Death by suicide has long been a problem within the U.S. military, and not just among veterans: In 2020, suicide rates among active duty service members hit a six-year high.  On August 28th, 2015, Heather’s husband Tyler became one of those statistics.  Theirs is a story of friendship, of love, of family, of service and duty … and of trauma, domestic abuse and mental illness. 

If you’re experiencing thoughts of suicide, you can call or text 988. 

If you’re a victim of domestic violence and want out, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline. You’re not alone. 

References:   Recommendations for Reporting on Suicide  Common Factors in Military Domestic Homicides: Implications for Prevention and Intervention   Military Versus Civilian Murder-Suicide  Military Suicide Rates Are at an All-Time High

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