When it comes to relationships, I see two major issues with fixating on “red flags”: they’re often unfairly judgemental, and can get in the way of the compassion and forgiveness needed to grow and move on - be it in your current relationship or your next one. 

So here, I want to reframe how we look at - or look back at - these relationship warning signs. Because remaining sensitive and open to love in a world that may have deeply hurt you is something worth celebrating.

When we shift our focus from the red flag itself to the patterns and awareness level we each bring to a relationship, we can have a much easier and healthier time forgiving and continuing our innate yearning for love. 

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• Paying attention to patterns in our relationships vs. red flags
• How to not give up your power and sense of self when seeking help from others
• Why we struggle to forgive ourselves for missing red flags
• The difference between unconscious incompetence and conscious incompetence
• Why compassion is such a huge factor in forgiveness
• Why to stop focusing quite so much on red flags (but do NOT ignore them!)

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Room to Grow Podcast

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REFERENCES

Episode 126 | Forgiveness Isn’t Found, It’s Earned: Doing The Inner Work

Episode 254 | Forgive Yourself For Shrinking Into Spaces That Do Not Fit You

Episode 260 | How To Let Go And Recover From Loss

Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity

“What’s hard about being a man?” This is a question I’ve been asking a lot of (those who identify as) men lately. And while so many of our modern conversations are rightfully focused on helping marginalized communities heal and be supported after generations of oppression, men are often under-supported in the realm of mental and emotional health, and the results impact the entire collective.

This is why people like James Walsham “The Compassionate Man” and others have begun creating platforms to help men shake off generations of outdated and toxic paradigms around masculinity and societal expectations to have somewhere to do the work of self-discovery, expanding their worldviews, opening up emotionally, strengthening their relationships and growing as humans.

In this episode, James and I are talking about:

• Why men often struggle to open up emotionally
• Why men often don’t give compliments to other men
• How women can better understand and support men
• How to deal with sexual shame and guilt
• Exploring sexual fantasies, how sex parties work and the safety measures involved
• Why social media is a great tool for learning and joining conversations 
• Where men can find men’s groups, men’s circles and men’s communities

CONNECT WITH EMILY

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Jump on the waitlist for Becoming YOU (6-week women’s group coaching) coming soon!

Men’s group coaching program coming in November 2022 – waitlist here.

Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

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Room to Grow Podcast

Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

REFERENCES: 

James Walsham On Instagram @iamjamesoliver

The Honest Bloke Podcast

Shit Men Are Shit At On Instagram

Episode 321 | Abortion, Women’s Rights & Tough Conversations With Sara Silverstein & James Walsham

Episode 266 | Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man Uncivilized/

Episode 280 | Choosing Relentless Courage, Facing Death & Challenging Societal Norms With Traver Boehm Of Man Uncivilized, Part 2 

Episode 203 | Insecurities, Redefining Masculinity & Overcoming Pornography Addiction With Kieran Hedley

Episode 130 | Cancer, Depression & Strength: A Powerful Story Of Hope & Resilience With Tom Mcclelland

Episode 274 | How To Have Compassion For Someone Who Hurt You

Episode 270 | Cultivating A Deep Sense Of Self Worth

Connor Beaton On Instagram

Stefanos Sifandos On Instagram

Traver Boehm On Instagram

Brandon Kyle Goodman On Instagram

Emmanuel Acho On Instagram

Justin Baldoni - Man Enough Podcast

Liz Plank On Instagram

The root cause of every argument or disagreement in a relationship almost always goes deeper than what triggers the argument in the first place. For instance, if there’s a breakdown over the dishes not being done or a messy house, it’s never really about chores. 

In this quick episode, I’m going to explain how to get to the root cause by using one simple question to ask both yourself and them. 

You’ll be shocked at what arises and how it helps you solve problems and open up communication.

Have a listen, try it out and please let me know how it works for your relationship! 

DM or email me (contacts below).

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Your FREE 15-page foundational guide Where Do We Begin.

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Emily Gough Coaching

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Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

A love language is how one expresses and receives love through actions or words. The term was popularly coined in the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.

But I want to take that list way deeper.

Because to me, how we express love also includes some even smaller, but vastly underrated actions, inactions (I’ll explain) and levels of vulnerability and openness that are necessary for building better relationships. 

So in this episode, I’m running down my list of “12 Underrated Love Languages That Go A Long Way” and why we need to pay attention to these small, yet massive things:

1. Ask genuine questions with curiosity
2. Active listening & slowing down speech
3. “I was thinking of you.”
4. Laughter and playfulness
5. Loyalty 
6. Presence
7. Open, honest communication
8. Choose people who choose you back
9. Protective instincts
10. Warmth, sweetness and sense of ease
11. Take your “armour” off 
12. Create openings

I’ll explain each in detail - these will completely revolutionize your relationships! 

Also, I’d love to hear any love languages you would add to this list. How do YOU show and receive love? DM me or email me (contacts below). 

GET YOUR TICKET: The Communication Clinic - Tuesday, September 20th (Live)

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CONNECT WITH EMILY

Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together.

Your FREE 15-page foundational guide Where Do We Begin.

Men’s group coaching program coming soon – waitlist here.

Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

[email protected]             

Emily Gough Coaching

Room to Grow Podcast

Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

REFERENCES:

Episode 292 | Be So F*Cking Loyal To Your Personal Transformation You Become Unshakeable 

Episode 266 | Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man Uncivilized 

Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty In Relationships With Dr. Jade Teta 

Episode 308 | Active Listening & Awkward Silences: Where Relational Magic Blooms 

Episode 264 | The 4 Key Components For Connection That Will Change Your Relationships  

Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around To Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations)

Episode 310 | Lose The Labels That Keep You Small & Expand Into Real Freedom

Episode 314 | Being Open To Receiving, Surrendering & Accepting From Others

My dear friend Claire Falconer is a literal ray of sunshine and one of the most knowledgeable humans I've come across when it comes to helping women (and couples) get the most out of their hormones and menstrual cycles. Once we deeply understand the phases and signals of a woman’s cycle, we can then leverage it not just for conception and pregnancy, but for every aspect of women’s daily lives, health and relationships. 

It starts with busting the modern myths and stigmas around a woman’s cycle, and instead working with it to vastly improve physical health, emotional health, fitness & weight loss, sleep quality, energy level, and of course, everything to do with preconception, pregnancy and postpartum health.

Claire Falconer is a personal trainer, yoga teacher and health coach who has worked with hundreds of clients all over the world, specializing in women's health, especially hormonal health, preconception, pregnancy and post natal women.

In this episode, we’re talking about: 

• How men’s and women’s hormonal cycles are different
• How a woman’s cycle is an indicator of good or poor health
• The importance of hormone balance
• How to work with your hormones
• The phases of a woman’s cycle and how to embrace its energetic highs and lows
• How menstrual cycles affect energy levels, weight loss and sleep quality
• How to increase chance of conception and pregnancy
• Tips for a healthier pregnancy 
• How to plan workouts and diet around your cycle
• Effects of birth control
• Facts about premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and how to better control symptoms

I would love to know your takeaways from this one - a lot of information here about something so common, yet so often misunderstood. Reach out with comments via DM or email (contacts below). 

GET YOUR TICKET: The Communication Clinic - Tuesday, September 20th (Live)

SIGN UP NOW: Becoming YOU - 6-week women’s LIVE group coaching starts Tuesday, October 4th

CONNECT WITH EMILY

Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together.

Your FREE 15-page foundational guide Where Do We Begin.

Men’s group coaching program coming soon – waitlist here.

Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

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Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

CONNECT WITH CLAIRE

Website: www.coachedbyclaire.com

Claire Falconer  on Instagram: @coachedbyclaire

Healthy, Happy Hormones Course (Use code “happyhormones” at checkout for $100 off!)

REFERENCES

Episode 246 | Miscarriage, Van Life & Making Unconventional Choices With Claire Falconer & Luke Morris

Episode 62| Post-Birth Control Syndrome, Fertility & Pcos With Dr. Jolene Brighten

Episode 17 | Rest For Success And How To Manage Metabolism With Jade Teta

Episode 298 | Coming Back To Yourself & Creating Conscious Relationships With Leila Dylla

The deepest foundational layer of any relationship is respect. Respect means honouring someone’s most genuine self, despite imperfections or differences. Respect provides the base for which feelings of trust, safety and well-being grow upon.

But gaining someone’s respect can feel like a massive challenge. When we get caught in the trap of people pleasing and perfectionism, we’re not our authentic selves. We then compromise our values, boundaries and energy - all innate qualities that people ultimately respect in us, whether they like us or not.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• Why admitting your mistakes can benefit your relationship
• The importance of honesty, integrity and constantly striving to be congruent
• Why mastering your craft is an important element of respect
• How to be your most genuine, authentic self
• How to set better boundaries with yourself and others
• How gaining respect starts with self respect
• Why gaining respect is (in my opinion) even more important than gaining trust, and how the two are closely interwoven

On that note, a question I’ve been asking many people lately: “What’s worse, losing trust in someone or losing respect?” 

What are your thoughts? Let me know your response - DM or email me (info below). Would love to know your thoughts on this question or the topic of respect. Please reach out & share this episode!

**The Communication Clinic: happening LIVE on Tuesday, September 20th. Grab your ticket here!

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Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

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Room to Grow Podcast

Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

REFERENCES

Episode 330 | Managing Your Energetic Capacity & Clearing Space For The Life & Relationships You Want

Episode 302 | Self Love & Loneliness: Learning to Like Yourself

Episode 270 | Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self-Worth

We talk a lot about managing our time, but not managing our energy. Truth is, energy is a far more valuable resource than time. Energy propels us toward the life and relationships we truly want. 

But we only have so much of it.

So how do we stop giving our energy to things that are draining us and holding us back? It starts by recognizing what you may not even realize is depleting your energy and letting go of it. In many cases, this could mean letting go of huge, longstanding anchors in your life - including people. 

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• The most common energy-draining areas of your life 
• How to boost your energy with kindness
• Why you need to let go let go of some relationships - even long ones
• How different people, work and habits can increase your energy
• A helpful 3-step Energy Audit to help identify exactly where you should be putting your energy and where to stop.

CONNECT WITH EMILY

Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together.

Your FREE 15-page foundational guide Where Do We Begin.

Jump on the waitlist for Becoming YOU (6-week women’s group coaching) coming soon!

Men’s group coaching program coming soon – waitlist here.

Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

[email protected]           

Emily Gough Coaching

Room to Grow Podcast

Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

REFERENCES

Episode 299 | Embracing Your Winter Season 

Episode 133 | Stepping Out Of The Chaos Of Your Life & Allowing Ease With Emma Rose Tait 

Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity

Episode 260 | How To Let Go And Recover From Loss

Episode 319 | How To Let Go & Practice Presence When You’re Impatient

Cam Fraser is a Men’s Sex Coach who teaches men how to have better sex. I mean, he literally teaches a course called “Out Perform a Porn Star.” But not surprisingly, learning better sex has nothing to do with the typical male metrics of penis size and sexual duration. Instead, Cam’s sex coaching comes down to increasing pleasure and deepening the physical and emotional relationship men have with their partner.

Because believe it or not, men statistically want better sex, whether they talk about it with their buddies or not.

By the way, this episode is as much for women as it is for men. We dive deep into communication, exploration and vulnerability before, during and after sex, which involves both partners equally. As you’ll learn, those are truly the keys to better sex. Cam is here to teach us how. 

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• The myths about male sexuality
• Why orgasm is often the end of sex
• The difference between sexual pleasure and gratification
• How porn and masturbation affect sex life
• The importance of foreplay and cuddling
• How to have more meaningful sex
• How you can still have sex with erectile dysfunction
• How men can improve and lengthen sexual performance

Cam Fraser is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. 

Man or woman - I’d love to know how Cam’s wisdom and coaching lands with you. What was one thing you learned in this episode? Message me, and please share and leave a review! 

REFERENCES:

www.cam-fraser.com 

www.instagram.com/thecamfraser 

www.tiktok.com/@thecamfraser 

www.facebook.com/thecamfraser 

www.twitter.com/thecamfraser 

www.youtube.com/c/camfrasersexcoach

Book: Not Always In The Mood By Sarah Hunter Murray

Episode 288 | Tantra, Polarity, Pleasure & The Strong Independent Woman With Sophie Josephina 

Episode 266 | Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man Uncivilized

Episode 280 | Choosing Relentless Courage, Facing Death & Challenging Societal Norms With Traver Boehm Of Man Uncivilized, Part 2

Episode 203 | Insecurities, Redefining Masculinity & Overcoming Pornography Addiction With Kieran Hedley

Episode 196 | Sex, Single Life & Social Distancing: Managing Trust Issues & Boundaries With Steph Connolly

We’ve all been there: that awkward time where we’re working on our next thing, but we’re not quite there yet. It can test our patience to the limit, and it's also a beautiful opportunity to create clarity on what you really want focus your energy towards everything you're working towards with intention, discpline and self-compassion.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• Creating balance & focus during the in-between spaces and manage the duality of feeling confident, even when things feel uncertain
• "Certainty is the enemy of change”
• Practicing discipline as an act of self-care and using your time intentionally to propel you forward
• Ways to stop procrastinating on your big goals and dreams
• How to find hope when you’re teetering on the edge of new things

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Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

[email protected]         

Emily Gough Coaching

Room to Grow Podcast

Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

REFERENCES

Episode 306 | Changing How We Define Emotional Strength & Recognizing Emotions As Data

Episode 304 | The Sacred Liminal Space: Between The Familiar & Completely Unknown

Episode 323 | What It Means To Hold Boundaries, Even When We’re Disappointing Others

Episode 319 | How To Let Go & Practice Presence When You’re Impatient

Episode 313 | 35 Lessons About Life, Love & Human Connection

At 83 years old, Joy Elliott set out to travel the world the way most graduate students do: staying in youth hostels, buying one-way tickets to spontaneous destinations and drinking with strangers. Heartbroken by the loss of her husband, her trip not only “kept her from dying too” but helped her heal from loss, overcome extreme shyness and prove that we can all live an exciting life at any age.

Her new book, “Joy’s Journey” is an inspiration that it’s never too late to fulfill a dream, meet new people and experience transformational change. I smiled the whole time I read it, and I had to have her on the podcast to go deeper into the greatest lessons and most memorable stories of her travels (so far).

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How travelling solo helps you build relationships
• Why asking for help is important
• How traveling helps you overcome shyness
• How to travel on a limited budget
• How seniors and youth can build relationships with each other
• How asking for help builds self confidence
• What stopped Joy from committing suicide
• Tips for living happily at an old age
• How someone can be happy living in poverty 

Joy has so many great lessons in this episode. Please listen & share with someone who could use a reminder that it’s never too late in life to do anything you want! 

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Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together.

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Men’s group coaching program coming in November 2022 – waitlist here.

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Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

REFERENCES

Book: Joy’s Journey

Connect with Joy on Facebook

Episode 292 | Be So F*Cking Loyal To Your Personal Transformation You Become Unshakeable

Episode 279 | How To Heal From Infidelity & Betrayal