Relax with Meditation

 Looks really masochistic.... For sure the meanings is not that we are looking for suffering or hardship...  The meaning is rather more that we learn to appreciate our difficulties and to be thankful for that, instead to blemish our circumstances or people, be it our spouse or chief...
The Sufis are saying build your enemies a throne... because we profit from them at most and not from our friends who confirm our personality instead to challenge us to become better...
If we see the hardships as learning opportunity instead of complaining or fighting against our hardship, we profit from every hardship... After we had realized that our attitude was wrong or that we have been wrong or that we have to adapt to the situation and that not necessary our world (how we conceive) was right.... our personality changes...and so us or our world. We become open for new opportunities, start a new life...
The greatest opportunities in our life are during our worst suffering/hardships, where we can connect with God/Allah and in good times we never can do so. Maybe you understand the story from Hiob (Bible), where Hiob got all the hardships from the devil to get tested from the Lord... And so it was/will be with every god seeker, Bhakti Yogi or Sufi.... we go through the tests of the Lord and our life will be transformed, when we fix our mind and heart on the Lord. 
I got so many tests from the Lord, and the last big test was, when I was laying in the hospital, my entire body was paralyzed, the doctors could not help me... I just repeated the name of the Lord (this time it was Allah) and gave thank you to God...And then I imagine that I can do it by myself- to walk out of the hospital,..... so I did after 7 hours... Would you have more faith in God if this had happened to you?


My video: The worst times are the best! https://youtu.be/5gsXfyrXpWYMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/The-worst-times-are-the-best.mp3

 Without acceptance, we can’t change our situation.We all have many desires and want them fulfilled. The problem is that we think if we can’t modify the situation then we can’t be happy… And this is wrong. 
Everybody has seen an unhappy couple, followed up with the separation and changing the partners… Guess what happens, that both spouses previous together, were running into the same problems, then they had been before. Just to like to be rich, and to work like crazy to become rich is not enough, because then we will also loose very fast our wealth.
And this goes for every change in our life.
If we CAN’T accept the situation where we are in, then we CAN’T change the situation… we still remain in the same problems… This means we have first to change inside, to get another or better outcome.
I didn’t have any chance to get a girlfriend until 25 or worse to have a lovely and sexy relationship… My mother and my sister could not understand it, they said, you are total attractive to women, and you should have one girlfriend after the next.
What to do?
I started with therapy to change myself, to release my traumas, blockages, made tantra and guess what happens… I became what my mother and sister had predicted ... Now the next problem was, that I could not stand it, to have problems with my darling, because then my traumas were showing up and I became paralyzed in this situation it was so awful … Then I swore, that I never will separate on my term and will solve the problem first together with my therapist.  And that helped. Still, I attracted mainly women who wanted an adventure, … they just came to me, easy.
Convinced?
Now comes the homework!!!! Close your room, switch off your mobile phone and look at your relationships, your profession, your health… Close your eyes and honest feel what is missing and what is right on the first subject… When something is missing, make a list with things that you don’t like and feel every term, what you like to change… There must also be something good… make for that also a list.
Inside of our self, we have a program running, that might be in the way, that we can’t enjoy something on this particular subject/task and then we think that everything is bad or against us. For instance, I hated to represent my chief, when he was not present because I loved to finish my work. Then I complained, the other manager said simple, what you don’t like you have to learn… and so you should also represent me… And then I talked to him, how I could love that…? Change your perception, and be proud to represent us.  In the next firm, I became without applying the chief directly.
If you don’t find the solution, how to change your perception that you love this disliked task, ask your friends. And this you make with EVERYTHING in your life, step by step until you like the whole situation… your entire life!!!! Take your time, don’t rush!!!!

My video First accept and then change…https://youtu.be/5icVeFktdYwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/First-accept-and-then-change.mp3

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John Delony

Build a not anxious life.
What is the root of anxiety? 
You hear the smoke Alarm…Something is on fire.You smell the smoke.If you are anxious it means,Your body is working perfectly and you feel you are not safe.
We want to run away or to distract from our anxiety.
Anxiety can be our friend, a crippling friend, or an annoying friend.
How to get out of chronicle anxiety? 
I don’t want to live in a house with a smoke detector, because it is not safe?
Instead, ask yourself why your body wants to tell you that you are not safe?
If you have identified that you are lonely and deep in debt...Your body would fail if he would not tell you that you are so deep in debt.Instead of distraction look to solve your problem… then you can sleep.
Addiction is linked to anxiety.
Addiction means putting a pillar around the smoke detector so that you can’t feel the anxiety. For instance, drugs and distraction. It is easier to be occupied and distracted than to be vulnerable Because we want to numb our anxiety...Men should not be in public anxious, so they drink, be distracted instead of admitting I am anxious.So there is no model for them… to admit. 
Today we are in distraction mode and do not feel anything.Don’t look at reality.Don’t take ownership of your life. 
But your body knows that you neglect yourself and that you do have anxiety. Your body would fail if he let you sleep when you have deep problems… The society created all these methods, - drugs, TV, Internet, digital addiction not to feel anxiety… And so we were grown up and should keep quiet, should be calm, otherwise we were punished… Guess, later we took drugs, and smartphones, to calm down… 
Device communication is a distraction.
About kids… what is the worst for kids?Rage, anger, when the parents are out of control. Kids absorb, tension. Kids understand mother or dad would rather scroll on their smartphone than talk to them…  That are sanctions against kids.A connected parent will win always.So don’t use a smartphone at home with kids.
To be not enough creates again self doubt, fear…
The new cult of egocentrism and narcissism causes so much fear for everybody.
We have clipped all the connections to friends, the higher self, God, family, and love and have replaced them with narcissism, to do selfis and show how great we are on Facebook, other people should follow us or serve us… The result is isolation which causes anxiety.
Instead of surrendering to God, serve other people, serve your family…, believe in your family, and have a mission that takes away your anxiety and brings you peace.
Today we want to look good, how we win, how we succeed, how to make more, and be right instead of helping other people.
Anxiety in relationships
For relationships what is the worst? 
1. It is me over us. This means my ego is more precious than your ego and a good relationship,- so you have to serve me… 
2. It is more important how I feel and how you make me feel…
3. You did it and not me…

You can’t go back to where you were before in the relationship.For instance 9/11 attack … You can’t rebuild the building out of the dust…You have to create a new relationship out of the old relationship that is not working anymore.
In a relationship should be "us" more important than I.Today, most friction in a relationship is moody and infidelity 
Moody: Emotionally unstable, or bitchy.


My Video:  How to Work WITH Your Anxiety to HEAL Your Life https://youtu.be/E9LnGKHOrI4My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/How-to-Work-WITH-Your-Anxiety-to-HEAL-Your-Life.mp3 

 This will be very provocative and had been always…If we read: “The conference of the Birds” from Farid-ud-din Attar… from the greatest Sufi, Martyr of Love…. (died 900 years ago) 
Then we understand that true love is much more powerful than to renounce the world… Even it is the same…. Because if we surrender total (not 99%) to love to our darling, so that we (our ego) will die in the love … then for sure no worldly good will attract us anymore… because true love is much more. Our sexual life will not be important… because the love burns our ego and to the same time our body get satisfied and who cares for a dime (sex) when he has already a Billion (love)…. So that our sexual desires are emerged in our love and get transformed … If we renounce the world and live in Celibacy (I have done so for 10 years) then our body don’t get what our body needs,- sex. Our suppressed sexuality causes diseases …Lets go deeper in love…  Where is love is God or Allah!
Imagine Whitney Houston, this great and very beautiful singer was drug addicted and had a very abusive marriage. She was a huge temptation for almost every man… Was she divine or evil? Who cares? If we would fall in love with her and would love her total … it would burn our ego, because of the love and her bad habits … This means her bad habits would become the obstacles of love, that would test our love and drive our love… Love wants it difficult (Attar)… regardless how difficult it is, we surrender…. Through the surrendering to love, all of our bad habits, negativities are surfacing… and if we then abuse our darling we become the loser, instead to work on our negativity and bad habits. With other words, we let hurt us, go deep in our negative feelings and release them… without hurting our darling. And then our love will grow and can become divine in this love process….  
When I got my great chance in life to surrender to love to my darling, I said total yes… We made tantra and through that we were crying like crazy, and all the negative feelings went up, it was a dying every day. Every day we started new and had released our negative feelings from the day before… Our love went through the roof and also our spirituality. I got as an atheist my first God experience and it was actually the call of God to me… Our love became more difficult and greater every day and then we separated… One year later I renounced the world….
Sure Whitney Houston was divine and who cares for her bad habits will never be able to surrender to love… The bad habits from our darling are a must, in order that love can purify our soul… All these stupid abusing  of sex, shows that love is never an option or that we have fear of sex and fear to love. Allah is giving us a spouse, because we are weak (Koran). This means also, we become stronger through the confrontation of love to our spouse.   



My video: The Greatest Secret - Love  https://youtu.be/6SgBzEdwkk8My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/the-greatest-secret-Love.mp3

 Looks like a big issue? If we ask a happy child, what is the meaning of your life, it will not understand us… Because the meaning of life has nothing to do with happiness… If we have goals in our life, then these goals are like places on a map that we like to visit… it has nothing to do, how we travel and how much fun we have.For instance, as an 8-year-old child, I want to become an engineer and I could hardly learn to speak and to write. It was not possible to reach this goal … When I became an engineer after so much hardship, I experienced one of my worst life crises. Because I suffered too much for just such a stupid degree.Then I made therapy like crazy and were meditating every day … And I experience moments of incredible love, true happiness… Again what has this to do with the meaning of life?The reality is, that we want to connect with the Divine, with our life, with our self and that we want and need real love … We get hooked up with some substitutes for real love, happiness and think that we have to work like crazy to become great, well known, wealthy, very successful … Even Anthony Robbins is saying that most of the wealthy and successful people are not happy…. Because they always want more, and when they reach their goals, then immediately they want more… and can’t stop their drive to find inside of them self, the love, and happiness. 
After we find that the happiness is inside, we get hooked up and want more,- enlightenment… to become a great Guru, instead of to enjoy our life now!!!Life is a joke (Koran). 
The mind that wants enlightenment is the mind that prevents enlightenment.…(Zen)And now we can understand that our ego is in the way to enjoy our life. It is perfect to have our dreams, goals and to accomplish them. The problem is that our ego gets hooked up, and then we suffer.Why not enjoy every moment and working relaxed..?This is too hard for the ego because then our ego doesn't get the suffering.Ego is suffering, get rid of it, but don’t make an ego trip out of it…  
My video: What is the meaning of our life?  https://youtu.be/laW2T6IlE-4My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.A/What-is-the-meaning-of-our-life.mp3

 After a research in Germany, 95% of the mothers think that they are perfect… What for a nonsense!!!!!We don’t need to be perfect as parents, we need only be loving and forgiving. 
We know that we don’t have the children under our control and so not their education. Still, we can give them our love, compassion and forgiving….
If we have a seed of a tree and if we put it in the right soil and give it water, the tree will grow. We don’t have the tree under our control, that we really can determine how the tree will grow with all the branches, trunk and the leaves and this is beautiful. We only need to give the seed the right soil, enough water, and fertilizer.
 There are so many ego trips from the parents to model their child in a particular direction instead to let the child grow individual and to give the support that the child needs to become the best for itself. What I mean, my parents want for instance, that I become a businessman and not an engineer or Meditation Master….
The next mistake is that the parents want to be the best parents. How can we become the best parents? What are the best parents? For whom they are the best parents? It is the best that we get rid of all these high moralities/principles like never to beat our child…to be always ready to serve your child…. Instead to forgive ourselves that we are not perfect… 
Through their high moralities the parents forget their own feelings, and after some time the negative feelings had accumulated; they are getting very angry with their child, they become impatience and punish the child like crazy for everything…. Everybody had seen this scenery already. The solution is simple, if the parents are not enjoying their life, then the child has to suffer. Think over and be honest, can you love, when you are under stress, anxious, unhappy or depressed?
Isn’t it better not to be the perfect parents, but to be happy parents? What I have seen, the beating of a child isn’t the problem (I know, you will protest) but a lack of love and forgiveness are the problems for every child. I have seen it again and again in India, the children were beaten, but with this great love of their parents, they didn’t care. Mata Amritananda Mai said,  if I hand out a good thrashing including an abuse an Indian, he will come back smiling after a half hour; if I give a European or American an angry look, he will be depressed for the next three weeks…. And this is so true… Convinced?
 Children need love very much, and this is very important and not no violence… or other great moralities. The greatest thing is love, and this is more excellent than to keep the Ten Commandments (Bible, letter Romans). All we need is love, love, love  (Beatles)

My Video: Is it possible to be perfect as parents…? https://youtu.be/aA_f4qu867U
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I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.
One of the luckiest things that can happen to you in life is, I think, to have a happy childhood.
Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that's no reason not to give it.
One doesn't recognize the really important moments in one's life until it's too late.
Where large sums of money are concerned, it is advisable to trust nobody.
Very few of us are what we seem.
An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have. The older she gets the more interested he is in her.
Invention, in my opinion, arises directly from idleness, possibly also from laziness - to save oneself trouble.
Any woman can fool a man if she wants to and if he's in love with her.
Too much mercy... often resulted in further crimes which were fatal to innocent victims who need not have been victims if justice had been put first and mercy second.
The happy people are failures because they are on such good terms with themselves they don't give a damn.
There is nothing more thrilling in this world, I think, than having a child that is yours, and yet is mysteriously a stranger.
The popular idea that a child forgets easily is not an accurate one. Many people go right through life in the grip of an idea which has been impressed on them in very tender years.
Most successes are unhappy. That's why they are successes - they have to reassure themselves about themselves by achieving something that the world will notice.

My Video: Agatha Christie Quotes https://youtu.be/qgV9M0mH3sUMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Agatha-Christie-Quotes.mp3

 Because we want to relax, Don’t like to give our attention to the outside world, To preserve our energy if we stop speaking, listening and thinking…To gain easier peace in our mind. If we simultaneous work and speak then our work will suffer from that or our dialog with the other person or both. Instead, we work full concentrated to give our best to get our outcome and be relaxed. 
Many people speak continuously omit the silence because they feel insecure….  Almost all Chit Chatters speak over meaningless things and scared to tell 
what concerns them, what is important, omit to say honest their opinion, or like a politician to say in many words nothing.
If we like to communicate effectively, then we tell in short and accurate words our information, and if necessary we explain it, then everything will be great. That is communications. And the other time we don’t speak…Silence is Gold, speaking is Silver. (Bible)
People talking without speakingPeople hearing without listening(Song: The sound of silence) 
We can hear everywhere such talks, where both parties are speaking and don’t hear or understand what the other party is communicating… this means both parties are making monologues. Best example again are the Politician. Because they want to show how great he/she is and for what then listening?
How can we follow our intuition inside of us when we always speak. In the silence we find the truth. Again the song: The sound of silence:
Hello darkness, my old friend I've come to talk with you again Because a vision softly creeping Left its seeds while I was sleeping And the vision that was planted in my brain Still remains Within the sound of silence
The divine is communicating through silence, and if we are full of words, we can’t receive the divine. Only if we are empty, then we have space for the divine.And for that is to be in silence and in meditation so necessary. 
The good thing is, if we stop to speak we can much easier relax. And the meditation will make us empty and afterward will connect us with the divine.Every Prophet realized Guru has emphasize that silence is a must to communicate with the divine. Mohamed, for instance, had abused again and again people who were speaking too much.
I love to be together with people in silence and with Chit Chatter for sure not. They waste my time. 
My Video: Why is silence so important?  https://youtu.be/pTNbkO5D3cA
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By Prof. Andrew Huberman
Looks contradicting?
Rewards for working, don’t make sense?
Do it because you love it instead of doing it for a reward.
Imagine you let a group of kids draw pictures…The kids have fun … 
Then You give every kid for drawing a picture a reward…
After some time, the kids who love to draw pictures no longer draw any pictures without getting a reward.
Even worse drawing a picture is for the kids, no fun anymore. 
Prof. Huberman explains the reason… The brain produces the neurotransmitter Dopamine to get something accomplished and then we feel good.
When the kids could draw pictures without a reward, the brain also produced Dopamine… so drawing was fun.
After giving a reward for drawing a picture, the brain didn’t produce additional Dopamine during the time of drawing.After the picture was ready, the brain produced Dopamine…
The goal is the path!
It is the journey, not the destination, that is the reward.
Strategies:
1. Don’t spike your dopamine before effort or after effort, but get your dopamine from the effort itself.  That’s literally the code to unleashing the Beast - That’s real
2. Take baby steps to accomplish something meaningful… And then you get your Dopamine...
3. If we ask before we do a task, why should we do it?We find the reasons why we should work… That gives us from the beginning of the work Dopamine…And the work becomes more enjoyable and so more fun. Because the work becomes meaningful, our brain produces Dopamine.
4. Just do it and don’t think over it, why should you not do it. 

My Video: With Rewards, you can't enjoy work! https://youtu.be/0nY5tbyePZM My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/With-Rewards-you-can't-enjoy-work.mp3