Ruwando Podcast

A lot of men lose their masculinity when they catch feelings for the feminine. (But it doesn't have to be that way.)

As voted on, and inspired by recent posts in the group, next live discussion is on maintaining polarity in relationship.

We'll focus on 3 stages:

1. How to maintain polarity in any sexual relationship. (Heightening masculinity via its opposite.)
2. How to make relationships a vehicle for self-mastery instead of a liability.
3. The Solo Lover

• Why women test
• Reading superficial (social) temptations versus instinctual (sexual) cues
• Short-gain seduction versus the High Value Lover
• A physiological cue
• Attachment Theory hacking-- the right way and wrong way
• Relationship as a tool for self-mastery
• Tit4Tat vs. Positive Feedback loops
• Evoking the Lover while single

If a woman you're intimate with is throwing anger at you, it's not necessarily a bad thing. Actually, it might be a good sign. And an opportunity to deepen the relationship. However, many analytical guys mess it up....

In this episode I share the 3 common mistakes guys make when their woman is angry. I also share how to differentiate okay anger scenarios from the not so good. (2 of them are reasonable, 1 is not.)

You may also like this article from a more mythological perspective...

When Kali Trampled Shiva: A Parable for Men on Difficult Women

Jack Donovan is author of The Way of Men, Becoming a Barbarian, and A More Complete Beast. We speak about the tactical virtues of masculinity, honor cultures, male mythologies, polytheistic take on psychology, and even a little economics (kind of.)

jack-donovan.com

@starttheworld on IG

The Way of Men: https://amzn.to/37Dl6wS

"Gnosis" is the name for a mental state that you've probably experienced before, if only accidentally. This state is a solution to anxiety and a way to "get out of your own way" in creating what you want. I share some perspectives from Carl Jung, Steven Pressfield, Eckhart Tolle, Robert Anton Wilson, and the occultist Peter Carroll. I also tell the story of my first heartbreak and overcoming my mental noise.

TLDL if you don't have the attention span to listen: Spend less time looking at your phone and you'll be more creative. That said, instead of watching this on your screen, how about downloading the podcast version and going for a walk?

Ruwando.com/podcast

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I recently spoke with a guy who realized that he walled up his heart to prevent sadness... but it also blocked him from feeling joy and real intimacy. How does one get over the fear of being heartbroken?

The Sexual Shadow is the set of pre-conscious impulses that stimulate the libido but counter your morality. Dissociation is common in men and seen in the 'Madonna-Whore Complex'— the categorization of women as either pure sources of love, or as naughty sex objects... but not both.

To stay in this dichotomy robs you of your full integrated expression (AND robs your partners of a full-spectrum sexual experience.) I personally have experienced this conflict for awhile. Recently it came up in my relationship, so I decided I finally needed to confront it...

This episode covers:

- Why dark stuff often shows up in sexuality (And how male and female taboo fantasies complement each other.)

- How to integrate dissociated "dark" archetypes in a way that is safe and constructive

- Perspectives from evolutionary biology and "chaos magick" that surprisingly mirror each other

James Hillman's article on theology bleeding into psychology: http://www.jungboulder.org/psychology---monotheistic-or-polytheistic.html

Peter Carroll's book that I quoted from, Liber Null: https://amzn.to/36oJkvL

The Masculine Archetype challenge explores your dark side in relation to the anima period join at ruwando.com/archetype

Christian Graugart is the founder of BJJ Globetrotters, a community for people who travel and do jiu-jitsu. We speak about the tribal nature of humans (and its problems), his taoist-like philosophy, and of course, jiu-jitsu.

"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." (Tyler Durden, Fight Club)

There are certain aspects of the psyche that men can only access around other men.

Building off last week's Warrior Archetype, we look at the hero traits as they pertain to male-to-male interaction:

- Why honor, courage, and strength are universal "masculine" values.

- Roots of chivalry in all male hierarchies

- What vulnerability actually is between men (It's not what the self-help world proclaims)

- Creating your own rites of passage

- How to start an effective men's group (as opposed to a circle jerk.)

This will be kind of a bridge between the Warrior and the Lover (which we'll cover next week).

Sarah Steel is the host of Let's Talk About Sects, a podcast about cults. I was on her show just recently in episode on OneTaste (premiers today). We talk about group social dynamics, the psychology of cult leaders and members, ethics, and propaganda.

Follow her work at ltaspod.com or wherever you listen to podcasts.

The Warrior Archetype is the set of testosterone-driven impulses that have a man develop his competence and courage. It's also associated with aggression which is why it's often attacked as "toxic masculinity". This episode discusses the function of this archetype, how it relates to mental health/confidence, the hormonal basis, and how to embody it in a constructive way.

My website is redone and the Masculine Archetype Challenge is available again. If you want a guide to connect to your warrior nature, check it out at ruwando.com/archetype.