People who tell you to be grateful when you’re unhappy are more harmful than helpful. They are making you even more unhappy, and making you feel guilty for feeling ungrateful. Don't listen to people who have no idea what you are going through. Don't force yourself to be grateful. Instead, feel your pain, feel your suffering, feel your sadness. Don't skip that and go straight to feeling grateful. Don't count your blessings when you are not ready.

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Have you been told to be the “bigger person”? Have you been told that you’re selfish for refusing to be the punching bag? And do you feel guilty for walking away? Scapegoats have been trained to be everyone's punching bag and trashcan since childhood. Of course you would feel guilty for refusing to continue. You need to recalibrate your thinking. Wanting to be heard, wanting respect for how you feel is the bare minimum! Stop taking the advice of those that tell you to be "the bigger person" when they mean keep quiet and be a doormat. Scapegoats are generational curse breakers. Scapegoats break the cycle of abuse in dysfunctional families. That is what it means to be the bigger person. Not a doormat, or one to take abuse in silence. Scapegoats rise from punching bags to generational curse breakers.

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I've been asked many times, how do we love ourselves? What does self love feel like? I went through a very long and hard journey, a lot of self reflection and deep questioning. And I want to tell you that you don't have to re-tramatize yourself over and over or go through the same abuse from different people again and again. You don't have to beat yourself up or re-live past trauma in order to understand what you went through. However, you still have to revisit your past to acknowledge it, feel it, learn not to judge it, and then let it go. Otherwise, trauma will stay stuck in your body and history will repeat itself. You will be stuck in the same cycle of abuse. Same scenario, only different people. Abuse lives in a toxic environment. Even if you cut the tumour out, the environment will create new tumours. It's extremely hard to learn to love yourself in a toxic environment.

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Have you been gaslighted and manipulated to confusion? Do you have contradictory thoughts about who you are? Do you struggle with decision making and knowing what you want? Do you fee guilty for being happy? Are there always voices in your head ridiculing you and condemning every move you make?

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Covert narcissism, narcissistic abuse and scapegoating are under-researched. Many therapists, psychologists and mental health clinicians don't know much about covert narcissism and scapegoat abuse. As a result they re-traumatize the client over and over. They do not understand the insidious nature of scapegoat abuse, especially from a covert narcissist. Scapegoating can happen in any dysfunctional family, not only in narcissistic families. If you suspect you're a scapegoat suffering narcissistic abuse or abuse from a dysfunctional family, here are some tips to help you choose the right therapist or mental health clinician. Do not fall into the trap of unethical therapists or therapists that are not experts at narcissistic and scapegoat abuse.

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Beware of scams. Meditation is simple. Meditation is about clarity of mind. It's about clearing past baggage and thoughts of the future so we can receive messages from our higher self. Here I give you a 2-step tutorial on how to do it. When we don't complicate the concept of meditation, and when we don't put gurus and spiritual "experts" on the pedestal, simple meditation clears your mind so you have a direct connection to your Higher Self. When your mind is clear, all the answers will come to you. When all the answers come to you, you can manifest easily.

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When you love someone, nothing you do for them feels like a sacrifice.

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You’ve suffered for most of your life as a scapegoat. You stuck with them, you were loyal, you tried so hard to help them, tried so hard to have a healthy relationship with them. Tried so hard to protect them from each other. Don’t you deserve at least some financial compensation?

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This is a true story of 2 people I knew who died from scapegoat abuse. The purpose of this podcast is to create awareness of the dangers of this invisible abuse. So if you think you're a scapegoat, please seek help from a professional therapist who is knowledgable and experienced in this type of abuse. This is also to educate those that are unaware of how insidious and horrific this type of abuse is so they don’t enable the abusers, or better still, so they can offer emotional support of any kind to someone, especially a child, who’s being scapegoated.

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