Rock that Relationship!

Whether it’s too much conflict, lack of commitment, incompatibility, or betrayal, people divorce for many reasons. Tune in to hear Corey and Tracy talk about the most common causes for divorce and how those might show up in divorce. For instance, if you had communication issues in the marriage, you might have communication issues in the divorce process. But, you also don’t want to miss hearing why Tracy wants the freedom to have a party and what Corey’s thoughts are on a marriage affidavit and the compromising phase.

Show Notes:

Divorce.com-Why do people get divorced? Check out this article, chock full of research to learn more.

My 600-lb Life-Tune in to watch this long-running series about people who weigh more than 600 pounds who engage in life-changing behavior to lose weight before undergoing gastric bypass surgery.

Red Lines and Orange Lines-Tune in to Season 1 Episode 6 and learn about the difference between red lines and orange lines.

Learn about what dozens of people have to say about thriving in a relationship – what it means and how to foster it. Corey and Tracy explore themes like radical honesty and vulnerability, respectful receptance, being on the same team, patience, acknowledging/apologizing/validating, defining the unique norms of your relationship, clarifying expectations and boundaries, attuning to yourself, and using intentional strategies to foster intimacy. Tune in for examples and resources to help your relationship thrive! And, find out about Corey’s and Tracy’s friendship agreement on communication and wellness checks. You won’t want to miss this season finale!

Show Notes:

8 Dates-Learn about 8 critical conversations to have with your partner.

The First Four Words-Read Tucker’s book on effective communication and using only four words to get the conversation started.

Brené Brown-Make sure to check out the books, blogs, and TED Talk on vulnerability.

Relationship Anarchist Smorgasbord-Use this worksheet for a conversation with your partner about the things that matter in your relationship.

Paired-This app offers “daily conversation starters.”

Skin Deep-Check out this card deck that offers prompts for getting to know each other.

Gottman Cards-Learn more about the different card decks offered with questions and ideas for enhancing relationships.

Lesbian Adventures in Love-Check out this Facebook group “where lesbians go to date” and find out more about the speed dating events, courses, and retreats, offered by lesbian relationship coach, Michele O’Mara.

com-Learn more about Bethany’s work with astrology, book a chart reading, and check out her book (and blog), Apologies I Never Got!

Jerry Maguire-Watch this class Tom Cruise and Renée Zellweger rom-com!

Tune in for tips, strategies, and inspiration from Certified Financial Planner® and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, Melissa Murphy Pavone. Whether your finances are blended, you keep separate accounts, or have a hybrid setup with your partner, talking about money is essential for ensuring financial fidelity. She suggests having these conversations, not just at the beginning of a relationship, but also consistently during what she calls, “financial date nights.” Each month, couples set a time to talk about topics around financial values, priorities, mindsets, and tactical decisions. She says that a person’s “money language” is liken to a love language and that making sure there is financial compatibility or at least a mutual understanding of the differences is a key to a thriving relationship. And, what is more romantic than a financial date night? And, if you’re curious about Corey’s view on teens riding in Ubers and thrift store clothes and Tracy’s desire to sleep in a tent on vacation and consume food like the Jetson’s did, you’ll definitely want to listen in!

Show Notes:

Melissa Murphy Pavone-Melissa is a Certified Financial Planner® and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® who's on a mission to change the game when it comes to couples and money.

Check out her website at moneymattersinmarriagellc.com, which is filled with helpful resources, including information on her Money Mindset Discovery Program for couples. Use the 25 percent discount promo code: ROCK25.

8 Dates-Learn about 8 critical conversations to have with your partner.

Suze Orman-Check out resources from world-renowned financial expert, Suze Orman, for tips on money management.

Holiday in the Wild-Tune into this holiday rom-com starring Rob Lowe and Kristen Davis.

Rich Dad, Poor Dad-Pick up a copy of this book to learn more about key lessons on money!

Tibetan Book of Living and Dying-Check out this Buddhist classic about life and death.

Join Corey and Tracy as they ponder the intricacies of “money” in thriving relationships. They share about their own experiences, where Tracy’s visceral reaction to having a shared bank account with a partner and Corey’s exasperation of having to Venmo half the utilities each month without one serve as yet another reason the two of them are not in a relationship! What they do agree on is that money and trust are synonymous, building wealth at a young age is vital, how people handle their finances is usually a reflection of how they navigate life, financial independence during a relationship is key, and that communication early on is critical to learning whether you are financially compatible. Most of all, feeling financially safe is fundamental to a thriving relationship. And, if that isn’t enough, you get to learn more about Tracy’s credit card points and impromptu purchase of a whole home filtration system and Corey’s methodical process for buying a lamp!

Show Notes:

8 Dates-Learn about 8 critical conversations to have with your partner.

Suze Orman-Check out resources from world-renowned financial expert, Suze Orman, for tips on money management.

What if you knew the secret to having a productive conversation, especially about a difficult topic? Tune in for wisdom from executive coach, owner/founder of Onward Leadership, speaker, and author of The First Four Words, Tucker Miller, to find out. Along the way, discover why Tracy is bothered by emails with multiple question marks, how Corey can see right through a fake apology, and what Tucker means by having a “good” goodbye. This episode is chock full of great tips on how you can diffuse a tricky situation and invite a discussion with someone using only four words. Listen to find out what those four words are!

Show Notes:

Tucker Miller-Find out more about Tucker’s book and access resources.

Onward Leadership-Learn more about Tucker’s speaking, coaching, and training opportunities.

LinkedIn-Follow Tucker on LinkedIn to keep up with her blogs and webinars.

The First Four Words-Read Tucker’s book on effective communication and using only four words to get the conversation started.

Rich Dad, Poor Dad-Pick up a copy of this book to learn more about key lessons on money!

Sometimes, you come across that episode that just inspires you to be a better human. And, this one certainly does. Join us as we talk with Dr. Kristen Donnelly about centering people, treating others with kindness and respect, and engaging in radical, inclusive hospitality. Corey and Tracy can’t agree more with this philosophy as Tracy pipes in about why complimenting everyone at pickleball can have a profound impact, and Corey shares that how you treat restaurant servers says a lot about you. All in all, you will learn ideas for setting boundaries with kindness, ways you can create a supportive partnership, the value of communication, and about the importance of figuring out what makes you feel loved and not loved and then finding a way to explain both to your partner without blame. You will surely leave this episode feeling inspired to bring out the best in others.

Show Notes:

Kristen Donnelly-Learn more about Kristen’s work and sign up for her newsletter.

LinkedIn-Follow Kristen online.

The Culture of Burnout-Read Kristen’s book on burnout and strategies to break the stress cycle.

Mean Girls Musical-Learn more about this hit Broadway musical based on the movie, Mean Girls.

Are there ever reasons to not disclose something to preserve the relationship, or are you a believer in “radical transparency?” Where do you draw the line between privacy and secrecy? Listen as Corey and Tracy talk about their thoughts on sharing every fleeting thought to non-disclosure to dishonesty in relationships. They discuss how defining transparency with your partner is key and how being transparent with yourself is also important in living your own truth. Hear about Corey’s hairdressing skills as a kid and the secret she harbored for years, along with Tracy’s teen behavior that she kept quiet from her parents, and how both decided back then that secrets were not their thing. Tune in to find out more!

Show Notes:

8 Dates-Learn about 8 critical conversations to have with your partner.

Privacy Versus Secrecy-Read the piece by Jodie Milton and Reece Stockhausen on Practical Intimacy differentiating between privacy and secrecy.

Gestalt-Learn more about Gestalt psychology.

Gisèle Pelicot-Read about this story of a woman’s survival from her husband’s orchestration of sustained sexual assaults over the years.

Join us for this amazing conversation with therapist and spiritual coach, Xandra Hawes. It’s easy to see why her friends refer to her as their galactic librarian as Xandra’s wisdom on the intersection of mental health and spiritual transformation is unprecedented. We chat with her about the importance of having a strong mental foundation in order to trust spiritual messaging, how partners with different spiritual evolutionary paces can support each other, the process for karmic healing, and the notion of “dropping density.” If you are looking for validation, explanation, or just inspiration about how you can spiritually thrive while in your relationship, this is an episode you won’t want to miss! Plus, Corey and Tracy have some insight to drop too . . . this time about high vibe friendships and heartthrob, Rob Lowe.

Show Notes:

Xandra Hawes-Find out more about Xandra’s therapy services and spiritual life coaching as well as read her blogs.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy-Learn about mindfulness skills related to the Wise Self/Best Self/Higher Self.

Advancement empathy skills-Find out about strategies for developing your empathy skills.

Holiday in the Wild-Tune into this holiday rom-com starring Rob Lowe and Kristen Davis.

com-Learn more about Bethany’s work with astrology, book a chart reading, and check out her book (and blog), Apologies I Never Got!

Bardo-Read about the Buddhist concept that refers to the state between death and rebirth.

What does thriving in a relationship mean? According to our resident astrologer, Bethany Nicole, it involves having ease, flow, and joy. How can you ensure a thriving relationship, though? The most important way is to set yourself up from the beginning by using the dating funnel, which can help in clarifying compatibility. Once that is established, it is critical to seek energetic alignment, which involves understanding if the blueprints we use to navigate life “vibe” together. In long-term relationships, the mutual vibe might be absent or have faded over the years. While we can all “force” a relationship using our free will, it is the deep introspective work that will help us figure out if we are energetically aligned or engaging in spiritual drifting, which involves pulling our partners along for the self-growth ride, despite their disinterest in going. However, Bethany offers some great suggestions for each partner to raise their vibrations individually and together, if they are willing to put in the work. And, if you want to know how Corey and Tracy fit in with all of this, hear Bethany’s take on both their Virgo-ness and the kind of vibe they put out in the world!

Show Notes:

Bethanynicole.com-Learn more about Bethany’s work with astrology, book a chart reading, and check out her book (and blog), Apologies I Never Got!

Check out her website at https://www.bethanynicole.com and follow her on Twitter at @Best2BBethany.

Read “The Secret Energetics of Relationships.”

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

The Gift of Fear-Check out this book about how to spot even the most minimal signs of danger and thus protect yourself.

Coach Dorothy-Tune in to Dorothy Johnson’s podcast about getting past heartbreak.

Astrocartography-Find out more about how your birth chart intersects with various places in the world, signaling meaning for you.

Do you want to learn the secret to building a lasting relationship? Don’t we all!!? Tune in as we explore attachment, communication, perfection, and boundaries with relationship coach, Dagmar Kusiak. She shares ways to unglue yourself from childhood dynamics in order to shift relationship expectations and how her journey to better understand her father helped her process her past relationship patterns. She also asserts that “If you want to change, do things differently.” And, that it's vital for both partners in a relationship to commit to learning and growing as “one of the best ways to learn about yourself is by being in a relationship.” Tracy shares about her changing roles as both the unprocessed and processed partner and the impact of both experiences, whereas Corey leans into the discussion on emotional boundaries, sharing that “who you want to exchange energy with, even friends, is different when you are focused on self-growth and want to be surrounded by others who are too.” In the end, they all agree that a commitment to working on yourself before entering a relationship, but also during, is the key to a lasting relationship.

Show Notes:

Dagmar Kusiak-connect with Dagmar, learn about her coaching, read her blogs, and take quizzes on healthy relationships!

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Attached-Read about attachment styles from this transformative book.

Heather Browne-As a relationship expert, Dr. Heather Browne has worked with thousands of individuals and couples in psychotherapy.

Brené Brown-Make sure to check out the books, blogs, and TED Talk on vulnerability.

Emotional Intelligence-Choose from four different EI assessments.

Love Languages-Learn about Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages and how you like to give and receive love.

Toxic Parents-Learn about the impact of childhood experiences on one’s adulthood.

This is Us-Check out this TV series about a family told through a series of flashbacks.

The Notebook-Watch this love story about two people from opposite social circumstances spend their lifetimes trying to reconnect.