless what my darlings, chiefs think… when I was crying or angry in front of them. You never can reward yourself more than to be authentic and to show your feelings as they are. Because only you can give you the permission to be authentic and not to be a puppet. The great Sri Aurobindo said: The vessel of joy is out of sorrow. So deeper we can feel our negative feelings so more happiness and love we can feel. The Zen is saying: feel your feelings and don’t be your feelings! We let flow our feelings and don’t stick to any feelings nor to prefer any emotion! If we do so we can go beyond our feelings, thoughts, and body. Yes, that is possible! With judging, we never can reach such high spiritual plateau. Emotions are just emotions, nothing more! Normally during the day our emotions going up and down. And if we feel bad, we try: Breath deep in your feelings. Make sport. Think: Thank you, that I can feel that emotion. Regardless of what, let flow your emotion. After some time, we can accept our emotions and the feelings of other beings much better, without to go into panic mode. Alone that is priceless. Later we become more and more detached from our emotions and can watch our feelings! And this is true spirituality! My Video: Enjoy feeling bad  https://youtu.be/gCgGIMnJvgw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Enjoy+feeling+bad.mp3

1.)Wrong or too less communication about what you want, how you feel leads to divorce. Communicate what you want and accept what your spouse expect from you! When both are hurting each other continuously, the love will end soon. Communicate what hurts you, without blemishing the other person!!! Because everybody is responsible for his/her life! 2.)Sex is not working out. I don’t care if you agree or not… Males and females have a sexual drive and if the sex is not working out then the cheating will happen. The sexual drive is the second strongest drive of the human species. In the older age, the sex drive diminishes. Talk about openly what you want, without hurting each other. It might be scaring! 3.)Money problem… There exist only 10% of the people who love to save money and 90% are overspender. What happens if a saver is together with an overspender? Clashes….  Money problems lead to 50% to divorces. Talk openly about your debts, income and how much you save every month! T. Harv Eker has created for that a great system… 4.) Connect with the spouse family and check out what they expect from you. Otherwise, the spouse family can harm your relationship tremendous. For instance, in Asia is the family more important than the spouse, can you live with that? 5.) Distributing the dirty work. When both are working, both should make the cleaning. Create a good system for both! 6.) Understand the need and the kind of love your partner need. For instance, some girls love to kiss always and I don’t like that. I like more to embrace without kissing. Talk about that. 7.) Religion. Do you have different Religions and so different obligations?  Like to be a vegan or … Talk about that, and also in which Religion the kids should be baptized. My Video: The 7 biggest obstacles in marriages  https://youtu.be/ZhB2llz3hiU My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/The+7+biggest+obstacles+in+marriages.mp3

Somehow we all feel that there is something missing when we are not occupied. Be it to work, to do Facebook, see videos on YouTube… If we finish something then we are in a void,- like when we switch a gear in a car we have to pass neutral. And with this neutral we are unsatisfied. Even we pass the neutral when we switch gears, our car is still moving… and so our thoughts. In the situation of emptiness, we can face: Fear of a void or emptiness. Fear to be alone. Fear of purpose, mission. Fear to be unimportant Fear to miss-out. Fear to be meaningless. Fear not to have the right drive. Fear to wast our time for meaningless things. Fear of death. All kind of these fears indicates that we don’t feel whole. If we want to avoid that void should we be always in the Hamster Treadmill? Imagine you are in a talk with your new boy- or girlfriend and then it happens that nobody is speaking. We feel directly uncomfortable.- Because we want to keep talking, instead to feel the presence and love of our darling. In this case, the silence of our talk is the best what can happen to us. Because it force us to feel instead to be in our head occupied with talking. If lovers would talk less they would love more!!! Our mind or ego does not like to stop or to finish and then to be meaningless. We can’t stop our thoughts, we even think more when we have finished something. And then our suppressed fears are creating a stream of thoughts, that most of the time is negative. It is ridiculous that we must be always occupied for not to be in this void or break! Instead, we should enjoy our void and relax! We run with all of our activities away from ourselves. The wholeness is inside of ourselves and we try our best through our activities to avoid our wholeness. The wholeness is in this emptiness or void, but we can’t feel that. Imagine you are sitting in the waiting room of a doctor with many people in front of you. You expect to wait 2 hours for the doctor. The doctor has no TV, magazines, Internet and it is forbidden to use your smartphone because it interferes with the medical devices. And talking is disturbing the doctor. What for a torture!!! The doctor can’t understand the problem of waiting. Because he loves to meditate and to repeat the name of God in his free time. His focus is on God and for him is God the greatest thing besides his selfless service to humanity! If we learn to do like the doctor we are eager to use our void/free time or break to focus on God and meditation. We don’t need for that a meditation room, meditation music…, we can do it everywhere. We can be whole when we meditate, relax and/or focus on God! We never can feel wholeness when we are occupied with worldly things! Worldly matters can only give us for a moment peace and then we are again in the Hamster Treadmill! My Video: The Longing for Wholeness  https://youtu.be/aL0EaLpz9Iw My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio:  https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/The+Longing+for+Wholeness.mp3

We have inside procrastination, laziness or distraction that hinder us to focus on our subject. Should we force us to focus? Why don’t we ask us in the first place why we can’t focus? Why do we let us distract? Why do we procrastinate? Why do we are lazy? When we would have interests in the things that we should be focused on we would not have the problem to focus! There exist for everything a reason or cause and if we don’t know the reason we can’t find the solution for most of all problems! And from the positive thinking, we know that we should force us to be positive and productive… If we force us to be productive and positive we gain at the end the negative. It is just like a pendulum. When we force the pendulum in one direction after some time it gets heavier and heavier until we lose our power and the pendulum swings in the opposite direction towards our laziness, distraction, and procrastination. If we understand that there must be a reason why we can’t focus we don’t need to work so hard… For what? To suffer? When we do something without forcing we can find much easier the solution. Because our tension and fears (to get the things done) are in the way to attract the right outcome! First, enjoy your life! Second, find the reason why you can’t focus! Third, solve or accept the problem, why you can’t focus. Forth, why is it important to do the things? Fifth, be open to the solution. For instance, I like to learn and I don’t like to be forced to learn. The University is taking away from every student the motivation to learn… So that the students are forced to learn to make their degree. And that is wrong! Still, we think it is necessary because our teachers have done so! Pink Floyd:  (Another brick in the wall) We don’t need that education, we don’t need thought control… Teacher, please leave the kids alone… Year!!! My Video: How to get focused? https://youtu.be/JKYUQTSf1wY My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio:  https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+get+focused.mp3

I was amused, when Gerry Roberts, one of the most successful speakers on the stage told that he is sleeping naked. There is a very funny story about him and Bob Proctor cached naked in Singapore. Never the less, Gerry mad a joke out of that painful incident without any shame  … Why is it shameful to be naked? My father, Prof. Dr. Carl Zimmerer was very conservative, and he wore always a suit. Quite often, in our home, he was naked even when guests were coming. And he was chosen as one of the most successful entrepreneurs of Germany, one of the greatest economy specialist and speaker in Europe… Why had my father no shame to present himself naked, even it was for our family shameful…?! Shame is: 1.) Fear, 2.) fear what other people think about you, 3.) fear of exposure, 4.) fear of sexuality. Can you present yourself naked? Can you speak in front of 1000 people and expose yourself like Gerry with his most embarrassing moments? Get rid of your stupid shame!!! Our teacher or Guru Bhagwan (Osho) recommend sleeping naked. -We should drop our armor and feel like a baby when we go to bed. The benefits of sleep naked are: 1.) It is easier, You don’t need a pajama and you change more often the bed sheets. 2.) You feel freer. Try it out. 3.) Sleeping naked is healthier. It keeps your sexual organs happier. For women is to wear a bra necessary. And the bra is reducing the blood flow to the upper body and that is negative. In the night every woman should sleep without a bra. For men, is a problem that the scrotum can get too warm and so the sperms get killed or unable to move upwards in the vagina…. An extra pan as underwear warms up the scrotum and the scrotum should be cooler than the rest of the body. Wearing tied pans is unhealthy.  4.) Skin to skin contact is the best. If we are sleeping together and have direct skin contact we feel much more… It is sexier. 5.) Pajamas with rubber bands … are often too tied and so a hindrance to a healthy blood flow. During sleeping, Pajamas getting tangled and often partly pulled off, so that some areas of the body are too cool or too warm…  6.) It can help your skin. The skin can breath easier in our private parts, like armpits, and between the legs, when we sleep naked. My Video: How to start a good life?  https://youtu.be/oau8Bq1W9Mc My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Sleeping+naked.mp3

We all know “ the never give up”  should be the right…. And sometimes “giving up” is the best thing…. For instance to quit smoking. If we want a new relationship we have to quit the old relationship…. Even we give up our smoking still we feel and think that we have lost something. And that hinder us to change ourselves or to gain a new habit. Because we are a slave to our habits!!!! If we want to gain something we have to let go or to give up something. Mark Zuckerberg left his studies at Harvard to focus on a stupid website,… called today Facebook. Was his decision right? Is he today happier or “only” a Billionaire? I have spoken with people who have given up their job to become independent and then got bankrupt…. Still, they would do it again. Because through every change that we make we gain something. And to work always in the same firm or to be together with always the same people, spouse will not be the best solution for everybody. I never will regret to be in love with many different girls, at different times! Even it hurts so much to separate. Never the less to start a new love affair is priceless. We have only this single life.- I don’t want to regret that I didn’t use my chances in every area of my life because I didn’t want to quit or let go of something. If we have a goal and if we get the chance to gain it, -  Be it to work in another country.- Why should not we try it? What held us back? How would it be if we learn to quit or let go of things, habits, friends that never serve us? Life would be wonderful!!! My Video: When “giving up” is the right thing?  https://youtu.be/ZyjuyX_aoDU My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/When+%E2%80%9Cgiving+up%E2%80%9D+is+the+right+thing.mp3

When I was growing up in our spirituality group,… pride or to be proud was the worst…. Because pride is ego! And minority feelings is ego too. Pride hinders us to enjoy our life. Because everybody can hurt us easily when he is crashing our pride. We live in an illusion, that we are superior and that will hinder us to become better. We need humbleness to learn new stuff and too much pride will obstruct us to learn! When even somebody is saying our Guru is bad, - disciple ego, we will be upset. The Guru should take our ego and now another guy can hurt us with our relationship to that Guru! Understand your ego! Everything that we make will build up our ego or pride! When I went to the best Therapists in the world, much better than A. Roberts … I was astounded that these Therapists were building up our ego instead to destroy it. Not every ego is bad! The great Bhakti Yogi Ramakrishna said we can’t destroy our ego. So let your ego become a servant of God then everything will be perfect! Bragging will make us worse. For instance, if I am proud, that I am honest. And if I don’t tell anybody that I think that I am honest, I will strive for more honesty! And if I tell everybody how honest I am, I will lose my honesty! 3 reason to enjoy our pride 1.) We can hold up our values with pride. If we can’t be proud of the things that we are doing we are getting worse. 2.)  If something is going bad we can keep working to get the things done because we think we can do it. Without pride, we give up easily. 3.) If we care about something or somebody we need pride. Otherwise, we don’t care. For instance, if we are proud of our family, we will care for our family. My Video: Pride can help us! https://youtu.be/ID7gBO4g404 My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Pride+can+help+us.mp3

We try to see in everything the good and the bad because everything has two pols. In my worst experience, I have learned the most. 1.) If we have lost somebody, we regret what we didn’t have done. 2.) We had an accident and we hurt somebody worse… 3.) If we have done the wrong thing we regret and crying desperately. The worst is, we can’t repair what we have done wrong. 1.) When we are engaged in many relationships then we can’t serve everybody well. Also, we need time for ourselves, for our family, mission, sport, God, meditation,… We need to prioritize our time for our relationships, otherwise, we will fail. I was quite often confronted with suicide and helped as much as possible even I didn’t have a good relationship or any relationship with that person. I was furious that even the closest friends didn’t care for that person! After a suicide or death of a loved one, the tragic is huge… Anger, sadness is facing up and the regret will last long. What to do?  To hold on our pain and to punish us will help nobody. To feel our pain, sadness, and regrets for a certain time like a week or 2 weeks is the best. Forgive yourself. And then do good, help other people to overcome their calamities and never judge again negative people!!!!  Never say or think the best is to get rid of negative people, because it shows how less compassion you have. Become a better person, through that you will profit from your loss. 2.) We had that accident. Even I try my best, I never can be always aware of 100% what I do. We can not be our best every moment! This means an accident can’t be avoided! When I make a mistake, I say thank you that nothing worse has happened. I try to become better. This helps a lot! When the accident has happened we try to adjust the situation as good as possible. And deal with our feelings described before and look that we help other people! 3.) Forgive yourself. You will get your next chance only when you have felt all of your negative feelings about your failing. Learn from that experience, so that you will profit from it. Be thankful that you are still alive and that you will get your next chance. How can we avoid to have regrets? Do your best everywhere and every time, then you never feel much regrets. And even people think that I am a lousy perfectionist … I don’t like to feel regrets for my lousy doing… In the end, life is easier if we do our best! Don’t be lazy or stingy or to be coward!!! My Video: How to deal with regret? https://youtu.be/rXxjeb2t3_Y My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+deal+with+regret.mp3

In this turbulence time, we lack on love. Do we need a new lover or to refresh our love to our dear ones? Or do we start to love first ourselves? How can we love when we under pressure or under stress? Many questions and only one simple exercise that gives you the love back. Be yourself and love yourself. This is a great exercise to love yourself. Do this exercise after you get out of the bed in the morning, it needs only 5 minutes. Stand in front of the mirror and look at your reflection for one minute. Imagine seeing your girlfriend/boyfriend in the mirror. Close your eyes and imagine that you are your girlfriend/boyfriend, and then say everything you would like to hear from your girlfriend/boyfriend for two minutes. Open your eyes and look again in the mirror. Isn’t it amazing how you have changed in these two minutes when you love yourself? Please do this exercise at least one month every morning after you wake up. My Video: Self Love  https://youtu.be/zOhl1SVYkAo My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.  My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Self+Love.mp3