Rooted Parent

Cameron and Anna were so excited to record this episode with our friend, licensed professional counselor Alice Churnock, who also happens to be the host of Ask Alice, a part of the Rooted family of podcasts. We were glad to be with her not just because we love her, but because she is seasoned counselor who can speak to the trends in teen mental health while also offering us the comfort and encouragement of the gospel. Alice shares that since Covid, teenagers are profoundly disappointed and scared to hope, and we can minister to them most profoundly when we teach them to lament their sadness and loss and teach them to hope in the goodness of Jesus.

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel Siegel

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

In the season finale of the Fear Factor, Cameron and Anna highlight some of the most valuable insights and tools we gleaned from our conversations about parenting and fear. Remembering always that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,” we find that learning to trust God with our children protects us from being motivated by fear as we lead our families. Hear some of our favorite moments on the podcast and stay tuned till the end to hear what’s ahead for the Rooted Parent podcast next season!

Fear Factor Episodes

Good Fear (of the Lord) vs. Bad Fear (of Everything Else)

Fear of Judgment

Facing Threats Against Our Children

Taking Refuge in the Fear of the Lord

The Fear of Shortchanging Our Kids

The Fear of Becoming Like Your Parents

Facing the FOMO

We Dread Seeing Our Children Suffer, with Tish Harrison Warren

Fear of the Culture with Collin Hansen

Fear of Talking with Our Children About Race with Dr. Michelle Reyes

Fear of the Teenage Years with Paul David Tripp

Joshua Chapter One, Psalm 34, Proverbs 9:10

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Paul Tripp's name is synonymous with wise Christian parenting practices, and his book Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens is one of the most hopeful, practical resources available today.

Our culture tends to see teenagers as problematic: hormones, inexperience, and expanding freedom create a potentially combustible mix in a young person's life, and parents can only hope that they, and their children, can survive the teenage years with a measure of sanity intact. Or so the narrative goes.

Paul Tripp pushed back against this notion, arguing that the teen years are in fact a marvelous opportunity for us to peer into our children's hearts -- and our own. The sovereignty of God and His gracious gospel are more than powerful enough to meet the needs of parents and kids during this exciting time of growth into adulthood.

Cameron and Anna interview Paul Tripp in this special episode of the Rooted Parent podcast. You will especially want to hear Tripp remind us that biology is not destiny, and that the power that raised Christ from the dead is strong enough to enable parents to respond wisely to lively teenagers. You'll especially want to hear Tripp's five questions that will help you apply the gospel to your child's heart. Be encouraged as Tripp reminds us that we serve a practical God, and the truth of his gospel has helpful, practical applications as we seek to raise children who will glorify God and serve him with gladness.

When Your Kids Won’t Bow Down to Your Idols by Jennifer Phillips

Four Signs I Have Made My Child My Idol by Anna Meade Harris

Four Plumblines to Parent With Grace by Seth Stewart

Law and Gospel in Youth Ministry with David Zahl: Rooted 2020 Conference Workshop (excellent podcast for parents, too)

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

In this important episode, Cameron and Anna talk with Michelle Reyes about the excellent new book she coauthored with Helen Lee: The Race-Wise Family: Ten Postures to Becoming Households of Healing Hope. The authors write: "When we are talking about an area as complex and challenging as race, our underlying inclinations combined with our uncertainties and hesitations often result in inertia, ignorance, and apathy, even for the most well-intentioned Christians" (123). Reyes discusses how being race-wise stems from a right fear of the Lord. She also shares the particular fears of Black and Brown- skinned parents, and why they chose the word "postures" for the practices they advocate in the book. Michelle challenges us to see the vision Scripture casts for us: "... behold, a great multitude that no one could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, standing before the throne and before the Lamb" (Rev. 7:9), a vision where race and ethnicity are not erased but united in worship of our common, diversity-loving Creator. She encourages us that posturing our families to move toward that heavenly vision is what we mean when we pray "your kingdom come, your will be done," and this is the very heart of God for all his people.

Show Notes:

Fear Factor: When Our Asian American Children Face Racism with Owen Lee, Tracy Yi and Kevin Yi

Thanos to Theos Episode 25: Eternally Conflicted 

The Jesus I Wish I Knew In High School

Rooted Recommends: Becoming All Things

Learning Together: An Asian American Perspective On Racial Justice and Reconciliation

Prayers for Our Asian American Friends

Black History Month Resources from Dorena Williamson

Top Ten for Youth Workers and Parents: Racial Justice Resources

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Show notes:

John 17:11-14

"We Should Talk About Disney," by Trevin Wax, TGC

"Why Are All the Kids Reading Dystopian? And How the Gospel Gives Us a Better Story to Tell" by Chelsea Erickson, Rooted

"How Parents Can Use Brett McCracken's Wisdom Pyramid," by Anna Meade Harris

"Rooted Recommends: 10 Questions Every Teen Should Ask (and Answer) About Christianity"

"Good News for Teenagers" recurring feature on Rooted

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Tish Harrison Warren expands on thoughts from her most recent book Prayer in the Night: For Those Who Work, or Watch, or Weep, especially the prayer of parents who long for God to "shield the joyous" and protect their kids in their suffering.

Warren is also the author of Christianity Today's 2018 book of the year Liturgy of the Ordinary: Sacred Practices in Everyday Life. An Anglican priest, wife. and mother of three, Warren writes a weekly newsletter for The New York Times.

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Owen Lee is the senior pastor at Christ Central Presbyterian in Centreville, VA. He and his wife Margaret have three teenage and young adult children.

Tracy and Kevin Yi serve and work at Church Everyday in Northridge CA, where both wear numerous official and unofficial hats. They have three young children.

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Resources from Shelby: 

DoubtLess: Because Faith Is Hard

Pressure Points: A Guide to Navigating Student Stress

Please check out Shelby's website for more resources and a link to his brand-new monthly podcast with Paul David Tripp, The Connecting Podcast.

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Resources:

1 Corinthians 2:9

Ephesians 2:11-22

Age of Opportunity by Paul David Tripp (re-release coming in 2022)

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.

Oftentimes adults will look back on the way they were raised with a critical eye, telling themselves “I would never relate to my kids the way my mom or dad related to me”—but we can fall into the trap of calling that wisdom, rather than recognizing the fear (and self-righteousness) that lurks under that perspective. Certainly our relationships with our parents can be very complicated and we can learn from their mistakes, but we will make mistakes of our own if we allow ourselves to be driven by fear instead of led by the Holy Spirit. In this episode Cameron and Anna discuss ways to recognize when we are parenting in reaction to our own upbringing, and how to respond to the guidance of the Holy Spirit as we disciple our own families. 

"Family" – a sermon by Tim Keller 

Hosted by Anna Meade Harris, author of God's Grace for Every Family: Biblical Encouragement for Single-Parent Families and the Churches That Seek to Love Them Well, and Cameron Cole, author of Heavenward: How Eternity Can Change Your Life on Earth and Therefore I Have Hope: 12 Truths That Comfort, Sustain, and Redeem in Tragedy.