Rock that Relationship!

What happens if you find yourself in a relationship where your expectations are different from your partner’s? Tune in for a lively discussion about what being committed to a relationship versus a person means, the notion of transference (and what that has to do with the old and new Becky on Roseanne), and the dangers of silent expectations . . . along with Corey’s grocery shopping habits and Tracy’s dislike of situationships. Whether you want to learn about how compromise and the third solution differ, the importance of relationship goals, or how to use a reassurance statement, this episode is one you won’t want to miss.

Show Notes:

8 Dates-Learn about 8 critical conversations to have with your partner.

Love is Blind-Learn more about this dating reality show.

Frankie Bashan-Learn more about Dr. Frankie’s matchmaking and coaching services at https://drfrankie.com and follow her on Instagram at @drfrankiebashan.

To Be Magnetic-Check out the Expanded podcast for information about manifestation.

This is Actually Happening Podcast-Check out this weekly podcast highlighting the extraordinary.

Golden Bachelor-Tune in to this reality dating show for those in their “sunset years.”

The New Becky-Learn why the show, Roseanne, swapped out Becky mid-series.

The New Jesus-Find out the story behind swapping Jesus’s character on The Fosters.

Tune in for an amazing conversation with Claire Afua Jorgensen, marriage and relationship coach, as she shares the key to saving your relationship during troubled times. She says, “A relationship is only as healthy as the two people in it” and believes that both partners have to be willing to do the work. Listen as she shares ideas for where to start. Rest assured, Tracy pipes in with her experience trying to save a past relationship, and Corey questions whether you can fall back in love with someone after having fallen out of it. This is an episode you won’t want to miss!

Show Notes:

Claire Afua Jorgensen

Web: claireafuajorgensen.coach

Instagram: @marriagesaved

You can take her free marriage/relationship temperature test on her website, check out her free e-book, Save Our Marriage, or schedule a consultation with her.

How can you keep the spark alive in your relationship? Well, it takes more than just flowers and chocolate. Tune in as Corey and Tracy discuss spark killers, time blocking, question cards, and tough or fluff. And, hear their thoughts on vulnerability, wellness checks, gratitude, surprises, and intimacy. While there are many ways to keep that spark, Tracy is more of a love poem, talk about everything in the relationship, kind of partner, whereas Corey enjoys making new memories and having adventures in her relationships. One thing they both agree on is the 555 approach: 5 thoughtful questions, 5 gratitude statements, and 5 touches a day.

Show Notes:

Love Languages-Learn about Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages and how you like to give and receive love.

Marriage Fitness-Download an audiobook and worksheets on making and keeping your relationship fit. Good for long-term unmarried partners as well.

Amazing Race-Learn more about the reality show that inspired Corey’s epic adventure.

True Detective-Check out this series about police investigations.

The Science of Happiness-Learn more about GG101x: The Science of Happiness Certificate at BerkeleyX.

Listen as we chat with bestselling and award-winning author, Katharine Giovanni, as she talks about her book, The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness. Katharine shares valuable tools for forgiving people, places, and things…along with the energy surrounding them. Discover how to use her ranking exercise of the painful memories you want to forgive, mantras for helping you move forward, and ideas for gratitude and visioning to release negative anger tied to these experiences. Learn more about what she means by, “you don’t have to forgive the unforgiveable.” And, hear from Corey about wanting to spreadsheet her way into forgiveness while Tracy shares about reimagining an alternative ending to a real-life scenario so she can let things go.

Show Notes:

The Hidden Messages in Water-Check out this book by Masaru Emoto on how “thoughts, words, and feelings” impact water.

Toxic Parents-Learn about the impact of childhood experiences on one’s adulthood.

The Choice-Learn more about Edith Eva Eger’s perspectives on the choices we make in life.

Katharine Giiovanni

Web: katharinegiovanni.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katharinegiovanni

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katharine.giovanni

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0PPtlSUPldGNl9mIRRtAmA

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katharinegiovanni

The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness-Order a copy of Katharine’s book for all the strategies and tools for finding forgiveness.

Join us as we hear from forgiveness specialist, Barbara J. Hunt, on the importance of self-forgiveness in relationships, the connection between grief and forgiveness, and how people often get something out of holding onto their own resentment. Tracy talks about how she lets herself off the hook quickly after making a mistake, while Corey shares about taking far too long. Listen as Barbara shares strategies to get to the heart of what needs forgiving and move on in a healthy way.

Show Notes:

To Be Magnetic-Learn about the manifestation challenge of To Be Magnetic.

Find out more about The Work with Byron Katie and discover more about the wisdom inside of you.

Check out Tara Brach’s book, Radical Acceptance, to learn about “healing the shame and fear that bind our hearts.”

Barbara J. Hunt

Web: forgivenessmadeeasy.co.uk. linktr/ee/barbara_j_hunt

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@barbara_j_hunt

Instagram: @barbara_j_hunt

Also, check out a song she wrote using the ubiquitous Marianne Williamson quote-“our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is we are powerful beyond measure…” called : BRILLIANT, GORGEOUS, TALENTED & FABULOUS

Tune in for an amazing conversation with clinical psychologist and certified relationship therapist, Dr. Satira Streeter Corbitt, about addressing the root causes of conflict in relationships. She discusses how we, as adults, engage in conflict in ways that were modeled for us as children. Corey shares about how her parents’ relationship, and ultimate divorce, modeled some unhealthy patterns she didn’t want to repeat. Tracy pipes in about the challenges many in marginalized communities face in seeking out and getting therapy, with messages she heard as a child about keeping “our business in our family.” This is a fascinating episode, great for anyone in a relationship, parenting, or just wanting to learn how to uncover how they approach conflict.

Show Notes:

Blacks Couples Therapy-Grab a copy of this book about to learn more about providing culturally responsive care to Black couples. Dr. Satira has a chapter in this book as well!

Toxic Parents-Learn about the impact of childhood experiences on one’s adulthood.

Scribd-Check out this app where you can listen to audiobooks and podcast on just about any subject. Corey and Tracy found many breakup, healing, and relationship books and podcasts on this site. Scribd now goes by Everand.

Ascensions-Learn more about this organization, which provides “therapy without walls” to the Washington, DC community.

The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy-Take a look at this book by Susan M. Johnson, which blends attachment, emotional regulation, and neuroscience, and strategies for engaging in emotionally focused therapy.

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Art and Science of Love-Check out this weekend retreat on building intimacy, based on more than 40 years of research from Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

Hold Me Tight-Learn more about this insightful book by Dr. Sue Johnson about creating secure relationships with our partners.

Dr. Satira Streeter Corbitt

Web: http://drsatira.com

Email: [email protected]

Wondering how to best support your partner through challenging times? Listen as Corey and Tracy discuss how minimizing, comparing, judging, fixing, and silver lining can create a negative impact on the relationship, despite one’s helpful intention. Instead, consider asking about your partner’s needs, validating, encouraging, supporting, listening, and affirming as they can go a long way in showing love. Hear Tracy discuss her journey through perimenopause and Corey talk about the support she received after the heartbreaking loss of her mom. Whether dealing with the death of a loved one, a toxic job, health issues, or caretaking for others, a supportive partner can make all the difference.

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Tune in for an insightful discussion about intimacy with licensed marriage and family therapist, Julie Hall, as she shares about the three Cs to developing intimacy – Curiosity, Compassion, and Courage. She describes what threat response behaviors, negative interaction cycles, and competing attachments are and how they can get in the way of intimacy in a partnership. Corey brings up watering the garden from season one, talking about what can happen when you shift intimacy away from your partner, and Tracy jumps in with her own revelations about how having been the “pursuer” impacted intimacy with her partners. If you are looking for ways to break down your intimacy walls or develop a closer connection with your partner, you won’t want to miss this episode!

Show Notes:

Berkeley Well-being Institute-Check out resources on self-compassion.

Emotion-Focused Therapy-Learn about how emotion-focused therapy can help in developing emotional awareness.

Season 1, Episode 2: Watering the Garden-Hear more about Corey’s reference in this episode.

Brené Brown-Make sure to check out the books, blogs, and TED Talk on vulnerability.

Julie Hall

Web: juliehalltherapy.com

Tune in to hear Dr. Nicole Odom-Hardnett’s personal story about blending families and parenting “bonus children.” Learn about how she embraces the practice of constant communication and parenting as a team. She also offers recommendations about dealing with each other’s exes and on what to do if you are the one coming into the relationship without your own children. Tracy pipes in with her stories of “I’ll be fine. I was a babysitter approach” to parenting, and Corey shares her thoughts on being the partner with the child.

Show Notes:

Love is Blind-Learn more about this dating reality show.

Dr. Nicole Odom-Hardnett

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/talktonicole/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talktonicoleoh/?hl=en

Email: [email protected]

Join us for a lively discussion on the 20 questions to ask yourself before getting married. For example: Would for better or worse make me better or worse? What am I doing to hold us back? Is this relationship balanced? What is my gut telling me? Listen as Corey and Tracy talk about their opinions on each of the questions, why they are important, and what questions might be missing from the list. As usual, both of them have vastly different opinions. But, one thing they agree on is that these questions should be asked far earlier in a relationship than before considering marriage!

Show Notes:

Do Not Marry Someone Until You Can Honestly Answer These 20 Questions-Read the article that is the foundation for this episode’s discussion.

Coach Dorothy-Tune in to Dorothy Johnson’s podcast about getting past heartbreak.

FB over 50 travel group-Search Facebook for groups for solo travelers, women travelers, lesbian travelers, over 50 travelers, etc.

Eat, Pray, Love-Check out this movie about a woman’s personal journey after a messy divorce.

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Love is Blind-Learn more about this dating reality show.

The Gift of Fear-Get a copy of Gavin de Becker’s book on about how acting on instinct can literally save you.

Suze Orman-Get tips from personal finance expert, Suze Orman.