Relax with Meditation

 If you don’t want to have sex again, get married…Sex is the biggest issue in the marriage, then comes money…
Only 7% of all married couples have sex more than 1 a week…. 20% of marriages are sexless this means less than 10 times a year.
Unmarried people have more sex than married people.Most brides don’t have sex on their wedding night.
There are many couples who didn’t have sex for years… That is only okay when they both happy.The problem is when one body wants sex and the other doesn’t.
50% of the men would not have married if they have known that their marriage would be so nonsexual.50% of the husbands are not satisfied with their sex.  Why?No excitement by longterm relationships.After 2 years of marriage, the sexual arousal diminished and after 1 decade the sex is over. And for that helps only communication…
Our sex education makes sex dirty and bad… so that we feel guilty to enjoy sex. 
Our sex education is:
For males: Pornos and no education for intimacy…Females are educated for sex diseases and to avoid pregnancy. Is that very stimulating for having sex.…?
We are overloaded with problems and have no time to enjoy sex.10% of the people check their smartphone during sex.35% check immediately their smartphone after sex.
We are connected to the Internet and are disconnected to our lovers.
Most men complain that women don’t initiate sex. Because of our sexual education, the men should start with sex. If women don’t initiate sex, the sex will diminish.
How arouse sexual a wife?Give her a Mercedes SL or to procreate a baby or to have an affair.
If one of the both have too less sex, what will happen?Males cheat with another girl, prostitute, or online sex.Women cheat with other guys or other women. What is the reason not to have sex?
Sexual abuse in the childhood and that is so common. The parents have sex with their kids or nephews. 
For instance, my male friend had to give as a kid oral sex to his aunt, grandmother, and neighbor son… Or my gay uncle wanted to have sex with us. Sorry, from that time I hated all gays….  
To heal the sexual abuse needs a lifetime.
The parents tell their kids that sex is so dirty because they don’t have sex or can’t enjoy sex.

Male problems with sex:
Male in their aging above 40 gets a rectal dysfunction … Because of: 
Heart problems,Diabetes,low testosterone,Stress,Unresolved problems,Financial issues,Abuse,Excessive Alcohol consumes.
Couples who live in a nonsexual marriage feel:
Unloved, Frustrated,Undesirable,Unattractive,Lonely.
Loneliness leads to heart problems and so to an early death.
You can have sex your whole life when: You are healthy.Daily workout is necessary because of blood flow.Pay more attention to your spouse than to your smartphone.Spend more time in your bedrooms than in your boardrooms. Deal with your marriage issues.Sleep in the same bed at the same time.Sleep naked. And have guidelines for sex outside of your marriage… 

My Video: Marriage and Sex? https://youtu.be/nuv5LejfO9cMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Marriage-and-Sex.mp3

 You wake up in the morning and think about your work or study. You switch on your TV, prepare your breakfast, hear and see TV simultaneously…
Try one new thing that will make a huge difference in your life…. Switch off the TV…Now you can focus to make your breakfast, hear the cutting noise of your knife and even taste the food with full awareness.And you have time to talk a little bit to your partner and to see him/her in their eyes. What for a huge difference instead to use the TV as a distraction. Maybe you feel love for your partner… Your noisy life becomes more remote. 
Without the TV you maybe miss the distraction or you maybe encounter some emptiness or void feeling.Never the less life becomes more vivid and you slow down. 
Next step, get rid of your TV… And then there is more time for love, for the children and to relax without distraction.
It is proved that families without TV are living happier. Why don’t you want that too?
My Video: How to change easily with less? https://youtu.be/ddb8qaYE0lkMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-change-easily-with-less.mp3

 In Animals, we find the solution for our anger. The animals are getting angry to protect themselves… 
We all know the freeze and fly reflex from the animals to escape from that dangerous situation and that means fear. 
If our mind/ego experiences a dangerous situation we can try to escape, cry or to defense us with anger.
What is the best? For the psychologists is anger the best. Because we remain in control of the situation and can find a solution.
We need anger to change a situation!
How can we change a devastating situation when we are not motivated or when we are depressed? 
With Anger, we can transform a devastating situation because we have the power.
When we are happy or angry we can take much more risk to get what we want. Instead to wait to get the things done. 
I use my anger for things, that I have to do and have been too lazy. For instance, I make the garden.

What should we do when we are angry?

1.) We should be aware why we are angry and most of the time we even don’t know it… Because we have gathered inside of us frustration from many different situations and then we burst into anger. Or memories of our childhood or past facing and trigger our anger. What was actually the reason for our anger? If we don’t know it, then who cares? 

2.) When we are overwhelmed by our anger, we need to make body exercise to get our anger under control… And to do somebody exercise is good. Even under anger, we can make our best sports achievements. And that should be good, or!

3.) We breathe for some time deep in our anger to get more calmness and to identify our anger. Maybe we have understood each other wrong as usual. Or maybe the other person has a different agenda. 

4.) When we are in an angry dispute we look in the eyes of our offender and if it is possible we get in touch with that person,-  held their hands. Anger disappears. Because we feel compassion for our victim.


My Video: The Secret to Using Anger in a Positive Way https://youtu.be/U4dKa4tCJQIMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/The-Secret-to-Using-Anger-in-a-Positive-Way.mp3

 

Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.
It's fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure. 
We always overestimate the change that will occur in the next two years and underestimate the change that will occur in the next ten. Don't let yourself be lulled into inaction.
We all need people who will give us feedback. That's how we improve.
Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.
If you can't make it good, at least make it look good.
Treatment without prevention is simply unsustainable.
Intellectual property has the shelf life of a banana.
I think it's fair to say that personal computers have become the most empowering tool we've ever created. They're tools of communication, they're tools of creativity, and they can be shaped by their user.
Everyone needs a coach. It doesn't matter whether you're a basketball player, a tennis player, a gymnast or a bridge player. 
If your culture doesn't like geeks, you are in real trouble. 
Legacy is a stupid thing! I don't want a legacy.
Innovation is moving at a scarily fast pace. 
I never took a day off in my twenties. Not one. And I'm still fanatical, but now I'm a little less fanatical.
By improving health, empowering women, population growth comes down.


My Video: Quotes Bill Gates https://youtu.be/lz7llAs3xH8My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Quotes-Bill-Gates.mp3

 We all have done many mistakes and I hope we have learned from them.
If we would start fresh with our lives what should we do?
1.) When we start to work or do anything.- Be humble and work your way up, instead to wait for your great chance. Maybe your great chance will never come … In the meantime, you could get experience, connection in the area where you like to be.
2.) Be flexible and adjust to that situation. We have to deal always with bad people, critical situations…. When we complain or want to change our environment for a better situation or better people we can’t. We are always at the right place at the right time, to learn the right things.Think this over! The grass is not greener in the neighbor garden. Try to accept the situation and do your best!
3.) Adapt to a healthy lifestyle. Health is our greatest asset. I have learned that quite early when I was so ill with 21… Today I am living total healthy and are total fit with 60 years old. Try to compete with me!!!
4.) Try to challenge your mind every day. Don’t be lazy learn every day. First, it is fun second, it keeps us mentally healthy. When I made my Yacht license with 55, the examiner said, now starts the journey of learning… And she was right.
5.) Chose to be happy with the things that you already have. Otherwise, you will be never happy. And be thankful for everything.
6.) Learn to save money, instead to be indulged in overspending. Life will be much easier.
7.) Learn to serve and please the people. Ego trips will never pay out! Try to entertain all kind of people. If you do so your life will be much easier!
8.) We all fail. So more we fail so better we get. Don’t give up. A failure is a person who gives up and is afraid of failing. Learn to fail without to punish yourself or other people. Learn to enjoy your failing, Life will be wonderful. 
9.) Try to improve your habits every day and learn good habits. And make this your whole life… If you do the wrong, then just adjust to the right. We can not be right all the time! We will never be perfect. We focus to do better every day and that is enough. Don’t punish yourself for your mistakes!! Next time you do better! 
My Video: How to start a good life?  https://youtu.be/BUTk5JF9XL4My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-start-a-good-life.mp3

 Don’t be a people pleaser because of your low self-esteem or lack of confidence. In the end, you harm yourself and the others and can’t live a fulfilled life. Because the people pleaser becomes over time more and more unsatisfied and frustrated and much later cannot fulfill the desires of others. He ends up with an unhealthy lifestyle and drugs.
In our Childhood, we have learned to please our parents.We learned to say “Yes” to help other people, to step back from our desires… And that was right for our childhood because as a kid we have enough time. The results are, that we are anxious to be ourselves and don’t demand what we really want.  Today we have not the time to help everybody and we need also that our kids are doing what we want. 
What is for saying “No”?
Warren Buffet said: The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say “No” to almost everything.” 
We should learn to say “Yes” only when it is necessary. Don’t waste your time on minor problems. 
For Oprah Winfrey was one of the most important lessons in her life to say “No”. She learned it on the hard way when she was struggling to say “No”. “I finally got to this question: What do I want?”
If we are overloaded with too many jobs, we have to decide what we want and to use our time efficiently. 
How can we learn to say “No” even it feels better to say “Yes”? 
We start to say “No” to not so important things. We learn in baby steps to say “No” to everything that is not necessary for our life.
When or how to say “No”?
1.) When you feel obligated to help. Ask yourself, Why should I help? Are you afraid of a negative feedback if you put yourself at first? If we have the time, I think we should help. Why not? If we are forced to help instead to decide freely, and if there is not a must, Say always “No”.  Because the people learn so that blackmailing or giving you are bad consciousness is not working for you. 
2.) Resist the fear of missing out. That is similar to any obligation to help because we are afraid of negative consequences. Ask yourself, do I miss out on my life if I can use my time for myself, instead to help? If helping makes you happier, then help!If you afraid of negative consequences when you don’t help, try out not to help. 
 3.) When you immediately should help without looking what else you want to do. Wait, look what you had planned previously and then decide. Often, I have agreed with too many things and forgot my own agenda.
4.) Learn to say “No”, in a confident and kindly way, without hurting anybody… Give a clear, brief description, why you can’t help. Don’t lie!
5.) Be open for a “No” or a “Yes”. Say, I don’t know if I have the time to help, we will see later. You remain kind and don’t put yourself under pressure.

My Video: Learn to say “NO” https://youtu.be/Nn4stFpVCmUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Learn-to-say-NO.mp3

 

We learned that detachment is better than to be identified with a subject…And this can be true, and can be wrong…
For instance: Do you love being detached? You work detached, and the fun is over?Are you passionate about training your skills?You are very passionate about doing your things and then you fail again and again…For instance, you play football or play tennis or fight… The best football players, tennis players, or fighters are always calm because only then can they be in the flow and effective… 
We should go deep in love…Love without awareness is sorrow, tells us the Gita.This means we should be able to distance ourselves from what we love…If we are enslaved in the relationship and call that love, that is nonsense.Only when we are independent of our darling, we can love!So more we are independent so deeper can be our love!We need also for love some detachment… 
Detachment means you don’t care how you work?Detachment means you don’t care for the result?
Detachment means to work effective, be relaxed, be in the flow, to do your best and don’t focus your mind on the results, instead focus your mind on the work that you do right now.

The solution is not found in the problem.You have to go out of the problem so that you can look at it, and make an assessment. 
The detachment paradox...If you are too obsessed or over-attached to a problem you become ineffective...If you don’t care, you can’t be effective in solving the problem…

We can have detachment from ourselves, from the Timelines of the goals that we have, and from our performance….If you are over-detached in these 3 areas, your results will get worse…and your life will get worse and up to 10 times harder…For instance, you can’t pay your bills, your relationships are messing up…And you are detached?
Detached is about focusing on your chosen subject and you let go of what doesn’t work, what doesn’t fit.
Excess importance that you give to a subject is equal to anxiety …And that drains out your brain… To care too much, that blocks the energy or to be in the flow...You need to be relaxed to be effective …Excess importance on goals, people, and outcomes makes it worse.We need to have proper detachment to be effective. 
Detachment from ourselves…Too much importance or to care too much about ourselves is:For instance: Dating...How other people see us or how we come across to other people. How much respect or attention do we get…How we pose… We make the whole thing about us.Instead of serving well other people.If we care, about how we serve well other people, we get respect, love, attention...
Then we relax and can go in the flow.
Detachment for timeline from our goals:
I have to be a Millionaire with 30 …Get married with 24, kids with 25, own firm with 27, and first heart attach when? And that can mess up…Relax and be effective, do your best… and most of the things/people/environment you don’t have under your control.  Life is different than we plan. 
Pressure creates Diamonds and destroys life!High pressure makes everybody ineffective.When I was the supervisor, my job was to make the people relaxed to be effective…Take the tension away and things are working much better.Pressure on goals is focused on short-term results and not on long-term results that we mostly need for our goals. I think, let God decide when I get the things…Let me decide to do my best!And I got so much more, but never to the time I wanted it desperately! Fuxx you … Go out of the way from your ego!
Performance - Depends on many things that we don’t have under our control. In reality, we need confidence or trust in things that we do… When you trust yourself you are detached. You don’t overthink, you trust your abilities.In relationships, trust is needed when we are vulnerable and get hurt…Over attachment is a control problem…We want to control our spouse and environment … and that is the best to get shipwrecked. 

My Video: Detachment Will Change Your Life! https://youtu.be/AnVkt1QHWa0My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Detachment-Will-Change-Your-Life.mp3

 Everybody experience that we love distractions and procrastinate on the things what we love to do. 
What can we do, when we can’t follow up our mission or goal in our life?
1.) We have inside conflicts that we don’t want to see or feel. We ask ourselves:  What conflicts or problems we have inside that we don’t want to see? We don’t want to reject our conflicts and problems inside of us. We open up to our suppressed feelings and thoughts and give them a timeline to watch and to feel them. After some time we recover and are open again.
2.) We don’t recognize which gifts we have and looking for praise outside of us. Without acknowledges from others we can’t be focused. We are like kids who are looking for attention by our parents for everything that we have done. Instead to be grateful for what we can do, regardless how much praise we get. Do we like to be enslaved or an attention beggar? Just do it and have your fun with it!
3.) We are overworked and don’t like to function anymore. Because we want more playtime and need more pleasure. Then we are looking for a distraction. Instead just to use our free time to relax, to enjoy, or to make other fulfilling things. So that we can start fresh. 
4.) Artistic break. We need a rest, to distance us from our work to get inspiration. 
We write a list, why we have chosen that goal or have that mission. How great would it be to accomplish our goals?We feel our purpose in our life. We always remember why are we making the things instead just to do them. That will encourage us much more to do our tasks when we are in a low mood or stressed out.  


My Video: Why we lose our focus? https://youtu.be/urXJBXzU5ocMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Why-we-lose-our-focus.mp3

 If we can’t communicate openly about something we want we can’t get it!
Zava (on-line medical service) has done a survive about sex with more than 1000 couples across the USA and Europe.
The results are: 
1.)Talking about sex leads to a better sex life!
2.) 54% improvements in sexual satisfaction once the communication has started regardless if the couple has been on a high level or low level of sexual satisfaction.
It is proved since over 50 years when the sex or communication is down the relationship is also down. We need a good communication about our problems and we need also good sex. Both are equal.
Why we can’t communicate about our sexual desires in front of our spouse?
Zava survey found out:
1.)We are scared to hurt our partner when we talk about our sexual desires.
2.)We are embarrassed to communicate about sex with our partner.
When we are scared to communicate about our problems with our partner, in any case, we hurt our relationship. We need trust for a good relationship and if we can’t speak about our feelings or sex we have a B.S. relationship. 
Imagine, You have sex with your wife and your wife pretends always an orgasm, and didn’t have an orgasm with you. Even worse she used to have a great sex-life with her previous partner… How would you feel, if she would stop to have sex with you after some years?Do you think that both of you have missed out a great chance to bond together with a great sex life? 
Is not communication about sex necessary at least for the females? What is if your partner loves different sex position and never communicate about that? 
For instance, I came across that females in Latin America don’t like the missionary position because they are afraid to face God when they have sex! Even they like to have sex in the standing position. For me, this was totally weird. 
What is if our partner loves to break taboos in sex and we don’t know it? We never can satisfy our loved one. 
What about looking porno? There is a drastic difference between male and female.The top three categories women view are Lesbian, Gay (male) and Teen Porn.For men are: Teen, MILF, and Mature Porn.
We have to make sure that both of us enjoying their sex-life even we have to break our taboos in sex. 

How to communicate about sex?
1.)Let your partner know when he/she did it well for you.
2.)Write a note what you love about sex instead to speak it out.
3.)Check out some sex books and read it together as inspiration.
4.) Get visual and see a porno together.
5.) Go slowly in the direction you want with your sex and communicate about that. 

My Video: How to get your sex-life as you want it? https://youtu.be/6d8pwSIZ_goMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-get-your-sex-life-as-you-want-it.mp3

 If I know deep inside that I can do it, without that I can logically prove it … I believe. And that might be for other people fanaticism.So deeper my belief for a positive outcome so better.What is if I believe the doctor is right that I have for instance terminal cancer?Then this belief will kill me. 
For instance, the doctors found out that the father in law from Antonie Robbins had a terminal brain tumor and would die soon. A. Robbins forbade the doctors to tell his father in law anything about his tumor. And so his father in law lived happily for years… After some years, a doctor told his father in law, he has a terminal brain tumor, the father in law died within 14 days. 
In this case, the father had the fanaticism to believe in the doctors and so he died. I had at least 6 times incurable diseases,- cured them all by myself. I was two times killed by doctors (clinical dad)… 
If I believe that every disease can be cured with the help of God, regardless what any stupid doctor is telling me, the disease can be healed. 
We need a good concept (how to cure our disease) in that we believe and with the faith in God we can cure every disease. 
A belief is always positive and a fanaticism is always negative. 
We need to believe in God and without demanding anything. So that God can choose (he will do it in any case).
If we fanatic believe in God/Allah and sacrifice our life for the sake of a Religion leader we harm us, the believer in God, the society, and our family.  This never will work out. Fanaticism has always a negative outcome!
What is if we believe in God; - that God knows it better for us and should decide for us. Through this belief in God, we get peace in our mind and don’t demand things we could not get, even we have done everything. 
Because we can’t calculate any outcome. We depend on so many things, that we even can fail in any way. Still, we are thankful for any outcome. Because everything is in the hands of God. And God knows it better. Through that, we gain trust and faith in God and can live a positive life. 
Even more, after some time we experience miracles because of our faith in God. And that discriminates a God believer from the rest of the world. Deep Faith in God is priceless and I think there exists nothing better. 
Fanaticism has never a positive outcome. And still, everybody has such fanaticism inside of us, that harms us.  Discover your negative beliefs or fanaticism that are inside of you.

My Video: Is Belief = Fanaticism? https://youtu.be/ji_C9AiXttgMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/Is-Belief-Fanaticism.mp3