Rock that Relationship!

Exclusivity, situationships, playing the field…Listen as Corey and Tracy discuss the many factors that go into figuring out the flow and pace of a new relationship. While both aspire to channel Dr. Frankie’s advice to explore options and take it slow before committing, Corey and Tracy share their visceral reaction to any dating or relationship activity that does not involve settling down right out of the gate. Tracy sums it up for the two of them: Move quickly from the apps, “take it live,” and establish an exclusive relationship right away. However, there are many ways to go about deciding the flow and pace of a new relationship. And, they both believe that knowing what you want and being transparent about it is what is most essential.

Show Notes:

Frankie Bashan-Learn more about Dr. Frankie’s matchmaking and coaching services at https://drfrankie.com and follow her on Instagram at @drfrankiebashan.

Martha Bodyfelt-Find out more information about Martha Bodyfelt, including getting access to her quiz, programs, information about the Ready for Love group program, and details on how to set up coaching.

Break Up Bestie-Listen as Kendra Allen shares her insight about getting through a breakup.

How do YOU fall in love? Is it an up-all-night, fairy tale, magical whirlwind where you hurl yourself into the mad rush of euphoria, like Tracy does? Or is it more measured and slow burning, bucking all the Hollywood expectations of the happily ever after, like Corey goes about it? Tune in as Corey and Tracy talk about their experiences falling in love (not with each other!), societal expectations on what falling in love should look like, and whether “Pow, Boom, Bang” is real.

Show Notes:

Sex and the City-Check out the show to see Tracy’s references to different relationship approaches!

Say Anything-Find out more about the movie that brought us “boombox love.”

“The Ultimatum: Queer Love” had the LGBTQ community on the edge of their seats for ten episodes, waiting to see if any of the five couples ended up getting married, splitting up, or even re-partnering with someone else on the show. Join us as we have a heartfelt conversation with Xander Boger, who had a profound reflective journey during and after “The Ultimatum.” We talk about heartbreak, journaling, self-love, spirituality, and finding confidence. And, as always, Corey and Tracy have their own stories to share about everything from Corey’s love crystals to Tracy’s “nobody puts Baby in a corner” phase. This episode will be sure to open your eyes and your heart to finding your way after heartbreak.

Show Notes:

The Ultimatum: Queer Love-Watch a trailer for the show and then head on over to Netflix to binge the entire series.

Toxic Parents-Learn about the impact of childhood experiences on one’s adulthood.

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Xander Boger

Instagram: @xander.ology.

Tune in as we chat with Martha Bodyfelt about dating in mid-life. Our lively conversation flows from how to meet people in real life through activities that bring you joy and the power of loose connections to the downsides of video-game-like dating apps. Rest assured, Tracy pipes in with her own experiences with online dating and making connections, and Corey shares about her deep dive into the dating apps only to meet someone in real life when she least expected. Hear as Martha also shares about her Dating DNA-clarity, confidence, and connection…along with the worst dating advice she has ever heard, including “be yourself,” “you just have to put yourself out there,” and “you’re too picky.” The episode is chalk full of practical wisdom about how to best design your dating portfolio.

Show Notes:

Esther Perel-Check out podcast episodes and articles from relationship and sexuality expert, Esther Perel.

Martha Bodyfelt-Find out more information about Martha Bodyfelt, including access to her quiz, programs, information about the Ready for Love group program, and details on how to set up coaching.

Web: https://marthabodyfelt.com/

Instagram: @marthabodyfelt.

Download her free guide: "Where to start if you haven't dated in years or decades."

Book a Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/martha/discovery-call.

Join the private Empowered Dating for Women Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/700449001229210.

While shows like Indian Matchmaking and The Millionaire Matchmaker have brought attention to facilitated dating, Dr. Frankie Bashan, lesbian and bisexual matchmaker, offers behind-the-scenes details on how both matchmaking and speed dating work. Tune in as she talks about how she entered into the world of matchmaking and how her background as a psychologist helps clients “stay optimistic” through the dating process. No episode would be complete without Corey and Tracy sharing their own experiences, like how speed dating made Corey a better dater by giving her a place to practice flirty comments and how it connected Tracy with even more new Facebook friends.

Show Notes:

Indian Matchmaking-Check out the show and Netflix and learn more about modern-day arranged marriages.

The Millionaire Matchmaker-Check out this multi-season reality show follows a matchmaker who pairs up wealthy singles.

Married at First Sight-Watch this reality show where matchmakers pair up strangers to meet at the altar to say, “I do.” Follow them through their honeymoon and initial time of living together to see who stays together and who doesn’t.

Jewish Matchmaking-Tune in as this reality show follows a matchmaker who finds these Jewish men and women their ideal partners.

Love on the Spectrum-Watch this Australian reality show that follows the dating and relationship worlds of individuals on the autism spectrum.

Frankie Bashan-Learn more about Dr. Frankie’s matchmaking and coaching services.

Web: https://drfrankie.com

Instagram: @drfrankiebashan.

Check out Little Gay Book at https://littlegaybook.com for programs, resources, events, and services for lesbian, bisexual, and trans women.

Have you ever dated across a large age gap? Long distance? Someone with kids? How about a person with different political or religious views? Or maybe someone freshly broken up? Dating is hard enough without all of the extra layers of possible complexity. But, these factors only help us figure out what we really want in a partner, including what are dealbreakers and what aren’t. Listen as Corey shares how she really feels about olives and how she doesn’t buy into messaging that she can be judgy because she knows what she wants and Tracy talks about what we would really do if we found out our friends didn’t like who we were dating. Learn about how you feel about some of these unique dating situations as you listen to Corey and Tracy banter away!

Show Notes:

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Let’s Talk Attachments with Jessica DaSilva-Check out this podcast to learn more about attachment styles.

“What’s your sign?” is not just a pick-up line from a silly rom-com. Instead, understanding astrology can be foundational for dating. Tune in as we chat with astrologer and relationship expert, Bethany Nicole, as she drops some amazing wisdom about our signs, planets, and houses and how each can affect the way we show up in dating. Listen as Bethany discusses the importance of enhancing self-knowledge and being able to calibrate our shadow sides for more effective relationships as well as how past lives and intuition intersect with astrology. And, for fun, hear how both Corey and Tracy have navigated the dating scene as Virgos!

Show Notes:

Kabbalistic Astrology-Learn more about this type of astrology and link to resources for more information.

Costar-This astrology app provides customized readings based on your birth chart.

Astrology.com-This site provides horoscopes, birth charts, articles, and more information about astrology.

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Love Languages-Learn about Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages and how you like to give and receive love.

Bethany Nicole-Learn more about Bethany’s work with astrology, book a chart reading, and check out her book (and blog), Apologies I Never Got!

Web: https://www.bethanynicole.com

Twitter: @Best2BBethany

Nervous about asking someone out, getting ready for that first date, striking up the initial conversation, or even figuring out how to say goodbye at the end of the date while keeping the momentum going for the next one (or gently letting the person down if you don’t want another date)? Well, Corey and Tracy aren’t likely going to answer these questions or put your mind at ease. But, they will share how their approaches to first dates are significantly different and have both worked! Corey likes a nice hug on a first date…Tracy is open to more. Corey has discussion topics planned out…Tracy lets the conversation unfold organically. Corey avoids talking about exes…Tracy talks highly about her exes as they have been fundamental in shaping who she is. Both, though, agree that extendable dates in public places is key and sending a follow-up message no matter if there is interest in another date is the kind and courteous thing to do. Maybe they aren’t so different after all!

Show Notes:

Indian Matchmaking-Check out the show and Netflix and learn more about modern-day arranged marriages.

8 Dates-Learn about 8 critical conversations to have with your partner.

Organic dating isn’t connecting with a possible love interest over a kale smoothie; instead, it involves meeting prospects OFF the dating apps. In a world in which the apps are the go-to for many, it’s easy to forget about all the amazing places and great ways to meet people IRL. Listen in as Corey and Tracy talk about how friends of friends and solo travel open doors to dating, and the reality of the friends-to-lovers trope along with the pros and cons of dating a coworker. Tune in as Corey shares about bookstore loitering and Meetup events, Tracy discusses her one and only blind date, and the two of them banter about whether dating an old flame is a good idea. Whether you are in the dating scene or just want some ideas about how to meet people, check out this episode!

Show Notes:

Meetup.com-Check out this online platform that helps you “Meet new people who share your interests through online and in-person events.” You can find local groups with just about any interest from sports to writing to cooking to spirituality. While not a dating site, it’s a great way to connect with people with similar interests.

Olivia-Learn more about this travel company that offers cruises and vacation packages specifically for LGBTQ women who are traveling solo travelers or with others.

Your Place or Mine-Watch this rom-com starring Reese Witherspoon and Ashton Kutcher…the ultimate friends-to-lovers trope!

Online dating…some love it; some don’t. But, it can be a great way to meet amazing people and potential partners, if you approach it authentically and with realistic expectations. Listen as Corey and Tracy banter about profiles riddled with typos, bathroom selfies, ghosting, and having to sift through what are obviously rants about exes embedded into profile content. Tune in as Corey shares about the downsides of having your settings on “radius infinity” and conjuring about possible connections thousands of miles away but then creating impossible relationships if neither person wants to move. Hear Tracy talk about “less is more” and not overthinking the profile, the photo, or even when and what to message. With two very different approaches to online dating, with neither being the surefire way to go, find out what might work for you!

Show Notes:

Dating Apps: Her, Zoosk, OkCupid, Facebook Dating