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Rock Solid Families -  EP258 - Inviting God to School 

"Bringing God into our schools and homes is not about pushing an agenda, but about equipping our children with the tools to defend their faith and stand for what they believe. It's about instilling in them a strong identity and purpose in Christ, so that they can navigate the confusion and challenges of the world with confidence and hope." - Rock Solid Families

In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Linda and Merrill Hutchinson discuss the importance of bringing God into schools and homes. They emphasize the need for parents to help their children understand their identity and purpose in Christ, regardless of whether they attend public, Christian, or homeschool. The hosts debunk the notion that God has been pushed out of schools, highlighting the opportunities for religious activities and expressions that exist within the education system. They also encourage parents to support their children in defending their faith and standing up for their beliefs, as well as to be proactive in bringing God into their communities and schools.

The hosts provide practical tips for parents, such as being cooperative with schools, initiating and supporting religious activities, and teaching children to be bold witnesses of their faith. They also stress the importance of understanding one's own faith and why it is meaningful, rather than simply going through the motions. Additionally, they remind listeners of the power of voting and influencing legislation to support religious freedom in schools. The episode concludes with a call to action for parents to take an active role in bringing God into their homes, schools, and communities, and to support positive initiatives that promote faith and values.

Key Takeaways:

• It is important to involve God in our homes and schools to help children understand their identity and purpose in Christ.
• Parents should provide tools for their children to defend their faith and stand for what they believe, regardless of whether they are in public schools, Christian schools, or homeschooling.
• Rather than blaming schools for pushing God out, parents should focus on bringing God into their own homes and teaching their children about faith.
• Parents should support their children's schools and be cooperative with the staff, volunteering and getting involved in positive activities.
• Voting and supporting legislators who align with Christian values can help influence the presence of God in schools and society.

Quotes:

• "Regardless if they're in the public schools, a Christian school, homeschool, we've got to help our students and our children understand what it means to have that identity and purpose in Christ." (00:53 | Linda Hutchinson) 
• "We are seeing a resurgence of faith and hope and trust in the Lord because this world has been getting very dark, and our students are so desperate for hope that they're seeking it, they're searching for it." (08:26 | Linda Hutchinson) 
• "If you can get them around healthy, positive community, everybody wins. And that is just what we want for our students and our families." (37:13 | Linda Hutchinson)

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"Men are not less than, they are different. Understanding their needs and meeting them where they are is the key to bringing them back into the church and empowering them to lead their families." - Merrill Hutchinson

In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson discuss the importance of men's involvement in the church and the home. They highlight the concerning trend of fewer men attending church and being actively engaged in family life. Drawing from the book "Why Men Hate Going to Church" by David Morrow, they explore the reasons behind this phenomenon and the need to address it. The hosts emphasize the significance of meeting men's physical, emotional, and spiritual needs in order to engage them in church and family life. They provide practical suggestions for creating a more inviting and inclusive environment for men, such as avoiding judgment, open communication, and prayer.

Throughout the episode, Merrill and Linda stress the importance of understanding and meeting men's needs in order to encourage their involvement in the church and as leaders in the home. They discuss the hierarchy of needs, as outlined by Maslow, and how it applies to men's engagement in church and family life. The hosts also address the feminization of the church and the need for a more male-friendly environment. They encourage women to pray for wisdom in their approach and to avoid comparing their spouse to others. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to have open conversations about faith and church involvement with their partners, and to pray for guidance and unity in their spiritual journeys.

Key Takeaways:

• Men are leaving the church at a greater rate, and it is important to understand why and address their needs.
• The hierarchy of needs (physical, emotional, and spiritual) plays a role in men's involvement in the church.
• Men may feel disconnected or undervalued in the church, and it is important to create an environment that meets their needs.
• Avoid nagging, guilting, or comparing men to others when it comes to church attendance.

Quotes:

• "The research tells us that there is less men, and we've seen that, whether it be going to church, whether it be… Even our Thursday morning Bible study, at the middle school level, it's a two-to-one ratio when it comes to girls to boys." (00:00 | Linda)
• "And so this is no new conversation. Where are all the men in the church? Why have men sort of fallen off the table when it comes to a lot of healthy families and keeping marriages together?" (03:09 | Merrill)
• “A lot of times churches will connect with men to maybe work on projects. Maybe they're helping fix the roof, or maybe they're helping them cut the grass, or maybe them helping widows that are in need of winterization or something like that, where men feel like, I am putting my faith into action, and that's how I worship. And so, yeah, we've gotta help men meet those physical needs. That's why your Strong Dads has a workout component to it. You have Bible study, but half of it is getting up, getting sweaty, working out, and meeting those physical needs.” (16:10 | Linda) 
• "Pray for yourself. Pray for wisdom to know how to handle this man of yours. Pray for an understanding of how a man works and stop trying to think that he should work more like you, okay? " (36:44 | Merrill) SM Quote

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Rock Solid Families - EP256 - Thanks for 5 Years! 
Merrill and Linda Hutchinson

In this heartfelt 5 year anniversary episode, Linda and Merrill reflect on half a decade of their dedicated ministry, Rock Solid Families. They recount the myriad of lives they've impacted: from young adults, parents, and teens, to empty nesters and couples facing challenges. They open up about the inspiring tales of renewal and healing they've seen, attributing these changes to the profound influence of the Holy Spirit and the timeless teachings of God's Word. The duo also takes a moment to convey their deep appreciation for the unwavering support they've received and reiterate their pledge to persistently serve families and individuals grappling with various challenges.

As the conversation unfolds, the two spotlight the significance of being in sync with God's essence and consistently seeking His wisdom in every life facet. Sharing the Bible verses that have guided their paths, they emphasize the transformative role of the Holy Spirit in ushering hope and healing. Recognizing the myriad hurdles their clients face, from personal traumas to heart-wrenching losses, they extend a comforting hand of hope and solace. Unwavering in their mission, Linda and Merrill underscore their dedication to consistently offering aid and resources to those in need, all the while inviting listeners to join hands with them in fortifying and rejuvenating families.

Quotes
“Yeah, so there's thousands and thousands of people who have been reached through those downloads and through those podcasts, not to mention the classes we've taught. Just today, just today, we got an email through someone who heard us speak over a year ago, and they looked at their spouse at the time and said, we need to get help. And today, they messaged and said, ‘we are reaching out for help and it's long way overdue.’” (15:10 | Linda). Audiogram
“I have to constantly remind myself that God, He is able to do more than I could ever dream of. that I can ever imagine, and I'm going to trust in Him to do that.” (36:50 | Linda) SM Quote
“When people come into us and they're challenged, right? They're on that last string of hope. right? And sometimes people come in to us and they'll say, you are our last hope. And right away we're going, no, no, no, no, no. Okay. But really they're saying, man, we don't know what else could happen, what could work here. And so for me, it really is, man, we, we get aligned with the way of Christ. Okay. Which is God's way. We align ourselves and seek it out, learn it…it’s how we start getting blessed. So that would be my takeaway that I really wanna run into in the next years.” (39:26| Merrill)

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God's truth has the power to shatter the lies we believe about ourselves and replace them with the value and worth He has bestowed upon us. In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson delve into the topic of the lies we believe about ourselves, others, and God. They share personal experiences of the lies they believed growing up and how those lies shaped their self-perception. While certain facts may be true, it is the value we attribute to those facts that can lead to harmful beliefs. They discuss the importance of recognizing and challenging these lies, replacing them with the truth found in God's Word.

Merrill and Linda stress the significance of understanding where our value truly comes from. They address the lies we believe about God, such as viewing Him as distant or uncaring, and emphasize the truth of His love and involvement in our lives. Seek healing and replace these lies with the truth of God's Word, recognizing that our value lies in being His creation and living out His purpose for our lives.

Key Takeaways:
The lies we believe about ourselves and God can have a significant impact on our lives and relationships.
It is important to recognize and challenge the lies we believe, replacing them with the truth of God's Word.
Our value and worth do not come from external factors or achievements, but from our identity as children of God.
Healing and growth require acknowledging our mistakes and taking responsibility for them, seeking forgiveness and making amends where necessary.
Community and support are crucial in the process of healing and replacing lies with truth. Seeking help from others who are on a similar journey can provide encouragement and accountability.

Quotes:
"The thing that you may struggle with is not necessarily a lie. You may just be the B/C student. You may be a little more clumsy or taller than the average person, but it is us that attributes that characteristic to giving us value or not. And that is the lie." (08:16 | Merrill) Quote
“If your children make a mistake, you’ve got to be really, really careful that you don't say you're a bad kid - because they hear that - and they internalize that as ‘There's something wrong with me,’ versus ‘You made a bad decision.’ And so it's funny how when you may say ‘You made a bad decision’ and they'll come back at you with, you mean I'm a bad kid, or you think I'm a bad kid. And it's really important that we hear that lie and we correct that.” (9:08 | Linda) Audiogram
"I am a valuable person. I am a good person because I am of God and I'm here to do God's purpose, not my own." (32:06 | Merrill)
“The Bible says that he disciplines those he loves. And so sometimes he allows us to have consequences for our own bad actions and decisions. And so that's just the reality of how he loves us to show us what it looks like when we step away from his truths.” (32:48 | Linda)
"Please share our shows. We desperately need your help getting these kind of messages out, especially when it comes to the lies we believe. And so share this with your kids. Talk about the lies maybe they believe, and reiterate the truths of God's Word so that they can have peace and joy and a long-lasting life with God the Father.” (00:34:58 | Linda)

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Worksheets/Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
Are You Believing Truth or Lies :// drive.google.com/file/d/1QGgjyGeDalAQjt0vBN8oe-Kszk62d3Lw/view?usp=sharing

Acknowledging the Truth About Your Father - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1lqXLOjU2MBEX5DQfsCvvtZ87IxolTVY5/view?usp=sharing

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Rock Solid Families - EP254 - Calming Your Child's Emotional Storms

Co-Host - Meredith Scudder - Assistant Director at Rock Solid Families

Regulating our emotions is not about suppressing them, but rather about learning to respond instead of react. By modeling calmness and practicing co-regulation, we can create a safe space for our children to navigate the storms of life.

In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, Merrill and Linda are joined by guest co-host and returning contributor, Meredith Scudder.  The team dives into a big topic in parenting, helping your child develop emotional awareness and regulation skills.  They discuss the necessity of co-regulation, the important role parents play in mastering their emotions, and setting the stage for their children to mirror healthy behaviors.

Listeners are introduced to an intuitive hand model of the brain, a tool aimed at demystifying emotions and their regulation for both parents and children alike. Filled with actionable insights, the episode advises parents on techniques like aligning physically with the child's height, harnessing the power of gentle tones, and tapping into the calming effects of deep breaths. 

Throughout their discussion, the hosts continually return to the importance of proactive emotional management. They urge parents to be alert to their personal emotional triggers and, crucially, to take a beat before responding, ensuring a more considered, controlled reaction. Balancing compassion with discipline, they discuss the significance of acknowledging children's feelings while concurrently setting clear behavioral limits. They emphasize the value of being fully present, even when it means embracing moments of discomfort, and champion seeking authentic emotion-regulating strategies over easy digital diversions.

Key Takeaways:

• Mastering our emotions sets a precedent for our children.
• Employ the hand model of the brain for a tangible grasp on emotions and their regulation.
• Recognize personal triggers and practice the pause, enabling a thoughtful response.
• Amid the parenting journey, bestow grace abundantly, both to oneself and one's children.

Quotes

• “I have so many teens that they're struggling to go to their parents to talk about things that are going on because they're scared of their parents' reaction, which then I have to help them see that reaction is more fear-based for the parent. The parent's scared or worried or they're sad, their child's going through something. when they aren't taking the time to kind of collect themselves and regulate, they're then reacting and it's coming off scary to the child.” (16:45 | Meredith) AUDIOGRAM
• “Well, and as a parent, be okay with modeling to your child, like, hey, I'm actually not in a good space right now to talk. I'm feeling frustrated too. I need to take a minute. And respecting your child when they're not in the space either. So if you, as the parent, take a step back and collect yourself, and then you're ready to talk, if your child's not ready to talk, don't push it. Still make sure you come back to it. You'll have your time.” (20:56 | Meredith)
• “I really want to warn parents, please do not use screens at any age as a co-regulating. It's not. It's actually a deregulating tool.” (30:23 | Linda) Quote

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"Stand firm on your values and convictions, even when it's difficult. Show the love of Christ to your young adults, guiding them with truth and grace." - Rock Solid Families

In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson discuss the topic of parenting young adults in the context of sexuality and relationships. They emphasize the importance of establishing clear values and rules within the home before addressing these topics with young adults. The hosts encourage proactive communication and setting boundaries, while also maintaining a loving and respectful approach. They highlight the challenges of navigating the modern landscape of sexuality and gender, and offer guidance on how to handle situations where young adults may make choices that go against their parents' values.

The episode emphasizes the need for parents to be convicted in their own values and beliefs before addressing these topics with their young adult children. It encourages parents to have open and honest conversations, while also respecting their children's autonomy as adults. The hosts stress the importance of not giving unsolicited advice or being judgmental, but rather showing love and support while upholding their own values. They also address the potential rejection or conflict that may arise from differing beliefs, and emphasize the importance of maintaining a loving relationship even if there are disagreements. Overall, the episode provides practical advice and guidance for parents navigating the challenges of parenting young adults in the realm of sexuality and relationships.

Key Takeaways:
Evaluate and determine the values you want to uphold in your home before addressing the topic of sexuality with your young adult children. If you did not start when they were young, you can listen to early parts of our series and learn how to move forward from where you are today.
Have open and calm conversations with your spouse about the rules and values you want to establish regarding sex and relationships.
Be proactive in discussing these topics with your young adult children before they are in situations so you can help them manage their choices in alignment with Christian values and perspectives.
Stand firm on your values and communicate them respectfully to your young adult children, even if they disagree or push back.
Show love and support for your young adult children, even if you don't agree with their decisions, and maintain open lines of communication to continue influencing them positively.

Quotes:

"With freedom comes responsibility." (17:39 | Merrill)
"Unsolicited advice is taken as criticism. And so do not give your advice, preach them, lecture to them, unless they come to you and ask." (25:52 | Linda) Quote
"If they reject you because of your beliefs, that's their decision. Just step back and pray for them and give them space and time. But please, please don't reject them because of their decisions. It's hard to repair when things are said. It's hard to take things back. If you've done your job, they know what you stand for. They know what you believe in. You don't have to lecture them or preach to them. That just drives them further away from the values that you are trying to establish. So please keep those lines open." (28:38 | Linda) AUDIOGRAM

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Teaching our children about physical relationships is not about imposing rules, but about guiding them towards God's perfect design. It's about equipping them to make wise choices and protecting their hearts, minds, and bodies. Let's empower our children to understand their value and purpose, so they can navigate the challenges of this world with grace and integrity.

In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Linda Hutchinson and Merrill discuss the challenges of talking to teenagers about sexual topics in today's culture. They begin by addressing the issue of censorship and cancel culture, sharing their own experiences of being deleted from social media platforms for discussing sexual content from a Christian perspective. Despite these challenges, they emphasize the importance of having open and honest conversations with teenagers about sex and relationships, while also aligning these discussions with biblical values.

The hosts provide practical tips for parents on how to approach these conversations with their teenagers. They emphasize the importance of creating a safe and open environment where teenagers feel comfortable discussing these topics. They encourage parents to invite opportunities for conversation, ask open-ended questions, and listen actively to their teenagers' thoughts and opinions. They also highlight the significance of teaching teenagers the value of waiting until marriage and the potential consequences of engaging in premarital sex. Ultimately, they stress the importance of guiding teenagers to make choices that align with God's word and lead to blessings in their lives.

Throughout the episode, Linda and Merrill emphasize the need for parents to be proactive in addressing these topics with their teenagers. They acknowledge the challenges of navigating a culture that promotes permissiveness and distorted views of sex and relationships. However, they encourage parents to stay true to their values and provide their teenagers with a solid foundation rooted in biblical principles. By fostering open and honest conversations, parents can equip their teenagers to make informed and healthy choices regarding sex and relationships, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and God-honoring life

Key topics:
Invite opportunities for open and casual conversations about sex and relationships with your teenagers.
Use open-ended questions to encourage dialogue and discover your teenager's thoughts and beliefs about sex and sexuality.
Timing is important, so be ready to seize the moment when natural curiosity or relevant situations arise.
Focus on building a strong relationship with your teenager, listening to their feelings and validating their experiences.
Teach your teenagers the value of waiting until marriage for sexual intimacy and the benefits of following God's design for relationships.

Quotes:
"Invite opportunities, but then don't push, but gently invite them into the conversation." (11:38 | Linda) 
"We need to do more listening than talking and validating how our kids feel along the way." (18:49 | Linda)
"We want to help teens understand that there is such a thing as second chance virginity and God's forgiveness when we mess up." (33:24 | Linda)

“Not teaching God's way and allowing us to go the world's way makes for great TV movies, books, all kinds of smut on social media. So it makes for that stuff to be interesting. But the reality of it is it makes for heartache. It makes for breakup. It makes for emotional and psychological destruction.” (42:10 | Merrill) Audiogram

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Christian parents, are you wondering how to have "the sex talk" with your school-age sons and daughters? Merrill and Linda delve deeply into this question, offering candid insights in the latest Rock Solid Families episode. They underscore the urgency of addressing this subject, especially as kids today encounter sexual content far earlier than past generations. The episode spotlights the need for accurate terminology and the emphasis on principles of modesty and self-respect. Beyond just discussions on physical intimacy, the duo highlights the profound importance of instilling an understanding of one's identity in Christ and the inherent value this brings.
With the ever-growing influence of media and the internet, Linda and Merrill tackle the difficulties Christian parents encounter. They advocate for vigilant monitoring of what children consume online, co-watching television shows and observing your children when they are gaming as a way to protect your children from inappropriate content. These co-watching moments also create a space where open teaching dialogue can happen naturally. Crucially, the couple stresses the role of parents as role models, exemplifying respect across genders and assisting their children in discerning the eternal wisdom of God from the things they may see and hear in the world.
In essence, this episode is a great resource for parents who are continuing the conversation of sexuality with their maturing children (be sure to check out Part 1 of this series, episode 250, if you have younger children or if you need to revisit foundational topics you may have missed). 

Key Takeaways:

• Adopt clear, age-appropriate language when discussing sex with older children.
• Reinforce lessons on self-worth, modesty, and mutual respect, grounded in their identity in God.
• Actively supervise media exposure and encourage open discussions about content.
• Serve as exemplary figures, displaying respect and guiding children in contrasting God's word from worldly views.
• Equip kids with a robust Christian foundation to confidently face contemporary challenges.

Quotes:

• "We really have to approach it differently than our parents did. We have to not put our head in the sand and pretend like this is not happening because it is." (02:03 | Linda Hutchinson)
• "This is that time where your kids are going to get their first look, their first hear, of different things that are related to sex." (02:37 | Merrill Hutchinson)
• "It is near to impossible to keep your children from being exposed. And so you've got to get ahead of it and decide, OK, I want my children to learn the right thing at the right time and hear it from us instead of the kid down the street." (00:06:14 | Linda Hutchinson) Quote
• "And this is where at these elementary ages, where boys and girls are starting to recognize that there is a difference between boys and girls. And so this is where us as parents really want to start talking and teaching about modesty, about protecting your own private parts and about protecting and being aware of those with others. And so this is when we're actually having talks at these early elementary ages of, your private parts are yours and you're not to allow other people to touch them without your parents present and you're not to touch others." (16:11 | Merrill Hutchinson)
• "Finally, teaching your children to discern between what his word, God's word, teaches and what the world is teaching is super important." (36:47 | Linda Hutchinson)

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"Teaching our children about sex is not just about the act itself, but about instilling in them a deep understanding of their worth and purpose as beautifully created beings in God's image." - Linda Hutchinson

Welcome to the Rock Solid Families podcast! In this episode, Linda and Merrill Hutchinson kick off an important new series called "Sex: The Right Talk at the Right Time." They understand that talking to our kids about sex can be a challenging and uncomfortable topic, but it's crucial for parents to approach it in a way that aligns with their Christian values. Over the next four weeks, they will dive into different age groups and developmental readiness to help parents navigate this sensitive subject with confidence.

This week, Linda and Merrill focus on the early years, from birth to preschool. They emphasize the importance of building a strong foundation for children by teaching them about God's design and intention for their bodies. By instilling a biblical worldview from a young age, parents can help their children understand their identity, purpose, and the value of their bodies. They encourage parents to use appropriate language, teach modesty, and protect their children from exposure to inappropriate content.

The hosts also address common misconceptions and challenges parents may face in today's culture. They emphasize the need to rely on God's word as the guiding authority and to avoid promoting ideas that go against His design. They also discuss the importance of open communication and addressing any confusion or questions children may have. By approaching the topic of sex with grace, understanding, and a biblical perspective, parents can equip their children to navigate the complexities of the world with confidence and clarity.

Join Linda and Merrill as they provide practical advice, personal anecdotes, and biblical wisdom to help parents lay a solid foundation for their children's understanding of sex and relationships. Whether your children are in the early years, elementary school, or the teen years, this series will provide valuable insights and guidance to help you navigate this important aspect of parenting.

Key Takeaways:

• Start teaching children from a young age about their identity and purpose as created by God.
• Use age-appropriate language and explanations when discussing topics related to sex and gender.
• Protect children from exposure to inappropriate content and conversations.
• Teach modesty and the importance of protecting one's body from a young age.
• Address and correct any inappropriate behavior or exploration in a calm and educational manner.

Quotes:

• "We want to give you greater confidence in the way that God has designed and intended for us to really tackle some of these problems and these topics of sex and development and dating and all these kind of things." (04:39 | Linda)
• "We want to help them navigate this really uncertain world of sex and gender. And how do we approach this as parents, Christian parents that God has called us to be?" (12:05 | Linda)
• "We're trying to let God's word be the clear path. It's the clear path. And so we're trying to alleviate the confusion by directing them to God's word." (35:32 | Merrill)

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“As parents, you've got to know what your values are before you can set healthy boundaries,” says co-host Linda Hutchinson. The art of instilling and maintaining healthy boundaries with children can be challenging for parents. Merrill and Linda reflect on personal experiences, emphasizing the detrimental consequences of overindulgence and the importance of letting children experience the ramifications of their actions. As parents, it's essential to differentiate between occasional favors and habits that could hinder a child's growth into a self-sufficient individual.

Merrill and Linda further discuss the pitfalls of a child-centered home, advocating instead for a balance where God and family values take precedence. By setting clear boundaries and expectations, parents can guide their children towards becoming responsible and well-adjusted adults.

The hosts stress the importance of listening, adapting, and ensuring that your child's dreams and aspirations are genuinely their own. Too often, parents find themselves unconsciously pressuring their children into fulfilling dreams that aren’t genuinely theirs.

Merrill and Linda share the complexities they encountered in their personal journey with their children, reminding listeners that no one is perfect, and parenting is a continuous learning curve. The key takeaway? It's not about control but cultivating an environment of safety, security, and genuine understanding, rooted in solid values. Whether you're a new parent, a seasoned pro, or somewhere in between, this episode offers invaluable insights to guide your family towards health and harmony.

Quotes
"The child centered home, in and of itself, sounds great on paper. It's extremely dangerous and it's where entitlement comes from." (33:51 | Merrill Hutchinson)
"So please, set a boundary. You're the parent. So treat your child lovingly, but as a child." (34:35 | Linda Hutchinson)
"The fact is, you're going to get pu
shback from your kiddos. And so, you're really going to have to evaluate like, again, am I living my life through them or is this healthy that I'm asking this boundary of them?" (37:00 | Linda Hutchinson)
"We are always working the underlying value system, that at the end of the day, that’s what your kid is going to walk out of your home with. And if it’s a value system that only values them, then you certainly do not want to negotiate that benefit of them being more self-centered." (38:46 | Merrill Hutchinson)

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