In this episode of Question and Ethics, I answer a question about dealing with a combative mentor. How are we to respond to accusations and vitriol from others? What are we to do when we are unjustly maligned, and how are we to respond? As we respond, we must be careful as we are confronting a person who thrives on conflict not to become the same type of person. Because we have a sense of the Judgement Day, and the fact that justice will eventually be done, we are freed from our need to seek judgement in the present age. The only caveat is that we should not, by our refusal to engage in needless controversies, confuse those who would think that our lack of engagement is an endorsement of the teaching or actions of the controversial person.

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In this episode of Question and Ethics, I answer a question about my own crisis of faith. The question comes out of my writing about the generational crisis that is going on among young people leaving the faith and the tension that many are experiencing about the contradiction between what people read in the Bible and the Christian culture around them. Crises are not always a bad thing. They are the points that demand a decision and a moment of reflection. And the different types of crisis will demand a different response, whether of intellectual arguments or questions of authenticity and integrity. In all of these, we need not be afraid of the crisis, but rather trust the one who walks with us through it. 

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In this episode of Question and Ethics, I answer a question about marriage and Social Security benefits. I once thought that this was a niche or uncommon problem. However, there is a rising number of senior adults who are foregoing marriage because doing so will cost them their social security benefits. There is an understandable (though incorrect) thought process for many of them as they are looking at their financial situation which may be precarious, especially if they lack family support. And this is especially problematic given that the state is unfairly penalizing and disincentivizing marriage. However, there are reasons that we should discourage this practice and encourage these seniors to marry and enter into the accountability and truth-telling that comes with those vows. Just as I would say to young adults who worry about their finances before getting married, I would encourage senior adults to get married and the financial matters will work themselves out. And this is a place where the church can step in and help bear one another’s financial burdens so that we encourage holy marriage and proper accountability within the community. 

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In this episode of Question and Ethics, I answer a question about productivity. While not a moral question, it is a question that we all face in our lives as we have to face all the demands on our time and responsibilities. Though I’m less productive than people may think, and much of what looks like productivity is really just me doing what interests me, there are some practices that I have which are helpful for me. But I do have some advice for how to avoid the things that make me unproductive. Everything from perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and waiting for inspiration can hamper our calling and productivity. 

 

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In today’s episode of The Cross & the Jukebox, we talk about Vampire Weekend’s “Harmony Hall.” There is a dissonance between the dark lyrics of the song and the exuberance of the melody. Koenig’s lyrics speak to the way that anger can create a false sense of harmony, but also how that harmony can lead to injustice creating an incongruence between words and actions or a person’s public and private personas. Further, the imagery of the song points to some of the deepest longings in the human condition, especially the way that the pursuit of power can be the result of trauma and shame and end up replicating abuses of power. Though the temptation is to become cynical, Christians must instead recognize the pernicious effect of sin and at the same time not become apathetic to the injustice around us. 

Music Video: https://youtu.be/IlkTVMMkCP4

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Episode Notes

Song Exploder Interview with Ezra Koenig: https://songexploder.net/vampire-weekend

"Are We the Baddies?" Clip: https://youtu.be/hn1VxaMEjRU

 

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In this episode of Question and Ethics, I answer a question about family secrets. How do we react when secrets come to light that change how we see our family members or ourselves? Is it dishonoring to reveal those secrets or should we desire to make things known? This situation reveals something about our desire to understand our own story and how to make sense of it in light of this new situation. When these situations become known, we can ultimately take comfort in the fact that we are not the sum total of our genetic material or family line. 

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In the relaunch of Question and Ethics, I answer a question that I get so often now: What do I do when my family is so divided over politics? How do I talk to family members that are combative about politics? Part of that division is the result of the way that we have idolized politics in our culture, as well as the growing polarization across a number of issues. However, I think that there are some practices that we can do to not inflame the relationships, even as we communicate truth. We should, as Paul exhorts Christians, strive to leave at peace with all people, so far as it depends on us (Rom. 12:18; Heb. 12:14).

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In today’s episode of First Word, we look at what is called the Table of Nations before moving into the Tower of Babel. These chapters mark a division between the earlier focus on humanity as a whole, and Abraham’s story specifically. In the story of the building of this tower, humanity was seeking a a sense of power and permanence. However, that seeking of permanence and unity, apart from the bond of God ultimately leads to division. Their attempt to construct this tower is a seeking after glory that is reserved for God alone. The way to receive a name is not by grasping at it or constructing great monuments, but rather by pouring ourselves out and losing our lives in the identity and name of Christ.

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In today’s episode of First Word, we continue the story of Noah and his descendants after the Flood. In this new start for the human race, God provides both a judgement on the ongoing wickedness of humanity as well as a promise of his grace and mercy in the rainbow. Also, we see the importance of blood and the way that God will require justice from those who shed the blood of another. This is continuing the sign of blood of how God is reconciling the world to himself in Christ. We also talk about the Noahic covenant and the death penalty, the way this text has been abused to support slavery, specifically the “Curse of Ham”), and how God uses dysfunctional families to accomplish his purposes. 

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In today’s episode of The Cross & the Jukebox, we talk about Tammy Wynette’s “Stand By Your Man.” Though some might use this as a shorthand for fidelity in marriage, I think that the song is not about covenant faithfulness but rather a fatalistic view of human nature, especially in how it pictures how men and women relate to one another. However, as Christians we should expect more of men and women in marriage and in how they treat one another. This is not a protest against divorce culture, but rather a hyper submission and fatalistic view of marriage. But the view of the Bible is so much higher and requires trust for the one-flesh union. 

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Biography: Tammy Wynette: Tragic Country Queen by Jimmy McDonough

 

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