Relax with Meditation

 We have inside procrastination, laziness or distraction that hinder us to focus on our subject.
Should we force us to focus?
Why don’t we ask us in the first place why we can’t focus?
Why do we let us distract?Why do we procrastinate?Why do we are lazy?
When we would have interests in the things that we should be focused on we would not have the problem to focus!
There exist for everything a reason or cause and if we don’t know the reason we can’t find the solution for most of all problems!
And from the positive thinking, we know that we should force us to be positive and productive… 
If we force us to be productive and positive we gain at the end the negative. It is just like a pendulum. When we force the pendulum in one direction after some time it gets heavier and heavier until we lose our power and the pendulum swings in the opposite direction towards our laziness, distraction, and procrastination. 
If we understand that there must be a reason why we can’t focus we don’t need to work so hard… For what? To suffer?
When we do something without forcing we can find much easier the solution. Because our tension and fears (to get the things done) are in the way to attract the right outcome!

First, enjoy your life! Second, find the reason why you can’t focus!Third, solve or accept the problem, why you can’t focus. Forth, why is it important to do the things?Fifth, be open to the solution.
For instance, I like to learn and I don’t like to be forced to learn. 
The University is taking away from every student the motivation to learn… So that the students are forced to learn to make their degree. And that is wrong! Still, we think it is necessary because our teachers have done so! 
Pink Floyd:  (Another brick in the wall) We don’t need that education, we don’t need thought control… Teacher, please leave the kids alone… Year!!!



My Video: How to get focused? https://youtu.be/JKYUQTSf1wY My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-get-focused.mp3

 We have inside procrastination, laziness or distraction that hinder us to focus on our subject.
Should we force us to focus?
Why don’t we ask us in the first place why we can’t focus?
Why do we let us distract?Why do we procrastinate?Why do we are lazy?
When we would have interests in the things that we should be focused on we would not have the problem to focus!
There exist for everything a reason or cause and if we don’t know the reason we can’t find the solution for most of all problems!
And from the positive thinking, we know that we should force us to be positive and productive… 
If we force us to be productive and positive we gain at the end the negative. It is just like a pendulum. When we force the pendulum in one direction after some time it gets heavier and heavier until we lose our power and the pendulum swings in the opposite direction towards our laziness, distraction, and procrastination. 
If we understand that there must be a reason why we can’t focus we don’t need to work so hard… For what? To suffer?
When we do something without forcing we can find much easier the solution. Because our tension and fears (to get the things done) are in the way to attract the right outcome!

First, enjoy your life! Second, find the reason why you can’t focus!Third, solve or accept the problem, why you can’t focus. Forth, why is it important to do the things?Fifth, be open to the solution.
For instance, I like to learn and I don’t like to be forced to learn. 
The University is taking away from every student the motivation to learn… So that the students are forced to learn to make their degree. And that is wrong! Still, we think it is necessary because our teachers have done so! 
Pink Floyd:  (Another brick in the wall) We don’t need that education, we don’t need thought control… Teacher, please leave the kids alone… Year!!!



My Video: How to get focused? https://youtu.be/JKYUQTSf1wY My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-get-focused.mp3

 We are overloaded with the information on the Internet and the media and we can’t process the information. 
Why we take all the information in when we can’t process or memorize them?  
Our brain tries to sort out the information what is significant and what not. And our brain can’t handle so much data that we get every day.
Our brain connects easily only with information that is important to our survival.
If our brain can associate the info with experience it is much easier to memorize. 
For instance, you learn about technique and everywhere you look to apply that information…  If you find an object and can understand what you have learned, you will easily memorize it. After some time you will become an expert. So I have done it with technique, psychology, philosophy, and religion. 
And then I had/have my challenges with the Adobe Photoshop. I learned some techniques of the  Adobe Photoshop, applied the knowledge and after 3 months of not applying my knowledge I forgot how to use Photoshop. Then I learned again the technique and forgot it again and again. 
Why? Photoshop is against every logic in my mind and so I can’t connect the techniques of Photoshop with my other knowledge. And this is the reason why we can’t memorize if we can’t connect the new knowledge with our learned knowledge. Because our mind demands that we need to construct in our brain a new neuropathy when we learn something entirely new. 
Imagine if you go through the Forest without using any trek. If you repeat again to go the same path, after some time there will be a trek. And if you stop using this path the trek will disappear and so our knowledge. 
Every knowledge we learn, we need to apply and to repeat.When we read a book and can’t remember what we have read, we should make notes and try to apply it… If we can connect this information for something useful in our life we easily can memorize it.
Information that we don’t need skip.Why? Overloading our brain leads to dysfunction. 
Learn to relax and find time to use more the right side of your brain. The right side of our brain is for feelings, intuition, sex, art, fun… And then learning is much easier. Because both sides of our mind/brain should be used equally. 
My Video: How to memorize? https://youtu.be/i0oIsDbB0IUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-memorize..mp3

 

After Carl Gustav Jung 90 % of our persona is hidden as unconscious or collective unconscious that decides mostly all things in our lives. We are not aware of our unconscious, otherwise, it would not be unconscious…
We have created through our ego a fake persona, that is not truthful … The problem is until we are not aware which part of ourselves decides for ourselves we are just a slave of our unconsciousness.Today we call that also our belief system ….And that is a part of our shadow. 
If our belief system is wrong programmed we can’t get the things that we want or that would make us happy and self-content. 
Even worse we are chasing things that will not make us happy.
So we have to light up our shadows to become our real selves.
For instance
You had a very aggressive father and he had a decent reputation…He earned big money and people loved him… might be true for my father…
You want to be a good person and so you reject your aggression inside of yourself and try to be nice and kind to everybody… This is just a cover-up from your real self.After some time you have accumulated so much anger inside of yourself that you explode like a volcano in a normal situation or even worse you suppress your anger so much that you get sick, for instance, you get allergies (allergies are anger related)… 
It is better to be whole than to be good! 
If you suppress your anger then you suppress your power!
The only healthy way is to accept your anger or integrate your anger in your personality…
Anger is great, becauseit is the power to change yourself, your circumstances,…to work very hard, to train your body, to make your body strong, to do garden work, I can list here thousands of things where anger applied is good… Even Sex is related to anger, what is an orgasm?If I am angry I do the things that I don’t like … Without anger, I have no power…
In your shadow are also positive abilities that you can use for yourself…
For instance, there is a guy who can’t write or speak correctly…And later this guy has his blog, writing books out of fun even in a foreign language…
There is a guy who is hyperactive later he becomes a well-adored Yogi in India who is mediating the entire day…
Or a stout atheist becomes a God lover… 
And actually, you have seen or heard this person…
We have to discover ourselves and for that, we need a therapist, a couch, and meditation.Alone you can just scrap the surfaces from your shadow! Don’t waste your time, get a therapist or couch…
Mike Tyson would not be the greatest boxer of all time if he didn’t have a couch that exposed his shadow.  And then Thyson became unstoppable…



My Video: Become yourself and light up your shadow…https://youtu.be/AXPux_K1UT4My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Become-yourself-and-light-up-your-shadow.mp3

 Even the girls know that these bad guys are not good for them, still, they are attracted to them.
1.) Nice guys are too boring.
2.) Bad guys are arrogant. Females hate arrogant guys, still, the girls love them. 
3.) Women love to be treated specially.
4.) Nice guys think that women are so fragile. And women don’t like that. Women like to dance in the rain without worrying about the consequents. Or to drink without thinking of a blackout… To make crazy things without worrying. Because it is more fun.   
5.) Bad guys don’t care for safety or to be nice. And that is more appealing to women.Bad boys use a combination of fear and fun and that is so attractive for females. See the movie: Last Tango in Paris (starring Marlon Brando and Maria Schneider) 
6.) Bad boys have to be the coolest without being handsome. Even their ugliness is attractive. 
7.) Life is short and precious. Bad boys are very selfish and know what they want.
8.) Dating or hooking up. Bad boys are hard to predict and so special … 
9.) Girls can experience their wild side with the bad boys. And that is so exciting… 
10) Bad boys are open-minded and they are extraordinary in their sex life outside of the social norms. 
11) Bad boy challenges the girls and that is so attractive. And so the girls can rethink their life choices.
12.) Bad boys will be brutally honest with you and that will not be always the best and girls love that. 
13.) Bad guys share their feelings also honesty instead to make this fancy shows. Their confidence is authentic. 
15.) Nice guys are too good for life. They are not authentic, they fake their good feelings and confidence.
16.) Nice guys play save. They want to always impress their women with their shows. 
17.) Women have fantasies that they are too shy to share. They want that we explore them. Nice guys don’t do so.
18.) Bad guys are trying out new things that come in their head without knowing if it is right or not. These guys have sex with their girl in an extraordinary matter. They explore the body of their chosen one, instead to be boring. And so the women will crave for them.
19.)Bad boys show their affection in public places and they don’t care for others.
20.) Bad boys lead the girls and that is so attractive… and they don’t play the victim. 
21.) Bad boys seemed to have everything under their control. They can turn around any abusing comment to a joke. 
22.) Bad boys don’t fear rejection. 



My Video: Why are girls love bad boys? https://youtu.be/gMy_irXGdIAMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-are-girls-love-bad-boys.mp3

 The answer is in the next question!
What are the benefits of staying blocked?
When we are inactive we assume that we stay saved. And that our world will not change…  Imagine, you are standing in the middle of a highway and assume nothing can harm you when you will not move…?  The opposite is true, you should immediately leave the highway and watch that no car is running in you. 
Our anxiety to chose wrong keep us in the indecision. And that might be dangerous. 
For instance, what keeps us in an unhealthy lifestyle? 
It might be that we don’t want to see why we can’t enjoy our life or our job so that we don’t need to change.
It might be to be afraid to change our overeating and to get an amazing life, with a handsome or wealthy spouse. 
In any case to change a habit or our life can be quite challenging and if we don’t try we can’t fail.
The fear of failing is always connected with our indecision. 

When we don’t like to change, ask yourself:  
1.)Why don’t I like to change?
2.)What are the benefits of this block or problem? 
3.)How can I see the problem or situation differently?
4.)Why do I want to change?
5.)What can I get out of the situation if I would change? 

If we are aware of our inside then we can change it. If we don’t be aware of what drives us we truly can’t change anything… Then we remain in a state of fear or we are a slave to our habits. And that we see everywhere. 
So more and longer we have invested our time and energy in our wrongdoing so more reasons we will find not to change.
The world is changing fast and so we have to change too. 

My Video: Why we can’t decide? https://youtu.be/k1SXqXQD5y0My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-we-can’t-decide..mp3

I stumbled over a simple method to cure Hay fever or Seasonal Allergy…

Just consume every day 2 - 5 Teaspoons of bee pollen as an adult and as a kid 1-2 Teaspoons on an empty stomach.
Why is that working for a pollen allergy?
When your body digests the pollen, your body gets used to the pollen and finally, the allergic reaction is over. 
You expose your body to a very small portion of pollen and the body will reject less and lesser pollen.
You start with 1 Teaspoon of pollen per day and each day/week you increase that until you consume 2-5 Teaspoons per day on an empty stomach. You can divide it into smaller portions during the day.The best is to start with the pollen during the winter time until spring or summer until fall.You do this one or two times per year…Take probiotics every day.

In addition, you can take QuercitinBromelainNAC Supplement (N-Acetyl Cysteine)Alkelising vitamin C
Allergies are connected to the liver and gut…When you consume junk food, alcohol, and fatty food, your liver is overwhelmed and these described remedies will not work. 
The best would be if you get bee pollen from your locality.
Or you can also try in a smaller portion of bee bread… 

My Video:  Get Relief from Hay fever. https://youtu.be/I-9nyQdr7AoMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Get-Relief-from-Hay fever.mp3

 We were growing up with: “to be happy is the best”… and “to feel bad is bad” … And so we were forced to suppress our negative feelings and to suffer by getting diseases or depression through our hidden feelings. We learned that we can fix our bad feelings, through seeing TV, eating sweets, taking drugs, go shopping …. For what?
When I was a Sannyasin of Bhagwan we had to wear red. When we, my darling and me separated from our awesome Love Story … we got so many spiritual rewards for our deep love from the creator… I felt very sad. So I wore black. Because I felt so and I was proud that I could honestly show my feelings as they were and didn’t make any “be happy”, or “be okay” show.  Our community was challenged by my behavior and accepted it. 
From this very time on, I refuse to make any “be happy” show, regardless what my darlings, chiefs think… when I was crying or angry in front of them.  You never can reward yourself more than to be authentic and to show your feelings as they are.
Because only you can give you the permission to be authentic and not to be a puppet.
The great Sri Aurobindo said: The vessel of joy is out of sorrow. 
So deeper we can feel our negative feelings so more happiness and love we can feel. 
The Zen is saying: feel your feelings and don’t be your feelings!
We let flow our feelings and don’t stick to any feelings nor to prefer any emotion! 
If we do so we can go beyond our feelings, thoughts, and body. Yes, that is possible! With judging, we never can reach such high spiritual plateau. 
Emotions are just emotions, nothing more!
Normally during the day our emotions going up and down. And if we feel bad, we try:
Breath deep in your feelings.Make sport.Think: Thank you, that I can feel that emotion. Regardless of what, let flow your emotion. 
After some time, we can accept our emotions and the feelings of other beings much better, without to go into panic mode. Alone that is priceless. Later we become more and more detached from our emotions and can watch our feelings! And this is true spirituality! 




My Video: Enjoy feeling bad  https://youtu.be/gCgGIMnJvgwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Enjoy-feeling-bad.mp3

 1.)Wrong or too less communication about what you want, how you feel leads to divorce. Communicate what you want and accept what your spouse expect from you!When both are hurting each other continuously, the love will end soon. Communicate what hurts you, without blemishing the other person!!! Because everybody is responsible for his/her life! 
2.)Sex is not working out. I don’t care if you agree or not… Males and females have a sexual drive and if the sex is not working out then the cheating will happen. The sexual drive is the second strongest drive of the human species. In the older age, the sex drive diminishes. Talk about openly what you want, without hurting each other. It might be scaring!
3.)Money problem… There exist only 10% of the people who love to save money and 90% are overspender. What happens if a saver is together with an overspender? Clashes….  Money problems lead to 50% to divorces. Talk openly about your debts, income and how much you save every month! T. Harv Eker has created for that a great system… 
4.) Connect with the spouse family and check out what they expect from you. Otherwise, the spouse family can harm your relationship tremendous. For instance, in Asia is the family more important than the spouse, can you live with that?
5.) Distributing the dirty work. When both are working, both should make the cleaning. Create a good system for both!
6.) Understand the need and the kind of love your partner need. For instance, some girls love to kiss always and I don’t like that. I like more to embrace without kissing. Talk about that.
7.) Religion. Do you have different Religions and so different obligations?  Like to be a vegan or … Talk about that, and also in which Religion the kids should be baptized. 

My Video: The 7 biggest obstacles in marriages  https://youtu.be/ZhB2llz3hiUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-7-biggest-obstacles-in-marriages.mp3

 Somehow we all feel that there is something missing when we are not occupied. Be it to work, to do Facebook, see videos on YouTube…If we finish something then we are in a void,- like when we switch a gear in a car we have to pass neutral. And with this neutral we are unsatisfied. Even we pass the neutral when we switch gears, our car is still moving… and so our thoughts. 
In the situation of emptiness, we can face: Fear of a void or emptiness.Fear to be alone.Fear of purpose, mission.Fear to be unimportant Fear to miss-out. Fear to be meaningless.Fear not to have the right drive.Fear to wast our time for meaningless things.Fear of death.
All kind of these fears indicates that we don’t feel whole.
If we want to avoid that void should we be always in the Hamster Treadmill? 
Imagine you are in a talk with your new boy- or girlfriend and then it happens that nobody is speaking. We feel directly uncomfortable.- Because we want to keep talking, instead to feel the presence and love of our darling. In this case, the silence of our talk is the best what can happen to us. Because it force us to feel instead to be in our head occupied with talking.If lovers would talk less they would love more!!!
Our mind or ego does not like to stop or to finish and then to be meaningless.We can’t stop our thoughts, we even think more when we have finished something.And then our suppressed fears are creating a stream of thoughts, that most of the time is negative. 
It is ridiculous that we must be always occupied for not to be in this void or break!Instead, we should enjoy our void and relax!
We run with all of our activities away from ourselves. The wholeness is inside of ourselves and we try our best through our activities to avoid our wholeness. The wholeness is in this emptiness or void, but we can’t feel that. 
Imagine you are sitting in the waiting room of a doctor with many people in front of you. You expect to wait 2 hours for the doctor. The doctor has no TV, magazines, Internet and it is forbidden to use your smartphone because it interferes with the medical devices. And talking is disturbing the doctor. What for a torture!!! The doctor can’t understand the problem of waiting. Because he loves to meditate and to repeat the name of God in his free time. His focus is on God and for him is God the greatest thing besides his selfless service to humanity! 
If we learn to do like the doctor we are eager to use our void/free time or break to focus on God and meditation. We don’t need for that a meditation room, meditation music…, we can do it everywhere. 
We can be whole when we meditate, relax and/or focus on God! We never can feel wholeness when we are occupied with worldly things! Worldly matters can only give us for a moment peace and then we are again in the Hamster Treadmill! 
My Video: The Longing for Wholeness  https://youtu.be/aL0EaLpz9IwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-Longing-for-Wholeness.mp3