Thanks for joining us at Renew You Podcast where we are launching our latest Series - The End of Your Rope.  Get inspired as we unpack conversations with a lineup of the most inspiring, brave and courageous women. Each endured a different type of life changing adversity and came to the end of their rope – the end of themselves and let go of their own way of doing things.  

Today we invited Bonnie to share her story of how God met her at the end of her rope in overcoming codependency and love addiction….and led her through recovery and success to walk fully in her calling and purpose.   

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com

RENEW YOU PODCAST hosted by Rachel Lee and Linda NiemanSeries 2:  Episode 1 - The End of Your Rope! With Special Guest: Jordan Mercedes, Master Credentialed Coach

We are excited to open up this new series with the amazing Coach Jordan Mercedes, who is a Master Credentialed Coach, working with leaders and coaches to help them blend the most important elements of outstanding leadership, their head and their heart. 

We can’t wait to unpack Jordan’s story of how God ignited and turned up the heat on her own heart transformation.   

Connect with Jordan Mercedes at https://www.jordanmercedes.com

Being kind to others is something that typically comes naturally to most people, however most of us struggle with being kind to ourselves.  What does it look like when we are not kind to ourselves?  

Rachel and Linda unpack being kind to ourselves in our final episode in our series.  This episode is rich with thought provoking content that applies to everyone, not just our Single Again listeners.  After a failed relationship or after losing  our partners in death, we can go into a motion of looking at all the things we wished we had done better, the things we did wrong, and let fear take hold in obsessing about the future.  If we allow our thoughts to go there we can get into an unfair internal battle with both hands tied up behind our back and humiliate and beat ourselves up.  It all starts with giving just a little real estate in our minds to the inner critic and letting perfectionism take root. 

If we aren’t careful the inner critic can take over your lives with toxic expectations of should have, could haves and would haves.  Linda and Rachel share truths on how to crush the inner critic in order to befriend and encourage your damaged self.

Step into your Single Again Success and delight in your next chapter by hitting the pause button and ground yourself in truth and love.

Thank you for all your support listeners. We could not have done this without all of you!  We are so encouraged to keep our Podcast moving forward and have plans to roll out exciting new topics to stir up your confidence, increase your joy, foster healthy relationships, designed to help you step into your most successful and authentic life.

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com

After the end of your relationship, thinking about dating can feel like a scary venture for some and for others it may feel like time is running out. Knowing when to start dating after becoming single again isn’t always an easy decision but one of the most important decisions you can make. 

The truth is that there is not an easy recipe to know the magic timeline to start dating again. 

Dating can offer an opportunity to step into something that can be exciting while at the same time slightly terrifying.  Linda and Rachel share practical considerations, deep conversations and unpack key signs to ask yourself to know when it will feel right for you.  Join us as we unpack the key to finding joy in this journey of dating again.

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com

Without time and proper healing, it is really easy to carry anger, bitterness and resentment into your new life after the breakup. Linda and Rachel share some heavy truths that the things we say to our kids about our ex might seem harmless, but can carry damage for years to come.  If we aren’t intentional with our words it can create more anxiety and fear for children as they transition into a new lifestyle they had no choice in.

Honoring our kids' relationship with the other parent has big payoffs for everyone involved. 

Linda and Rachel dive into the fact that it isn’t always possible to be perfect or have healthy boundaries in toxic breakups. Having grace for yourself and hitting the reset button is never too late.  

Rachel and Linda talk about the benefits of staying in check with emotions and words to serve our children as role models and ease their fears around having a life that is separate from you.

Journaling Prompts:

Whooooaaaa did you say STALKING??!!  Yes we actually went there - Linda and Rachel talk about how to avoid Stalking behavior, and we aren’t just talking about someone stalking you!   When you hear Stalking it sounds pretty sinister doesn’t it?  But stalking can come up pretty innocently and sometimes we might slip into it without realizing it.  Linda and Rachel talk about ways that they may have slipped into stalking behavior unknowingly.  This conversation sheds light on a few covert ways one might slip into this pattern and why we should avoid doing it.  As you become Single Again we need to stay in check and be accountable for our own behavior to make sure we aren’t crossing the line. During this transition it can become confusing, it literally is  unraveling of what life was to a new normal of having separate lives. Rachel and Linda also discuss what new healthy boundaries might look like to keep a healthy space for where you end and someone else begins.

Journaling Prompts:

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com

Wow a little more than halfway home with this sixth episode of our 10 week series of Single Again! Stable, Secure and Successful!   Linda and Rachel unpack the topic on boundaries.  We all have heard about them but do we really understand the basics - what are Boundaries, why should you have them, and how to create them.  Single Again can be a particularly dicey time especially when it's fresh and you leave your significant other and you’re on your own for the first time in a LOOOONG time.  What do you need to keep in mind when you have just gone separate directions (either Divorce, Separation or a break up from a long term relationship).  This new status change can bring up new stresses that you can’t anticipate.  Linda and Rachel discuss a few insights in how you can best arm and protect yourself from any messy emotions that might be lurking around the corner.  Thinking about a self-care strategy is important to plan in advance and boundaries allow you to reclaim your power and stay focused on the new life you are trying to innovate.

Journaling Prompts:

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com

In today's episode Linda and Rachel have a conversation about being mindful of our numbing behaviors. Do you numb out?  Most people have a natural inclination to numb out to avoid stressful and perhaps painful thoughts and emotions that affect our lives especially as we become Single Again!!  Numbing behaviors in dealing with our new life can sometimes be overt and obvious and other times are covert that we don’t even realize what we are doing.  We may indulge ourselves in behaviors that self medicate to help manage stress or reduce pain. But It is important to note, not all of these behaviors are self harming, they may even be socially acceptable and encouraged.

What are your favorite numbing habits?  As you enter into this new season of becoming Single Again, being  aware of these patterns as a symptom to help us identify the root cause of our stress or pain.  Identifying and understanding of your habits, patterns and behaviors can lead to whole healing to live an empowered and authentic life.

Journaling prompts:

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com 

This weeks podcast Linda and Rachel start by introducing the topic of the importance of having support through community. Finding support is vital as we navigate what life looks like after loss of a relationship. The loss of relationships as we knew them can be agonizing and feel extremely lonely. It is necessary to find support. There are several ways to find that support. We will talk about what that looked like for us in the beginning of our singleness.

We talk about how important it is to choose the right people to support you. People who are safe, who listen, ask questions and allow you to move at the pace of healing and growth you need.  Linda also brings up the fun groups she became part of through Meet-up! There are so many ways to connect to others! 

Learn a bit more about how coaching can help you learn who you are, where you want to go and what is holding you back. 

As Coaches, we help our clients to create an inner awareness of what's going on, asking powerful questions, reflecting back what we hear or not hear, in order to help our clints have new insights and create new awareness around what they want or need to move forward!

Please let us know your thoughts! What topics you would love to hear about!

How has the topic of community and support impacted you? 

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel, visit:

 https://rachelleecoaching.com

In today's episode Linda and Rachel have a conversation about the importance of rediscovering what makes you happy and how to find your joy zone!  

With change often comes uncertainty, frustration, anger, resentment, doubt, confusion and so on. Remembering or rediscovering what makes you "happy" helps  to reconnect your heart to positive and joyful aspects of your life that matter and produce a sense of normalcy and happiness.   

We cannot change the past, we cannot live for tomorrow. Today is the only day we can do something about."The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today" H Jackson Brown Jr.

Apply the learning:

1. Make a list of all the things that make you happy/joyful. (Small and large)

2. Post the list somewhere you see it often. 

3. Commit to doing something on that list each day. 

If you would like to connect with Linda, visit: https://innovotalent.com OR connect with Rachel at https://www.rachelleecoaching.com