Why does saying no feel so hard?

In this episode of Transcending Trauma, Moniquea Spiteri explores the people pleaser pattern through the lens of trauma healing, nervous system regulation, attachment, parts work, and somatic awareness.

Many people experience people pleasing as kindness, over giving, or simply being the one who keeps everything together. But beneath the behaviour is often a deeply intelligent survival adaptation rooted in the fawn response, fear of disconnection, and the belief that love must be earned through usefulness.

This episode explores how people pleasing slowly becomes identity, how guilt and resentment keep the cycle repeating, and why boundaries are not the opposite of love, but the pathway back to authentic connection.

Through three guided somatic practices, you’ll learn how to recognise the over giving cycle in real time, stay present through the guilt wave without rescuing, and begin reclaiming boundaries without losing your warmth, heart, or capacity for love.

In this episode we explore

• people pleasing and the loss of self • guilt, resentment, and fear of being selfish • the younger protective part and the good child pattern • over functioning, role identity, and self abandonment • how to stay warm, open, and clear in boundaries • rebuilding self loyalty and authentic connection

A powerful episode for anyone ready to stop abandoning themselves in the name of connection and begin reconnecting with their truth, capacity, and sense of self.

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