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Adoption sounds like such a great thing!  Largely, because it is. Adoption can be an incredible experience in both the adopted child's life and the adoptive family's life.  But there is a reason that not everyone is doing it, nor should everyone do it.  Adoption can be very difficult.  It comes with many different challenges, some expected, many unexpected.  

In this show, Linda and Merrill celebrate National Adoption Day by discussing the topic of adoption.  They refer to their own personal experience with adoption of their three children, and many others that helped by sharing their stories.  

They discuss various types of adoptions from domestic to international.  They even talk about the bonding process between the child and the family. Depending on the situation this process of bonding can be relatively smooth, but it can also be a source of frustration and pain for all individuals involved. 

One thing is for certain, successful adoptions involved the heart.  The commitment is so deep and the work is plentiful.  If your heart is not fully open to this process, your logical mind will rationalize itself into failure.  In these cases, no one wins.  

Prior to adopting children God needs to know your heart as you open up to Him and allow Him to lead your way.  God's hand will be needed on a daily basis as the road can sometimes be bumpy.  But, in the end, adoption is not just a great thing to do, it is what God calls many of us to do.  

If you are interested in adoption or know someone that is, please share this show.  Feel free to reach out to us at rocksolidfamilies.org to ask questions or get more information. 

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As more and more people look for solutions to their problems from mankind, there are fewer people using prayer as a resource.  Often, you hear of prayer use as the last resort.  "If all else fails, you can always pray."  This use of prayer as a last resort actually speaks a great deal as to what people really believe and understand about prayer and God.  

We may ask the question, "Why should I have to pray to God? If he is all-knowing then wouldn't he give me what I need without me asking?"  On the surface, this sounds like a fair question.  But this is where we need to dig a little deeper in our understanding of God.  

God has created the entire universe and every natural think in it.  In his creation all things work for a purpose.  We may not understand the purpose, but the more we study science, the more we learn about why certain things are vital to creation.  All things work together for God's good.  However, there is only one thing in all of creation that can deny and reject God.  

This show is more about love and relationship than it is about prayer.  Listen in and learn exactly why we are called to pray and then how God responds to your prayer. 

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Many people do not believe in the idea of Spiritual Warfare.  When you bring it up they dismiss it or think of it as a mythical concept.  As much as we would like to dismiss it, you if call yourself a Christian, you can't dismiss, and in fact, you have a responsibility to learn more about it.  

Scripture is very clear about the reality of Spiritual Warfare.  There is a saying about scripture that says, "if it is repeated it is important". This is the case with this idea.  Spiritual Warfare is spoken of frequently and described with great detail.  Furthermore, it is described as a warning to all of us.  It is so important and dangerous that we are given specific instructions and guidance to ward against it.  

In this episode, Linda and Merrill discuss the truth of the warfare Christians fight and protect against.  They unpack Ephesians 6:10-18 to gain insight into the Armour of God.  The protection and weapons that God gives us to fight against the enemy.  When you read these scriptures you gain a clear vision of what God identifies as the enemy and exactly how you can protect yourself and family. 

We are called to be warriors for Christ just as he acts as a warrior on our behalf.  The battle for your soul is a hard fought battle.  You feel the impact on a daily basis.  If you begin to not recognize the danger or don't feel like you are under attack, it is because you are no longer a threat to the enemy.  In other words, you are doing nothing to get in the way of Satan's progress.  When you begin to stand against the ways of evil, you will feel yourself being attacked.  This is not the time to quit, but rather to buckle on the belt of truth and go to battle to win the war against evil.

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This is not just a show about Halloween with ghost and goblins.  This is a show about the reality of The Dark Side.  The fact that there truly is a realm of life that tries to exist out of the light.  When we say, "The Dark Side", we mean that this a side that denies the presence of God. God is light and anything not of God is darkness.  The two dimensions are in constant battle to occupy, light vs dark.  Things of God vs things not of God.  

God is the creator of all things good.  Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.   So to take God out of the picture you will experience the opposite; hate, sorrow, anxiety, impatience, meanness, harshness, distrust, abrasiveness, and recklessness.  This is the Dark Side!

People will debate whether or not there is such a thing as evil or darkness, but it doesn't take much living to experience it first hand.  Spiritual Warfare is real and whether you recognize it or not, does not mean it doesn't exist.  God's Word is very clear about the difference between living a life of God and one without God.  Denial of God does not take away his existence. 

But, we are not to be afraid of the Dark.  God has given us the Light and has given us the means to protect ourselves from the Dark.  Ephesians 6:10-18.  Take this not to be just symbolic, but rather a practical means of protection from darkness.  

If you are going through a difficult time of darkness, please don't let yourself sit there. Get help!  Contact Rock Solid Families at rocksolidfamilies.org

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Middle School or Junior High life can be difficult. Those years of wanting to be an older with more privileges and opportunities, but then dealing with the responsibilities that come with them.  This is a difficult time in human development, both for the individual going through it and for the people helping them get through it.  

In this show we invite special guest, Christy Andres, into the studio.  Both Linda and Christy have spent a large part of their career working with this age group.  The insights they have are incredibly helpful as parents and teachers navigate these sometimes choppy waters.  

This time of development is critical.  Done well, and these young adults are confident and ready to take on the next phase of life.  Done poorly, and these young adults can be stuck or limping along for many years to come.  

Listen in to see how you as parents and teachers can gain greater insight into helping your family through these times.

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There are many different learning styles in which people learn by.  But, the reality is, many of us have to learn the hard way!  We have to learn by the sometimes difficult path of actually doing.  

In this episode of Rock Solid Radio, Merrill is kicked out of the studio and Linda invites in special guest, Monica Quintinalla.  Monica is a young lady that thought she had life figured out.  She was tough, smart, and full of energy, but she was angry!  No one could tell Monica anything.  She knew it all and thought she had everything figured out.  She had developed a mean spirit as things didn't always go her way and people often disappointed her.  In order to get through, she would just do things her way.  

She began to realize that her way was not always producing as well as she thought it should.  God began to grab her attention and she began to feel broken.  A level of humility sank into her heart and she began to respond to God's hand in her life.  

Monica shares her story of learning the hard way and how God has began to upper her mind and heart to something much better than she was ever able to produce on her own.  She has been able to experience a since of peace and joy that she never had in her emptiness.  God has softened her heart and her thoughts and words have followed. 

Listen to Monica's story to see what happens when you begin to surrender your ways to His.  True life transformation takes place and a since of peace covers you like never before. 

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Most people would consider themselves coachable, to a degree.  Once we attain a certain level of experience and expertise we find that our level of coach-ability begins to wane. What happens?  

In this show Linda and Merrill discuss their 4 year anniversary of Rock Solid Radio.  During this four years they had to learn a lot about coaching and actually putting together shows.  But the question is, are they now experts.  the easy answer is , NO!  

After four years Merrill and Linda have grown significantly in their skills and approaches necessary for their coaching ministry. But one thing is for certain, they still have a long way to GROW!  

Being coachable is the road to growing as a person.  It is easy to rest on our past experiences and begin to think that we know all there is to know. Yet, it is a daily occurrence for us to scratch our head and wonder about how to solve the next problem or what the next step should be in our work.  

Linda and Merrill discuss the great coaches such as John Wooden and Jesus Christ.  Not that the two should be compared, other than the fact that John Wooden openly claimed that Jesus was his coach and continued to teach him throughout his life. 

The show is a reminder and call-out to all of us that we must stay humble and coachable.  We all have much to learn and even teach.  We carry a great responsibility to use to the fullest the gifts we have been given.  Take the time to challenge yourself to grow everyday.  Do not be content with what you did yesterday, but rather strive for a better tomorrow. 

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Should you tell your kids who their friends should be?  Many parents would like to do this, and, yes, there may be a time when a parent needs to step in and give strong guidance on friendship.  But, there really is a better way!  How about as parents we teach our kids how to choose their friends well?  

This is the message in today's show.  Teaching your kids how to select friends through the process of raising them with the knowledge and skills to carry this out.   If we begin early in the teachings of family values, skills for interacting with others, basic rights and wrongs, and an internal strength to stand up for what you believe, our kids will most likely to a better job than we could ever do at choosing friends.  

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Would you be okay with your adult grown children living with you indefinitely?  This is the question that we are facing more often as we see more young adults not leaving the home.  Often times the situation is that they left the home only to return sometime later due to circumstances rendering them homeless. 
As their parents we feel the need to help them through this difficult time, but when this time becomes undefined and begins to last longer than anyone anticipated, bad things often begin to happen. Relationships are strained, people are taken for granted, and often times what seemed like a helpful gesture turns into a dramatic mess. 
In this show, Merrill and Linda give helpful insights and tips to help parents through this difficult time. This is a show about boundaries, parenting, and respect for each other.  If you are in a situation in which you have house guests that have outstayed their welcome, this show will help you navigate the solution to benefit all parties involved.

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There is no question that our children are an incredible blessing and a top priority in our life.  But the question of: Do you want a Child Centered Home?, is a question we ask seriously.  Many parents believe a child centered home makes great sense and would be something to strive for. However, if we truly watch what happens and see the results of a child centered home, it actually causes more harm than good.  

As parents we have the responsibility to prepare our children to be adults in this world.  Whether we like it or not, adult life is not always easy and we certainly do not get what we want on a regular basis.  Rather, as an adult, we find ourselves working for the sake of something bigger and beyond ourselves. Maybe we work for an employer and we quickly learn we must be a valuable resource for our employer.  Or maybe we are in the military and we understand that we frequently don't get to do what we want and must learn to work for others.    The bottom line is that as adults we all must come to realize that we are here to serve.  We are here for the benefit of each other not just ourselves.  

The setback with a setting our home up as a child-centered home immediately positions the needs of the child above the needs of others in the house.  Specifically, we see the needs of the child placed above the needs of the parents as a married couple.  We often serve the children at the expense of the relationship between the parents.   This goes so far as to manifest itself by children sleeping in the bed with the parents and often one of the parents leaving the bed to make room for the child.  

Soon the message to the child is that they are to be served and essentially to get what they want.  As a child they often have no understanding of what their demands are costing the marriage or family at large.  

This show specifically addresses the reasons why the child - centered home is not the best thing we can do for our children.   Rather, we strive to let our children see that the adults work together for the good of the entire family.  And, this means the adults are leading the family and directing their children to be healthy servants for the good of the rest of the family. 

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