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Most people find their Enneagram type by taking a quiz and hoping for the best. Quizzes run somewhere between 60 and 70% inaccurate. Starting with the wrong type costs you. Every bit of inner work you do, every pattern you examine, is pointed at someone who is not quite you.A self-discovery process that guides you inward. The Enneagram is a tool.

The Self-Typing Toolkit is a kit full of tools to help you use it well.

In this episode:

• Why quizzes get it wrong, and what to do instead

• The difference between mistyping from a quiz and mistyping through a process like this one

• The many ways to find your type, and why this one is the long way on purpose

• What is inside the toolkit and how each piece works together

• How to actually use this so you land on your type with confidence

• Why the order of the episodes matters

Who this is for: Anyone who has bought the Self-Typing Toolkit, anyone considering it, and anyone who is tired of starting and stopping their Enneagram journey because the type they were assigned never quite fit.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

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• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
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This is a deep dive on Enneagram Type One. Not the surface level version you have heard a hundred times. We are going into the psychology, the wiring, what is actually happening underneath, and the parts of being a One that almost nobody talks about out loud.

In this episode:

• How Type One is different from Six, Three, and Eight, and the clearest way to tell them apart

• Where the anger lives, why it never gets called anger, and what it does to the body when it has nowhere to go

• The defense mechanism running quietly underneath everything

• What this type looks like at every level of awareness

• The thing every One needs to hear, and almost never does

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a One, anyone who loves a One and wants to understand them more deeply, and any One who is ready to see themselves a little more clearly.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is a deep dive on Enneagram Type Three.

We are going into the psychological structure underneath the performance, the shape-shifting that even Threes do not always recognize they are doing, and the question that lives underneath everything.

In this episode:

• The clearest way to tell Three apart from One, Eight, and Two

• The defense mechanism that makes the performance so convincing, even to the Three running it

• The difference between needing to be loved and needing to be seen

• What the crash into Nine actually looks like, and why it happens

• What having a Three in your corner is really like

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Three, anyone who loves a Three and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Three who is ready to consider that they have always been enough, even without the performance.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Five. Not the stereotyped withdrawn, emotionally disconnected version that gets thrown around. We are going into the actual inner world of a Five, which happens to be one of the most extraordinary places on the entire Enneagram.

In this episode:

• The clearest way to tell Five apart from Four, Nine, and One

• Why Fives are not emotionally disconnected, and why that misunderstanding causes so many to mistype as Four

• What avarice really means for a Five (it has almost nothing to do with money)

• Why the energy depletion is real, where it actually comes from, and how it shapes everything

• What it looks like when a Five finally lets someone in

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Five, anyone who loves a Five and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Five who is ready to consider that the world needs what they know.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Four. Not the stereotyped moody, sensitive, dramatic version that gets handed to Fours over and over. We are going into the wound, the gift, the depth, and the specific way Fours experience the world that almost no one else can access.

In this episode:

• The clearest way to tell Four apart from Nine, One, and Two

• Where the belief that something is missing actually comes from, and how it became the lens

• What envy really means for a Four (it is not what most people think)

• The defense mechanism that explains why criticism lands deep and praise slides off

• Why Fours are some of the most quietly extraordinary people you will ever know

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Four, anyone who loves a Four and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Four who is ready to hear that they were never missing anything.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Six. And the first thing I want to say is that Sixes are not just anxious people. That framing does such a disservice to this type that I hear from Sixes regularly saying they feel completely misrepresented by it. We are going into what is actually happening underneath, and why this type is so much more layered than most resources make it look.

In this episode:

• Why anxiety is the symptom and not the source

• The clearest way to tell Six apart from Two, Nine, and One

• The difference between phobic and counterphobic Sixes, and why a Six can move between the two

• The defense mechanism that turns intuition into projection, and how to tell the difference

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Six, anyone who loves a Six and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Six who is ready to be seen as more than just an anxious person.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Eights. I open by talking about what it looks like to be an Eight and how that is not the same for everyone. The same energy that gets a man called a leader gets a woman called a bitch. Add a layer if you are a woman of color. We are going there. We are also going into the armor, the heart underneath it, and the misunderstanding that follows this type around.

In this episode:

• How the world receives Eight energy differently depending on gender and race

• The clearest way to tell Eight apart from Three, One, and the counterphobic Six

• Where the armor actually comes from, and why it never fully comes off for most Eights

• What lust and excess really mean for an Eight

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be an Eight, anyone who loves an Eight and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Eight who has ever been told they are too much.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Sevens. Not the fun, free-spirited, party-loving version. We are going into the strategy underneath the lightness, what Sevens are actually running from, and the depth that most people never see because the system is so good at keeping it hidden.

In this episode:

• The clearest way to tell Seven apart from Three, Two, and Eight

• Where the snap back to lightness actually comes from, and why it is not what it looks like

• What gluttony really means for a Seven (it is rarely about food)

• The defense mechanism that lets Sevens reframe almost anything in seconds

• Why the lightness Sevens bring into a room is not a small thing, and why there is even more of it waiting on the other side of what they have been outrunning

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Seven, anyone who loves a Seven and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Seven who is ready to know that the rest of them is worth meeting.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Nines. Not the chill, easygoing, peaceful version that most resources stop at. We are going into the slow, quiet form of disappearing , the stubbornness that catches everyone off guard, and the version of a Nine that comes out when they finally stop making themselves small.

In this episode:

• The clearest way to tell Nine apart from Two, Four, and Five

• Why narcotization is not laziness, and how to spot it in yourself

• The pattern of merging, and why Nines can lose track of what they actually want

• Why Nines are one of the most stubborn types on the entire Enneagram (yes, really)

• What a Nine who has done the work actually looks like, and why they are a force

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Nine, anyone who loves a Nine and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Nine who is ready to take up the space they were always allowed to take.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

⁠Get the Self-Typing Toolkit HERE!⁠

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Twos. Not the warm and giving version you already know about yourself. We are going into the part underneath that. The part that is a little harder to look at.

In this episode:

• The clearest way to tell Two apart from Nine and Three, the two types Twos most often get confused with

• Where the radar to read other people's needs actually comes from

• What is really happening in the moment a Two finally snaps

• Why the giving has strings even when you swear it doesn't

Who this is for: Anyone who suspects they might be a Two, anyone who loves a Two and wants to understand them more deeply, and any Two who is ready to start turning a fraction of that love inward.

If you are still in the process of figuring out your type, the Self-Typing Toolkit is built for you. A nine dollar collection of tools designed to help you find your type through 5 days of guided self-discovery.

Get the toolkit here.

• Connect on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠.
• Take the Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram shadow work course ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. 
• ⁠Enneagram shirts⁠
• All of my freebies and links can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
• Join the private ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook community (that I am terrible about posting in! lol)