49-yr-old Nicole met 44-yr-old Spencer online. After just a few weeks of dating, Spencer showed a lot of interest, only to abruptly pull-back in a short time. In this episode, Nicole tells Paula she didn’t see any “red flags,” but Paula finds that they were waving at Nicole from the beginning. During this in-depth discussion of how men self-soothe and amuse themselves with women, listen for the “red flags,” and hear what Paula suggests for Nicole to move forward with Spencer.