From this videoconference talk from 12 April 2019, Ajahn Anan discusses having the right attitude in relationships and discusses a Zen story on this topic.

An excerpt: "Last week we learned that for the mind to have happiness in life, it must have the 4 divine abidings of metta, or loving kindness, karuna, or compassion, mudita, or appreciate joy, and upekkha, or equanimity. When the mind has these 4 divine abidings to a good level, then the 5 moral precepts can be maintained with ease. This is because, with the four divine abidings, we are happy when others do well, and when others make mistakes out of delusion, we don't punish them for it and we have equanimity. We wait for the time when we can help them according to our ability."

Note: One can read Dhamma talk transcripts at the Wat Marp Jan 'Reflections' page, which also includes questions and answers with Ajahn Anan, which are not in the audio files. See: https://watmarpjan.org/en/dhamma-reflections/reflections-archive/