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Tamara K. Anderson interviews Cindy Cloninger on the Stories of Hope in Hard Times podcast. Cindy learned many lessons as her husband struggled with brain cancer. Enjoy her 5 lessons and 14 tips learned from the death of a spouse.5 Lessons & 14 Tips Learned from the Death of a SpouseAbout Cindy6 children who have issues ranging from cataracts, lyme disease, epilepsy, and MTHFR gene mutation (which means they don’t process folic acid).She is the biological mother of 5 and they adopted their youngest from China.She was also a foster mom.Her husband died of brain cancer in 2012.Cindy’s StoryCindy’s husband, John, was in the military throughout his career, and served several tours. He became a podiatrist. One day John came home from work with the most awful headache of his life and she had a feeling things were going to change.He was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer.The doctors did brain surgery to remove the tumor and John was back to practicing medicine within 3 weeks, which was a miracle. He also did chemotherapy and radiation, and had brain scans every other month.About a year after the surgery he started getting a little dizzy, which increasingly had got worse. When they did a follow-up brain scan, they found that the tumor had grown and spread throughout his brain.His doctors said that there was nothing more they could do for him other than try to stunt the growth and try to prolong his life.In one month John went from doing surgery on his patients, to being so dizzy he couldn’t stand and was in a wheelchair, along with partial paralysis.For her this was crushing! She was completely broadsided because he had been doing so well. There were moments that were surreal–kind of like a movie where time slows down.Cindy soon reached a tipping point, a moment of choice, of how she was going to act because she knew her kids would watch and follow.John’s Last Few MonthsThis started the hardest, the most beautiful and the most sanctifying time of Cindy’s life.With her husband in a wheelchair and declining rapidly, they took some of the life insurance money and went on a family trip to Mexico. There they celebrated her daughter’s 7th birthday.Cindy’s prayers began to change. She began to beg God, “Please don’t let my husband die near any of my children’s birthdays.” This was important to her because she didn’t want them to have to associate his death with their birthday every year.Another prayer was that they wouldn’t get very much snow that year because she didn’t want to stand in several feet of snow and bury her husband.They both wanted him to remain in their home until he died. This presented a bit of a physical challenge because she is 5’4″ and he was 6’1.” Amazingly, she was able to have him stay with them in their home until his death.As the lights began to bother him, Cindy brought him an umbrella he could hold to block the light. That way she was able to keep the light on and read books to him.She came home one day to find him in their children’s bedrooms downstairs singing children’s songs with them. He said, “These are the things that I cherish.”John finally reached the point where he couldn’t go down the stairs and having everyone in the room was too much. So, the kids rotated and each got to spend “dinner with dad” up in his room.As he further declined, she was able to shave, bathe and help her husband care for his body. She wouldn’t trade those experiences for anything. Cindy found a refining joy in serving her husband.About a year later there was a big debate about a person’s right to die, and Cindy was prompted to share her experience of her husband’s last few months on Facebook. She explained how although it was extremely hard, they are things she wouldn’t want to miss. Click here to read the blog post she wrote about his last few months.They had a hospice nurse check on them about once per month, but Cindy all of the CNA work herself.A Social Worker came and compiled a life history from his words. What a gift!Another mercy from God was that years before her husband even got sick her oldest son kept asking “What is February 20?” After reassuring him over several years that it wasn’t anyone’s birthday or anything special, February 20 became significant to their family in that it was the day that John died.That simple recurring question from their son became a witness to them that God was aware of their family’s path and situation–years before her husband’s death.Cindy feels that God guided her and strengthened her to help her children and her husband during this difficult time. Cindy described the feeling in her home as “buoyant” leading up to and after her husband’s death. It is ironic because you would think that their home would be a heavy place instead of a sanctuary.Lesson 1. The Power of MusicWith John’s cancer, it got to a point where he wasn’t sleeping well and kept trying to get up and falling in the middle of the night. This went on for several nights and Cindy was exhausted. She was able to get some respite help so she could get some sleep.As she was wondering what to do to help her husband sleep better, she remembered when their kids were little and would awaken that she would go in and sing to them. Her husband, John, would listen to her sing through the baby monitor. He told her then that when they were old and he couldn’t remember who he was, he wanted her to sing to him because it calmed him down.So, Cindy started singing to John when he was agitated in the middle of the night. As she did this, he would still and be calm. This was an answer to prayer.Cindy’s Favorite Lullaby Songs to Sing:Baby Mine from DumboStay Awake from Mary PoppinsAngel Lullaby from My Turn on EarthThis taught Cindy the power of music and the mercy of God in bringing this thought to her remembrance.Lesson 2. God is the same and has our eternal perspective in mind.Favorite Bible Verse“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever.” Hebrews 13:8Cindy loves this verse because as John was diagnosed with cancer she began to think back through her life and remembered moments when she had felt God’s love. She decided that if God loved her then, He loved her now and still wanted her best good.She knew God wasn’t trying to destroy her or her family–He was actually creating an eternal family for her. Gaining that eternal perspective was pivotal!Before this, Cindy understood the concept of eternity, and accepted that eternity would happen, but with John’s diagnosis and decline, eternity  became more real to her than it ever was before. She came to know that God had a plan for her and believed that earth life was part of God’s plan but not the entirety of God’s plan for her and her family.“I am part of a great plan–just for my family. The time we spend on earth is just a step in that plan, but what I really want for my family extends far beyond that.”She had to ask herself, “Do you really believe in the eternal nature of our souls? Do you really believe in God’s goodness and in His plan?”Cindy came to trust in the process God has for gaining knowledge and experience here on earth. She  feels like God has taught her several little truths first-hand about losing a spouse and now expects her to share them.Lesson 3. Postcards from Heaven & Gone but not Taken“One of the phrases or truths that I have is that he is gone but not taken.” John was gone from them physically, but God had not taken John from them at all–not ever.Cindy then described an example of this concept: She had a week of sick kids, and was exhausted. Then her 12-year-old daughter had a riddle math story problem she couldn’t figure out–and Cindy was too worn out to help her. She went to the couch and bawled “I can’t be both parents–I don’t have the capacity. You’re going to have to help her John.”Immediately after a picture opened up in her mind and she knew exactly how to solve the riddle math problem. She jumped up from the couch and ran over to her daughter and helped her solve the problem and saying, “I’m brilliant.”The next day she had a little “come to Jesus” moment and later told her kids that she wasn’t the brilliant one, but that their dad was helping out.This type of situation has been repeated many times where her husband has helped her parent in the way he would, or helped her children in very real ways.She can vividly remember feeling her husband beside her as she watched her son do Karate one day. John is still there, and is still their dad and wants to be a part of their lives.Different people have different experiences with loved ones who have passed on. Although she has never “seen” her husband, she has felt him many times. Cindy has felt a direct correlation between how close she is to God and how near she feels to her departed husband.When she feels John close to her she calls it “postcards from heaven” from those who have gone on.Lesson 4. Write down your truthsAfter John died she would wake up feeling heavy, try to build herself up during the day and then go to sleep only to wake up feeling heavy again. It was too hard to keep doing that.Cindy got notebooks and put one in her car, bedside table, and in her purse. This way she was able to  write down her truths, mantras, or other inspirations she learned along the way. Here are some examples of some of the truths Cindy found and wrote down:“God is not destroying my family, he is creating an eternal one”“Despite the forecast, I can live like it is Spring.”“I’m not moving on, I’m not moving forward, I’m not getting over it–I’m moving toward.”She intentionally doesn’t track time of how long it has been since her husband died. And when she accidentally stumbles upon it she tries to look at it differently. Instead of saying, “It has been 6 years since John died, she says, I am 6 years closer to seeing John again.”Lesson 5. Growth Happens in the ValleysWhen her husband first got sick and then died, Cindy mistakenly thought that once you had gone through one trial you were good and done. She believed it was, “One and done.” But she has found this to be untrue. Here are some of the challenges she has faced since her husband died:The son they adopted from China had several surgeries to fix his club feet, including being in a wheelchair for 6 months..Their youngest daughter developed severe epilepsyTheir oldest son got hemorrhagic dengue fever.“I’ve taken ownership of my trials, and I see their value. They are not things I would ask for, but they are not things I would trade.”“In the refiners fire, you want all the unimportant things burned out of your life.”If you look at a mountain you will notice that there is no growth on the tops of the mountains, the growth all happens in the valleys. And so it is with life–we all want to be on the tops of the mountains because of the view, but we grow the most when we are in the valleys of life.Story of Caleb in Old Testament where he asked for the hardest part, “Give me this mountain.” Joshua 14:12“The trials that we have…they are extremely beautiful. I have come to a place where I treasure them because of how they have changed us and what they have taught us and how they have helped us grow stronger together with each other and with our Father in Heaven.”Lessons Cindy’s Children Have Learned in Hard TimesThey have learned the benefit of trials,And have learned they can do hard things.They know how to offer encouragement to others,And they know life isn’t going to be easy.They know who to turn to in their hard times–God. And they know that with His strength they will be able to do hard things.They also learned the importance of a good sense of humor and how to joke about trials.Tip to helping children with the death of a parentEach night as they gathered for family prayer, she would ask them if they had any questions or things they didn’t understand and wanted to talk about.Cindy found that often other people would ask questions to her kids that they wouldn’t ask her. An example of this is, “Is your mom dating yet?” By asking if her children had any questions, it gave them a chance to talk about questions these crazy things that would come up.Things Not to Say or AskHang in there (like there is any other choice)You got this because you were stronger (her brother made the mistake of telling her this once and she told him that was pretty stupid to say because it doesn’t comfort anyone).God doesn’t give you more than you can handle (of course He does–or else how would we ever grow and get stronger?)Don’t ask what they are going to do in the future (they often are not even processing the next 5 minutes).Don’t ask “How are you doing today?” to someone who is in the depths of despair. Instead say statements like: “It is really good to see you,” “I’m glad you are here,” or “We love you so much, I’m glad you came.”14 Tips to Those in Hard TimesTrust the journey and the process.You learn step by step a piece at a time.Sometimes we want to skip to the end of the journey and learn the lessons, but it is a winding road and you need to trust the insight and tools you gain along the way.Write your truths and the evidence of God in your life and share them with others.Give yourself permission to feel but don’t get stuck in your feelings.Go outside for 15 minutes to get sunshine EVERY DAY!It is okay to cry–even ugly cry–at the grocery store (or anywhere else).When you are in your valley, find a way to get to the top of the mountain where you can feel renewed and strengthened.There is purpose in our climbGet good sleep so you’re not so exhausted.Be easy on yourself–don’t push yourself to be further along the path than you already are. Where you are is okay.The challenges change you. You are not going to be the same person you were before.Share your challenges, and help others along their paths. (Cindy shared the example of the geese flying in a “V” formation and honking their encouragement to those facing the headwind).Succeed today–do your 3 most important things and call it a success.Final AdviceThis is some advice from a widow friend of Cindy’s that she also applied in her own life. “I want to live my life so that if my husband ever walked back through those doors, he would recognize our family.”Shareable Thoughts & MemesConnect with Cindyhttps://www.facebook.com/johncindy.cloningerhttps://postcardsfromheavenblog.wordpress.com/

In today's episode, Brad discusses with Brett his project "Operation Limitless", which is a proven recipe of strategies, tactics, and tools that are specifically designed to teach you the proven secrets of the most empowered people on the planet.Operation Limitless uses the research from business experts, military special forces, astronauts and more, on how to develop unshakable self-confidence, courage, and a winning edge.www.brettlechtenberg.comwww.operationlimitlessproject.com

Alissa shares the lessons learned from her life’s challenges breaking the poverty cycle, surviving infertility and watching her preemies struggle to live.https://tamarakanderson.com/alissa-mcclure-lessons-from-a-broken-home-infertility-and-preemies/About Alissa McClureRaised in poverty in a broken homeBecame a teacherChildren’s book authorBloggerMarried her best friendStruggled with infertilityGave birth to preemie twins and almost lost themSummer of 2018 released her first book for adults called, “Joy On! Ten Ways to Add More Joy to Your Life”Lessons from a Broken HomeFirst, Alissa shared an experience she had in first grade where she learned that there was a better way to treat people than she was taught in her home.From this experience, she learned to watch people outside of her home that were happy and doing good things and tried to incorporate those examples in her own life.It must have worked with a nickname like “Smiley.”Lessons from InfertilityAfter trying for over 5 years to get pregnant, she started to feel broken, frustrated, and that she was the only one that was struggling with this challenge.She visited many specialists in the Houston area and no one could figure out what was wrong or help her.Alissa wondered why God wouldn’t bless them with such a good goal of having children.She wondered if maybe God didn’t trust her or think she was worthy to be a mother. Alissa said lots of prayers asking for children, but received no answer.Satan is cunning and places doubts in our minds because he doesn’t want us to feel good about ourselves.You are not alone in your doubts and inner struggles!It took Alissa years to realize that as a teacher and working with the young women of her church that she was able to “mother” children, and she was finally able to be okay with that. And she loved those girls and her students as best as she could.She told God that she was finally okay with the extent of her motherhood in March and found out she was pregnant with twins in July.Alissa feels like she needed to reach that point where she could submit to God’s will before He blessed her with children, but everyone is on their own path and the answer might be different for other people.Find an infertility support group. God will guide you to others who are struggling with the same issue, but you need to be willing to open up and talk to others, because often they have no idea.She almost felt both joy and sadness when she found out she was expecting: Joy because it had finally happened, but sadness because she didn’t want to tell her support group friends that were still struggling with infertility. It was kind of like a “survivor’s guilt.”Extreme gratitude for every child God gave her–even when they are fighting she reminds herself, “I begged for this!”Tip 1: Never ask a woman if she is pregnant!Tip 2: Don’t expect people who struggle with infertility to participate in baby showers, it is often too hard for them to straddle the happiness and grief at the same time.Lesson for others: Don’t judge someone if you see they don’t have children–sometimes it is not by choice. Be kind in your comments.Birth of PreemiesNext, Alissa shared her story of getting pneumonia and having to deliver the babies 10 weeks early by Emergency C-Section. Then her babies got a Staph infection and were balancing between life and death.Alissa remembers thinking as she watched her babies struggle for life “This might be it for me. This might be my one chance for motherhood and I might never take my babies home.”She learned to be grateful for each moment she spent with her babies.Faith is shown in our works: She spent two months in the NICU beside her babies. Finally a nurse came up to her and said, “You must have a lot of faith.” Alissa wondered what she was talking about, but the nurse explained that she was there every day and she was smiling.Look up and serve no matter where you are. After that, Alissa reached out to the other mothers in the NICU and formed like a mini support group.God has a plan and He is aware of us even when it feels like we are all alone.It is hard to leave your baby at the hospital and go home without them.It is also hard to watch others come and go from NICU faster than you.Have mini pity party when discouraged and move on.Tips to help others in this circumstance: Offer to drive them to the hospital (especially if they have had a C-Section and can’t drive.)Book Recommendation for PreemiesPreemies: The Essential Guide for Parents of Premature BabiesThis book is great because it explains medical terms and give explanations for acronyms used in the NICU because the nurses there speak a different lingoIt is also good to read how common these things were and that you weren’t alone in having your baby experience them.Examples: it explains why the the baby has a feeding tube in their nose and or an iv on their head. Bonus tipKeep going. Don’t give up.Inspirational Quotes & Shareable MemesFavorite Bible Verses1.Matthew 6:28-30 “And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?”Back story of this favorite verse: As a child she only had 4 outfits and so she had to figure out which outfit she would need to wear twice that week (and this was important to her at this time because she didn’t want people to know how poor her family was).Her takeaway: Why am I worried about my clothes when the Lord will provide for me? God will always take care of us.2. Luke 1:37 “For with God nothing shall be impossible.”The tricky thing here is often Alissa feels like she is getting inspiration coming from God and her very next thought is a doubt and she has to remind herself that with God nothing is impossible!How to Connect with AlissaWebsite: http://alimcjoy.com/https://www.facebook.com/alimcjoy/https://www.instagram.com/alimcjoy/https://www.pinterest.com/alimcjoy/Alissa’s Joy On! CourseGet Alissa’s Joy On! book on Kindle for 99 cents! Background to writing the book Joy On!After her 4th baby, Alissa experienced postpartum depression that took a long time to recover from. When she found out she was pregnant with her fifth baby, she was so worried she would have postpartum depression again. Her husband encouraged her to start doing the things that enabled her to recover from it the first time right away.So, she started thinking about those things and doing them and it eventually dawned on her that these are things that she should share to fulfill her life mission: to bring more joy to the world.Sign up for Alissa’s Joy On! Course here.Signups are only through January 31, 2019, so act quickly.In her course, you will focus on one topic each month with January doing some prep and preview exercises and December doing evaluation.Listeners of Stories of Hope in Hard Times get a 20% discount on this $48 course (that’s right–making it only $38.40 for you to be coached in a small group and have 2019 be a year of JOY for you!Your coupon code for this 20% discount is: HOPE2019.

Jerald shares the many lessons he learned from surviving falling off a cliff, watching his wife bleed-out, and dealing with a sudden job loss.https://tamarakanderson.com/jerald-simon-falling-off-a-cliff-job-loss-and-possible-death-of-a-spouse/Wisdom and Lessons from Jerald SimonAbout Jerald SimonHusband to Zanny, and a father to his wonderful children.Founder of Music Motivation®Composer of 10 Music Albums, 4 EP’s and dozens of piano booksAuthor of 4 motivation and self-help books (see links below)Music mentor and piano teacherHe loves music, teaching, speaking, performing, playing sports, exercising, reading, writing poetry and self help books, and gardening.Lessons from Falling off a CliffWhen we fall down, we get back up!Look to God in moments of darkness. Keep the faith.Life is precious. It is a gift, it should be cherished.“Focus intently on what matters most…we all need to continually have reminders and even wake-up calls that help us refocus our energy into the best life has to offer.”Power of prayer: The doctors believed that I would not make it, but there were so many people praying on my behalf. It was a miracle.When bullied due to seizures during recovery–Jerald made a choice as an 8-year-old that “Every will be a new day regardless of what had happened in the past. Every day I will start fresh. I’m not going to let name-calling or my problems or experiences hold me back.”Layers of barbed wire stopped fall at intervals and saved his life–sometimes it is the hard things we hit that save us in the end.Read Jerald’s blog about falling off the cliff here.Lessons from Almost Losing WifeJerald went through the emotions of sadness, fear and grief for himself and for his childrenAt times of deepest loss it is vital to turn to God the most because you feel as if part of you is gone, and only He can fill that hole–eventually.There is a difference between “ritual” prayers and heartfelt prayers and “During dark days and difficult times, that is when your prayers become so sincere as if you are really speaking personally to God.”God answered with peace. “I knew that everything would be okay, I just didn’t know what okay meant.”Jerald explained that sometimes we are so focused on what we want that it is a bit like looking through a straw, and then God removes the straw our understanding is heightened, and we understand an eternal perspective–to think and see things with an enlarged capacity.This experience with God helped him better appreciate God’s will vs. his will.“If I focus on what God wants me to do, if I put Him first–whatever happens I know the right thing will happen.”“We can find the good even in the bad. There is always light even in the darkest area. There is a faint light that we can look to.”There is greatness within everyone. There is goodness. If you look for the best you will find it, whether it’s finding it in a person or a situation or a problem. If you focus on that good, then it will help you to feel better about your situation.”A good prayer in hard times is, “Help me find the good in this.”Lessons from Job LossAs a provider, new home owner, and soon to be father Jerald was devastated.Feelings of inadequacy and failure crept in.Prayed to God, and asked, “What would you have me do?”He decided to turn from teaching piano part-time to doing it full-time.At first it was a struggle, but looking back it was the best thing that could have happened to me.A year later, he wrote his first piano book, and then he wrote another and composed CDs (see links below to view piano books and free sheet music)If you are in a dark place, perhaps it will put you on a trajectory that will lead you to the best place for you.Sometimes we look at a problem and we think it is the worst, most terrible problem…but we don’t realize that it is taking us from our course and putting us on an even better path.Find out what God wants you to do! Ask these questions:Who am I and what do you want me to be? Who should I be?What should I be doing?What should I be learning?What new skills should I learn?What do I envision in the future?What would my future perfect life look like?Then, get out a blank piece of paper and write down the answers and what you envision for your life and where you want to be and what you want to do. Create your life plan–places you want to go, experiences you want to have, etc.Doing this pushes you to have hope in the future–then mark the steps backwards to know how to get there.Writing your life mission and goals can give you hope and something to aim for.This process is outlined in Jerald’s book “Who Are You?”Bonus Tips“I think everyone has a purpose in life. They may not understand what their individual purpose is, but everyone has a mission that only they can fulfill.”There is so much competition in life. We are trying to compete against others instead of bringing out the best in others and the best in ourselves.The, “What’s in it for me?” attitude brings a narrow view of life and prevents people from living the lives they should.When you focus only on yourself and your needs, you live life in a spiral that circles inward and gets smaller and smaller.When you focus on others, you begin in the center and you spiral outwards and your circle grows. This builds a sphere of influence/support network for when you fall. We aren’t meant to go through life on our own.Ask: How can I bless and help and serve others?Story of looking the most worthless person in the world–found that everyone has worth regardless of where they have been.Just as we can be blessed by serving others, we can blessed by others serving us.“There are times when we will help and there will be times when we need all the help we can get and we shouldn’t be afraid to ask. Share your experiences and open up with others.”“It’s okay to ask for help, and it’s okay to help people, and it is okay to be helped by others. It’s not a weakness. It’s not a failure. I believe that failure is a just a stepping stone. There is no such thing as failure–it’s just another stepping stone to help us figure out and get a stronger footing so we can step in the right direction.”We are not perfect–none of us will live a perfect life.We’re all in this together.Connect with Jerald and Links Mentionedhttp://musicmotivation.com/Jerald’s Music is on iTunes and AmazonListen to his music: Spotify, PandoraFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeraldmarcsimonInstagram: @jeraldsimonJerald has also filmed hundreds of piano lesson video tutorials on his YouTube page youtube.com/jeraldsimon

Tamara introduces her podcast Stories of Hope in Hard Times. She also shares lessons learned from a car accident and having two sons on the autism spectrum.https://tamarakanderson.com/podcast-intro-and-my-story-of-hope/Stories of Hope in Hard Times IntroductionMy reason for doing this podcast–love learning from stories.Noticed that my sister who was struggling with Lyme’s disease and I were learning the same lessons even though I was raising children with autism.Even though situations are different, often the lessons learned are the same.Stories of Hope Podcast basicsPodcast will launch a new episode twice a month, every other week on Wednesday.The shows will be 40-60 minutes each.My Story of Hope and 3 Lessons Learned in Adversity1. Lesson Learned from a Car AccidentNot only do you learn to love others when you serve them, but the opposite is also true.You can learn to love others when they serve you.The cycle of service is a cycle of love.2. Lesson as the mother of 2 autistic boys about being “normal.”God taught me “Tamara, this is normal for you.”Quit looking out your window at everybody else, and comparing yourself to what you are perceiving their “normal” is. Just look at yourself. This is normal for you.”The times when I felt discouraged or sad was when I was comparing my life and my children and my family to what I was perceiving as other people’s normal lives.I’m normal for me and my kids are normal for them and I’m okay with that.“Most internal healing and solutions take time. So, we need to be patient with ourselves…as we learn tough life lessons.”3. Learning True FaithStory of Shadrach, Meshack and Abednego in Daniel 3.I realized I knew God could heal my boys—I had that kind of faith.BUT I couldn’t say, “But if not” I will be okay if you don’t—because I wasn’t.It took time to heal my heart and change it so that I could say “Thy will be done.”This was a process. It wasn’t something I immediately came to. It was something I grew towards. I think God changed my heart because I asked him to help me with it because I knew I wasn’t there yet.Bonus TipsGod loves you no matter what. You can vent to Him in prayer.“If you are worrying about the future, don’t. Just worry about getting through today. God shows us baby steps day by day.”God never gives us more than we can handle WITH HIS HELP. He gives us more than we can handle by ourselves all the time so we can develop stronger spiritual muscles.God often doesn’t give us solutions all at once. He will give us a glimmer here and a glimmer there and we will find solutions to a problem little bits at a time. (I wish it was more quickly but it is often not).Favorite Bible VersePhilippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

Cevin Ormond is the Author of the book "The Constitution of a Great Leader: Leadership in the 21st Century"

Tamara is the Author of the book: - "Normal For Me - Learning to Love & Embrace Life’s Detours With God’s Help"Website: www.tamarakanderson.com Podcasts: www.stitcher.com/podcast/tamara-k…pe-in-hard-times

In this episode of Conscious Kyngdoms, Cristine interviews Michael Sheen, Executive of the Tribe of Kyngs, about how the Four Tendencies have influenced his Five Kyngdoms. Learn more about the Four Tendencies at GretchenRubin.com  - In this podcast, Cristine addresses the following questions: Are you an Unholder, Obliger, Questioner or a Rebel?How do the Four Tendencies impact your relationships and parenting?What's the difference between a boundary and a barrier in your Kyngdoms?What does a First Kyngdom committee meeting look like?

Cristine tells her story of finding her Kyngdom One for the first time. She shares principles from The Four Doors, a book by Richard Paul Evans, as a reminder to live from a "love-centered map." In this podcast she addresses the following questions: When kids give up is it because they aren't motivated? Or because they don't feel the love to continue?Is a spiritual awakening enough to take us forward? Or is there more to it?When others don't feel enough love from us - is it them? Or are we "doing" something wrong?Is it really okay to take negative emotions to God?

This is your chance to hear directly from the man who demonstrates 'Resilience' daily, Jeff is an inspiration to us all!  For most of us, it's a world of small inconveniences.  Traffic jams, Sore throats, Burnt toast, etc.  For JEFF STEINBERG, it's a world of major handicaps always.  But does he see himself as handicapped, unfortunate, to be pitied?  No, absolutely not! He calls himself a MASTERPIECE IN PROGRESS! Yet to see him, he looks like anything BUT a masterpiece. Born August 18, 1951, Jeff Steinberg faced life with little hope - no arms and badly deformed legs. He has shared his message with audiences around the United States and internationally, performing for churches, television, businesses, schools, conventions, fundraisers and hospitals. Website: www.tinygiant.com Email: [email protected] Phone: (901) 754-5333 FAX: (866) 447-8632