Resilient Kid: Therapy and tips for raising strong kids and teens

The back-to-school season brings big emotions—not just for kids, but for parents too. In this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, we dive into how families can manage the wobbles that come with new teachers, timetable changes, friendships, and transitions to high school, college, or university.

• Why mental health challenges are rising among children and teens
• Signs of stress to look out for (clinginess, stomach aches, irritability, withdrawal)
• Practical tools like hot chocolate breathing, pocket anchors, and calming playlists
• How to use journaling and simple mindset shifts to reduce worries
• Tips for parents: short goodbyes at drop-off, open-ended questions with teens, and holding back judgment

The message: every child’s path looks different, and that’s okay. Whether your child is starting primary school, navigating the shift to high school, or preparing for university, you’ll leave with practical ways to support them—and yourself—through the transition.

https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge 

00:00 – Introduction to Back-to-School Emotions
00:40 – Summer reflections and the shift into September
01:52 – Rising child mental health statistics
02:55 – Understanding back-to-school wobbles
03:31 – Practical hacks and routines for a smoother start
04:22 – Friendships, confidence, and belonging
09:59 – Recognizing signs of stress and anxiety
13:52 – Emotional regulation tools for kids and teens
22:47 – Parent and carer tips for drop-offs and conversations
28:41 – Final encouragement and support

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Embracing Our Cyclical Nature: Importance of Cycle Tracking and Systemic Change

Ashley interviews Marlou, founder of Period Reality, to discuss the concept of humans as cyclical beings. They explore the idea that we're not designed for the linear 'grind' and instead should live in harmony with our natural cycles. Marlou elaborates on how societal systems, particularly education and workplaces, could be adapted to better accommodate these natural rhythms. T

he conversation also delves into practical steps for individuals to track their cycles and the potential benefits of such awareness. The episode underscores the importance of systemic change and individual awareness for improved well-being and productivity. 

https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge 

00:00 Introduction to the Resilient Kid Podcast
00:49 Meet Marlo: Advocate for Cyclical Living
02:42 Understanding Cyclical Living
05:40 The Impact of Industrialization on Our Cycles
07:02 Practical Tips for Living in Sync with Your Cycle
12:10 Reimagining Education with Cyclical Awareness
14:44 Creating Supportive Environments in Schools
24:02 Advocating for Change in the Workplace
32:13 The Importance of Cycle Tracking
36:28 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

https://www.facebook.com/PeriodReality 
https://www.periodreality.org/ 
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marloucornelissen/ 
https://www.instagram.com/marloucornelissen/ 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dGRPVdzMr-o - TedX 

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Navigating Consent, Sex, and Safety at University

Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist and founder of The Resilient Kid, discusses the importance of understanding consent, safe sex, and personal boundaries for young adults transitioning to university. She addresses the challenges posed by new freedoms, social media, and substance use, and underscores the crucial need for open communication and education on these topics to ensure students' emotional and physical well-being. 

Find all the resources in our Listeners Lounge

https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge 

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Consent and Safety
01:04 Why Discuss Consent Before Uni?
02:32 Understanding Consent: The FRIES Model
02:52 The Importance of Clear and Enthusiastic Consent
03:14 Navigating Intoxication and Consent
04:00 Consent in Relationships
04:57 Teaching Boundaries and Respect
07:54 The Importance of Safe Sex
11:24 Emotional and Physical Wellbeing
15:23 Practical Tips for Parents
22:29 Conclusion and Resources

Useful Links

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Join psychotherapist Ashley Costello on the Resilient Kid Podcast as she discusses how to support your kids transitioning to university without smothering them. Covering the emotional challenges parents face, Ashley provides practical advice on maintaining connections, recognizing when to step in, and empowering young adults to manage their new responsibilities. With tips on creative communication and helping during stressful times, this episode aims to help parents and their children navigate this significant life change.

https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge 

00:00 Introduction: Supporting Your Kids at University
00:38 Adjusting to the Empty Nest
02:38 Maintaining Connection Without Control
03:58 Creative Ways to Stay Connected
08:42 When to Step In: Recognizing the Signs
10:01 Empowering Independence
14:47 Adapting to Change: Staying Curious
18:15 Conclusion: Embracing the Journey

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

In this episode of The Resilient Kid Podcast, Ashley Costello discusses the essential life skills that 18-year-olds need before leaving for university. The episode covers fundamental areas such as cooking, laundry, cleaning, financial confidence, and healthcare.

Ashley provides practical advice on how to equip teens with the resourcefulness and confidence to handle these aspects of independent living, ensuring they can thrive and remain safe while away from home. The episode emphasizes the importance of preparation and ongoing conversations between parents and their soon-to-be university students.

https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge

00:00 Introduction: Preparing for University Life
01:10 Essential Domestic Skills: Cooking Basics
06:59 Laundry Lessons: Keeping Clothes Clean
08:58 Cleaning and Household Maintenance
12:01 Financial Confidence: Budgeting and Jobs
19:30 Administrative Skills: Adulting 101
20:57 Healthcare and Safety: Staying Healthy and Safe
25:09 Conclusion: Future-Proofing Your Kids

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

This episode dives into the emotional turmoil parents face when their teens prepare to leave for university. It addresses the mixed emotions involved for both parents and children, tips on emotional preparation, and the importance of maintaining open communication. The host also highlights the significance of teaching coping mechanisms and offers practical advice to manage this significant transition period.

https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk/lounge 

00:00 Introduction: The Emotional Whirlwind of Letting Go
01:43 Understanding the Emotional Cocktail
05:12 Invisible Backpack: Silent Expectations
10:44 Preparing for the Emotional Transition
12:11 Practical Tips for Emotional Resilience
16:43 Encouraging Independence and Connection
21:58 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Practical Tips

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

Ashley discusses the importance of teaching children and teens about money with Leslie Thomas, the founder of the Money Confidence Academy. Leslie emphasizes the lack of financial education in schools and highlights her mission to improve financial literacy and mindset for young people

00:00 Introduction: Talking to Kids About Money
00:11 Meet Leslie Thomas: Money Confidence Expert
00:38 The Importance of Financial Education
04:48 The Emotional Side of Money
07:38 The Influence of Marketing and Social Media
12:07 Teaching Kids Financial Responsibility
17:25 Practical Tips for Parents
33:05 Leslie's Resources and Final Thoughts
36:39 Conclusion and Farewell

Academy - https://www.themoneyconfidenceacademy.com
Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/wheremindsetgoesmoneygrows
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamlesley_thomas
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesley-thomas
Book Waitlist 2025 - https://lesleyathomas.kartra.com/page/book-waitlist-2025
Money at Home Sales Course - https://lesleyathomas.kartra.com/page/money-at-home-sales

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

We explore the various types of boundary violations that children may face and the importance of teaching them how to recognize and uphold these boundaries. Covering aspects such as physical, emotional, intellectual, and social media boundaries, we discuss strategies to help children manage their emotions, build empathy, and develop healthier relationships. Our goal is to future-proof kids by raising emotionally intelligent and resilient young adults.

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries
02:03 Physical Boundaries and Personal Space
02:55 Emotional Boundaries and Guilt Tripping
03:56 Time and Overcommitment
05:54 Intellectual Boundaries and Respecting Opinions
06:45 Material Exploitation and Respect
08:35 Digital Boundaries and Social Media
11:28 Boundaries at School
12:41 Family Boundaries and Respect
13:54 Teaching Kids the Language of Boundaries
16:17 Assertiveness vs. Aggression
17:25 The Importance of Setting Boundaries
21:40 Long-term Benefits of Strong Boundaries
23:10 Conclusion and Next Week's Preview

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, host Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster, addresses the crucial topic of teaching boundaries to children.

The podcast begins with a personal anecdote involving a technical glitch during a call with her virtual assistant, Chantelle, which segues into the importance of boundaries.

Ashley discusses various types of boundaries - emotional, physical, verbal, sexual, time, and material - explaining why each is vital for children's development. The episode provides strategies for teaching these boundaries, emphasizing the need for parents and guardians to respect and model them.

Ashley concludes by highlighting the role of boundaries in fostering self-respect, healthy relationships, stress reduction, and self-care.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction
03:04 The Importance of Boundaries
05:16 Types of Boundaries
05:29 Emotional Boundaries
06:22 Physical Boundaries
09:49 Verbal Boundaries
11:52 Sexual Boundaries
14:52 Time Boundaries
16:49 Material Boundaries
19:01 Why Boundaries Matter
22:10 Violating Boundaries
27:43 Teaching Boundaries to Kids
31:10 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk  

In this episode of the Resilient Kid Podcast, host Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist and TEDx speaker, discusses the importance of parenting on the same page. She highlights that consistent and aligned parenting, whether done co-operatively by married, separated, or solo parents, creates a sense of safety and security for children.

The episode delves into common areas where co-parents might clash, such as discipline, sleep routines, tech independence, and academics. Ashley emphasizes the need for intentional and collaborative parenting strategies and introduces an exercise where parents list their 'wants, needs, and non-negotiables' to foster agreement on key family values and boundaries.

The episode also offers practical advice for maintaining consistency in solo parenting and co-parenting in different households while ensuring the emotional and mental well-being of children. Finally, Ashley shares tips on involving older children and teens in the decision-making process and suggests revisiting the agreed-upon values periodically to adapt to changing family dynamics.

00:00 Introduction to Parenting on the Same Page
01:24 The Importance of Consistency for Children's Safety
04:08 Common Areas of Parenting Clashes
06:33 Creating a Unified Parenting Strategy
08:13 Practical Exercises for Parents
15:07 Involving Children in the Process
22:36 Handling Parenting Differences in Various Situations
27:16 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Sign up to our newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/240667/93026367927485942/share
Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1739302605
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resilientkiduk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresilientkid
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/resilientkid
Pinterest: https://za.pinterest.com/resilientacademy
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresilientkid957
Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-costello
Website: https://www.theresilientacademy.co.uk