Rock that Relationship!

Healing after a breakup can feel overwhelming. But, what if you had a healing plan that could help you move through the process quicker and more effectively? Tracy isn’t quite sure a formal plan would work for her, but Corey swears by her 44-point healing plan. Listen as they talk about their healing experiences being scattershot, as Tracy says, or prescribed, as Corey says, and how both of their processes, while different from each other, were incredibly intentional and transformative.

Show Notes:

Meetup.com-Check out this online platform that helps you “Meet new people who share your interests through online and in-person events.” You can find local groups with just about any interest from sports to writing to cooking to spirituality.

Sadness, anger, hurt, confusion, relief, and fear. These are just some of the emotions many people feel after a breakup. Listen as Corey and Tracy talk about which emotions often come from feeling grief due to the loss of the relationship and which ones come from the trauma of the breakup or even relationship itself. They share how the healing processes for grief and trauma can be different from one another, offering resources and ideas to help with both.

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Scribd-Check out this app where you can listen to audiobooks and podcast on just about any subject. Corey and Tracy found many breakup, healing, and relationship books and podcasts on this site.

Tara Brach-Check out resources on meditation and mindfulness from Tara Brach, who is a meditation teacher and psychologist.

I Am app-Subscribe to “daily self-care reminders.”

Coach Dorothy-Tune in to Dorothy Johnson’s podcast about getting past heartbreak.

Mel Robbins-Listen to Mel’s motivational podcast on improving your life.

Dealing with breakups can be challenging. But, our listeners have chimed in with their tried and true “Dos” and “Don’ts” during a breakup. As always, hear Corey and Tracy comment on each of these pieces of wisdom, and in turn, learn more about Tracy’s creepy baby doll or Corey’s view on what it means to be a good or bad “picker.”

Show Notes:

Law of Attraction-Learn more about attracting the energy, experiences, and feelings you want.

Inside Out-Check out the movie, Inside Out, about handling various emotions.

Tune in for a conversation with Dorothy AB Johnson as she shares her insights on getting over your ex. Dorothy is a breakup coach and podcast host, who offers the “Get Over Your Ex in 3 Months or Less” program. Listen as Corey and Tracy engage in a lively discussion with Coach Dorothy.

Show Notes:

Coach Dorothy-Learn more about her podcast, resources, and programs for getting over your ex.

Web: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/

After a breakup, many of us just want information (Why did this happen? How did we get to this point?), validation (Is it me?), or just a chance to be heard (Let me share my thoughts) to get closure. But, closure is not just for the one who was broken up with; it is also important for the breaker-upper, who may also be left with unanswered questions and unfinished business after making the decision to end the relationship. Listen as Corey and Tracy talk about different ways they have sought out and finally gotten closure on past relationships. Whether that is Tracy’s incessant processing in the moment or Corey’s deep reflection and pontification, both offer unique ways they have found closure.

Show Notes:

Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning-Learn about Frankl’s story of surviving in a concentration camp and the profound power of relationships during the most challenging times.

Guided Closure Reflection Activity-Make a list of all the questions you would want to ask your ex after the breakup but either can’t or choose not to. Doing the best that you can, try to take the perspective of your ex and write your responses to those questions as if you were them. Recall past incidents, comments, conversations, and behaviors to help you. For example, if your question is “You told me you felt like I didn’t contribute enough around the house. Why did you think that?” Think of examples that support why that might have been true or at least your ex would believe it to be true, your ex had mentioned the concern before, etc. Remember, it can be easy to speculate doing this exercise. So, try to keep it to the facts and what you know to the best of your ability.

Have you ever gotten out of a relationship and just wanted to “let go” or “move on?” Are there things we can do to initiate or even accelerate this process? Listen as Corey and Tracy discuss what worked and didn’t work for them to “let go,” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Whether that is getting rid of an ex’s coffee stash or finding ways to forgive, hear them share about their processes for moving on.

Show Notes:

Law of Attraction-Learn more about attracting the energy, experiences, and feelings you want.

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Attachment Style Quiz-Take this quiz to learn more about your attachment style. Please note that this is a quick, self-reported online assessment. For more in-depth exploration of your possible attachment style, it is recommended to work with a therapist who specializes in this work.

Attachment Coaching-Learn more about Jessica DaSilva’s coaching, podcast, and academy.

Have you ever been told after a breakup, “Time heals all wounds?” “There are other fish in the sea?” “You are better off?” Breakup truisms are pieces of advice that we are often told after a breakup by others who are well-intentioned in doing so. But, do these pieces of supposed sagely wisdom have any merit? Listen as Tracy gives her thoughts on why time doesn’t heal wounds and Corey shares her perspectives on focusing on the silver lining.

Show Notes:

Law of Attraction-Learn more about attracting the energy, experiences, and feelings you want.

They Say That ‘Time Assuages-Read the poem by Emily Dickinson about time.

Listen in as we talk with Jessica DaSilva, a licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach in helping adults end their unhealthy dating patterns and create stronger, secure relationships using the Attachment Theory framework. Our conversation explores how understanding the role of attachment styles in relationships, and particularly, in breakups can be insightful. Jessica hosts a podcast on attachment styles and offers coaching and the “My secure self academy.” Tune in as Corey and Tracy chat with Jessica about all things attachment and how you can become more securely attached.

Show Notes:

Jessica DaSilva-Learn more about Jessica DaSilva’s coaching, podcast, and academy.

Web: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ 

Attachment Style Quiz-Learn more about your attachment style.

Secure Self Worksheet-Download this worksheet from Jessica DaSilva to reflect on your attachment style.

The first six weeks after a breakup can be tough. Listen as Corey and Tracy discuss what they have tried during those first six weeks after various breakups as they tried to survive and thrive after heartbreak.

Show Notes:

Law of Attraction-Learn more about attracting the energy, experiences, and feelings you want.

Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Podcast-Check out a podcast by Jennifer 365 to learn more about Law of Attraction and ideas to infuse it into your life.

Coach Dorothy-Tune in to Dorothy Johnson’s podcast about getting past heartbreak.

Attachment Styles-Learn more about attachment styles – how they are formed and how they might impact your relationships.

Tune in to learn more about the “No contact” rule after a breakup. Whether you need space, time, or just a chance to re-engage with yourself, having at least 30 days of no contact with your ex can be vital. Listen as Corey and Tracy share their takes on the “No contact” rule…with Tracy admitting she would rather process things out right away, and Corey believing “going cold turkey” can be the saving grace to self-healing.

Show Notes:

Break Up Bestie-Listen as Kendra Allen shares her insight about getting through a breakup.

Coach Dorothy-Tune in to Dorothy Johnson’s podcast about getting past heartbreak.

Ex Back Permanently-Learn about strategies for “No contact” from the website, exbackpermanently.com.