Restore Yourself. Restore Your Marriage.

Have you ever felt frustrated with the communication in your marriage?  It could easily be that the both of you are really trying to talk about things as mature adults,  and yet for some reason, it just doesn't seem to help as much as you were hoping.

Let's be real.  This happens to all of us.  That's because everyone is operating on their own style of communication and under assumptions of what they consider to be "effective."  But that leaves everyone using very different approaches, most of which are actually just assumptions and not really effective techniques at all.

Listen in on today's podcast episode where we share a completely new lens in which to view communication.  Learn 2 simple sentences that keep defenses down, promote individual growth, and allow the relationship to expand and move forward.  You can start applying these today and start improving communicating immediately! 

Have you ever considered how ignoring the sexual side of yourself could be effective your marriage?  Whether we realize it or not, continuing to ignore this topic will only make things worse over time, impacting multiple areas of our lives, not just the sexual aspect of our relationship.

But what does it mean to ignore it?  Listen in as we take a closer look at what is really happening when we ignore developing our sexual side in a way that it authentic and still aligned with our values and beliefs.  Why miss out on the benefits of doing this even longer?

Join us to discover 3 easy steps to help move your forward in healing, mending, and restoring the sexual side of yourself and take on the challenge at the end of the episode! 

Have you ever heard of Sex A.D.D.?  Is that even a real thing?  While it may not be an official entry in the big official Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, many women experience something that is very similar.

This can show up in the form of being distracted during sex.  Maybe in the middle of your sexual shenanigans you start thinking about your to-do list, or how cute those holiday pillows were that you saw at Hobby Lobby the other day, or maybe you start thinking about adding a tree house to the backyard.

If our brain is the first sex organ, and its checked-out during sex, we can clearly see that this could lead to an unfulfilling sexual experience.  Listen in on today's episode where we describe 4 simple steps to get your brain back on board.

What are your top three complaints about your sex life?  Most of us could probably list them off rather quickly, since its normal and natural to point out the negative aspects of our lives with ease.

But what happens when we have the same complaint for 5 years, or 15 years, or even 35 years?  This is a clue.  This is a clue that there is something to solve that we haven't been able to solve for all of this time.  This invites us to initiate an investigation within ourselves, and into what ability we might be missing in order to solve it.

Listen in on today's episode to discover some specific ways to look at the clues in your sex life as the exact roadmap you need for things to improve.  You will be asked to take on a specific challenging question during the week to see how you think about your thinking.  Will you accept the challenge?

Did you know that there are certain thoughts and sayings that can have an amazing impact on your intimate experience, even if they are not directly about that?

This is the power of thoughts work.  Just one new thought can challenge old patterns, change our perspective, and cause us to feel better!  And the amount of effort it takes to  think a new thought is nothing compared to some of the other stuff we do all day, everyday.

Listen in on today's episode as we explore these seven simple sayings.  Pay attention to the shift that starts to take place in your mind and then in your body.  Focus on just one throughout the week.  Or, if you're feeling very ambitious, focus on a different one each day of the week.  You got this!

Have you ever found yourself feeling unsatisfied after an intimate experience with your spouse?  If so, you are not alone.  Its actually fairly common.  We might be less than satisfied because we weren't connected to the experience on a deeper level... or on a level deep enough where it actually had significant and personal meaning attached to it.

When we are disconnected from intimacy either mentally or emotionally, we will also disconnect from it sensually and sexually.  This creates a boring unconscious experience with little pleasure, if any at all, for the wife. 

This is where Saintly Sutra comes in!  Listen in as we take a deep dive into the solution for disconnected and unsatisfying sex... Saintly Sutra!  We will talk about the Core Components, The Intimacy Trek, Relaxation Rituals, Meaningful Mantras, products, and the ways Saintly Sutra fills in the gaps. 

Have you ever thought about the ways that AI might impact your marriage?  You might have already considered this or perhaps it might not have crossed your mind at all yet just yet.  But Artificial Intelligence is here, moving swiftly, and we will need to consider how we can protect our marriage.

While robots that look like our spouse (or our fantasy version) might not be here just yet, we may not realize that an online digital version is easily available.  This onscreen spouse can be a more attractive, more attentive version of the real us and can lead our marriage down a very challenging road.

While we sometimes don't realize that more time spent on technology often leads to temporary pleasure but even more loneliness, we need to spend out time and efforts on learning real skills for our relationships instead.  Listen in now to discover a few ideas on how to take a more proactive and preventative approach to keeping our intimate relationship intact.  

Have you ever heard the phrase blue balls?  This is a term that many men use when they are feeling sexually frustrated.  But what about blue pearls?  Is this a terms that women use when they are sexually frustrated?  Not really.

The interesting thing about this is that there is a term out there to discuss men's sexual frustration, but not really one for women.  Here in lies part of the problem.  When there is only terminology out there to express men's sexual frustration but not women's, we end up with a one-sided conversation, leaving women feeling like something is missing from their sexual experience in yet another way, the way we communicate about it, or should we say the way we don't communicate about it.

Well, now is the time for us to make a little change.  We need to be able to look at sexual frustration from both perspectives, both the husband's AND the wife's as well as be able to talk about it from both perspectives.  Listen in on today's podcast to learn that sexual fulfillment is not based on just frequency alone and discover how to take a more inclusive approach.

Have you ever wished that there was just a little more sexiness being experienced in your marriage?   Sometimes, when we are feeling this way, we reflect back to our dating days and feel nostalgic for them and the attraction we felt during that time.

And at other times, we may feel discouraged that things aren't the same as they used to be and we might be worried that we won't be able to get the sexiness back.  Well, the good news is that I am here to help you get the sexiness back and to let you know that it may not be as challenging as you think.

Listen in on today's episode as I share how a random experience of frustration with my kids that ended up turning into a sexy vibe with my husband, how it lasted throughout the day, and how it easily led to a fun sexy time later on that evening.  Situations like this can be so simple and easy to duplicate if we are looking for those opportunities.  So listen in and catch the vibe!

Have you ever felt like you were sexually frustrated in your marriage?  This is super common and totally normal.   While both husband and wife have some type of understanding that they are wired differently, they often don't understand the specific details of how, and that lack of information is vital.  And lack of correct information leads to lack of sufficient stimulation... especially for the wife.

Husbands often feel frustrated when the frequency of intimacy is not what they hoped it would be and their wife's desire for it is much lower than theirs.  Women often feel frustrated because the love-making experience is often a let down, lacking the emotional connection she is longing for and that is prerequisite for proper desire and arousal to be activated. Both spouses are frustrated and they both want the other one to change.

Today we will dive into this topic just a little bit deeper.  Listen in on today's episode where we take a closer look at what it means to be frustrated and the surprising word in its definition that helps us understand its origin.  We will also talk about where real change comes from as well as the reality of differing testosterone levels in men and women and what to do about it all.  And don't worry, it's easier than you think.