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Today we’re going to be talking about attacks on women. Physical abuse is the most prevalent form of violence against women. I found a stat that said over 26% of women have experienced “intimate partner violence”, and most of that is physical or sexual abuse. I also found a stat that said Less than 40 per cent of the women who experience violence don’t seek help, which is a shame but I want to get to today’s guest so let’s start there and then we’ll explore the other — and there are many other — types of attacks and I think some of them will surprise you. 

According to Danny Goju, author of the book Roar of the Tigress (for Women Only), Most women are attacked because they either leave their guard open or are unaware of the potential dangers; and this allows the attacker to succeed so one way to protect yourself is by having some basic knowledge of self-defense. 

Danny Gee Goju – You see, in Martial Arts, I’m used to walking with confidence because I can fight and I’m used to not fearing anybody so I just thought what about those who can’t fight or have no way of defending themselves so what I’ve been teaching my students is yes, you can learn how to fight but the most important thing is spotting the sign before it happens so you don’t need to fight. 

That is Danny Gee Goju and he knows a thing or two about fighting and the confidence that comes from knowing how to do It.

Danny Gee Goju – I write songs as a hobby and then I’m actually a Martial Artist. I don’t know if you understand, I’m what they call a Grand Master. The highest level of Martial Arts, put it that way. 

A Grand Master is someone you don’t want to mess around with and it’s the combination of skills he just mentioned that intrigued me. Danny is an interesting guy. He is a very humble GrandMaster with a 10th Degree Black Belt and a 10th Degree Red Belt but he believes that he is only as good as the next workout.

I think most anyone who teaches self-defense would agree with him that spotting an attack before it happens is a crucial aspect of good self-defense.  Awareness and prevention strategies are effective defense techniques and that is kind of the point to this show because not all attacks are physical.

Danny Gee Goju  – You have to spot these signs before they happen and the way to stop it happening is to know the man before you get into any relationship with him. When you first meet a man, just study him. Does  he order you around? Does he say please, thank you, sorry? These little things become bigger things after five or ten years of marriage. Plus, he now has a ring on his finger so he feels he owns you but you knew he was a bully before you married him. 

Knowing what you’re dealing with is crucial because emotional, mental, sexual, and financial abuses are happening all the time. 

and he says that by understanding these different forms of abuse you can stop an attack long before it ever happens. 

Danny Gee Goju – Now people are finding new ways to hurt a woman and the reason they are doing that is a lot of men feel that, basically, that their balls are being cut off. Women are on the up. They’ve got nothing left. All that is left is their strength and as a woman you need to be aware that this threat is there.

Yes, some men are highly competitive and they can be made to feel emasculated. I’m not one of them but our society is full of people who feel like the world should be a certain way and when its not, it makes them uncomfortable and can bring out their dark side . Change is inevitable but accepting change is not.

Danny Gee Goju  – The Attacks on women, everybody seems to zoom in on the physical but what about emotional attacks, mental attacks, sexual attacks happening in the Homs which nobody talks about and another thing about financial attacks which is actually new because women are starting to make a lot of money and so now there are certain kinds of men that are targeting women for their money. Beating up a woman is dining out slowly. 

Yea, Financial abuse is also controlling a woman’s ability to make money, to use it as she sees fit and to maintain and control her own financial resources. Being financially literate pays dividends. 

Danny Gee Goju – Ha, for example you see a woman at the bar, a guy comes down, let me buy you a drink. Yea, no. I’d rather have the money. You have to keep that sense of humor. nNot get annoyed, you know get out. Leave me alone. You have to smooth your way out of it. 

Did you get all that? A man asks a woman if he can buy her a drink and she says, I’d rather have the money. He’s kidding but if you do it with a smile, a bit of well played sarcasm can go a long way to keeping your control. Here’s another example.

Danny Gee Goju – He takes you out for dinner and he’s forgotten his wallet in the house, I’ll pay next time.

And when next time comes around if he doesn’t pay you gotta let him go. 

Danny Gee Goju  – Even if he borrows a dollar from your purse without telling you, you can’t take my money out. Oh it’s only a dollar. No it’s not only a dollar you crossed that boundary into my world but women say nothing because it’s only a dollar but that dollar could become five dollars in the future it could be thousands and the next thing you know, why should I go to work when my wife is making money and a lot of men now are playing golf when the women are working.  Women have gone through hundreds of years of subjugation. They’ve finally gotten feminism to give them a bit of self respect with equal pay. Even with equal pay my view is that it shouldn’t be equal pay. Women should get more than men. Not because I like women or they deserve more. They should get more because men have to feel what it feels like to earn less. Just for a year or two every company should say that when a woman starts she gets more than the men in that sector, just for a year or two so that the men now feel like oh, this is what it feels like to get less and they have more empathy toward equal pay. 

Danny says many women today are not being treated with the respect they deserve and it’s because they are strong. Side note here — I just watched Titanic and it reminded me of a different time. The days of “Women and Children first”, does it feel like those days are gone? In his book Danny says there’s a reason for that and it’s because the modern woman is now seen as much more than just a child-bearer; she has become as competitive as the modern man. This shift in gender roles has caused women to lose some of the respect they deserve from men. 

I realize this is a highly debatable subject but that’s what makes it so interesting. One thing he suggests is that women stay strong and take pride in their femininity no matter what. He even wrote a song about it. 

Danny Gee Goju – Danny talks about the song he wrote and we hear a snippet to enforce the message. I wrote the song because with the books  If you hear the song, it’s to take pride in my femininity. That’s how I want every woman to be. It’s like having that song singing Long ago Now I’m me, you know. I’m proud of being a woman. I’m proud of who I am. Yes. I don’t like what you do if you don’t do this or if you do this. We’re over. You have to have that line. And that is, that’s what, if you remember, in the middle of the song is that leave me alone, I’m on my own. You can’t force me to go with you. You know, I’ve seen it. When a club closes in the night, somebody lets go out the door. I know I’m going to go with you. I didn’t come with you, why should I go with you? 

Communication also plays an important role. 

Danny Gee Goju  – Not all men about. But they all have been tailored to […]you because every woman is different. So what you would want in a man could be something different. But you have to let him know what you want. Don’t expect him to already know it. You know, I love you, but I don’t like the way you were drunk last night and tried to kiss me in public. You know, I didn’t like it, so please don’t do that again. You are nice. The next time, look, you’re doing it again. If it happens again we’re over. 

That’s the line in the sand and you have to stick to it. The book is Called Roar of the Tigress (For Women Only) and it’s all about prevention which is only possible if you are aware of what needs to be prevented in the first place. 

Danny Gee Goju – That’s why I say for women only. It’s for anybody, really, but I say for women only because you need to be aware.

If you can spot the signs that lead up to an attack you can take steps to avoid it and keep it from happening in the first place.  

Danny Gee Goju is a Martial Arts Grand Master. He is thethe Founder and Chief Instructor of African Goju andSouth American Goju and now author of the book Roar of the Tigress. To learn more about Danny I would encourage you to visit his website where you can see a video of him being run over by a truck! Seriously, it’s a stunt he calls the “Car on the stomach stunt”where he lays down and what looks like a Ford Bronco runs over him – definitely not something you wanna try at home. And that will do it for this edition of Newsgram from Webtalkradio.com

Visit his website (https://africangoju.com/danny-gwira)

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